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have you talked about it to any of your friends parents??and if they are animal lovers,i would take Major over there and keep him there,i would be WAY to scared that she would let him go free when your not home.:(
Please do something about it,even mabye the police can help?? It could be considered emotional abuse,if she's yellling at you constantly,and threatening to let the dog loose.:(
I'm so sorry that you are having these terrible feelings. I too have felt that way before when I was younger. But please know that we are here for you to vent to any time you feel like it.
I was distressed to read your thread, and I want you to know anytime you feel like PM me, please do, I am always here to listen and with a virtual shoulder to cry on.
It is real tough being a teen, and its tough being a mother of a teen,(I am one of those), we sometimes go through horrible stages with each other, and feel hatred towards each other, I am not sure if this is just a phase in your life that will pass or their is something more going on here.
Is your mother approachable, catch her in a good mood and maybe try and tell her how you are feeling, sometimes we are so busy with our lives and our own problems, we don't see what is staring us in the face.
Life brings us challenges, ups and downs, and sometimes we feel so much despair that we feel we are better out of it all, but Please Maria believe me that is not the answer, I think we all have had that feeling one time in our life, not always just when we were young, but life is good and you have so much ahead of you, maybe travel, buying a house oneday, getting married , having children, or being totally into your career, and besides there are some precious furbabies in your future who are going to need you.,not forgetting your present furbaby Major.
I can understand your fustration and I do think its mean to say one thing , then turn around and back down on it, but Major will survive, he has your love and if its not too cold where you live, He will be fine, not very re-assuring I know, but unless you can gently persuade your mother otherwise, its a situation here to stay unfortunately.
Here is a BIG HUG to you and Major and please try to cheer up, we are all here to help and lend an ear, if you need to vent then thats good, at least you are not bottling it up, Good luck and I really hope and wish that things pick up in the near future for you, and that you will be happy.:)
The teen years are tough. I used to have suicidal thoughts constantly. Luckily, I had friends to talk to and a wonderful dog to cheer me up. When you're feeling angry, maybe try taking a walk with Major. I do this with Kai when I'm stressed and it helps a lot. It's nice to just have time to think and be alone.
Who knows why some parents act like that. When my mom gets cranky, I ignore her. I'll purposely let her yell and vent all she wants while I continue on with whatever I was doing. If I absolutely must talk to her, I say as little as possible and in a calm voice. I do it in hopes of having her realize how stupid she looks yelling on her own. I do it to my sister too :p. I don't know if that's a smart thing to do.. but it works with my mom and sister. ;)
Here's a number you could try calling. It's a kids help line in Canada. They're basically there for whatever problems you might have.. emotional abuse, physical abuse, just anything you need to talk about. 1-800-668-6868
Hopefully things will get better for you. If you ever need to talk, just pm me!
ya same! but i wont be on for about a week,so just e-mail me if you need some help with anything!:)Quote:
Originally posted by smileyiloveyou
Hopefully things will get better for you. If you ever need to talk, just pm me!
Maria, I too am disturbed by this topic. Everyone has good days and bad days and being a teen is especially hard. I've been there, done that.
I truly hope that you have friends you can turn to and really talk things out with. For starters, it's good that you are writing it down both here and in a journal. Sometimes getting the words out on paper can serve as a release, in a way.
Could it be that your Mother is going through Menopause? Believe me, it does very strange things with the body and the mind. You can be very cranky and irrational one day and totally UP the next. I'm not making excuses for your Mother's behaviour, it's just a thought. Do you have a Dad you can talk to?
Like others have said, think also of Major. He loves you and needs you to be around and would be very sad if something were to happen to you, and so would we.
Hang in there girl. I promise, it will get better. Don't feel bad about venting here on Pet Talk. We will always be here for you 24/7.
{{{HUGS}}}
I just now saw this and am so saddened by it. I really don't know what to tell you. I agree that Major should be at a friend's house where he's safe. I would be afraid to leave him by himself with her. Also, her violent temper needs to be addressed. Would she go to counseling with you? It sounds like she needs at least that, and maybe some medication. Also, if she's around my age(40) that menopause stuff is very rough. It sometimes turns you into someone you don't like. However, I just get really stressed and grouchy, never violent. She and you need some help. Where is your dad in the picture? Does he support you? If you could, it might be a good idea for all of you to get involved in counseling. Please don't give up. There's always hope. At least call that number in Canada and see what they say. Pm me if you ever need to talk. I'm on every day.
