What are some ways to meet people?

I also have problem talking to people I don't know unless they talk to me first...thats the shy part about me...guess thats why I don't make friends here at PT and in my real life...I beginning to get use to it. I feel like no matter what I don't fit in. So I'm just gonna go with the flow and what I do and do what I like to do hope that one day that one friend that I've been waiting will come along. My friends from school I still talk too but since I got married and had a kid they don't wanna hang out and thats when they stopped coming around so I say they obviously wasn't my friend from the beginning :( :D

It looks like there a few of us in the same boat here.

I have been saying to my husband for the longest time, I wish I had more friends, I get lonely at times and just want some girl time. Years ago, I was one of those woman who was full of friends, phone ringing all the time, doing things offen toghter. My X-husband got to the point that he wanted to put up "office hours" so we could have our time, No phone calls before 10am or after 10pm. lol

Then I moved to the country, got a divorce, re-married and now work from the home, so I don't get a chance to get out and meet new people. Before work was my way of meeting new people, thats gone now. I can't meet people now. When my office is a putter in the back room. :rolleyes: Also my husband and I have a HUGE age difference so his friends are a little taken back by us and that's made things strange in the friends part too.

This isn't really helping you any is it? Just to let you know there are alot of others out there just like you. It's hard at times, I know. Some days I would give almost anything just to go see a chick flick with the girls, do some shopping (where home depot is not involved) and have a dinner out, gal time.

Getting involved in something sounds like a good idea everyone giving you. I'd give it a try, if you can, what do you have to lose. I know if I had the chance, I would. My problem is I live in a town so small, there is nothing to get involved with, that I'd be interested in. But if you have places where you can, volunteer or join, do it.

It might be odd the first time you go by yourself, I know I hate going places alone like that, but you have to remember that if you don't like it, you can always leave.

We all need a little time away from the husband, now and again. It can get boreing sometimes, talking about cars, bikes, tools, sports, or his work, etc etc. :D

On PT, right Davidp??? ;)

Well,
That's why I don't like meeting people in bars.
I can not talk to someone first.
Matthew on the other hand, can walk right up to any stranger in a bar (or any place for that matter) & start up a conversation! I ask him how he does it?! He just doesn't care what people think of him. He told me if they ignore him...oh well their loss & if they talk that's cool too!
I guess I feel that women in general are harder to meet & talk to. It seems like a competitive issue with them or something, like there always has to be something to prove!
Don't get me wrong I LOVE TO TALK....Matthew gives me crap all the time. The first time he & I met he said all I did was talk, talk, TALK!!!!:p
Like I said, I just wish I had more "girl" friends to hang out with or talk to! It's REALLY hard meeting people but the ones I do meet always say....that I'm nice to talk to & I listen well, GO FIGURE!!!!
:)
Tina

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Originally posted by teenster3

Like I said, I just wish I had more "girl" friends to hang out with or talk to! It's REALLY hard meeting people but the ones I do meet always say....that I'm nice to talk to & I listen well, GO FIGURE!!!!
:)
Tina

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Considering the fact that the majority of PT members are girls, you're in the perfect place to find "girl" friends. Talk to us! :p He he he!!!

Most of my friends are people I have met at school, and people I know from the mosque. The friends I've made at the mosque are people I've known since I was a small child, so those are friends I've practically grown up with. School friends come and go. I have some that I'm rather close to, and they've been my friends for YEARS, but most school friends are 'just' school friends. I'm shy and also have a hard time talking freely to new people, but once I get to know them well, I'm the biggest blabbermouth.

I think the best way to become close to someone is inviting them over for lunch or dinner after meeting them. My parents often invite new people over, and end up becoming close friends. I have learned that from my parents, and whenever I meet someone new and begin to 'talk' to them, I too, tell them to come over for lunch/dinner...or sometimes just for tea/coffee. We invite people to our house alllll the time. It becomes too much work sometimes, but I know I would feel lonely without my friends, so I'd rather have the dinner parties than not have them. We invite our neighbors over too, so we also have lots of friends in the neighborhood. ;)

Wow I never realized that so many people had the same problems as I do! I am also very shy and will not just go up to people and start talking. So needless to say, I don't have any friends, either.

