Printable View
Gayle, I am not sure what you are thinking right now but I can tell you that before I moved to Washington I lived in Calgary for a number of years. During that time I did some work with the Calgary Women's shelter and it is a good organization. They can help you either by providing you with temporary shelter or referral to someone to talk with.
Please contact them. Here is their website
http://www.calgarywomensshelter.com/...y/contact.html
Sending {{hugs}} and prayers to you Gayle!
**HUGS** your way, Gayle! :( I hope whatever you decide that it is the best possible choice for YOU! Do not compromise your health, happiness, or safety! :(
Gayle...I am sorry your visit ended so badly. I would not presume to give advice that has not been solicited to someone I do not know. I hope you find the best solution for you.
And I hope you will come back to SoCal someday and make much happier memories.
Gayle i do not know all the circumstances or know you very well either, but from what you have posted now and before ,this is an ongoing thing, the abuse from your husband,honestly i don't think he is going to change, but i could be wrong, i hope so, i hope you can find the courage and strength to leave ,because no-one deserves to be treated this way,drink is often the excuse, and IMO it just does not wear with me, i too have lived with an alcoholic, he was not physically abusive,but mentally, i had a young child with him, and i have never regretted my decision to leave him,i am now with a man who is nothing like him,you too can have such a life without all this pain and suffering.
I wish you all the best in whatever you decide,i really hate to see you going through all of this. HUGS.
I am not posting them here, but have PMd them to Gayle, and to several others here who have said they have "been there".
Let's just say this started in December of 2005 - and advice certainly was solicited after that.
Prayers for Gayle.
So many prayers for you Gayle.
Adding my prayers for you. You do not deserve to be beaten, thrown, or belittled. You are not his punching bag. I fully agree with Catty1, too - get yourself to Alanon. It's free, and it will help you in ways you cannot even fathom right now. I hope you consult with a lawyer, a psychologist, & a trusted spiritual guide too, to help you decide what to do next.
Wow, I am just catching this. I am soo Sorry ure going through this. I have too.. been through this.. It is NOT A good thing! I Left him,and Have not talked to him Since! IT was a BAD Situation.. and NO ONE that knew him.. EVER Would have thought of him doing that! So, I wouldn't take his Word for it. And It sounds like this isn't the first time! :( If you need anyone to talk to.. Feel Free to PM me. You are in my thoughts!
I, too have been there. He promised a lot of things afterwards. I know now that I didn't deserve what happened to me, but he convinced me it was all my fault.
I haven't spoken to him in years; nor will I if I have anything to say about it. It's like Animalhouse26 says - no one would ever have believe that he could do such a thing.
Sending good thoughts and prayers your way. If you need to talk, PM me.
I just caught this post, I am so sorry that this is happening to you. I just want you to know that there IS better life out there for you. Leave-- he is probably not going to change, you do not have to live like this. No man ever has the right to beat you, drunk or not. Please know that I'm praying for you. I know that there are others here who have been through this, they can point you in the right direction. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.
Anyone hear of any current updates?? Things tend to escalate in these matters, not get better, unfortunately.
I keep coming back to post but never know what to say, I don't feel right telling her things that I should be doing as well. :(
So for now Gayle... do I as I say and not as I do....
Sure.. it will get better... then it will go back to the same ****. Time after time after time. It is a loosing battle, but you don't have it fight it alone.
The first thing you need to do is LEAVE!
{{HUGS}}
I, too, was married to an ***. I didn't receive physical but there was lots of verbal abuse and he was very controlling. Duke and his poor dog received lots of physical violence. It made me sick. Made me feel like a coward because I couldn't protect them, like I allowed it. Please realise it's not your fault. I hope you can find the courage and strength to get out of this. There should be a shelter in your area that will allow you and your animals. Do you have any friends or family that can help? Please check in with us.
Just checking in. Just want Gayle to know that she is in my thoughts.
Gayle, I know we don't know each other, but you have to make this stop. Abusers RARELY stop the abuse, even if the addiction (in this case drinking) stops. Alcohol doesn't make him hurt you, he does that because there's something wrong inside him. The alcohol simply unleashes the monster within. And it's likely that he will become MORE abusive without it.
PLEASE get help before something horrible happens.
Has anyone heard from Gayle?? I'm hoping she's ok. I'm worried since she hasn't posted in days!
I still have an unconfirmed PM receipt for a message I sent her about the time she first posted here.
I hope she is busy getting herself out of there...but lately when I hear the Calgary news and a body is discovered, I shudder. They've all been male, so far... :(
I have one remote possible connection I can try...Gayle has put up with this for a few years - I hope she gets out for good this time. :(
Excellent point. Very true.Quote:
Originally Posted by micki76
Gayle, PLEASE check in. We're worried!
They ALWAY make promises they will not keep. If this is a ongoing thing, you know he will not change and you have probably heard all his promises before and knows he will not keep any of them. Going back only invites the next time to happen and I think you have already seen it only gets worse, each beating worse than the one before. You can spend the rest of your life walking on egg shells waiting for the next beating to happen or get out and possiably save your life. If you stay, you know what your future will be.
OMG. I just saw this post. This is awful! I hope this woman is okay. I am sending you a hug and Fenway is giving you a kiss on the cheecks. Please take care of yourself. Be strong and be well.
Gayle's ok! Please see these two posts:
http://petoftheday.com/talk/showthread.php?t=139764 POST #21
http://petoftheday.com/talk/showthread.php?t=139826
Having been the victim of domestic violence several times (not for a couple of years thank god!) I will tell you that they do not stop. They need help! Not only can they hurt you, but others as well, and themselves. When I was 19 my boyfriend at the time tried to kill me. I got away with minor injuries (he held me in his bedroom tied to a bed for weeks) and was able to get him arrested. Even then I didn't press charges because I was so scared. He told me he would find me wherever I went, and sure enough a year or so later he showed up at my work, in another city! He has since tried to kill his brother and cousin.
My last domestic violence relationship was harder, because we remained friends even after what he did to me, as he had problems. All he needed was help, and no one gave it to him. He took his life about a month ago. I saw him the day before he commited suicide, in front of his mother.
Domestic Violence is no joke. Please please protect yourself. If this man loved you he would never hit you. Please find a safe place to go and leave him. I'm very worried about you. :(