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Terry and Pam spoke my thoughts as if they were reading my mind. I wasn't going to say anything about this, I certainly have enough to deal with without getting involved in any kind of debate or conflict, but what I have to say is simply advice, take it or leave it.

No matter what you are going through, how hard things are, you will feel better about yourself and the world if you make a point to be kind and compassionate to others. If you are feeling pain, anger, frustration, stress, then taking a moment to just say a kind word or show understanding for someone can help heal the burden you carry. The more you do this, the more it will come back on you, and you will find yourself enjoying life more, and able to handle things much easier that before made you miserable. When I am stressed and down, and snap at someone, I only feel that much worse. But if I turn that around and try to put a smile on someone's face or be a shoulder to lean on instead, I feel uplifted and stronger inside.

I don't reply to these types of posts since I figure the OP only wants to hear what they want to hear. But I thought I would live a little ( ;) ) and respond to some of the issues you are facing. Remember, I only know you from your words on this forum so take that into consideration as well.

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Originally Posted by buttercup132

I have TONS of homework to catch up on because I dont have lunch with my good friends Ive been skipping english class to go to lunch with them.

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Now, this is your choice of prioritizing your responsibilities. If you're falling behind on your homework you know what needs to be done. Just remember, your friends will not grant you a diploma or admit you into college/university. ;)

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Originally Posted by buttercup132

This is the major problem with me on PT right now is two certain members on here that keep harassing me.

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This is easy! :D Place the member on your ignore list. PM Karen to discuss the harassment issue. Problem solved! I often think that some people on the various forums enjoy the drama since it allows them to be the center of attention. You have the choice to move forward or stay involved.

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Originally Posted by buttercup132

People constantly have been posting in the wrong area and I dont understand why. Its not hard to read the links ,there in bold!

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It may not be hard to read the links, but who says everyone checks every forum? When I first came on here I only went to Cat General since I really didn't spend the time investigating the whole area. Don't assume people read and interpret things the way you do. If you have any problems with PT - PM Karen to tell her of your concerns. If she's not seeing it as a problem, then you have your answer.

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Originally Posted by buttercup132

I have been getting into alot of fights at school with fellow peers.

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This seems to be a control issue surrounding your emotions and/or communication skills. Since there are so many other issues in your life it would be a good time to talk to someone. Check out your guidance department for life skills coaching. If they don't offer anything there are certainly other resources they can recommend. Life will most likely get more difficult so it's important to deal with these issues now.

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Originally Posted by buttercup132

My job dosent pay enough and I dont get enough hours so I am running super low on money (wich is another reason why I havnt got a new horse) I can barley pay my phone bill. Ive been trying to get a new job but the one place that actually called didnt hire me because I wont give up my other grooming job because they offered for my schooling. I cant work at a place like walkmart because of my peircings and the one by my eye I cant take out because it will close very fast.
Id love to work at petsmart but they wont even let you dye your hair!!!
And I'm sure they flip if they ever found out I had tattoos (and I'm getting a noticable one soon) so IF I did work there I'd always have to cover it.
Same with Walmarts.
I wont work at a fast food place because its too rushed the people that come in are also usually in a rush and become grumpy if you do the slightest thing wrong.

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I see this as excuse after excuse. What is your priority...piercings/tatooes/hair colour or income? You are limiting your employment choices by your own fashion sense. You always have choices but you are seriously limiting them. Also, I totally see you playing the victim rather than taking control of your life. Many of us would *love* to have a choice of jobs but many of us have to take the less than perfect jobs to pay the bills and save. You sacrifice at the beginning to gain some experience and income to put yourself through school/courses. In turn, this will open up more employment options down the road since you can offer an employer more advanced skills and experience.

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Originally Posted by buttercup132

[b]I just thought Id try to explain some problems and why I am grumpy latley. I cant not come on PT the adorale aniamls pictures on here make me happy. And I still like knowing whats going on, so taking a break form PT I dont think would be a good idea.

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Your actions speak louder than words throughout your life. Many people are going through hardships during their lives but they don't pass these on to others. I think it's great your trying to explain your actions...but in the real world many people won't take the time to listen. That's why it's so important to gain the life skills to control these emotions and learn to react and communicate more effectively from the start.

And before anyone says that I haven't had a hard life, think again. My father passed away when I was 16. When everyone else was worried about getting a car and license I was worried how my mother and I would survive on a daily basis. I moved out on my own at 19. I paid my way through University by working two jobs on top of a full course load. I also purchased my first home at the age of 24. I was able to do this because I made many sacrifices to put myself ahead of the game - since no one else was going to bail me out. I could have easily played the victim, but it's so not me. ;)

Russian Blue and Wolf Q,

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I see this as excuse after excuse

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Is this supposed to be an apology for your behavior

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At the risk of taking her off my ignore list and trying to give her the benefit of the doubt, which I do with everyone, in the hopes that with the explanation would come an apology (not to me for obvious reasons),it didn't surprize me in the least, that her whole thread is just another MEA CULPA.

Oh well. :rolleyes:

I do have one more thing to say....

As an educator, you need to go to class. It doesn't matter whether you like the class or not or whether you can't eat lunch with your friends. There is time after school to visit with your friends. School is not a social event...you're there to learn. I will say that socialization is part of it, but, the main idea of school is for you to learn.

If you have a job, and expect to keep it, skipping work is not an option. Right now your full time job is school. Look at it that way. Your pay check is your grades and ultimately your diploma.

Stop making excuses and start getting done what needs to be done.

Buttercup, I've been thinking of what to write for a while. You are young and have your unscripted future ahead of you-- think of this as a reality check. My comments are variations of things I've told my own sons.

Your life will never change if YOU don't change.
Take responsibility for your own welfare. I don't feel sorry for you because you are the one making these decisions. Fights don't "just happen", and everything going wrong is not someone else's fault.

