just a question

As already mentioned by others; most of us know of a situation where this happened a few days ago. It involved someone who only posts pictures occasionally and doesn't participate on the board at all(to the best of my knowledge). The person posted pictures, waited for a few hours and got upset that there were no responses. I don't have a problem with someone posting pictures, without other participation, except when they get mad at the board because no one responded. Pet Talk was under great stress and strain during that time and it really sort of irritated me that this person was so inconsiderate and insensitive to issues involving most of our members. Even after being informed of the issues, the person never came back with a response/apology. Now, who was being rude there? Like any community, people are better received if others have had the chance to get to know them. It's so unfortunate that anyone has to be that touchy and feels the solution is to leave the board permanently.

That's really the only incident I can think of right off the bat :)

Daisy and Deliliah, thank you for saying what I was trying to say. You said it very eloquently.

I agree I have noticed as well. I know a few in like a week or two that just posted pictures on here and then next minute they said "why is noone responding to me? :( " They said that in like 5 minutes like as if this was a Instant Messenger, where you reply fast. That is what irritates me the most. Like someone justs write something the next thing they get upset and mad because noone responded in a minute.

I also don't like it when they just post a little bit to someone like just a smiley or cute or awww. That makes it seem rude. I reply to all of the picture threads so they feel glad about it, also I reply it with which picture i like the most, and that they did a great job at taking the pictures, and can't wait for more pictures. So they are glad about what they posted.

I do remember that person last week that got all mad because noone replyed, but the person didn't comment on the other threads anywhere on the forum.

That is what annoys me about this whole situation.

I hope i havent offended any one here :)

I posted pics of my animals here, and probably seemed to disappear not long after, but there was a reason, my parents have been staying and as i only see them once a year, plus working shift work, the internet was put on hold. They've now gone and i gotta try to catch up.

I try to post to others threads, mostly short though sometimes a bit more involved. I'm a bit confused though, short replies are considered rude ie: "awwwww cute", why is that? Personally i'd have thought that was better than nothing at all. *shrugs*

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Originally Posted by Alasse

I try to post to others threads, mostly short though sometimes a bit more involved. I'm a bit confused though, short replies are considered rude ie: "awwwww cute", why is that? Personally i'd have thought that was better than nothing at all. *shrugs*

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This part of your post made me smile. This is a very big community, with many different opinions as to what is an appropriate response. Although someone may have said that they find those types of posts rude, you will also find people on here that say, they would prefer that people make some sort of response or acknowledgement of their post rather than none at all. So my advise to you is respond in the way that you feel is appropriate. :) And as far as posting pictures and then becoming involved in something else without having a chance to respond to others, that is fine, just don't complain that no one likes you or that people aren't trying hard enough to make you feel welcome, when you are not making any effort to truly belong. Personally, so far I think you are doing great. ;)

I hope I don't offend anyone here, but....

I usually don't look at threads that are started by someone I don't reconise the name of . Unless the title sounds interesting. ei: game, something to do with a greyhound or whippet ;) , or a question that I am somewhat knowlegable on.

JMO Of course

I read this board a lot, but don't participate too much. One of the reasons is that I come here a lot when I'm at work and I can view posts and enjoy them as a nice stress reliever.

I mostly post on the weekends when I'm at home, but the number of threads that I post to is pretty limited, but I do enjoy every thread that I read. :)

I also post pictures occasionally, but it doesn't bother me if people reply or not. I just enjoy sharing Riley and Frankie when I remember to take a camera with me on our outings.

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Originally Posted by Alasse

I'm a bit confused though, short replies are considered rude ie: "awwwww cute", why is that? Personally i'd have thought that was better than nothing at all. *shrugs*

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I feel the same way - I am usually on PT at work and don't have time to respond to every picture in detail. I do often go in and look at picture threads, but don't often respond. Actually, one of the reasons I don't respond to them is because I used to respond as 'aw, how cute' or comments like that and (this happened a while ago) I got a PM telling me that I was just trying to get my number of posts up by posting such 'pointless' comments. I probably shouldn't have let that get to me but it did, so now I barely reply to picture threads.

