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I think Catnapper has a great point - but it shouldn't only be with men.
I've met people on this board that I might not have been able to chat with in person since I tend to be fairly shy in social situations. I've met some nice people here and am learning to see behind the mask we all put forth to see the real person underneath.
After my first marriage ended I spent Ten years alone, I am social Phobic so going out for me was hardly and option, I tried a couple of times but just did not seem to fit in, so I gave up, everyone said to me you will never meet anyone if you don't go out, I proved them all wrong, I met my current husband two door's down, where my son was playing with his nephew, we have been together 14 years this August, so don't give up hope and just let them come to you.
Just thought I would let you know in NZ there is now a shortage of men, especially in the 25 to 35 age group, especially in my City, there are like two thousand more females, they say even the ugly guys get to pick up girls in the bars these days lol, looks like all our males are heading overseas, and older women are meeting younger guys under the 25 year group because they are the ones who socialise and go to the nightclubs and bars, my son was dating a 26 year old recently, he is 23, so this is an interesting fact, hope it improves for when my daughter grows up and is looking for Mr Right.:)
LOLOL,
When you go hunting for love, you chase your "quarry"
and when it's time to do the "bow and arrow thing"
you end up with a winded, tired and scared man.
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I 'stalked' my GF for a while. I'd see her everyday as I rode my bike into work....the Lycra bike pants helped too!
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my GF told me that I was the last man she would have a relationship with....sadly, it turned out to be true.
The hazards of loving, and losing that love, take a while to get over.
All my GF's are best friends. Replacing the love of your life isn't easy.
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Aki and Moosmom,
Sounds like the men in your lives are "pussies".
;)
Oh to be a fly on THAT wall!!! "RICHARD what???" Being of the female species, I can guarantee that there have been some VERY INTERESTING conversations!!!Quote:
All my GF's are best friends
That alone would scare me!! ;)
Debbie,
Great advice!!!Quote:
I say forget about men. Don't hate them, just forget about them and let them find you. The right one will show up when you're least expecting it.
Now, as for Mr. Right. Well, I've given up on Mr. Right. I'm now waiting for "Mr. Filthy Stinking Rich" :p:p
Aki and Moosmom,
Sounds like the men in your lives are "pussies".
ROTFLMAOPMP!
Richard, you always put a smile on my face!
~ AKI
I like men. Most of my best friends in school were guys. I think that in some ways they are easier to have as friends than women, because there's no competition about who is prettier, thinner, wears better clothes, dates cuter guys, etc.
I *know* I am fortunate, in that I met and married my sweetheart a long time ago, we met while I was in college. I still love him, and am glad he loves me!
I never went through the "dating scene" that others have. But I do maintain that there are good men out there, just as there are good women out there. I am friends with some of each. NO ONE likes to feel like prey. Being happy with yourself in your own right is more attractive to people than being a needy person just looking for the next "good catch!" And those looking for that "perfect someone" are the unhappiest ones I know, because human beings are all flawed by nature.
I maintain that there is no need to hate men. Or women, either - I like both genders humanity offers!
You only like us when me make you laugh???Quote:
Originally posted by aki
Aki and Moosmom,
Sounds like the men in your lives are "pussies".
ROTFLMAOPMP!
Richard, you always put a smile on my face!
~ AKI
Hang in there kiddo.....patience, that the word!
How about me, Donna? I'm not exactly filthy rich! But. . .Quote:
Originally posted by moosmom
Oh to be a fly on THAT wall!!! "RICHARD what???" Being of the female species, I can guarantee that there have been some VERY INTERESTING conversations!!!
That alone would scare me!! ;)
Debbie,
Great advice!!!
