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Originally posted by dukedogsmom
Liz, I've got you beat. I wouldn't want it at all. I don't know why she chose to do this but she's too old and I think she's doing the children a great injustice.
Val,
I was excited and happy to have a child at 23 yrs, but at her
age, no way. What amazes me is that she waited so long to act.
Gee Whiz! She and her baby will both be in diapers together. That's too much togetherness!
I hope they did a mental evaluation on both her and her doctor!
Sounds like they both have a few screws loose.
The poor baby!
I agree with the majority, it is selfish, I cannot imagine her having the energy for a young child, my mother is 70 and believe me she could not do it in a million years, and would not want to, crazy.
I had my daughter at 35, and that sometimes seems too old for me, because now I am 47 and she is only 12, also her friends mother's are all ten years younger than me,and I feel I lack the energy and patience she needs, I feel just too old sometimes, and in reality I am not.
Let me not agree with all of you. How is this unfair to the child? She's given the most precious thing - life! There are so many younger mothers that do not live to see their children at 15 or 20yo. And so many others that would spend their energy on anything else than the child. I think it's only their decision and I am happy for them.
That's probably the only good thing that comes from having your kids young. I had my first at 19, my second at 20 and my twins at 21. While it's not fun having to grow up with your kids, at least I had (and still have) the energy to keep up with them. I don't see how this poor woman will be able to do much with her child and I hope she has someone to help her.Quote:
Originally posted by carole
I had my daughter at 35, and that sometimes seems too old for me, because now I am 47 and she is only 12, also her friends mother's are all ten years younger than me,and I feel I lack the energy and patience she needs, I feel just too old sometimes, and in reality I am not.
All I can say is I had my first child when I was much younger 24, and I sure as heck know the difference in my energy levels, level of tolerance etc, and my health was in far better shape then as well.
It is all very well to say that she gave that child the most precious thing LIFE itself, but the quality of life is what is important I think. JMO, I cannot imagine she will be any different to any other 67 year old, she just won't have the energy simple as that, unless she has a lot of extra help., still sticking to my guns, it is selfish.
Yes, there are certainly times when younger mothers do not do a good job of raising their kids, give them up, or die young in accidents, etc.Quote:
Originally posted by Vio&Juni
Let me not agree with all of you. How is this unfair to the child? She's given the most precious thing - life! There are so many younger mothers that do not live to see their children at 15 or 20yo. And so many others that would spend their energy on anything else than the child. I think it's only their decision and I am happy for them.
However, this woman KNOWS she is not going to live to see much, if any of her child's adult life. And she consciously made that selfish choice.
She will be 85 years old when this child graduates from high school, if she even lives that long. She will most likely not live to see her daughter graduate from college, get married or have children of her own. She will most likely not be able to play tag or chase with this child. When this child should be getting ready for her junior prom, she might be staying home changing her elderly mother's diapers instead. Or instead of choosing a college, she might be choosing a nursing home.
The thing that makes this tragic is that this woman chose to do this, knowing full well that she will not be in her daughter's life very long. It's not a "maybe, maybe not" situation ... this woman WILL be dead before her daughter reaches her 30's.
You raised excellent points Twisterdog, and I am 100 per cent in agreement with you, I Mean my own mother is only three years older than this woman, I can just imagine her raising a newborn infant NOT!!,and don't get me wrong My Mother is a great person, but she is simply past her baby raising days, it is actually very sad for the child IMO.
I agree with everyone. That is a horrible selfish thing to do to a child. When my mom turned 40 she talked about having another child. I just would not be able to deal with that. One reason I had Dylan so young was so I could actually do things with him. This lady makes me so angry! I feel so bad for the child. What a terrible thing to do through. =(
Last year in a town near mine there was a grandparent watching their grandchild and the grandparent fell asleep in a chair. The 3-year-old was found wondering down the street. I don't think many people have grandparents watch their children anymore. What happens to the child when she is home with this baby and has a stroke and nobody finds her until she is dead a week later?
yuck
I planned to and had ALL my children before I was 30... I felt that at 30, a woman would not have the energy and everything it takes to run after a small child.
Fast forward 30+ years and I now see MY daughter keeping her grandchild and I think to my self "I SURE AM GLAD THAT IS NOT ME!" I could NOT handle a baby/small child. I am nowhere near that womans age.....well, I reckon I am closer than most of you and I can tell you... NOW WAY! That would be my worst nightmare.
I DO however, enjoy my grandchildren and now my great grandchildren.... But they are only here a little while, then they go home! She should have planned her life better so she could be enjoying her grandchildren now...
As you well know, life is not always as you plan. She wanted to have children all her life and only now the medicine gave her the chance.Quote:
Originally posted by Laura's Babies
She should have planned her life better so she could be enjoying her grandchildren now...
I'll be 30 this May, and of course, there's not enough time to have ALL my children by 30 y.o. I'll take my chance to be less energetic but still have kids, even if others won't agree with that.