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Fox-gal, that is absolutely fablulous advice. It shows the guy exactly what you need him to know. You are smart, aware, and not timid. All things, if he was indeed a pervert (or worse), would turn him off of you. People like that prey on weak, timid, and easily led people.
Cali- I would be smarter in the future, and give out nothing, even an email. It does tend to show an interest. Good luck.
Cataholic...
I still think fox gals advice to email this guy or have any contact with him in the future is not a good thing... by giving him any reaction at all will only encourage this guy to bother cali more,, I was once stalked and trust me,,, confronting this guy in any way is not a good thing at all. He could become angry and do something drastic by hearing your feelings of rejection and or defience. .And I am not a weak or timid person so saying that these guys prey on the weak and timid is NOT true,,, they pick and choose whoever!!!
Tell your parents,,,, always let someone know where youre at and if this guy follows you,,, get to where its safe and contact the police...
If you don't report him, he could very well hurt someone else. I still say the police need to know about him. There are way too many dangerous people in the world. I hear about it every day at work.
I can understand how you believe my advice was wrong, sense your bad experience, but I too have been stalked. I confronted him over the phone, advised to by the police officer that was sitting in my house at the time. Up in till then I did ignore him, once I did what the officer said, things worked out, he soon move out of my life.Quote:
Originally posted by LorraineO
Cataholic...
I still think fox gals advice to email this guy or have any contact with him in the future is not a good thing... by giving him any reaction at all will only encourage this guy to bother cali more,, I was once stalked and trust me,,, confronting this guy in any way is not a good thing at all. He could become angry and do something drastic by hearing your feelings of rejection and or defience. .And I am not a weak or timid person so saying that these guys prey on the weak and timid is NOT true,,, they pick and choose whoever!!!
As he told me, it can go different ways, but in more cases then not, they have found that ignoring them, just can make them angrier. Makes them think that you are weak and scared and something they feed on, your fears.
There is no 100% sure black and white answer to this.
So I gave her this advice for 2 reasons. One because of what the officer told me. As he put it, "most would rather pick on a mouse, then they would a lion, so be a loin."
Second was after reading her account of what happened, it is just possible that he saw some cute girls and wanted to pick them up, it's just his skills at picking up woman is way off base.
Once she e-mails him and tells him, then of course she should not contact him again, that's just common sense. Most likely he will come back with an e-mail saying he's sorry and didn't mean to scare them, etc etc. But no never answer him back again.
Also, next time cail, if you give out an e-mail address, make it a fake one. :D
Just please be careful and let your parents know.
Creepy has no age limit. Remember what has happened to the girl in Aruba! She probably didn't think the guy(s) she left with were creapy at the time.
If I thought someone were following me, I would let them follow me to the police station.
Val, I was wondering, would calling and reporting him, really do much? I only ask because I have never had very much luck doing that, in circumstance like this one. I always seem to get the same answer. "There is not much we can do about it at this point, till they do something" It's always come with the same follow up remark . It's not a crime to talk/approach someone and in till we see him do something wrong there is not much we can do about it, but we will make a note of your compliant. Even when I called about a pervert hanging out side my place, all they told me was get a bad dog and call them if he breaks any laws. :rolleyes:Quote:
Originally posted by dukedogsmom
If you don't report him, he could very well hurt someone else. I still say the police need to know about him. There are way too many dangerous people in the world. I hear about it every day at work.
Maybe I just live in an area with lazy police, but I kind of gave up reporting things, in less, of course it is a TRUE crime.
well, now I am confused lol I wrote this e-mail but I have not sent it, does it need tweaked? do I send it or not? lol
you seemed like a nice guy, but everytime we looked behind us you were there, and thats creepy, thats why we will not meet you. if you meant no harm then we apologize. but in this day and age you can't be too careful.
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