Rufus' time..

I am so sorry to hear about your loss. You are not a cry baby. You cry because you love your pets (children) so much.

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Originally posted by Logan
Just remember, Audrey, and I truly believe this, that once a human or an animal dies, their soul leaves that tired body and becomes whole. I didn't bring Kaycee home with me. I didn't have her cremated either. I just asked the vet to please take care of her. It didn't matter at that point.Logan

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Logan, that's exactly they way I feel about it. I have to have the vet take care of my dear ones too. I always feel they are at the Rainbow Bridge before I even get to my car. Prayers are with you, Audrey.

Logan: Thanks, that does help a lot.

Sweet Audrey, I have you on my heart today. You just do what you have to do, and know I am here in support, no matter what. I just wish I were closer to console you. :(

I am so sorry for you. I have gone through making that decision and it is hard to do but you don't want your dog to suffer. Don't be afraid to cry either - its better than holding it all in. Some people have a hard time showing their real feelings esp. guys sometimes - but that dosen't mean they are not really hurting. They only freeze the remains to preserve the body (like humans). Our first dog passed away at the vets and I was quite upset when I realized this (we picked her up and took her home to bury her). Our last girl Sam we had put to sleep and she looked so relaxed when it was over that I knew she was finally free of pain and suffering. We had her cremated and her ashes were spread out in a field. We are here for you for what ever you decide.

As everyone else has said it is okay to cry. I'm in tears just thinking of the decision you have to make. Although I have not experienced it myself, my first dog is now almost 13 and slowing down...I know the decison with her may not be too far off...As hard as it will be to say goodbye to Rufus when he times comes, he will be running happily at RB and you will see him again! And in the meantime...although no dog will ever replace him, there will be many other dogs in your life for you to love and cherish the way you do Rufus now.

We will be thinking of you.

Dear Audrey. I send to you all of my love, strength and support. I have kept you and Rufus in my mind and heart all day. Though I have to admit the tears keep coming. This is a decision that only you can make after a lot of soul searching. It takes a lot of courageous love, the deepest, most selfless type of love, to help our beloved friends be at peace. Whatever your decision, please know that you have so very many caring friends here to support you and listen to you and cry with you. I wish I could see you and talk to you and hug you. Just know that I am with you in spirit, as a friend and as a fellow Furmom. Love, Sandra

This is one of the most beautiful things about Pet Talk. We have a place to come and share these deep sorrows with others who we know will understand. I remember when my last poodle went to the RB and I went into work the next day. I felt like an alien. No one at my office at that time even had a pet and couldn't possibly understand the feelings I had. Most of us here I think have gone through what you are facing and we know the pain. Please do not be afraid to cry in front of the vet. He/or she has seen the death of a pet countless times and would totally understand and not expect you to "be brave." Go ahead and cry! I sure did! When you need someone to lean on, please remember us, your friends at Pet Talk. You are in my thoughts and I am so sorry that you are going through this.

Again, thank you all. I agree with you pam, having PT to go to with people that truely care and understand is something very good to have. My bro still doesn't like the idea of making the dicision, and doesn't want to put him down. I guess he sounded pretty upset. Also, I guess the choice is left to me. We're going to have this weekend to say goodbye, and make his final days here as happy as I can.

The vet today was very nice. She sat with us and talked to us about making the hard choice. She truely seemed to understand and totally care about what we we're going through. I'm glad they're so many nice people in this world, expessially you all at PT. I just wanted to thank you all.

:( I'm so sorry about Rufus. I just wanted to say that I know how you feel. Smokey is 16 years old. He drinks water constantly, and pees all over. I know he just can't help it. He also coughs a lot. My mom and I know he won't be around much longer. We just hope one day we'll go to wake him up and he will already be gone. I don't know how to face putting him to sleep. :(

Amy, I'm sorry. I wish Ruf would go in his sleep when hes ready too. Its so hard to do...and I'm not sure what I'll do when hes gone. We've decided for Monday though. I'll be home all weekend and I'm going to make life and good as I can for him.

Audrey, I am so sorry you're going through this. I know you've been struggling with this for a long time. When you do go Monday, DON'T BE AFRAID TO CRY!!!!!! When I had to have my cat put to sleep, it was the second time I had seen that Vet and I was sobbing. I was crying so hard, I could hardly breathe. But the Vet was very compassionate. They know how much these animals mean to us and how hard it is to lose them, as do the staff. No-one will think less of you. There is a considerable amount of pain involved when you lose a loved one and anyone who works in a Vet's Office will understand that. We are all here for you and I know that I am crying with you. You're in my thoughts and prayers.

Its not so much i'm affraid to cry, or i'm affraid someone will think badly of me, its just I don't feel comfortable doing it in front of people I guess. I'm weird that way lol. I don't think I'll care with Ruf though, I just want to be with him..I'll just be a little scared.

My bro still can't accept it. He doesn't want to agree to anything, and he doesn't want to do it monday. He thinks hes happy and hes trying to live. I thought that too, but now to me, he just looks like he's in pain. I wish my bro would just think about Rufus, and not about how much he's going to miss him. It might be selfish of me, but I don't want him to suffer, and he doesn't have much of a life, he doesn't do anything. My bro is making this a lot harder, cause everytime he says it, I feel worse, like I'm killing him or something..

I truly understand how you feel, Audrey. It's a difficult decision but sometimes the only compassionate one. Your brother will eventually understand.

I had to pts a perfectly healthy 5 year old dog a few years ago. The vet left me alone with her to say goodbye after giving her a relaxing shot. A little later he and slipped in quietly and gave her the final shot. I cried a lot and I don't cry easily.

I had the remains cremated and scattered across the woods. I got a nice card from the place that did it.

I believe as Logan does, that the soul is gone before we hit the parking lot.

And you can't do more for Rufus than release him from his pain.

Mary

You have my sympathy in your time of heartache. I know how hard it is to loose your best friend as many of us do. It never gets easier.
Take care and God Bless!