Pam, I agree, bad choice of words on my part. I should have used humiliated
or mortified. I no way think Elizabeth has a anything to be ashamed about.
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Pam, I agree, bad choice of words on my part. I should have used humiliated
or mortified. I no way think Elizabeth has a anything to be ashamed about.
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Originally Posted by shepgirl
Shepgirl, I really agree with your sentiments. Living a life is alot different from judging a life.
As for her being 'shamed'...what did she do to be ashamed of?
No SHE shouldn't be ashamed. HE should be.
I think the thing that got me the most was in one article I read that he possibly fathered a child with this woman and when asked about he said something along the lines of "That child is not mine. One of my co workers fathered that child"
So you were sleeping around with the town bicycle? Even WORSE.
No, I would not stay no matter what. (talking hypothetically) If I married someone I would be making vows to stay with them for the rest of my life, I gave them MY TRUST and PROMISES. It's not something to take lightly, and obviously putting your trust in this person was a mistake. If I stayed with someone who cheated I think all I'd be able to imagine is them with someone else and I'd be upset alot of the time. Maybe b-e friends, but a divorce/break-up would PROBABLY be the result.
Sometimes life is more complex than an easy "Yes I would stay" or "yes I would leave" answer. Sometimes, things happen in life where a person totally loses themself, and in the process of finding themself, mistakes are made. When a series of events can turn your entire life upside down and you don't know if you can wake up the next day and breathe... sometimes mistakes happen. I say that if you want to stay and make it work, do it. Don't let anyone tell you it can't be done or shouldn't be done.
Even though I've been divorced, which was not really by my choice, I do not believe in divorce unless it's for abuse or other similar reasons. I think there will always be a way to work this type of situation out.
So, I suppose my answer is, "I would stay."
I cannot say how I would react. I hope I never have to find out.
But I do not judge either of them in this situation -- I just cannot as I do not know what has gone on between them. It seems such a private matter. My heart breaks for those involved.
Plus I read somewhere once -- "judge not lest you be judged".
I have firsthand knowledge of this type of situation. My theory then and my theory now is...Quote:
Originally Posted by Edwina's Secretary
There was a reason you fell in love to begin with. With a little bit (or a lot) of work, you can find that reason again. It is altogether too easy to find those reasons with someone else - because it is easier than trying to fix a marriage (or a relationship) that is broken. Although both parties have to be amenable to fixing what is broken... one person can't do all the work.
That's just my theory. It doesn't apply to everyone. I just hold myself to that standard. When I married the 2nd time it was for life. Flaws and all. And there have been some doozy's.