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I try to take a break from the computer....try and get everything I need to get done, done and then just go cry. Listen to depressing music, and then I'll listen to other music that makes me feel better. Then I'll take Major for a walk. That's what *usually* helps me.. Sometimes you just have to wait it out.
Going out with a good friend. Or going somewheer where I know alot of my friends will be.
I'm telling ya, call up a good friend (even if you havn't talked to them in 3 months) and ask them out for Coffey (SP) or something you really enjoy doing.
Think of what your FAV. thing in life is, and do it, no matter what. You need to get out of this rute to re-start your life and enjoy the things you used to. You've been through so much, I am so sad for you right now.
I'm here if you need to talk ::hugs::
Ashley
I have been feeling pretty down myself lately too. I'd kind of gotten so depressed that I wasn't taking care of myself. I hadn't shaved or put on makeup in a looong time.
Anyways, hubby took me shopping and bought me a new outfit. I came home, soaked in a long hot bath, shaved, put on lotion and my new outfit. I took my time on my make up and hair and then went out for a pedicure.
I'm not normally a girly girl, but it really lifted my spirits. I don't think it was helping my depression much that I was walking around in sweats all day looking like hell.
Sometimes we just need a break from our lives. I know I sure do! I like to try something new or do something I haven't done in a long time. Maybe a new hobby? Watching funny movies? Just something to look forward to!
Oh...I'm so sorry that you're having a hard time right now!!!:(
I guess I'd have to say try spending your time with family & friends. That's what has kept my sane in the past!:p
I also like to go shopping, gardening, playing with my dogs, watching a good movie, taking a bubble bath, or just sitting out on the back deck relaxing or listening to music seems to help!
Also it never hurts to share your feelings with us here at Pet Talk!!!!!!!:)
Tina
First I want to say to anna_66, I'm so so sorry about Angus and feel bad that I didn't say something before now. It's no excuse, but I have not be up to reading/posting about things like that lately. I hope you undersatnd why. I have yet to even say the names of my lost babies after the hurricane to PT.. Not ready to see it in type yet.
Thats what I always tell people to do too. Funny how it works sometimes and other times not. But I'm still am everyday reminding myself how lucky I am to have what I do have. Even if the house has a big whole in it at least there's still a house left. :)Quote:
Maybe try to think about what you have, instead of what you have lost!
Tonya, I know what you mean about sweats, fixing yourself up some etc. I even went as far as to dye my hair red. I always wondered what I would look like as a red head. :eek:
Aspen and Misty, I think maybe your right, I need to go out re-start somewhat over. I'll work on that idea. Do something fun and crazy maybe, deal with all this mess at home later.
If all else fails, I'll just wait it out like MariaM said, in time something got to give in my favor, right?
Thanks to everyone.
Talking to my friend Kathryn or Lindsey ALWAYS helps me up when I'm feeling down. They know what I'm going through and that helps a lot, and they most always do! :)
That's a better way to put it ;) I hope you start feeling better soon!! {{Hugs}}Quote:
Originally posted by Fox-Gal
Thats what I always tell people to do too. Funny how it works sometimes and other times not. But I'm still am everyday reminding myself how lucky I am to have what I do have. Even if the house has a big whole in it at least there's still a house left. :)
I have lived with major depressive episodes (MDE) and post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) for many years - so what you are talking about is probably a bit different because you really do have some very immediate and difficult situations to deal with! But I am sure the hopeless and sad feelings are similar ((((HUGS))))
In my depressions - I isolate and quit taking care of myself or interacting with anyone - so when I feel one coming on...I do some of the things I have heard mentioned and some of my own:
*take nice hot showers with my scented soap and loofah
*fix my hair and put on make-up
*light scented candles
*put on something that makes me feel like I look nice
*think about the GOOD things in my life (VERY hard to do!!!)
