I was thinking of writting them an email, once I'm 100% moved out... But the problem is, if Chad goes ape, he can easily find me as he knows my car & can follow me home... I'm scared what he'll do to my car... no car=no workQuote:
Originally Posted by shais_mom
And the police can be called on Chad IF he does that! An arrest might be the only chance of him getting the help he needs. You could always talk to the cops again - and tell them you are contacting the original owner of Bear. That you are worried...
Do you think he would really do that?
But would you be living that close to him that he would find your car?
Can you trade cars with someone for a while?
Ok, i am seriousely confused here. :confused: You own the house, but chad is throwing you out of it, even though you own it? :confused:
They're rentingQuote:
Originally Posted by Reggie
Is chad the landlord, too? Because, if he's not, then he has no right to throw her out of her house.
Last night was interesting & blood curdling(sp)... :mad:
It would take me a year to type it all out... But 2 cops were there (pushy buggers they were!! Not like I wanted to be there either..sheesh).
Chad is trying to steal all my kitchen things :mad:
Luckly I have lots of random photos of my pets throughout my old places I've lived before I met Chad, which proves that these things are mine!!
See those pots? Ya he said those are his... those pots are over 5yrs old
http://jess.the-dog-dish.net/gallery...serialNumber=2
See all those books! & the dresser! (it has a poster of a deer on it).. ya those are mine too...
http://jess.the-dog-dish.net/gallery...serialNumber=2
Ya those towels are mine too, which are over 8yrs old
http://jess.the-dog-dish.net/gallery...serialNumber=2
See that 30gal tank, you guessed it.. mine too.. its 27yrs old
http://jess.the-dog-dish.net/gallery...serialNumber=2
Its hard t see, but see that wooden fisherman, with the metal fishing line.. I think the fact that Max was alive in that photo speeks for its min. age!!
http://jess.the-dog-dish.net/gallery...serialNumber=1
See that small glass object beside the tv? Thats a scorpian in glass. Thats in one of my junk boxes in the storage unit that Chad claims that non-of it belongs to me!.. Once again, Max is alive in this photo
http://jess.the-dog-dish.net/gallery...serialNumber=1
See that end table!! now times it by 2
http://jess.the-dog-dish.net/gallery...serialNumber=1
See that dog collar!!!!! Notice how YOUNG Max was in that photo!
http://jess.the-dog-dish.net/gallery...serialNumber=2
Notice the whrist band I'm wearing.. ya I have several of the same & they are also in the storage unit!!!
http://jess.the-dog-dish.net/gallery...serialNumber=2
Oh look, could that be MY rabbit/rat cage??!!
http://jess.the-dog-dish.net/gallery...serialNumber=2
So I think that proves it right there, that, he's been lying, just a WEEEEE bit!!
See I had xmas in PEI with my dad, so ALL this stuff is mine too!
http://jess.the-dog-dish.net/gallery...serialNumber=2
The mug is in my junk bins in his storage unit
http://jess.the-dog-dish.net/gallery...serialNumber=2
I have HUNDREDS more photos I need to go through
HAHA Chad, does it look like your plan is falling through???? Yea. Thaught so. Good job, I really wouldn't have thaught to use old random pictures to prove stuff was mine in the storage unit unless someone braught it up to me ((which is why I havn't suggested that)) This is a REALLY smart idea.
:D Good Job! I'm still praying and hoping... ((ands I'm sure the rest of PT is...)) Looks like it's working! :D
Thank you :)Quote:
Originally Posted by sweetpatata6
I don't remember if someone told me to look through photos or I thought of it on my own, as SOOOOOOOOOOOOO many people have been talking to me the past couple days its insane!!
it is really funny how all of Chad's friends are staying Nutral 100% & saying, nope thats hers, nope thats hers, nope thats hers LOL
I love it!
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Originally Posted by king2005
Haha. It's probably without even like looking at what it is... And there's NO WAY on Earth that everything in that house is his. And where's his evidence? Oh, right, my bad. In his friends saying that's his... What's yours? Pictures that some even date back to before you lived with Chad. :)
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Originally Posted by sweetpatata6
All but 1 photo dates back before I met Chad.
All the ones with my old dog date back before Dec 13th 2003...
I graduated from High School when I was 18 & I'm now 25, so that also shows the age...
As I always said, Karma always catches up with bad people. It got my mom & its going to get Chad.