I'm sorry that you are feeling this way. It makes me sad to read this. I know how hard it is to be your age, and it is so much harder if you have a parent who is unbearable.
I'm not going to get into it here, but my mother and I do not have a good relationship either--I had a very hard time at your age as well.
I hope you have someone you can talk to, at least call that number that was provided--it is so much better to get things out in the open.
As far as Major goes, it makes me sad to read what your mother says about him:( I hope maybe she'll reconsider.
Maria...your mom apparantly doesn't know how lucky she's got it....you could have friends over constantly and care nothing for your pet. Try explaining to your mom how teens who are compassionate toward pets grow up to be nicer people. Maybe she did not have a pet growing up. See how much better you will be if you grow up and have kids someday, I am sure they will grow up with pets in the house.
I have a teen and my complaint is all the friends! You could call your pediatrician for some advice also, you can do it confidentially.
I feel so sorry for you...:( {{{hugs}}} I know that its really hard being a teen, sometimes I feel the same way as you. But I just try and find a place to let it all out and I feel a little better. Whenever you need to talk or anything, feel free to PM me or talk to me on AIM:)
Just don't think of doing anything you'll regret later...because all this will pass, and before you know it you'll be moving out on your own. So just hang in there for now.:)
I'm so sorry, but you'll get through this. *hugs*
My parents can be crazy too sometimes. I just try to ignore them. Friends can really help you get through rough times. And I have a friend who went through the same stuff though. She spent a lot of time at her cousins house, and I told her I'd take care of her pets if she ever needed me to. Now she's at college though, and doesn't have to deal with it anymore.
I don't know if that made you feel any better... but just so you know you're not the only one. And we're all here for you.
Hey, how are you doing? You need to come back and post some more.
Maria, we all care about you. Please let us know how you are doing.
First off, I want to say thanks everybody.
I'm in tears again. I feel like they all hate me now. My mom keeps yelling at me. My dad is mad at me, but he doesn't show it to my face. Sarah and Michael...it seems like they don't like me either. My mom is being so rude, she's not listening to me, I asked if we could have a discussion tonight, about Major coming in the house, and my dad said maybe, but he thought it was pretty clear Major was staying outside for the winter. He said "he seems to be the kind of dog, that if we put some heating thing in his house, he could survive" and I wanted to tell him something, but I didn't want to make him upset and I knew he wouldn't understand. My mom just started her same old rambling on "I'd get rid of him before he came in here"
I think Major will be safe outside (probably happier and everything inside, I know that)but I just mean my mom wouldn't let him loose or anything. She wouldn't she just sais some things sometimes...
I hate it how they always talk about me though. When they think i don't hear them...it happens all the time now.
carole -
whenever my mom is in a good mood (which isn't often) as soon as she sees me, she gets mad/grouchy again. I i know he will survive...but...I just think it's plain mean. I don't know what to do about it. There are a lot of things I want to say on this topic..but I don't think I really want to/can say them here. Thank you though.
slick - I don't think my mom is going through menopause...I'm quite sure she has passed that already. She is 52.
I have a dad, and while he's usually nice and tries to understand, he just doesn't. And here's not here that often and never has that much time. He is a farmer and our crops are doing really really bad this year.
Thanks Val. I know my mom would NEVER EVER consider counselling. She doesn't have the time (is what she'd say) and there'd also be 'no reason for it' and she would make me go, if anyone.
I am not the greatest person in the world, placed with the worst mother. I know that I probably don't have the greatest attitude. I'm trying to change that, but everytime, she keeps giving me reasons not to.
caseysmom - I'll try that tonight (if and when, hopefully we have a good discussion) but I doubt it will do any good. She refuses to open her mind up and see my opinion.
Thanks everyone - I think this is all I can write right now, she's mad again..