*buy myself a little present (candle, bookmark, some tea, etc)
*make the bed and arrange the night stand
*go to the library and get a book I have been wanting to read
*call an elderly friend "just to chat about THEM"
*call a trusted friend if I really need to cry
*read my Bible and sing hymns
*crank up the radio and sing country western songs :-) (happy ones!)
*dance when nobody is watching - the movement is healing
*write a check and send it to a charity or someone I know who needs it
*pet my cats and concentrate on how they feel and how their heart beats
*feel my own heart beating and listen to my breathing
Some of these things come from very desparate and suicidal times so they may not be what you need, but they are things I have learned to try. again...(((((HUGS))))))
I've had my hair that different blond, brown, and orange-red chunks and streaks for about 8 months or so. I was feeling so trendy and icky. I went in the other day, dyed it back to the good ol' dark red I always did, chopped some bangs and layered my hair. It felt good to have a new old me and get all that heavy hair off of my head. I think that lifted my spirits alot.Quote:
Originally posted by Fox-Gal
Tonya, I know what you mean about sweats, fixing yourself up some etc. I even went as far as to dye my hair red. I always wondered what I would look like as a red head. :eek:
When I feel down I just mope around for a few minutes, then I turn on the TV...
The hurricanes in Florida made me realize My problems ain't sheet compared to what's going on out there.
Also, the problems in Africa make me a appreciate my life a bit more.
People will probably think it's terrible to use other people's pain to make me feel better- It doesn't - It makes me realize my problems aren't anything to get bent out of shape over.
Luckily, I think there's always something good in everything bad. If not, there's always chocolate, friends and my fur angels. :)
Libby, it has been 15 years now, but after Hurricane Hugo, I watched my own mother drop into a terrible depression. I can still remember the day after the hurricane hit their town and we drove up with a car full of ice, and there was my mother, in the middle of the mess, raking up a small, visible patch of grass. She had to do something, I guess, in the midst of huge trees blown down all around their home. The horror of the hurricane itself, plus the devastation on her town, really got to her. It took her over a year to snap out of it, but she did. And she didn't have the losses you have endured with pets. Theirs was more of the whole landscape and beauty of their town.
It's going to take some time for you to get past what you've experienced this year. Just take it one day at a time, and try to accomplish one thing each day that improves life in your home. It is so easy to get overwhelmed and depressed. I'm even trying this solution in my own life and we haven't had to deal with the things you have. I think the best things that work for me are taking a dog and walking for a while, and spending time with my husband and children, outdoors, whether it be playing ball with them, gardening, cooking out on the grill, or just taking a walk with them and the dogs at dusk. I also find that prayer and quiet time help me to get things into focus as well.
I am keeping you in my prayers and hoping that each day will be a bit easier for you, my friend.
Logan
Libby, I hope you get to feeling better soon. I think what got me to feeling so bad was coming on here and seeing that Angus and Felony had passed away.
I don't know what to tell you, because I haven't found that miracle cure yet myself.
I do hope and pray you get to feeling better though really soon, and I am so sorry to hear about all your losses and the troubles from the hurricanes.
Willie:)
After doing some thinking and talking last night, my husband has decided he wants to take me to Disney's Animal Kingdom, this weekend. Something to look forward to, if it works out. I have to be honest though, I want to go, but then again, I don't. It's not chep and we really should save the money to fix the house. But then again I really want to get away and just enjoy one day. He's even gone so far as to say he doen't care if the dogs happen to pee in the house while we are gone. :eek: :eek: He's says if they do we will clean it up when we get home. That goodness for tile floors. lol You have no idea what a big statement that is for him to say......it's a WOW double WOW!!! We have never gone anywhere for a whole day toghter before because of the pets.
And I think I have decided to get my hair cut. It's been 3 almost 4 years sence I got my hair really cut. At least when I have to come back to reality, hopefully I'll look cute doing it. lol
Anyway thanks guys for your understanding and advice. You have helped. Like I said in the begaining, I didn't want anyone to see this as a Awww poor me thing, it's just I'm not use to this. I have always been the one others come to, not the other way around. It's a new feeling being on the other end of things for me.