It does get kinda boring every now and then when I would love to go shopping with another girl and hang out.

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Originally posted by teenster3
Well,
That's why I don't like meeting people in bars.
I can not talk to someone first.
Matthew on the other hand, can walk right up to any stranger in a bar (or any place for that matter) & start up a conversation! I ask him how he does it?! He just doesn't care what people think of him. He told me if they ignore him...oh well their loss & if they talk that's cool too!
:)
Tina

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I'm the same way, but the thing is, most people WILL talk to you first. I have sooo many people start convos with me and I'm probably the shyest person ever. I've met so many nice people (not friends..they're all older then i am..but they've become friends with my mom) but they're some really awesome people there. If you have things like Trivia there at bars...go to one of them and sit at the bar and chances are the people will ask you to join in withthem

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Originally posted by teenster3
Well,
That's why I don't like meeting people in bars.
I can not talk to someone first.
Matthew on the other hand, can walk right up to any stranger in a bar (or any place for that matter) & start up a conversation! I ask him how he does it?! He just doesn't care what people think of him. He told me if they ignore him...oh well their loss & if they talk that's cool too!
I guess I feel that women in general are harder to meet & talk to. It seems like a competitive issue with them or something, like there always has to be something to prove!
Don't get me wrong I LOVE TO TALK....Matthew gives me crap all the time. The first time he & I met he said all I did was talk, talk, TALK!!!!:p
Like I said, I just wish I had more "girl" friends to hang out with or talk to! It's REALLY hard meeting people but the ones I do meet always say....that I'm nice to talk to & I listen well, GO FIGURE!!!!
:)
Tina

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I know what you mean and what your husband is saying. I don't have a problem meeting people at all. I will go up to anyone that looks approachable. Some people just look rude, ha ha. But, what's the worst they can do? But, women are way harder to approach than men. I've made plenty of guy friends, but, hardly any women. I have one or two women I can really depend on. Guys are just easier going, so, I tend to hang out with them. Your husband is into music (just from what you said about him playing his guitar). Isn't there something you can do as a couple, like go check out some live music? You could meet couples that way. Is he planning to join a band? I'm just curious.....

But, I meet people all the time at dog parks! And, at book stores for some reason. :) You can also join an interest group, like a reading group, or sewing, or bird watching or whatever. The gym is another awesome way to meet people. Just make a list of things that interest you, and, then see what's available in your area. Good luck.

I'm a talker......can you tell? :o

My husband, who is quite shy at first, always laughs at me because I strike up converations with people everywhere! Ballgames, grocery store, restaurants, shopping, waiting in line, etc. It makes me feel uncomfortable when people don't say anything back, especially people walking their dogs. Just last weekend, we were at an art festival in a downtown park and there were dogs everywhere! This one lady was walking her Weimerarner (sp?) in the midst of all those folks, and when I stopped and asked if I could pet him, you'd think I committed a serious crime! Why would you bring your dog to a public gathering like that and not expect people to want to pet him?? I love it when people stop and say things to me about my dogs. :confused: I will say that most dog people are GREAT!!!!

I understand how difficult it is to meet new people. As a single woman I just moved into a townhouse in the middle of suburbia (where everyone has their 1.8 children). So I don't quite fit in.

I have met some of my neighbors while outside doing yard work. The one family even invited me in for a tour of their house. These conversations usually start with the weather, but at least it is a start.

If you have a local yarn store and want to learn to crochet or knit most of these places have either offer classes or they offer what is called a "stitch and *itch". Which basically is a group of women getting together to talk. You don't need to know how to knit or crochet to join these, but do you have to want to learn.

Knitting is now the "hot" hobby for women (although I have been doing it for almost 20 years now), but you will meet all kinds of ages and people.

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Originally posted by popcornbird
Considering the fact that the majority of PT members are girls, you're in the perfect place to find "girl" friends. Talk to us! :p He he he!!!

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This is true, PT could be a great place to find "Girl" friends. for chatting. Maybe some one needs to set up a PT friends chat spot, where you can have just girl chats.

But there's still nothing like having a friend or friends that you can call up and say, "hey what are you up to, what to do something?" Those are the things I miss. Real life giggles/fun and real live friends you can count on.