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I can't blame you for wanting to leave, Cayter. :(
I hope you will still be checking your PMs, as I would love to keep in touch with and know how Darlin' is doing. :)
I'm sorry a few thoughtless people had to ruin PT for you ... funny how that works, isn't it? ;)
I've been somewhat hesitant to post about this. I've been very affected by Ozzy having to be rehomed. Being a smoothie named Oz, hits a lil' too close to home. I’m reminded of him every time I look in the eyes of my Oz and I can't imagine how he'd be able to handle it. I also hope that my talking about how wonderful my Oz is, didn't contribute in any way to unrealistic expectations and a hasty, ill thought out decision by you. If so, I’m sorry for that.
As sad as I feel for Ozzy though, I do recognize that we’re all human and none us make it through this life without making mistakes. The key is to learn from them and to learn about ourselves, so we can hopefully make better future decisions. So I find it hard to be judgmental towards you, because “for the grace of god go I”. I took a huge risk when I got my Oz, when Murph and Maddie were 11+ years old. I had everybody telling me it was the wrong thing to do, yet it felt right to me, so I went with it. I got extremely lucky, if I’d gotten a dog with any other kind of personality than Oz’s, I could easily see him having to be rehomed. That’s why I was so paranoid and picky about what breed I chose and why I got a puppy. I wanted to make my odds go up, but it still could have backfired on me big time. I would have never rehomed either M&M, so even with as much as I loved Oz, if he would have made life miserable for them or hurt them, I would have had to find him a more appropriate home. But much to the surprise of my friends and family, even Maddie seemed to like him, more so than she did Murph even. Big bullet dodged for me.
Hopefully as you move forward from this, you’ve learned more about what’s right for you; to think out the negative consequences of every decision you make; and to take responsibility and handle with grace the fallout of those consequences.
Anyway, I hope you’ll stick around and I’m especially glad to hear Ozzy has found a new home and hope that he’ll be happy there.
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Very well said Julie (Ally cat's mom). I couldn't have said it better.
I only have one thing to say to foam. This is a board of people that treat their pets like family members. What did you think was going to happen?
Having rehomed a cat in the past year, I know that the most responsible people can make rather hasty decisions some times. I tried to and was successful in finding the perfect new home for Ti, my cat. I did what I could to undo the mess I had created. I feel perfectly comfortable with my final choice of a new home for him as I hope Foam feels too. Such is life. I learned a good lesson from Ti and his rehoming, and hey, I am over 50 years old and still have many mistakes to make.
We all live and learn. Give the kid a break.
SAS
I know every one else is saying this, but i am saying it too. You did the right thing, and everyone else who says you didn't are wrong. However I entitle all to their oppinoin. You did well because if you couldn't take care of him like he needed, his health would have dropped. You did not send him to the pound, you re-homed him, those are two very different things. You saved your dogs life!!!
Never doubt your decision for it is normally right.
XOXOXO
Best Wishes :)
Much Luv :p
Buenos Dias :D
-Kristin:cool:
I can understand why you're leaving too Cayter, I probably would too if I had those kinds of comments directed at me. But even though I don't really know you that well, I will miss you and Darlin.
Take care.:)
that people would be supporive, duh. its people on this board that are always stressing that you have to do whats best for the pet and not whats best for you. so cayter did just that, she realized that she could not give ozzy what he needed so she put her feelings aside and rehomed him. poor cayter got tones of flames for giving up ozzy, I gave up shadow in case ya had forgotten and all I got was support, as did many people who have had to give up there pets, whats so differnt in this case? you all liked ozzy better or something? honestly.Quote:
I only have one thing to say to foam. This is a board of people that treat their pets like family members. What did you think was going to happen?
