16 year old student marries 40 year old

Sixteen year old girls should not marry. They really need time to grow and find out about themselves. College or trade school, travel, making new friends, working those few years and learning what they are good at. When you are 16 you are just learning to drive, have hardly any work experience, don't know how to sign a lease, take out a loan, open bank accounts, buy a car, budget a checkbook, probably she never gave a thought to bill paying. This is a father figure to her not a husband.

Perhaps 50 years ago these marries worked better but the world is different now. Woman don't stay home and have babies, they go out in the world and work, travel, make important decisions on how companies are run, not just what baby bottle is best.

At 16 most girls are reading Cosmo and wondering does the pink or the peach nail polish go better with this outfit, not how many pounds of ground beef do I need to make this dish and what toliet bowl cleaner is going to be on sale.

Sixteen year olds should be out partying and having fun. This teacher is robbing a young girl of her chance at being a young girl and asking her to be an adult, let her have her fun and her education let her be 16.

For God's sake, is she bringing her husband to the prom?

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Originally Posted by Twisterdog

My son is sixteen and there is no WAY he knows what he wants from a life-long partner. He is still so much a child in many ways.

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Darn. Rules out another one for me..... :D

I think that if they both love each other than why not? Whats the worst that could happen?

She could end up happily married for the rest of her life or end up breaking up?

I dont agree with the whole teacher and student love thing but if it happens it happens.

Im 19 and I find older men alot more appealing than guys my age, Maybe because Im more mature but it seems like guys my age are still trying to prove that london is a ghetto. :rolleyes:

Ive been with my boyfriend for 2 years now and hes older than me and I was told that wasn't going to work out but he completly understands me and I feel more his age than mine to be honest. I am very mature for my age and people seem to think I am older than 19 and are quite shocked when I tell them! I wouldnt of been able to gain the confidence I got today without my boyfriend and I love him to bits and hes always been so supportive over my dog grooming buisness and my life decisions. People my age who I meet dont seem to push themselves enough and my I think having a older boyfriend does help in the sense because hes older and understands me more than anyone my age would.

Maybe thats how shes feeling?

I say good luck to her and her new partner, if people have problems with it then let them, Only she can say how she feels.

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Originally Posted by Muddy4paws

I think that if they both love each other than why not? Whats the worst that could happen?

She could end up happily married for the rest of her life or end up breaking up?

I dont agree with the whole teacher and student love thing but if it happens it happens.

Im 19 and I find older men alot more appealing than guys my age, Maybe because Im more mature but it seems like guys my age are still trying to prove that london is a ghetto. :rolleyes:

Ive been with my boyfriend for 2 years now and hes older than me and I was told that wasn't going to work out but he completly understands me and I feel more his age than mine to be honest. I am very mature for my age and people seem to think I am older than 19 and are quite shocked when I tell them! I wouldnt of been able to gain the confidence I got today without my boyfriend and I love him to bits and hes always been so supportive over my dog grooming buisness and my life decisions. People my age who I meet dont seem to push themselves enough and my I think having a older boyfriend does help in the sense because hes older and understands me more than anyone my age would.

Maybe thats how shes feeling?

I say good luck to her and her new partner, if people have problems with it then let them, Only she can say how she feels.

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Well said Muddy....well said.
Wom

I think the disturbing thing about this story is that this man was in a position of authority, and line was crossed that should definitely not be crossed, in my opinion. He was her teacher and she is still in high school.

I don't see a problem with two adults who have a significant age difference getting married, but that is a completely different story. He is an adult, she is not, and he is in a position of authority over her. I'm pretty sure people who think this is one big romantic fantasy wouldn't want their teenage daughter to run off with coach.

I can't believe her parents just caved in like that, either. If it was really that important, if they were really "in love," something as big as a marriage could have waited till she was 18.