Oh ya all my pets have a home now!
I couldn't take Mango with me cause I didn't have the time or a place to put him at the time, so hes still there.. the cops saw he was well & alive, so he should be fine... + I took pictures of everything
Lilly is living on the other side of Toronto...
Axle is living with a friend(he's a big brother & all my friends have lived with him), where I'll be staying a lot...
Mojo is living with the same people as Axle in a MASSIVE new vase... its 4 times the size of his old one. They were going to get a Betta for it, but when they saw Mojo, they asked if Mojo could go into the vase instead. I might just leave Mojo there for a much longer period of time as it'll take me a long time to be able to afford a large vase for him.. i love him in the large vase, hes much happier in there!
I was with Dan & we met up with my friend who was taking Lilly. My friend is lending me a 30gal tank set (with a lid too)... Dan said now that has cats cannot get their paws bitten, He'll put Mango in his bedroom :D
Dan is a friend who has been helping me move.. Hes taller & larger then Chad... Hes Portaguess(sp), so his skin is darker... Chad is very intimidated by darker skinned men... Dan & I know this, so Chad was pacessing BAD when Dan was around LOL... Chad is pretty much scared of all my friends, as they are all larger then him & are very protective of their friends, esp of their female friends (moi lol)... + most of my friends are Goth or Metal & Chad is scared of them! So thats our bit of enjoyment :D
Chad's also MAD MAD MAD MAD that I'm staying at Ron & Karen's, as they were his friends first, but they are livid with him because he's stealing from me & calling the cops on me, when everyone knows I'm harmless & just want my belongings. Chad also tried to tell them that I stole money from him... I'm assuming he said that, so they wont let me stay there, cause Ron's last case was hopeless & he stole a lot of money... Well Ron knows me better then that, cause I have been around his & Karen's many many many times & never touched it... I've cleaned the livingroom & found money & put it onto the table, even small change... So d'uh I don't steal... I have Anxiety pretty bad & that would set it off... Thats why I cann't lie in person, I start shaking & twitching :rolleyes: I have a built in lie detector lol :D
Can the cops find out where Bear is? Or did you see him while you were in the house?
Everything is looked good - you just keep looking after yourself, and let karma fall on Chad!
Glad to hear about your pets. I would hope Bear is with good people (ie FORMER friends of Chad's! :D )
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Originally Posted by Catty1
I didn't see her, but Chad's witness told me she was in the livingroom & that Chad was giving her away to someone in Ottawa... When I have all my things.. I'm still putting in a complaint about her not getting her meds, or vet care...
You guys have no idea how much this thread is keeping me sane.. Its an great outlet & its helping me keep track of the BS thats going on, as my mind is turning into mush with all this stress.
I'm 1/2 a sleep, but this evening was quite interesting... Chad called my dad & told him soooo many crazy lies.. my dad had a hunch they were lies as they sounded fishy, esp. since I hadn't mentioned that stuff before. So dad called me & told me bit by bit, of what Chad said & asked me to clarify it all. I laughed through pretty much the whole thing.
My dad said that way Chad was wording things, was as if Chad wanted my dad to control me LOL :rolleyes:
Chad told my dad that I was too scared to get a lawyer because of my Bankruptcy (first off, Chad thought my dad didn't know about my bankruptchy.. SUPRISE!) ... second... I was talking to dad yesterday about talking to a lawyer to see what I could do... As I am planning on taking legal action against Chad. So my dad knew that was total BS right there. My dad played a long to see what Chad would say... As dad was telling me things, & I was answering how it really happened, dad kept saying that little BEEP!
If Chad says anything about talking to my dad, I'm pretty much gonna say something along the lines of this... "Dad said its not healthy for you to lie this much, you must be really stupid"
* H U G S *
I wish i had more input for this thread but i don't.
I just keep wishing that you and everyone else are kept safe from Chad's insanity. (And i pray that he gets the help or wake-up call that he so desperately needs.)
So so very glad that the cops are on your side. (This would have been pure h3ll if they had been on Chad's.)
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Originally Posted by king2005
I have not posted on this thread until now. But I want you to know I have been reading it and you are in my thoughts through this difficult time. This is one of the many reasons I love this site, the support you get from complete strangers. Be strong!!Quote:
Originally Posted by king2005
Yep, same here King. I have been following your thread here.Quote:
Originally Posted by Taz_Zoee
All I can say is........ kid.....keep ya head up....you'll be ok.
