Like Donna, I am sitting here crying as my heart is breaking for the two of you and for precious little Heather.
Willie, I'm glad you posted and all though heartbroken, you got to love this little girl for a little bit.
Kim, as others have said, please do not blame yourself. It was NOT your fault at all. Blame that idiotic woman who lied to you.
BIG time ((((((HUGS)))))) to my two dear friends.
Rest in Peace dear little Heather.