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Originally Posted by wombat2u2004

Yes....I know what your saying Mike, and I do agree with you to a certain extent. However I'm still of the opinion that we just can't lump all 16 year olds into the same immature bucket, I guess I don't look at things in a generalised sort of a way.
Wom

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Not exactly generalizing, well yes, maybe I am....I just think 16 is way too young in this day and age. Again, not that I am condemning them for doing wrong. Just think that life still has a lot to offer kids of that age today. And education is so much more important today than it was a century ago. But I do wish them happiness and hope it does last.

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Originally Posted by mike001

Not exactly generalizing, well yes, maybe I am....I just think 16 is way too young in this day and age. Again, not that I am condemning them for doing wrong. Just think that life still has a lot to offer kids of that age today. And education is so much more important today than it was a century ago. But I do wish them happiness and hope it does last.

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But who's to say she can't get her education or won't? Marriage does not prevent one from travelling, experiencing life, or getting an education.

I know plenty of married couples who decided to further their education after they were married.

Who is to say that if she hadn't married him that she would have went to college or even finished highschool.

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Originally Posted by sparks19

But who's to say she can't get her education or won't? Marriage does not prevent one from travelling, experiencing life, or getting an education.

I know plenty of married couples who decided to further their education after they were married.

Who is to say that if she hadn't married him that she would have went to college or even finished highschool.

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I've just one word for you Sparksy........DISHES !!!! Dishes need to be washed, and therefore she will have no time for holidays and school etc etc.
Please consider things like this before you go making broad sweeping statements. :rolleyes:
Oh dear !!!! What am I to do with you ??? WHAT ????? :D
Wom

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Originally Posted by wombat2u2004

I've just one word for you Sparksy........DISHES !!!! Dishes need to be washed, and therefore she will have no time for holidays and school etc etc.
Please consider things like this before you go making broad sweeping statements. :rolleyes:
Oh dear !!!! What am I to do with you ??? WHAT ????? :D
Wom

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LOL well then she should make less dish intensive meals :D

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Originally Posted by sparks19

LOL well then she should make less dish intensive meals :D

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Yeah....good idea. Take-away....that the trick....eh ???? :D
Wom

Its been almost 2 months since they got married.I wonder how the marriage is going.I just dont see them lasting a year cause shes still a adolesent 16 yr old girl no matter how mature she & her husband think she is.It was actually quite common in the 1800,s for young teen girls ( some as young as 13 ) to marry & have children for much older men.Especially in the wild wild west.I do hope the best for them though.

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Originally Posted by james

legal age in new jersey is 16.the teen girl has known her coach since she was 14.the police cant prove they were having sex,etc ... so they cant do anything.in america the divorce rate is over 50% so hopefully this marriage works out.its 2007 not 1907.16 yr olds are not babies and many of them are quite mature.its their business what they do with their lives,not ours.i shall send the newlyweds a congradulations e-mail.the girl is a cutie as well.i wonder if she she has a twin sister..hmmmmmm maybe a summer trip to nj is in order.i have family near hackensack.

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This makes me feel sick. She is a 16 year old GIRL, and I am shocked that you would make this statement.

UPDATE with pic
http://www.starnewsonline.com/articl...708160446/1004

Also from the article - it wasn't just the parents trying to stop this:

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Wuchae resigned from his job as teacher and coach for Brunswick County Schools on June 18, the same day he married Windy. After also dealing with its own share of negative publicity, the county school system revealed it had given Wuchae a choice to resign or be fired after he disobeyed a directive to stay away from Windy.

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http://wral.com/news/state/story/171...omments_page=2

What, besides the following, could the parents have done? I am interested in this because several posters have said the parents didn't do enough.

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“We have tried everything. We have contacted every agency – the Oak Island police department, the sheriff’s department, the school system. We couldn’t get a temporary restraining order against him. The school board wasn’t going to help or wasn’t going to tell us anything,” Betty said. “This man was not going to stay away from our child and she wasn’t going to stay away from him.”

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Betty Hager, Wendy's mom

What ??? They won't allow her to have her Baby Beanie collection ????
And her playstation to ?????
Now what is she supposed to do with her time ?????
Geez......nasty parents !!!!! :p
Wom