Originally Posted by Blue_Frog
It sounds like you and your husband have set out some good ideas :)
Could you set something up with rewards to go along with the chores etc? (but not a monetary one). Something like setting up a chart of days of the week, and each chore for each day is worth differnet numbers of stars -- like making the bed is one star, cleaning and vaccuming the room is worth 3 stars etc. and they could turn in these stars at different intervals for 'treats' (like a can of coke is 5 stars, etc.).
And this way, if things go well over several weeks you could start introducing 'Special Order' treats - things that they specially want - that they could purchase with these stars, and you could sit down together and figure out with them how many stars the treat is worth to them? This might help them to see the cause and effect that work does?