Now, as for Mr. Right. Well, I've given up on Mr. Right. I'm now waiting for "Mr. Filthy Stinking Rich" :p:p
I agree with AKI 110%!!!!!!!!!! The "dating pool" out there is getting uglier by the minute. I too have tried the "Online dating". The "Set-up" from a friend. Going to bars. Flirting endlessly with any guy at the grocery store or any waiting line. I have even volunteered at local festivals or events to "meet" someone. I have stopped short at the church/employment arena. I figure the men at church I like are the ones there praying for forgiveness on what they did the night before. (I know because I've sent them there ) The employment route isn't good as then you have the "Sexual harassment" line to negotiate for the rest of your employment/career.:rolleyes:
I too have given up completely on the whole "dating" thing but not without a signifcant fight or scars to prove it. I gave myself 6 months to concentrate on finding someone. I mean completely open to EVERY option. I didn't hold back or brush everything to the side immediately. I agreed to dates from every source friends, internet, or brief meeting. Something, I promise you I would have never done in a million years. I announced to ALL my married friends what my intentions where. That if in this 6 months I did not find someone that I would dedicate myself to being single and they are NEVER to say anything about it to me again!!!
Well in that 6 months, I lost about everything. I lost 2 of my dogs, a good friend (died), my health, and my job/career. Those were just the highlights amongst everything else. Now I am still single, unemployed, and going broke fast.
I've turned into someone I wouldn't date myself!!! The 6 months are about up now. I think my friends have finally "seen the light" and will get off my case for awhile. Now, they have my "Jobless" situation to worry about. I find it completely ironic that I had to lose almost everything else in my life before anyone ever got over the fact I was just missing one thing and that was a man! My advice to anyone and everyone: Be happy with what you have, and don't let what you don't have make you miserable!:cool:
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Originally posted by Scooby4
I figure the men at church I like are the ones there praying for forgiveness on what they did the night before. (I know because I've sent them there )
I guess church beats the hospital.....:confused:
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Love isn't a two hour movie on the Lifetime channel.
It's 30 years of Star Wars.....
Is that a light saber in your pocket or are you happy to see me?
They're pretty much the same anywhere. I've found that the best thing is just to stay away from them.
Ha Scooby! You are like my cyber twin! LOL
The only thing I can think of that for some reason, men are intimidated by intelligent, attractive women! I have three girl friends the same age. All cute, all make good money, all are very responsible and here we sit.
Thanks AKI!!! I feel your "pain". Ironically, I met someone this week. After all of my attempts and travels... this guy lives 1 1/2 streets over from me!!! However, it wasn't until I was out walking my dogs that I met him. I saw him with his father working in the garden. We just stopped and stared at eachother! A few days later, he stopped me and we chatted. Had our first "Date" last night. It went well but he hasn't called me yet today. Which is typical with the male species.
A few months ago, this guy would have had no chance with me. He is about 40, lives with his parents, and is unemployed. He also smokes alot and drinks some. I am more educated than him, had a very successful career, and own 2 homes. I do not drink or smoke. He does live with his parents because his mother is extremely ill. He takes care of both parents since his siblings don't want the responsibility.
I am starting to realize, that it isn't always the men's fault that we "hate" them. It may be that us successful smart beautiful women have to start looking for other attributes in men. I think us women need to accept that we now have the attributes OURSELVES that we were once looking for in the men we dated. It is going to be much harder for a man to impress us. We may feel we have to "lower our standards" but maybe we just have to change what the standards are. Men are catching on to this slowly and do appreciate that they don't have the "drive" the new modern woman has today.
Us smart and beautiful woman may just have to let our hair down but carry a big purse loaded with money, makeup, adult toys, and various weaponery!!!
Be careful taking those "toys" through metal detectors, especially when THEY are "loaded". ;) :o :eek:Quote:
Originally posted by Scooby4
Us smart and beautiful woman may just have to let our hair down but carry a big purse loaded with money, makeup, adult toys, and various weaponery!!!
QUIT TRYING!!!!
WHEN YOU LEAST EXPECT IT, SOMEONE GREAT WILL COME ALONG. ANY MARK MY WORD.... YOU WILL LOOK YOUR WORST AND FEEL LIKE CRAP WHEN YOU DO.:D