Going Places on Your Own?

I used to be scared to death over the prospect of going anywhere by myself but then I moved across the country and was pretty much forced to be alone!! There was an arcade at the mall about 3 miles away from the dorms, and I would walk there alone almost every day for about 3 months. People would stare at me though, because I was rather different from everyone else.

The experence really taught me to be less self concious, and a lot more outgoing. Now, instead of hiding, I'll actually go up to people I've never met before and just start to chat.

If I need to go somewhere I would prefer it if my boyfriend or someone else is with me because theres alot of gangs where i live and I've found out they dont pick of people if they got someone with them, I just get nervous :(


It's pretty sad really, Especially when I have a huge "Shopping problem" :p I just call it a hobby :D

Thanks for your replies...its always interesting to me how people view doing things on their own.

I prefer to shop for clothes for me by myself. That way I can take my time and be as picky and annoyingly undecisive as I want.

Sephora requires one (or many more) girls!! ;)

while I certainly am not good about going to church period - I have no problem eating alone - shopping alone etc.
I love to take a good book or magazine to eat out with.

I like doing stuff alone and at my own pace. As far as going to a new church, I have found that churches are very welcoming to visitors. I sing in a small group that fills in for choirs at local churches in the summer, and they were all very welcoming.

It depends on the place... I wouldn't mind going to the cinema alone, or shopping, but if I'm going to a place where I'm meeting new people, I prefer going with a friend... I wouldn't mind going to a church, they are always very welcoming...

I often go places alone, and have no problem doing so. When going to a new church it is almost better to be alone, so you can decide whether or not you liked the atmosphere and the service, and if you didn't, it is easier, somehow, to slip out at the end quietly if you're alone! ;)

*bows head in shame*

I haven't been to church in a while, other than to light a candle.

I should go more often to services. But God looks out for me anyway with my nightly prayers.

I don't have problems going places alone. Sometimes I like to go by myself. It sounds anti-social, but there are times when I just like to talk around by myself and talk to no one.

One place I don't think I have ever gone alone is to a restaurant. I think I would feel so uncomfortable. Maybe I should try it sometime. I used to always go to church alone - no big deal. I also go shopping alone, to the library, etc and never think twice. I have flown alone numerous times - even to Japan this year. I am pretty used to doing things alone I think. I don't really think of it. When I was growing up - I always loved going to movies by myself and it was a favorite passtime - though now I am always with hubby:)

I don't think I would want to drive a long trip alone though!:eek: The thought of stopping at a motel, eating alone etc - :eek:

I hope you enjoy your Sunday at church Kelly!!:) I bet you feel very comfortable - and others will likely be very welcoming to a "solo" newcomer!!

I have no problem going shopping alone, going to church alone, or even travelling alone (all things that I have to do so I have learned to do them alone). However, I avoid eating out alone, going to movies alone, and going places where you are normally expected to mingle with others alone. I guess I think of those as more social events, and I am really uncomfortable in those situations.

Hmmmmm how do I answer this? Of course, shopping alone is no problem for me but I will not socialize alone.

In other words, I don't do movies, eat out, go to parties (except for the LA BBQ...;) ) or anything else alone. I'm just too self-conscious.

I suffer from major social anxiety and never go anywhere by myself. If I'm having a really good day I can occasionally run into Winn Dixie to pick up something quickly by myself.

I never used to go to restaurants alone. Then I got tired of my own cooking and decided I deserved to be waited on. Now I don't mind going to any kind of an eating establishment alone. I've even gone to real classy places. If people are looking at me funny, I just look back with a Mona Lisa smile. They either smile back or get flustered.;)

I sometimes think about all the things I missed when I was younger just because I was so self conscious or insecure.

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Originally posted by mruffruff
If people are looking at me funny, I just look back with a Mona Lisa smile. They either smile back or get flustered.;)

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How funny!:) A good idea though. What I do when I feel self conscious is to pretend I am a cat:o It seems to give me a confident look that I do not feel - and probably a Mona Lisa smile!!:D

I love going places and doing things by myself. I can be moody at times and don't always feel like talking to someone, so I enjoy it most of the time. I've ate in restuarants alone, gone to the beach and boardwalk, NYC and of course shopping all alone at times. I don't do it as often as I used to though, but I always enjoy being by myself.:)