cayter I dont blame you for leaving. I know I have taken plenty of breaks from this board because some partiular people are just flat out rude here. (I wont name names, but I know several people who know exactly who I am talking about)
I wasn't trying to add any negativity to this post and I don't appreciate that you tried to make it a fight with a comment like "duh." I'm just saying that people on this board treat their pets like family and if I had done something like foam did I would have expected the same reaction. Honestly, I'm trying to keep my opinions about this (even though I have strong opinions) to a minimum. I don't think people's reactions are to foam exactly. I think their responses were more just a natural reaction to bad news. We all saw how much foam loved Ozzy, and now that she had to give him up it has everyone asking themselves what they would have done in similar situations. I know what I would have done, but I'm sure there are other factors to foam's decision that we aren't seeing.Quote:
Originally posted by cali
that people would be supporive, duh. its people on this board that are always stressing that you have to do whats best for the pet and not whats best for you. so cayter did just that, she realized that she could not give ozzy what he needed so she put her feelings aside and rehomed him. poor cayter got tones of flames for giving up ozzy, I gave up shadow in case ya had forgotten and all I got was support, as did many people who have had to give up there pets, whats so differnt in this case? you all liked ozzy better or something? honestly.
cayter I dont blame you for leaving. I know I have taken plenty of breaks from this board because some partiular people are just flat out rude here. (I wont name names, but I know several people who know exactly who I am talking about)
I was not trying to add negitivty to the post, "duh!" it a regulary part of my vocabulary I say it all the time, that word comes out of my mouth at least 10 times a day. :rolleyes: (and yes I roll my eyes regualrly to I just cant seem to think of something as complete until I have said "duh" or rolled my eyes lol) by the way those attacks were to cayter in no uncertain terms, its like a person on the SD forums that called people stupid, and a lot of things worse that I wont even mention, then told people that she was nice and not attacking anyone.
Foam I am really pleased to see Ozzy has a new home already, even though you will be missing him, you will feel happy in knowing that.
Try to forget the negative comments, and put them in perspective, although it seemed mean, they were just concerned PT members speaking from the heart and hurting also about Ozzy's departure, we are an emotional lot , us Pet lovers., hopefully you can forgive and forget and keep contributing to PT, there has been a lot of supportive messages too here for you Foam, and I for one would still love to hear about your life and Darlin.
I may have even been persuaded by other peoples opinions, to mis-judge this situation myself Foam, and for that I duly apologise., but I have alway's felt you did the right thing, and it was anything but selfish of you to do so.
I agree other members have re-homed pets and received nothing but ongoing support, I am not so sure what makes your situation any different, but something obviously hit hard with a lot of people, but if you can Foam move on and keep posting, it does not matter what anyone else really thinks, as long as you are comfortable with your decision, and that is what counts in the long run OK. TAKE CARE sweetie.!!!:)
I never posted in the original "He's gone" thread because I knew it would turn into a fight.
Unfortunatly, it is a fact of life that sometimes animals must be rehomed. Whether is it do to lack of time, not getting along with others animals, or a change in a personal situation. While it is never any esy decision for true animal lovers (yes, there are some people that just don't care and don't think it out), I don't feel it was the case here. Maybe the dog should have never been gotten, but it was. And while we never like to see anyone chose to give up a family member, Cayter did make some responsible choices in making this decision. She could have kept the dog and not cared for it. She could have gotten him from a breeder who did not care enough to take him back. She could have dumped in a kill shleter, not caring what happened to him. She did not.
Ragardless of whether we agree with her decision to give up the dog, shouldn't reallybe our place to judge. What I think we should do is admire the fact that she knew she could not give Ozzy the home he deserved, returned him to a responsible breeder, and Ozzy now has a wonderufu new home. The dog is happy and safe, and that is what truly matters.
You know what!
Your doing the right thing giving up Ozzy...
we had to give up our St. Bernard when I was
like 5 and she is still alive living happily on some
farm....
I hope you feel better from all those nasty comments!!
Those people are immiture and ignorant!:mad:
It was in his best interest to give him up and don't
listen to those "know-it-alls";)
I don't think it's necessarily smart to call a majority of this forum immature and ignorant.
Cayter,
You have my aim screen-name. So, theres nooo excuse for us not to talk. About why you are leaving, i completely understand. I'm soo sorry for the things people said to you, you didn't deserve any of it.. You did a great job raising him, cayter..
I'll miss you cj.. :(
Amber