I don't know what it is for me but, I can't see much 'fault' in him. If I was the blame goddess, I would put it all on her. I get mad at her just watching her through my television screen!
I laughed at the snippets of her saying, "I have to do things I never thought I would have to do" or something along those lines. I thought, "what, be a mother to your children???"
I would have given her the boot about 9.5 years ago.