Much like Twisterdog, I could not make it work with the first great love of my life. We tried for years and when it worked, it was bloody brillant. When it didn't work, it was very ugly. I read a quote somewhere once that said "No one gets through life without reaching the realization that some great loves that are unsustainable". That was us.
When I first met Stuart, my girlfriend told me to stay away from him. I was very drunk at that moment and took that as a challenge. If Leana had never said that, I probably never would have made a point of meeting him! It was not love at first sight. It was pure, unadulterated lust. Then we didn't talk for almost two years. I went back to the first guy, he went back to whatever he was doing at the time and life went on.
Two years, almost to the day after we first met, same girlfriend called me on a Saturday night and said "guess who's house I'm at?" She was at Stuart's with her boyfriend. I had just bought my own condo and he had bought a house a few blocks away. We had never run into each other! I decided to stop in "for a quick visit" before going to meet some other friends. I stood the other friends up that night and never really left again. We were married exactly one year later....8 years ago next month.
Stuart says he knew instantly when I walked into his house the second time. I took some convincing. I did everything I could to drive him away. I was, frankly, a b*tch to him at times. He just wouldn't go away.
The biggest difference between the two and the reason my marriage works really well...trust. When Stuart says he's going to be somewhere or do something, that's what he does without fail. He is honest, steady, reliable, gentle and trustworthy. Those things make him a great hubby.