Wom
I just saw this thread too ( been busy marking exams and packing to return to Canada on Wednesday)
Chad is a total s**t to treat you so badly! I am glad your friends are helping you where possible and you have your Dad's support and love too. All good thoughts and prayers are going out to you. Keep your chin up sweetie! You are a brave young lady who deserves better.
Thanks everyone :)
I had a great weekend. I had lunch with Renos' family (I slept there fri night) & talked more to his mommy (sweet lady). Then I drove Renos' into Malton-Mississauga to the bus stop that Joe takes to work (they work at the same airport), then I went to Ron & Karens (I'm staying there from now on, as they want me near them, so they can keep an eye on me, as they are mad at my eatting habbits). James came over to Ron & Karens & we all watched 3 movies.
The 3 of us slept in(sun morning), I finally felt like having a shower (it had been a LONG 4 days, but I was too stressed to really care), had dinner forced down my throat ;) My goodness I had to eat 2 foot long hot dogs & was suppose to eat 2 corn on the cob, but I was only able to eat the one C.O.T.C.. Ron said ok thats good enough & let me leave (They do the big brother thing, or take in people like me). I met James at Debs place (Joe rents a room there & James stays there for free, as hes from an abusive home & Deb wants him to stay with her as James is doing much better living with her (mentally/emotionally... hes almost ready to get a job...YAY), then we bus'ed to the subway in Toronto & took that to downtown Toronto & walked all over the place to find Renos & then meet the rest of the guys for dinner & bar hopping.
My goodness, the first bar was too much fun HAHAHA! We a had coster fight (we were the ONLY people in the back 1/2 of the bar & we picked up all the costers during the fight, we are clean people & let the waitress know not to touch the mess.. she didn't & we cleaned every single coaster up, including the drink we spilt & the fries we dropped)...
Someone kicked my foot & I said, ok whos playing footsies with me?? Joe gave a funny look & stretched to kick my foot.. However he kicked my shin! I said ouch, you bugger!! Reached down & grabed his foot & PULLED :D I pulled him off his seat & under the table hehehe Eva was beside me & she pulled off his shoe. I said SWEET, held onto his ankle hard & tickled his foot hehehe (I know hes VERY ticklish there).. he fought & I lost his foot, but had his pant leg.. SO I pulled his pant leg.. Joe started hollering, OMG your pulling my pants off... Eva joined in & we pulled harder hehe Dan got up & pulled Joes arms heheh Joe started shouting, GAH my pants, my pants!! the girls are stripping me!!! Everyone is laughing(even Joe) & James was taking photos of poor Joe heheh
We took about 500 pictures of the whole night.
I attached a few photos... You know you have awesome friends, when they can put a big smile on your face in the worst times of your life!!
Photos:
-Eva & I being happy.
-Eve feeding me a slice of sausage... Yes I know how that looks, it took a lot of poking to get me to do that :P Guys :rolleyes:
-& a photo of the WHOLE group at the first bar.. Left-Right: James, Gio, Renos, Eva, Me, Dan & Joe.
I love them all!
Most of us have come from broken homes, dark pasts, or are still living in really rough times. We ALL have emotional issues caused by unpleasent things, so we understand each other & when one starts to go nuts, we get annoyed, but never get angry, cause its only a matter of time until its our turn to go crazy...
Yay! So glad to hear that you had a fun weekend! :D
(pssst... Joe's hot... and looks like one of my bestest friends ever... that I've only seen like once since graduating HS... but that's a long story in and of itself.)
I don't even what to type all of what happened last night... Chad was decent at first then we acted like old times (getting a long just fine).. There was a reason for it.. the Cop was HORRIBLE & kept going at me every time I passed by... then he started yelling & yelling & making me feel like shat for things I had NO control over... He put me into an Anxiety attack, the not to pleasent kind... I was shaking, stuttering, holding my fingers & worst of all crying.. I have NO control when this happens... all I wanted to do was run away & hide. Chad was giving me all my things back.. we split spices & things 50/50... I'm getting my shelving back & ALL my things out of his storage unit.Quote:
Originally Posted by crow_noir
BOY DO I KNOW HE IS HOT hehehe I have a crush on him :P Have for nearly 7 months now lol Thats why when he said his pants were falling off, I pulled harder :D ;) I know I know, I'm bad :rolleyes: :p
The whole world knows I like him & I know it'll more then likely never happen, & YES I'll never let him know how I feel :P I already know I'm not his type
Heres a few photos for you to gaa gaa over lol ;) :D
-The group shot is from a couple weekends ago.. Notice how tall he is & how thin he looks.. Well that photo makes him look FAT.. hes like 6' & weighs 120lb.. hes a sheet of paper, he wears baggy clothing to make him look bigger, as he HATES being so thin (its not his fault).
