Eli

I have only one thing to say to everyone here that has been such great friends and support to me

YOU'RE THE BEST!!!!!!

Boy, I am a little late here, but add me to that list of people that say "Who the blazes cares WHAT she thinks!!". People like that need a life a whole lot more than you or I do (I have 13 cats, not only 6, and people would say I don't get out much, but hey....I'm not comdemning other people's ways of life, either). If I were you, I'd pay her back as fast as humanly possible and dump that relationship all together.
You've got US !!!!

Donna, please ignore what your sister-in-law says. Even though she is having difficulties in her life she has NO right to say anything to anyone else about how they lead their life. People are correct, pay her off ASAP and then make sure to keep future informaiton on a need to know basis only.

You are too valuable a person to feel less than important.

Like Johanna I move regularily across the continent and between countries. I know how difficult it can be to re-establish a network of friends. But please remember that "strangers are just friends you haven't met yet".

Cheryl

Moosmom,

I'm late posting here but once I found the thread I had to throw my two cents in.....

I'm so sorry your SIL said those things to you. Even if she was trying to make herself feel better by putting you down, that's no excuse. Eli is a lucky little guy to have found you, and the love and companionship you get from furfriends is well worth the money you may (or may not) end up spending on him.

As for friends, I haven't been around PT very long, but I remember seeing your posts in reply to my questions about getting Gus out of the sewer. You were very supportive and helped me through a very stressful time. You're a big part of the PT community here - friendship is also about what you give to others and your presence here gives us a lot!

PS I always wonder about people who know nothing about computers or the net but don't hesitate to give you advice about them anyway..... :rolleyes:

Laura

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Originally posted by moosmom
She's miserable in her own life because her husband (who I adore) is in the early stages of Alzheimers at the age of 68. Her way of dealing with it is to go off and do her own thing leaving him at home to watch tv and eat toast. It disgusts me

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your 'pity party' moved me to write....
in a nutshell..I lost my dad to diabetes and AD a bit more than a year ago, I lost my G-friend 5 months later to cancer..I took my
GF's cat because her family were a bunch of A-holes and they 'couldn't take' him. Taking eddie has made my life more
bearable because he has softened the loss of two of the people I
admired most. As for you, You should be commended for your
time and the effort you have put into keeping your BIL active and
in to life. There will be days ahead where you'll look back at the time you spent with him and it will put a smile on your face.


At the end of the Wizard of Oz, where Dorothy and the others were getting their 'wishes' filled-the wizard gave the tin man a
heart and said something like "it's not how you love with your heart-it's how much you are loved in return" (i paraphrased there but you get the idea....). The love your pets and BIL show you will get you through the tough times.

p.s. after my dad's death I'd call my mom and ask her what she was doing- She'd answer 'having a pity party!' I told her that she should make sure that she put away the hats and the rest of the
cake when she was done-I said that it's o.k. to have one, but not
to get into the habit-it's no fun having a party alone!

keep your chin up!

I'll say it again - you guys are wonderful! You are my extended family and give me the support and love that I don't get from my own family.

I have made it a point since Sunday to keep my distance. I go over there when I know she's not there just to chat with Cliff and see if there's anything he'd like to do (i.e., go to Sam's Club, movies, etc.)

Richard, I know exactly the quote you're thinking. It took me a while, but I found it.

"A heart is not judged by how much you love, but by how much you are loved by others."