Why can't we all just get along?

Here's an idea so you don't have to worry about diffusers and all that stuff....

I have one cat who uses Feliway - my vet ok'd it instead of a medication. He was wild his first 2 - 3 years, and even good stress affected his health via a urine infection.

Spraying it in his favourite areas...there were a lot of them. I tried spraying a bit of rag which I would lay beside him - but he would get up and move, of course, and not get the 4 hours exposure.

So - I got a stretchy collar that comes off instantly if he and his brother are playing hard(don't get the breakaway), and I shake the Feliway bottle and squirt a tiny bit into his collar (don't put on fur or skin).

My vet LOVED the Feliway Collar idea and has recommended it to other clients.

Maybe she would let Hubby put a collar on her? :)

What a spiffy idea!

Right now, the Calico Queen is wearing a collar to keep her from licking where the vet cleaned up her abscessed bite, and doesn't seem to mind it much. (BTW, she's obviously feeling a LOT better to have that taken care of, and is significantly less grumpy than she was for the past couple of days, poor baby.) But the fact that this soft collar (more like a poncho -- quite the fashion statement) isn't bugging her says to me that she'd likely do well with a stretchy collar.

Here's something I find interesting: Even though I am not even on Meg's "cuddle time" list -- though she spent a couple of hours on Daddy's lap this evening -- Meg is willing to let me do the "caretaker" stuff, such as cleaning the place where the vet opened up the abscess with peroxide, and holding her still to give her a liquid antibiotic & her pain meds. It's nice to know that she obviously trusts me to take care of her -- it shows me that she knows I love her!

Thanks again to all of you for the good ideas and encouragement. I am NOT giving up on this situation, and I know we'll get through it!

Hi friends,

Here's my update on the Meg & Zorro soap opera: ;)

The combination of Feliway and having her "owie" better has made a HUGE difference with Meg. She's significantly happier and more relaxed, and has even started cuddling with me! :love: :love: And as I'd said earlier, the inappropriate peeing/pooping went away as soon as I put a litter box on the first floor of our house. So, in one way, we're a bunch better.

However... Zorro is still not being very nice to Meg. He very rarely (less than once a week) actually initiates a physical altercation with her, and frequently leaves her alone entirely during the day, but he also often "holds her hostage" under the kitchen table. (You all probably know what I'm talking about -- he just lies there nonchalantly on the floor about two feet away from her, acting innocent, while everybody knows he's just waiting for her to come out from under that table...!)

Now, I recently finished the book "Cat vs. Cat", by Pam Johnson-Bennett, and her advice in this situation is to start the introduction process all over again. She also says not to let the "aggressor" have the "prime territory" that he's defending to begin with -- otherwise, his aggressive behavior will be reinforced. Having never had a cat conflict before, it sounds like good advice to me -- especially since I haven't seen Meg on the second floor of our home in quite a while, even though she used to enjoy coming to snuggle with my daughter. I have little doubt that Mr. Zorro has something to do with that...

What this means in my house is that I'm going to have to isolate Zorro from the other cats. He's reeeeallly not going to like it, and I'm going to have immense guilt -- especially since he, of all of them, is "my" cat. Of course, I'm absolutely willing to deal with that if it's going to ultimately make the situation better among them all.

One of my questions at this point is, how will I know when it's OK to let him back out again? When we were introducing Meg, it wasn't particularly hard to keep her in her "safe room" -- wherever it happened to be -- because she didn't really feel the need to be out and about yet in a new environment. With Zorro it'll be another story altogether; he'll be yowling up a storm and pretty hacked off at being stuck in one place, regardless of how much time I spend with him or how pleasant I make it for him.

So, what do you all think? Does it sound like the right solution? Do you have other ideas or things that have worked for you? I'd love some input!

Hugs,
Diana