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I can see how they can't leave, though. If they have no one to help. If my parent's hadn't have helped me, I would have been stuck there. All I could get was a part time job. It was a super small town. I'm for setting up a PT Ladies in Need fund. That way, we can help you get out of that horrible situation. Also, check the women's shelters in the area. They sometimes allow pets, too. If anyone needs support, I'm here. I know how miserable it can be.
For me, it's a matter of getting all my ducks in a row so I can leave. I'll have to stop fostering until I'm out & settled though and that really bites. It's hard enough to find a place with a fenced yard that will allow 2 dogs (even though they don't weigh 20 lbs between them), 4 dogs is darn near impossible.
I feel so sad to see how unhappy some of you are :( I know my mom was in the same situation - wanting so badly to leave but didn't know how she could do it. Thank goodness for my grandmom - she took my mom, my brother and me in until mom could get back on her feet. It was a tight few years. But she is now remarried to my stepfather (who is the best man in the world) and she is gloriously happy. Now mind you, my stepdad does the same things.... wondering what mom did all day, helpless about making dinner. Whines when he doesn't have his little lunch bag made every morning.
Like Tonya said, we all have our little faults. But the question is whether their good outweighs their bad. If you are that unhappy and can no longer see the good you once saw, then you must try to find a way out. It might seem daunting and scary, but you'd be amazed at how strong you are emotionally and personally and how much support you really do have in life. You are not alone. Someone is out there who can help you leave a bad situation.
I was once involved with a man who never ever laid a hand on me, but his emotional abuse made me feel like dirt. The day we broke up, instead of crying, I felt liberated, like the world was mine to conquer. I felt powerless before. I WANTED to break it off, but couldn't somehow find the words. What would everyone think? We were supposed to be the perfect couple. I didn't want to let anyone down. I loved his family (and I still miss them to this day) and I didn't want to admit I made a mistake in choosing him as my partner. I walked away from that relationship and never looked back.
I am so sorry for those that truly are unhappy and want to leave but can't. My husband has many good points and I love the man to distraction. Overall I am very happy with him. I had company come for an overnighter but tonight when he gets off of work I am gonna sit mine down and tell him look we need to fix some th ings. We have been together 5 years and married for 1. He was not like this when we first got together so hopefully I just need to shock him outta this outdated outlook he has seem to have taken recently.
LuckyDog, you are lucky to still see good in him! Then there's always hope!! I hope you talked to him and things are going to get better for you!! Good Luck!
I don't see any good in my hubby anymore.
When we met, I was a strong willed woman, didn't take crap from anyone... etc. Now... I am a wussy!! He has broken me down to nothing! I need to find myself again, grow a set... and do it!
I've always been afraid to tell my friends how I feel because I'm afraid of how they would act. That's why it's so easy to get everything out to all of you.... you won't say anything to him, to make things worse. I'm a big chicken!! I know!
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Now for the RIGHT POINT OF VIEW...........:rolleyes: ;)
Go on strike.
This is gonna hurt..........Do not clean every day. do not wash every day........
If your hubby is good at video games and can push a button- he can cook and clean - pretty much every electric appliance has the button/video screen technology....
Start off this way.
Wash one pair of socks and underwear for him and your daughter every few days.(If your daughter is young forget that step). One pair of pants and enough of your stuff where you don't have to search.....
"Honey, did you wash my jeans????"
When you clean do one room and quit.
"Look at the dust in this room!!!"
Same thing with meals........Cook a piece of meat but "be tired" for the veggies, rolls and salad......
"Is this ALL we are having for dinner?"
Yep yep and yep!!!!!
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Do just enough to get by and see if that shakes his tree...
It's amazing what us men can do when there is no clean underwear on standby.
Us guys need a slap to the head to get us motivated.....