*Rant Rant RANT!*

Megan, I also thought that it sounded much like a symptom of depression.

Anyway you can't solve her problems for her. But you are much more than what she -or anybody else- taught you. Much more than nothing. For example you are a poet. {{{Hugs}}}

I'm so sorry you are feeling this way Megan.
It sounds like depression to me too. When I was depressed, I didn't want to leave the house either, not to pick up a soda at the store, or to go see my boyfriend's band play. It didn't matter, all I wanted to do was stay home.

I hope you're feeling better today, and that your mom gets some help.

After reading all these responses, Megan, it seems to me that everyone is of the same opinion. This is not about you, but something that is going on with you mother. The best thing you can do is let her know that you miss her, and perhaps talk with your dad about what you are witnessing, even share this whole thread with him if you feel comfortable doing so.

In the meantime, we can be your cheerleaders, if you will allow us to be!! :) Just sorry that we can't be there in person.

Logan

It does sound like she is going through some sort of depression.
My husband had the whole thing, depression, anxiety/panic attacks, for a very long time, he did not go anywhere, he stayed home all the time. It was such a hardship on the whole family. Getting treatment helps, but as somebody said, she may need to change medications, the zoloft may not be working anymore. It is pure hell for the whole family. We were afraid to even open our mouth in front of him, or he would start yelling at us. It got really bad.

Now I have went through it so long with him, about 15 years of it along with his other health problems, I am now suffering from depression too. I don't like going anywhere either, I will go sometimes, but strictly because I have to go or somebody makes me go. I hate it, it is terrible.

I am sorry that you are going through this, everyone in the family are going through this, it affects the whole family.

sorry

Aw, Meg, I am so sorry. You're not alone. My parents asked me to stay to save money, plus we all got along famously. Since my dad got sicker and died last year, my mother has been next to impossible. Honey, I'm 52 years old and STILL listening to some of her crap. She is on Buspar, but takes it off and on because she doesn't feel better. She has side effects from shingles so now it's affecting her walk. She refused to go to another doctor, I have to drag her to the hairdressers, she dislikes people who disagree with her. In fact, the other day, after I commented on a great TV commercial (having been in advertising years ago), told me I was no longer as imaginative as I was. Now that I'm not working, I do all the cooking, cleaning etc. She wants no outside help "in her house". My older brother, who also moved back in to help, just takes off Fri-Mon, and deserts me. I know I complain to my friends sometimes, but then I realize, it's up to ME not to take it seriously. I know she has a problem. She is a grown adult and has to learn to deal with it. I can't force her to do what she doesn't want to. Period. My dad and I were more alike, so I miss him terribly. Don't misunderstand, I love my mom. She is a dear, sweet person. Like Karen's, our house was always open to everyone. But she needs more help that she refused to get. Can you speak with your dad when the 2 of you are alone? Maybe if you talk with him, it'll help. Please realize it's NOT you! DON'T let her change your personality. You are NOT worthless or unloved. Just remember that you may have to hold your tongue because arguing with a depressed person, makes things worse. They do not think rationally.
Please know that you are very much loved here on PT, and that we are here for you whenever you need it. You must build yourself up in order to survive, and you will. {HUGS} I hated talking about myself here, but I wanted you to know you're not alone and it can happen at any age :o