Prayers for hubby - PLEASE!!

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Originally Posted by moosmom

This whole situation has gotten way out of hand. You need to be straight with them and stick to your guns.

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totally am with that, especially who's responsible for the house?? just do it.

I don't believe you would say things about the kids, complain about and pointing them out in almost every thread, it's just not right. or obviously, is helpful. they are GROWING and telling them they're killing their father or making next embarrassing thread wouldn't really help - no wonder they can behave like this.

DO something and they all need to take care of themselves - you're not some hero of lives, take care of yourself - action speaks louder than words and hope your hubby will realize, do better for his needs and settle in a while soon! good luck.

You should be at the doctor's now. Prayers going out for your husband and for your sanity.

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Originally Posted by sandragonfly

totally am with that, especially who's responsible for the house?? just do it.

I don't believe you would say things about the kids, complain about and pointing them out in almost every thread, it's just not right. or obviously, is helpful. they are GROWING and telling them they're killing their father or making next embarrassing thread wouldn't really help - no wonder they can behave like this.

DO something and they all need to take care of themselves - you're not some hero of lives, take care of yourself - action speaks louder than words and hope your hubby will realize, do better for his needs and settle in a while soon! good luck.

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Gina... what the hell are you trying to say? As usual, you make no sense and are reading things into situations that don't exist. I have PLENTY reason to complain about the kids.... things are happening here that you have NO IDEA about. Lets just say the kids ARE the source of his stress level and this "episode". He readily admitted that to the doctors. As for me pointing things out to the kids.... I don't say anything to them, unless it nice. I'm tripping over myself to be nice and sweet and NOT complain to them about anything they do. I've been working far too much to even be home when they are. Kinda hard to complain to kids you don't see for more than 5 minutes a day. and seriously I would prefer NOT to complain to them because it doesn't get me anywhere and they'll ignore me anyway. I'm simply reporting incidences as told by hubby to me.

We're back from the doctor (obviously) and he's better now than earlier. They did an EKG and everything turned out a-ok. He will be taking a stress test sometime soon... the hospital will call us back with a date and time. He has strict orders to avoid stress and tell the kids whats going to happen from now on. Doctor's orders for him to actually tell the kids NO and mean it.

Donna, its not ME that has to be straight with them.... its hubby and he has to actually stand his ground and not back down like he usually does. I think he's scared enough right now to actually tell them to stop pushing him around like they do. But you know that ;) Everyone thinks he's a big loud-mouthed jerk, but he's really the biggest teddy bear and pushover around. and everyone takes advantage of him.

Prayers coming from this end. And if you need me, you know where I am.

{{{{{HUGS}}}}}

Kim,

I KNOW it's not you. I've talked to you enough over the phone to know exactly what's going on.

Gina,

With all due respect, the kids NEED to know exactly what's going on and yes, if it means telling them all the stress is their fault (which it IS) then so be it.

Kim has done nothing but bend over backwards for those kids. And they have, time and time again, walked all over her. It's time they find out what the real world is about. Maybe then (although I doubt it) they'll begin to appreciate how good they have it where they are.

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Originally Posted by catnapper

its not ME that has to be straight with them.... its hubby and he has to actually stand his ground and not back down like he usually does..

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Catnapper, I don't know the specifics of your situation; but in my family, to stand my ground and not back down can be a very hard thing to do. Prayers and good thoughts.

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Originally Posted by catnapper

Everyone thinks he's a big loud-mouthed jerk, but he's really the biggest teddy bear and pushover around. and everyone takes advantage of him.

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Well if being a big loud mouthed jerk is going to help your hubby tell him to get started. :p Lee Roy is the same way. If he tells someone no and stands his ground he is every bad thing under the sun, but yet if they would see like you do with your hubby and me with mine they are actually sweethearts most of the time. I do think he needs to start making those kids face their own responsibilities. I will continue to keep you and Grant in my prayers hun. Keep me updated ok.

sorry if I don't say things at the best, it's hard to translate my language into yours and everyone else here and as usual, you underestimate people, oftenly me.

regardless having no idea about situations, posting numerous of complaints all the time here yet can't do anything if your teddy bear can't isn't productive - like you said, I could numerate all the threads. I care greatly for kids' respect too so what I was trying to say is to treat other people the way you want to be treated. again, I wish all would work out.

moosmom, what I meant I wouldn't like it if my 'mother' publicizes my problems. and by the way, you shouldn't doubt the kids - nothing is impossible. however some people do make things harder, harder to believe too, not just their kids.

Prayers for your hubby....

I think when they are 19 with a child and 21 they are not KIDS.... they are not "still growing" they are adults....

Catnapper.... I hope everything is OK with your hubby and I hope he can stand his ground without causing himself more stress.

My husband also suffers from high blood pressure. Diet, weight and exercise are HUGE (forgive the pun :D :rolleyes: ) factors in controlling blood pressure. And religiously taking the medication.

Controlling other people can be difficult but these are risk factor he can control!

Best wishes to him.

prayers on the way for you guys Kim..

I'm not entirely sure what your saying either. Are you saying she doesn't have the right to vent here to her friends about her kids???? That's pretty funny coming from you! But as you say repeatedly, I guess you just don't know until you live it.... right?

Gina,

In any case, everyone does have the right to vent here, whether it be about in-laws, children, significant others, etc.

growing into real world sparks.

sure she can vent all anyone wants to, as long as she respects it. like I said, regardless of empathy(situations), my point was bickering at every details and bits without actions especially mentioning children as a fault aren't as constructive as I can see why things are going vulnerable. the reaction you saw to me was... ouch and would things/threads be different if kids came on and said their own perspectives? and as far as from posts here, I believe everyone had has said the same thing; to do something.

as for coming from me, I vent mostly about me, my hospitalized stays, my knee, my car, my broken homes, my eventful trips, my ark, myself and I; and the rest are without personals, the details or names of others - I think everyone, kids, adolescences and adults deserve a respect.

that was all and after this, no comments - I think I've said everything here without any intentions and wish luck for everyone, including kim's family - the best.

Sending prayers for your hubby.