-the one where you kinda see his face... thats when I had his foot & pulled him off his seat & under the table LOL I had to add this as it was too funny not too :D
Um - I see the photos (cute) but from the first part you wrote, I am assuming the photos are either of Chad or the Cop.Quote:
BOY DO I KNOW HE IS HOT
I'm confoozed! :D
Glad to hear Chad was being good. Why was the cop in such a bad mood???
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Originally Posted by Catty1
Nope no photos of Chad or the cops... Just of the fun I had with my friends on Sun (they wanted me to have a good time after this mess with Chad)..
crow_noir said Joe was HOT, so ya I posted more photos for her ;)
The cop didn't want to be there, so he let me know everytime I had to walk past him, or everytime he felt like I needed to know inbetween taking things out of the house. He repeated himself for 2hrs... There was 3 cops at first.. the angry cop's partner was ok to deal with & so was the 3rd cop... They were pushy, but polite.. this angry cop kept raising his voice & being aggressive! I kept telling him I understand & I'm doing my best.
After he put me into anxiety I was walking on the other side of the cars in the driveway (they belong to the people upstairs) & mumbling loudly, that its not my fault I cannot afford meds for my anxiety, that I cannot get a better job cause of my anxiety, I do my best trying to survive with this illness... The angry cops partner was then talking to the angry cop... the angry cop toned down a fair amount... & really toned down when my friend arrived.. The cop lied to her which made me angry (doesn't help my anxiety any), she knew he was lying as she heard what he was saying to me when I was on the phone with him.
I am so glad that you have such good friends nearby to help you through this. I am sure that all of this is bringing out the worst of your anxiety. I just hope those benefits at work will kick in soon so you can get the help you need. ((((hugs))))
I get the benefits on July 2ed! I'm so excited! I even get dental :DQuote:
Originally Posted by JenBKR
Yippi! I knew that the date was coming up sometime but I couldn't remember when it was exactly. That will be a big help. Make your doc appt. soon!Quote:
Originally Posted by king2005
I'll be going into a walkin clinic so there is no appt. to make, as I cannot take time off work to see a dr.Quote:
Originally Posted by JenBKR
the second I have that paper in my hands, I'm running off to the clinic!
Jess - my doctor has one day a week where she works into the evening...maybe the clinic could refer you to a clinic with a GP.
I find it's good to have a doc who has known me for a few years.
If you can get the same doc at the walk-in most of the time, that would be great. Can you do that?
It's good you can get started soon! :)
YAY I will be anxious to hear how it all goes :)Quote:
Originally Posted by king2005
My dr. is off at 3pm (stupid eh?!) Her clinic is WAY too far for me to drive to, so I have to see her before 3pm... The clinics are open until 8 or 9pm, depending on the clinic.Quote:
Originally Posted by Catty1
If I could I'd do all this in Ottawa at the clinic near my old job, as I have delt with 2 Dr.s there... The male Dr. Saw me having an anxiety attack & the female Dr. was trying to work with me without meds. They were both great to deal with.
:( That's horrible the cop was being all mean to you. :mad: Wish i could have been there to slap him for you (and have been able to get away with it. :D )
I guess the silver lining is that Chad was being the tiniest bit civil. ( Maybe he was getting smug satisfaction from the meanie cop. Blah. )
*comfort hugs*
I wish i could somehow get you the medicine you need. (Unfortunately i don't have connections in the pharmaceutical world like i do in the dog rescue world... not that those really get me far either.)
Ooooooooh! Joe pics! THANK YOU!!!! *tight squeezy hugs*
:rolleyes: I sooo understand about wearing baggy clothing to hide skinnyness and not being able to put any real weight on. It's embarrasing.
And girl, unless he tells you directly how do you KNOW that you're not his type?!
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Originally Posted by king2005
*doin' a happy dance*
Parrrr tayyy!