You want a good paying job? Not likely unless you get your homework done & get your diploma. Even low-paying jobs want HS grads.
How you treat your body is your right - who to hire is the right of every employer.
GOOD JOBS go to those who have skills, training, and who PLAY WELL WITH OTHERS.

Life is not a piece of cake, we ALL go through hardships. Some get resolved quickly, others go on for years. Take advantage of the opportunities you have now - including working with a counselor at school or otherwise. They can help you understand how you got where you are, and offer tools to help you with your difficulties. Only you can get yourself onto another path.

I was thinking of replying to this thread earlier, but was having a hard time explaining exatcly what I meant, but Russian Blue has summed it up perfect ly. :)

You really need to think about what your priorities are. Good luck! ;)

Alicia,

It's ok if you feel sad or mad I mean its all part of growng up right?, I can have such lousy days or get realy pissed off at people I try my hardest not to take it out on others...but sadly that does not always work out then I cause a huge problem which I could have prevented.

For telling that other member to move,sure maybe it could have been said nicer but maybe it's filling up on you because so many new or even old members are doing this & you just wan't them to read where things are supposed to go...sadly not all members are going to remember this but then thats where we have to corect them in a nice way.

I'm not mad at all for you telling that member to move her post, it was a one time thing as I never heard you say it like that before, or maybe you didn't eveb relize what you where saying at the time from problems in your life so you just wrote what ever popped into your head (I do that alot). :o

People should have not got soo mad at you for that, what a respectable person would do is, try to ask you in a nice way why you typed it so mad like.

People jump to conclusions with out even thinking, Hello!! did anyone ever think maybe this girl is having a hard time in her life because people don't get mad for no reason...there is always a reason & maybe if someone would have tryed to talk nicer, things would have not turned into a fight.

''Think before you do!''

Don't worry Alicia things will get better, sometimes things get worse before they get better..and that can realy suck but we have to live with it. ;)

You want everyone to read this? Okay...

1.) Go to those English classes...your post contains so many errors...wrong word...grammar, spelling....you need the class far more than lunch with your friends...

2.) Life is full of choices and every choice has a consequence. Lots of piercing and tattoo...your choice....employers don't want to hire you...their choice (and NO...it is not illegal.)

3.) Have you apologized to Tim yet? Not given excuses ....APOLOGIZED....said..."I was rude and I am sorry?"
Because you were...rude that is. Starting a thread in what you consider the wrong place has to be the silliest thing about which to be rude.

Terry and Pam, I am in complete agreement with you both. No one could have said it better.

Buttercup, I'm sorry your having issues in your life. Everyone has them and being rude to people on PT isn't going to help you with yours. It's really not an excuse.

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2.) Life is full of choices and every choice has a consequence. Lots of piercing and tattoo...your choice....employers don't want to hire you...their choice (and NO...it is not illegal.)

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exactly! you cannot blame people for not hiring , because you chose to do these things! It was your choice and now you must face the consequences of these actions. Find a diferent job, there are plenty out there.

If Alicia wanted to do those things yes it was her choice,

That's so stupid not hiring someone because there freaking lip is peirced how pathetic... what next... ''Im sorry but we can no except you because you have green eyes we only take blue's'' :rolleyes:

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That's so stupid not hiring someone because there freaking lip is peirced how pathetic... what next... ''Im sorry but we can no except you because you have green eyes we only take blue's'' :rolleyes:

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I'm not going to bother with the original post but an employer has EVERY right not to hire someone for this reason. It certainly is not stupid.

I am a fan of body modifications but there is a time and place. A professional working environment certainly isn't the time or place. Now, if you'd like to work at a tattoo parlor, have at it!

I cannot tell you how ticked off some of these posts are getting me......and I will not allow myself to share my thoughts beyond just saying that I think it is time for Karen to step in and change something about who gets to post here and how old they need to be........ I don't know if age is really the problem here. The ignore thing only works so far.

I just am so fed up with lousy spelling and horribly constructed paragraphs of nothing but blabber.

I am very, very close to staying away from this place entirely. It was never like this before.

Such childish crap going on.

Karen, please. Give some of these morons the boot!

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Originally Posted by Argranade

If Alicia wanted to do those things yes it was her choice,

That's so stupid not hiring someone because there freaking lip is peirced how pathetic... what next... ''Im sorry but we can no except you because you have green eyes we only take blue's'' :rolleyes:

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I have to disagree with you there. Companies spend lots of money each year surveying customer opinions, and customers have told many companies that they want to see clean, neat employees without tattoos or piercings. If you don't want to worry about taking out your piercings, then work at a place that promotes that look (example: Hot Topic).

This will not be the last time in your life that your looks will determine your job and how others see you. Remember the "old" movie Working Girl? Melanie Griffith had big 80's hair and dressed in tight clothes. She changed her look, and next thing you know she got the respect she wanted.

The hard fact is people judge you by your look, your words, your attitude, and your actions. If you feel everything is going wrong in your life right now, look inwards first then see if its something you can change. If its not, then you need to adapt to whatever circumstances life gave you and rise above it.

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The hard fact is people judge you by your look, your words, your attitude, and your actions. If you feel everything is going wrong in your life right now, look inwards first then see if its something you can change. If its not, then you need to adapt to whatever circumstances life gave you and rise above it.

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That's the problem people only see what's on the outside & not the inside.

I like to wear black alot, sometime's people give me good looks then other time's it looks like there going to start getting mad at me, I have tried changing my colours more now so I won't get those looks.

I realy don't want to change my self for other people, I think thats silly.

It's not fair because of some tatoo's or piercings that young people can't get a job they want in life or would enjoy, In a way I find it very offensive because I would like a few tatoos when I get a bit older.