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I am sorry this happened to you but very happy to see how you dealt with it when you found out. You are a warm loving person and will one day find someone just as nice as you to team up with.. Be happy you escaped from what could have been a nasty situation! Hugs to you!
Thank you for the support, everyone. I feel wonderful today, I'm very happy.
I talked to his probation officer, Sara the other day. She said that he is admitting the false name charges and they have the hearing set for March 20th. Which is fine, except... I'm leaving for Jamaica on March 21st. Sara said these exact words: "I'm done torturing you. I'm so sorry you have to be involved in this anymore. I have a statement from you, that should be all I need. I'm going to try my hardest to make it so you DON'T have to come to the hearing. I want this to be over for you."
I could have told her I loved her right then, lol.
I DO NOT want to see him again. I'm worried that seeing him will either scare the daylights out of me (because of what I know now), or make any feelings I have buried deep inside of me, resurface. I DON'T want to see him or hear from him, ever again.
Wish me luck on being excluded from the trial, lol. =]
I'd send her a nice Thank-you note, and repeat your hopes not to have to attend the hearing. Hopefully a written statement will be enough, ask her if there's something you can sign with witnesses or something.
I hope what Sara said it true and you don't have to go to court and see him again.
I have to Echo what Staci said and tell you that I'm proud of you for getting away from him and staying away from him!!
{{{HUGS}}}
Oh I know. The first couple weeks after he went to jail I was so upset... I was stuck in this mindset that he was still 27 and we could get over this... He'd get out of jail and we'd get over it.
My parents, my friends, you guys... all have helped me see that I got myself out of what could have been an AWFUL situation. I am so over this. SO over it! I just want to move on and be happy. I'm sorry that I messed up his life, but honestly, he had it coming. Like you've all said, he needs to be put away. I've come to the realization that yeah, he was probably trying to get to me. Maybe there wasn't really any real feelings involved. It could have ended so terribly. If my parents hadn't intervened...
*HUGS* I'm so happy to hear you're feeling better. I truely hope you won't have to go to trial. Lots of love sent!
Why do you always need to be so damn judgmental?Quote:
Originally Posted by buttercup132
I don't think buttercup was being judgemental, she is herself a teenager if i remember rightly and the points she made were valid.,however i agree perhaps her choice of words were a bit harsh,although i am sure megan took no offence, and know's herself what a lucky escape she has had.
No, I think there was just a misunderstanding.
Just as a note, I don't "love" people easily. It takes a lot to get me to open up to someone. There is NO WAY I would be able to know someone for a week and then tell them I love them. That's stupid. I've known him for a year, I had (what I thought) was reason to say I love you, because (I thought) I knew who he was.
*crosses fingers*
No trial... no trial... :D
Everything good or bad that happens in our life, is a lesson! I'm sure you've learned to be more careful now and that you won't put yourself in this situation again. Please do not blame yourself, especially for "messing up his life"! HE messed up his own life by being a liar and abuser!
(((((((((((HUGS))))))))))
Kim
I'm echoing Kim's statement above. There is no way to learn in life without the mistakes we ALL make. We may not all make the same ones, but we ALL make mistakes. Its more than obvious that you've learned from this and you got away at an excellent time, sweetie. ((((hugs))))
If it were me, I'd suggest possibly going to visit with a therapist to be sure you don't have post traumatic stress syndrome. You may find this to be when you get into your next relationship.
Lots of (((((hugs))))) and prayers that you WONT have to go to trial and that this is all behind you.
Hugs,
Kelly :)
P.S. You are NOT stupid, btw. People like this guy know EXACTLY how to lure women in. It is his way, his expertise. You were in NO WAY STUPID, ok sweetie? Please know and believe that. People like this guy are very sick, you were correct in calling him a psychopath...or a sociopath. Be glad its behind you and don't be down on yourself. You made the BEST decision and you got away from something potentially very harmful. You trusted your instincts...
Thank you all for such kind words. It's still hard, because the time we did spend together was amazing... whether or not he meant any of it, it still made me feel wanted and special. But I'm seeing now that it was all a game, and I need to move on. Better things are yet to come. =]
I'm not.Quote:
Why do you always need to be so damn judgmental?
I didn't know she had known him for a year and when you see a teenager (I don't know her exact age) dating a 27yr old it's a bit shocking.
It said it all in my first post. I had known him a year before the word "love" got tossed in. No, my age wasn't mentioned. I am 19. I'll be 20 in October. (Sccaarrrryyy.)
No hard feelings. Just make sure you know the whole story before you start accusing me of things. ;)
OMG this is so horrible!! I feel so badly for you hun!! Dont worry about anyone judging you! Hes the one who will meet his maker for the lies he has told you, and probably others.. I really hope you dont hold this grudge on yourself for trusting this man..Everyone makes mistakes, and I am so happy that you got out fo the situation before it got worse.. DONT BLAME YOURSELF!! People lie, and some men are VERY good at it, just to manipulate girls to get what they want.. Sounds like this guy has some serious issues. and hes messed in the head.. Just be happy it all came to the serface now instead of later..
I have been minipulated by a guy before too. he also lied about his age telling me he was 26 and actually being 33!! He really messed my head up, but I am so happy I seen the mistake it was to be with him, because if I didnt get out I am sure I would be really unhappy right now..
Trust yourself, and always trust your instincts.. and Dont ever look down on your self.. Noone is psychic, and you are only human..
hope you feel better soon..
We love you!!!
*******huggsssss********