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Originally Posted by king2005
It was either the cop yelling or the fact that I said I have pictures that go WAY back to prove that what I'm saying is in fact mine. + I told the cop (infront of Chad) that I will be bringing this to court, because all I want are my things & my things only... I know I didn't say that earlier as I forgot I said it... Anxiety makes me forget & I get memories back randomly & THEN things make sence :PQuote:
Originally Posted by crow_noir
I'm sooo excited about getting my meds!! I want to have a more normal life for once!
Thats what Joe said. Hes been to Dr. after Dr. & been on all those bulking up diets & he puts on nothing. He said hes lucky if he can put on 5lbs & its even harder to keep it on... Now I do know he is CRAZY hyper & active... All he wants to do is walk when we hang out. I love the walks, as he knows downtown Toronto fairly well, so he shows me the sights (all by foot).. we are planning a day or 2 trip to go to the island (don't remember the name, but its part of Toronto) & we're gonna walk the whole thing! We're not sure if we're gonna bring the rest of the gang, as they usually walk WAY behind us, cause they are lazy lazy walkers.. I'm short & not a fast walker & I can keep up with Joe with no issues... the other guys are a lot taller then I am & ya... Joe & I could easly loose them just by walking! :eek: LOL I saw how thin he is when he removed 1 of the 2 shirts he was waring (teehee I know I'm so bad) & damn.. looks like he hasn't eatten in years, you can see all his bones :eek: He hates when we go to Gio's & the grandmother kidnaps Joe.. she makes him eat until he nearly pukes HAHAHAHA... She thinks hes aniraxic (sp :confused: )... we all laugh at him :D However Dan's mother does the same to me.. she thinks I don't eat enough.. & I'm over weight too :eek:
I know I'm not his type, cause ummmmm... I cannot say how I know on PT forums, but I do know.. + I've had a lot of talks with Joe about Anxiety & abuse, as we both went through that with our longterm partners, & we talked about relationships & what we're looking for... Not sure how on earth we got into that convo, but we talk a lot when we're driving a fair distance... This Sat should be interesting.. I'm driving him to Hamilton so he can spend his vacation with family & old friends.. I don't have a sterio in my car, so all we can do is talk for the 45min trip...
I know we get a long GREAT(really really great)... Sun was the first time that he well... touched me (NOT THAT WAY!!! ) hehe ya he grabbed my face & messed my hair.. then the whole group was grabbing my face, as it was attack Jess for some random reason LOL...
A few people in our group have made comments on how well Joe & I get along & that we are both single :rolleyes: ... Karen & Ron (our big Brother type people) have also said the samething, to me anyways. It drives me nuts lol If I had to choose, friend or nothing.. its 100% friend! Love hanging out with him, &/or just relaxing in his room watching tv (he rents the room, so his room is his home, so his bed is the couch lol)...
see what you've done, you've tuned my brain back to the Joe station.. I'll never shut up now :D
Awwwwe, I'm sorries. :( ... :p ;)
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Originally Posted by king2005
I'm gonna con't this Joe thing in another thread, as something has come up & I don't know what to do to help him!Quote:
Originally Posted by crow_noir
You may not have much materially but with friends like yours you are rich beyond belief :D
BM, thats the samething that my dad & my Bankruptcy lady said.Quote:
Originally Posted by Brody's Mum
Last Sunday my friends made me feel like a million dollars(even though they only spent 10.00 on me) when it felt like the world was ending. Every since then I got use to the idea that I'll no longer have any possessions, but who needs things when I have awesome friends. Sure I want my things, but I gave up caring too much about it... Luckly Chad's freaky mental issues have calmed down.. I have almost ALL my things out of his place.. tonight will be the last of the things I have to take from his place... Hes still willing to give me all my belongings out of the storage unit...
Do you have any idea how hard it is for me to pretend to be his buddy!!! Its KILLING me, talking all friendly with him & having to talk to him on the phone about anything... Yesterday he called me 5 times at work to talk.. hes called me 3 times just this morning.
I'm gonna keep bitting my tongue until I have all my things. Then I'm gonna end things as civil as I can... there will be no more calling me, no more nothing...
Chad THINKS we can still be friends :eek:
What you need to do is once you have all of your stuff back just kindly tell him that he has violated ALL of your trust and quite frankly, your shocked at him. Tell him that there is no way that you guys can go on pretending like nothing happened, because it hurt you so much inside.