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Oh SAS,
I'm so sorry! :( Don't ignore your instincts if you feel Miley wont ever feel OK in her own home with Ti there. You have to think of the resident cat(s) first, its only fair.
I have a feeling it would be WAY different with a kitten, Miley could tell it who's boss.
Do what YOU think it right. We don't live with you and can't see what's going on. I can tell you are emotionally drained by this, as is Miley girl.
Take care,
Kelly
SAS,
Poor Miley girl.:( How terrified she must have been. I feel
so sorry for her to have been found in such a state. :(
To be so badly affected, I'll bet she'll never forget the incident
either. I feel so bad for you both.
SAS,
After all you've been through...:(
Sometimes enough is enough. This would not be the worst thing for either kitties. We support you judgement.
Peace be on your house.
Geez and I thought I had it bad in my house. My roommates cat HATES my cats. She growls and hisses and swats and they do have full on cats fights, usually her and Corkscrew. There have even been a few injuries, but thankfully neither of the cats have ever been that scared. Sasha just hates Corkscrew but she isn't afraid of him the way Miley seems to be. I really hope everything works out. Give Miley some head bumpies for me.
Sallyanne, I'm so sorry to hear about poor little Miley. :( I also agree that if something doesn't change soon that Ti will need to be rehomed. It just isn't fair for Miley to live in such a stressful environment. I sure hope that Juni will bring peace to both Miley and Ti and you'll finally have a happy ending. Prayers and positive thoughts are on the way.
Sallyanne, how terrible to hear this. I also get my doubts whether there will be a solution for Ti and Miley. If he tries to dominate her -she has no chance -he is so much stronger.
But I doubt whether she can be happy again with him being so bossy.
I sometimes have the impression that purebred Abys as well as Bengals are very highstrung. So maybe a peaceful domestic kitty would be a better mix with Miley. It touches my heart to see her on this porch.
Filou is very courageous and Tigris is rather chickenhearted. This is part of the balance. If Tigris was all the time as aggressive as he can be in some moments, life would be hell for Filou.
On the other hand I am so sorry for Ti who has bonded to you.
{{{{{{hugs}}}}}} for Miley and you and Ti, too.
Although my cat knowledge = zero, I have a feeling you are right about the need to rehome Ti. Even if the whole problem were Miley's attitude, she is the one whom you have to protect and defend. Thankfully, Ti is a cat who would be welcomed into many a home. Maybe he should be an only cat, more probably it is the individual dynamics between him and Miley that are the problem and he would adjust quite well to another home with cats. I wonder if you wouldn't be the better person to rehome him than the breeder?
Are you going to wait for Juni Rose, before rehoming Ti ?
Maybe a third cat, is all that is needed (with a lot of patience & settling in time)
Though I am far from knowing stuff about cats.
Hopeing things are sorted one way or another (4 weeks from June)
sasvermont
Im so sorry to hear about poor Miley! maybe you could call your vet ans ask about, there is a thing called feliway plug ins, and it is suposed to calm them down, we got it from our vet for Callie's peeing outside the box, but it could also work for making them calm and maybe getting along better, or at least not fighting... good luck:)
Miley Im sorry that you got so frightend sweet girl:(
Thinking of you today and hoping that Miley is having a better day. I guess you are playing referee today. :( (((hugs to all 3 of you)))
Well, I spent most of the day doing spring cleaning. Ti was out on the porch most of the day, by himself. Not a bad place to be for sure! Miley will not come out of the bedroom now. She is one scared kitty. I resorted to Gabe's old medication again. I put a tiny bit on her ear and will continue for a few days to see if it helps her. If it does, I will call my vet and get more. I will try to hold out for Juni, although some days I wonder if I will be adding more problems by getting another cat. What if Miley hates the kitten too? All of this is not life threatening so I shouldn't be doing too much worrying over it, huh?
I too have thought about rehoming him myself, rather than using the breeder. I will cross that bridge when I come to it. Right now neither cat is living in a single room. Both have plenty of room to roam and have me roaming both areas most of the time. It is actually easier on all of us to keep them apart, rather than hear the screaming and fighting if they meet!
What a mess.
Miley is fine, and cuddles with me each night, all night long and sleeps on my chest most nights......with her face tucked under my chin(s).... :p ...... She still grooms me in the morning!
I miss my old life, with Gabe and Grammy and Miley, all three happy campers. Oh well.
SAS:rolleyes:
SAS,
Sending {{{{{HUGS}}}}} to you today. Hope you have
a calm, peaceful evening. :) :) Liz.
Sally, it has been my experience with cats that getting a 3rd cat may not alleviate the problem. I have a similiar problem with Mopsy and Otis. Otis is definitely the ruler of the property and in the house. He darts outside, when I am not looking, and runs off all of my strays, and ferals and then comes back when he has done his "work". Otis and Mopsy do not get along, because Mopsy will not accept him. Although I have seen both of them tolerate each other, Mopsy appears to be afraid of him. I know that they will not eat out of the same tray. Sometimes I hear the loudest cat fight cries, and assume that Mopsy is being chased by Otis, which is usually the case. I doubt that either will accept each other, but as long as they do not constantly fight, I can put up with it.
........wayne
Three weeks to June & Juni.
Hoping things have calmed down for Miley & Ti :)
SAS, sorry I didn't see this until now.
I hope things are calmer between Miley and Ti today. Poor Miley girl! I guess she got a big scare without you there to protect her.:(
Let me know if there is anything I can do to help, you can PM me.