I'm not married but I wanted to say my second cousin just got married and he and she both compined their names. My mom didn't change her name and my 1/2 sisters got my stepdad's name so in my house there are 3 different last names. :)
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I'm not married but I wanted to say my second cousin just got married and he and she both compined their names. My mom didn't change her name and my 1/2 sisters got my stepdad's name so in my house there are 3 different last names. :)
I took my husbands name although I really wanted to keep my maiden name....I just thought that my maiden named sounded better with my first than his last name did.
I need an "other" category too!!
Here in Belgium, a woman never loses her last name. In all mail and other things, we all use a combination of both names. At work, only the "original" name is used. Sounds confusing?
Well, I am Mrs.Gabriels, on our mail is always written "Mr. & Mrs. (or Lut & Bernard) Gabriels-Lobeau, on my pasport and drivers license there is Lut Lobeau. Easy, isn't it :p
btw: My "maiden" name is Lut Lobeau, and my hubbies is Bernard Gabriels :)
I took my husbands name. :)
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Originally Posted by Maya & Inka's mommy
I liike that method. Seems very civilized to me. :)
I took my husbands last name, which was common back in the day.
Didn't mind at all because I always wanted children.
When I was married, I took my husband's last name. When I got divorced, I took my maiden name back. I did not want to be associated with my married name anymore!
Yeah the paperwork is a pain, but it's only a pain for a bit. Once everything is settled you're fine.
If I ever got married again, I would probably take my hubby's last name :) :p
I took Paul's last name. There were three girls in my own small hometown with the same first and last name as me, so I had no problem changing it. Besides, it made my initails easier to design with - all angles and straight lines now, instead of one curve thrown in. Though I will always be a Peterson in genetics and upbringing, and my old friend still calls me KP, I have been KAW (see how nice those letters work together) for 20 years now!
I kept my last name. It's not in our culture for the wives to take their husbands' last names. The kids, of course, will have their father's last name.
I know I got married when we both lived in the U.S., where changing last name is common for most wives, but I wanted to keep with my culture by not changing :). My husband, of course, didn't mind a bit - for it's his culture, too. None of the wives in our extended families changed their names, so I'm not the only one..
I took my husbands name. Back in those days most women did. I don't have a problem with it.
Lut, that's interesting how they do it where you live. :)
I kept my maiden name when we married. Having different names doesn't make us any less of a 'family'. In our faith, girls don't change their last name. All people, whether male or female, have the last name of their father for life. My husband didn't mind...in fact, he also prefers it this way. We do plan on having children, and when we do, God-willingly, they will have their daddy's last name, as the tradition goes.
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Originally Posted by borzoimom
LOL! I'll bet!
I have no intention of ever marrying, but I'd keep my name at this point if I did. I like John's last name better but I'd keep mine to honor my beloved dad. He went through a lot of trash with our name, so it stays.
I could be placed as other also cause we have a different system here....
for example my last name is Garcia, but i also have my mothers last name so im Isabel Garcia Valdes............but i refer to myself as only Isabel Garcia for shortness.......when you get married all your documents still have your name as its YOUR name, but you can add a like "de" which is like "of" (in english).........for example my mom is Isabel Valdes but she married to a Garcia and she changed it to Isabel Valdes DE Garcia, but still her things are in her own both maiden last names............so she can only call herself Garcia but still not be..........:P
so even if I could refer my self with a DE and then my husbands last name.......I just though it would not be me........i mean I am me and a last name wonīt change me, but iīd feel awkward...........not that i donīt like his last name but still I want to still be me............LOL
Just another thing in the example of a person, letīs say kid, that takes his mother last name then itīs like if he has no father or is his mother brother........a bit different than most would think
hope i made sense
I'm not married. I have no attachment to my father's name so I would probably take my husband's name if I married. If my name were my mother's maiden name, I would have a harder time giving it up.
Edit: thinking about it a bit...DBF's last name is Susoev (pronounced Soos-off) and people are ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS butchering that name. I would have to really consider taking his name if I married him.
I took my husband's name, but only because it was important to him that I do so. I actually liked my maiden name better, but it wasn't as important to me that I keep it. I really didn't care one way or another. My son has his father's last name, so he and I never "matched" anyway.
I don't think I would ever marry, but, if I did, I wouldn't change my last name. I just don't see the point. Traditionally, or as custom goes, I don't care for the connotation- the wife becomes the man's property. I think we have moved past that. I also just like my name. I see women marry, change names, divorce, change names, and I think it looks silly- no disrespect to anyone meant.
As for Jonah, he has my last name. It is easier, makes sense, and we have the same initials! So, if I get a personalized item as a gift that I don't care for, I simply re-gift it to him. :D
As for feeling less or more like I family, I don't really see that. It is just a name. There are plenty of people I feel 'familyish' with that don't have my last name. :eek: