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Originally posted by jennifert9
Kari, I apologize.
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Accepted, but, you didn't have to apologize. ;)Quote:
Originally posted by jennifert9
Kari, I apologize.
I understand what you are saying Jennifer, and to be honest if my Mom were to show up (I see her perhaps once a year), and pulled out a cigar while in my house, I would not say anything. She's my mom, and I see her so rarely. That situation would just be different for me. I would still have difficulty telling my mom or grandma what they could or couldn't do in my home :D. It's all about perspective and the situation to a large degree. If I were having a gathering of local friends or my brothers/sisters-in law over and they started breaking out cigarettes in the house, I probably would ask them to smoke outside.
I should say, Grandma is a clean freak but she also has that old mentality that dogs belong outdoors unless they are small toy breeds. She doesn't hate dogs and she compliments them highly, but she just doesn't like them in her home. If I were to travel all the way to MO though and visit with her, they'd either have to be allowed in or I'd have to stay in a motel or something, I couldn't leave them out overnight, especially in a strange place.
It's very interesting to see the different viewpoints here. In the case of the cabin being co-owned, if it were me I would talk to my parents and see if they couldn't work something out. If not, there wouldn't be a lot you could do other than be with him as much as you could, leave him home, or if you had the option to not go yourself.
When I had my own place, my dad always asked if it was ok to smoke. I think the respect thing goes both ways, even if he is older and my father, he still knows it's my home. I'm not going to give him crap about smoking inside his home, but, he knows how I feel about smoking in general. And, I'm lucky that he doesn't make me ask him not to smoke in my home. And, yeah, right now, I live with them. So, their rules apply.Quote:
Originally posted by K9soul
and to be honest if my Mom were to show up (I see her perhaps once a year), and pulled out a cigar while in my house, I would not say anything.
I would never take my dog over to someone elses house. I just wouldn't, unless invited, however, this IS our cottage too. Zeke always goes inside here.
Plus, my aunt lets her friends dog come in
That puts a different spin on the situation for sure. Is the other dog really small or something? It sounds like you didn't like them anyway, though, right, maybe it's something to do with the relationship you have with them, and, not so much the dog? I don't know, i'm grasping at straws here. Have you ever asked why she lets one dog in and not Zeke? Does she maybe only let the other dog in when she's not around?Quote:
Originally posted by slleipnir
I would never take my dog over to someone elses house. I just wouldn't, unless invited, however, this IS our cottage too. Zeke always goes inside here.
Plus, my aunt lets her friends dog come in
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Originally posted by jennifert9
I was always raised that when guests come to your home, they are supposed to be made to feel welcome.
See, this is something I feel many different ways about and something that "hits very close to home" at the moment.
While I LOVE the fact that people feel comfortable in our home, there's certain things a guest should have to go by when in our home. My parent's don't smoke in our home, therefore or guests shouldn't. My parents are big neat freaks. While they usually let my room get messy (not happily) they hate when people leave garbage around the house. They would never say anything to someone, but I think it'd be respectful for a guest to clean up after themselves no matter what they'd do in their own home.
I think it's just common courtesy for someone to go by your house rules while they're here.
And I think that's what makes things fun when visiting other's homes. My friend Zographia's family is very highly religious. Whenever I go to dinner there, they always say a prayer beforehand. While i'm not religous, I go along with their "rules" as a whole different feeling. I like experienceing different cultures and such.
It's interesting to see everyone's different viewpoints on guests. :)
As far as them not letting Zeke in but another dog.... well that there would make my final decision. :(
Zeke was a good boy when he was here so I don't see why they wouldn't allow him.
Well I can say that I understand them wanting him outside while they ate.
Alot of people I know don't allow the dogs in while they are eating (of course not us;)) and if we have people over we usually put the dogs in the back yard out of respect. Of course this is my dogs home and they don't really mind.
I see how Zeke would be upset since that's not his home. It was good of you to go out with him, I probably would have done the same thing if it were me.
Guess what I'm saying is unfortunately they are the adults:rolleyes:
Poor u & Zeke.
Zeke was so well behaved in my dads house I don't see him as a problem dog at all. Not even when Buttons was trying to kill Zeke. Zeke was a very good boy!
My aunt is VERY scared of dogs (took her a while to get use to Buttons, but its hard to be scared of 5 pounds). Several years go, we traveled about 2000km to come to the island. We stopped in Dartmouht to see my Aunt & Uncle.
My Aunt was scared of him. but she was VERY polite about it. We had to keep him outside in the backyard. But my Aunt made sure he was very comfy. She gave us blankets to give to him & kept asking us is he comfy. Hes not too sad is he?
If hes sad we could tie him in the finished Basement & I just wont go down there.
She was sooo sweet & she told us how pretty he looked & he looked like a friendly dog, but couldn't go near him.
Now, my other aunt & uncle in Woodstock r a diff story.
That aunt HATES dogs. She was terribly rude. All we hard for the first 30 mins was. TED! ITS ATTACKING THE KIDS! WATCHOUT HE BITES! KIDS GET AWAY FROM THAT DIRTY MUTT! & lots more.
After that 30 mins my uncle was fed up with her BS & told her off!!! OMG it was funny!. He said BEV SHUT *** **** UP & STAY IN THE **** HOUSE!
HAHAHA! It took him a lot of guts to say that to her, but enough was enough. The dog was harmless & the kids loved him.
As revenge my uncle wanted me to bring the dog in the house hehehe.. but my dad said no, we don't need her tossing things at him. My uncle just laughed & said it would teach her. hehehe
I haven't seen them in about 10 years. She wont let us back over hehehe Not like I want to go back & see her. Shes even mean/rude to my 80yr old grandmother & her 5 pound dog. Even if Buttons did bite someone all ur going to get is gummed, heheheh.. He only has 4 teeth left hehehe
My aunts friends dog is a big lab. My dad didn't want to get into it with her, so we never bothered asking.
I understand some people don't like dogs being inside, but Zeke is an indoor dog. He goes out to pee, then comes inside basically (unless we're outside with him) so if he's left outside by himself, he thinks he's being punished. He just doesn't understand. I was going to put Zeke far enough away so that he wouldn't beg or be in the way. He's a very good dog, if I tell him to stay, he will. If I tell him not to beg he won't.
I to think people should be welcome as guest, but to a degree. I wouldn't stop someone from smoking in my house, but I really wouldn't like it. I may ask them to go outside, but I don't know. I would never go to someone elses place and just do whatever. I always treat it as someone elses place. I clean up my mess etc.
I like my aunt and uncle, but I'm not really close. We're very different people. I don't think it's a big loss for me or them if I don't go out anymore. If I was very close to them, I just wouldn't take Zeke. My dad agree's totally with me, and he said he understands that I ate outside (I told him I was going to, he said ok) and he says he understands why I don't want to go out anymore. He says it's my choice, and he's fine either way
I can only picture how that would go over with my dogs lol lets see Misty would be screeching at the top of her lungs for hours on end, and Happy would stay nicley outside but eventually she would get bored and start barking for something to do. I seriously doubt they would be willing to put up with Mistys screeching persnally, its enugh to deafen you lol