Interesting thread....considering I'm one of those "aaaaaaaaaaawww....how cute" people.

JenBKR: Just curious. Why would anybody PM you to tell you you were posting pointless comments just to get your number up? To me, that is unthinkable on a board like this. Seriously. I'm appalled to hear that someone would be that bold. I'm really sorry you got that PM. I have never thought you make pointless posts and I can't understand why anyone would feel that way. If there's someone on this board PM'ing people to inform them of such nonsense, I guess I'd better be on the lookout for the same PM myself :p

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Originally Posted by Daisy and Delilah

JenBKR: Just curious. Why would anybody PM you to tell you you were posting pointless comments just to get your number up? To me, that is unthinkable on a board like this. Seriously. I'm appalled to hear that someone would be that bold. I'm really sorry you got that PM. I have never thought you make pointless posts and I can't understand why anyone would feel that way. If there's someone on this board PM'ing people to inform them of such nonsense, I guess I'd better be on the lookout for the same PM myself :p

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I have no idea! It was a long time ago - to be honest I thought about leaving PT for a minute, but I know all of the other PTers that I really like so I just ignored that person, and added that name to my ignore list. I had under 1,000 posts at the time but I was really close to 1,000, so maybe she thought that I was trying to get to 1,000. I don't know. Thank you though for your response!

Here's my thoughts (from a realitive forum-newbie)... ;)

** warning: really long post, much longer than I meant it, once I went back and read it. Skip to the end if you want! **

I like to look at the picture posts -- seeing everyones pets is always really great! But sometimes - as a new member - it's hard to jump the mental hurdle, and break in and start posting on boards with people who have all been together for a longish time, who know each other and each others pets. Its not really being shy (im a goof and a talker so thats not a problem), and everyone has been really friendly here too! It's not intimidation either so much as it is trying to build up people's perceptions of me as a poster/responder.

I guess for me its trying to post intelligent, well thought out and/or interesting things since I dont have the post count (or tenure) here, and don't want to come across as a dreaded 'noob'! I like to try and post comments about the picture or pet if i can, but in a lot of cases [1] I've been responding to postings in forums asking for technical computer help, and such (things in my frame of reference per se), or [2] since i'm at work, i get a chance to browse through a lot of postings, but tend to take my breaks and lunch to make long(er) comments since I dont come here in the evenings or weekends, and sometimes [3] my first thought is the 'awww cute!', which i've been hesitant to post for the same reason that JenBKR mentioned happened to her (people thinking that i'm posting just to raise my post counts), even if awww-cute is what I think.

I've started a couple of threads since I started here in July, and for me I've always been more interested in the number of people that have looked at my post than the number of people that have replied. Its kind of along the same lines as what GreyhoundGirl was saying -- i'm still an unknown, and unless I have something interesting to say, or until I have been here longer to have my name become more recognized, well I really don't expect the kinds of responses that forum regulars get. I'm happy if a couple of people go in and look at my pets, or my posts, etc.


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Summary: I look at a lot of posts, and I try to post when I have something to say specifically about the pet or the picture. I always appreaciate all comments (from in-depth to the aww-cute and smiley comments) in any thread I create, and I try to post in others' threads as often as I can.

Hope all that rambling makes some kind of sense from one newbie's perspective ... and I think this reply just ate up my entire lunch break! :)


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I try to post and comment on lots of peoples threads.it is only fair.I am happy if my pic thread gets a smile or a awww how cute.

I feel bad for even starting this thread, it was none of you, it was someone that got mad at us when we were all upset and busy with Kiara being missing.

Sorry if I made everyone think it was them.

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Originally Posted by Zippy

I try to post and comment on lots of peoples threads.it is only fair.I am happy if my pic thread gets a smile or a awww how cute.

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I feel the same way I enjoy seeing those happy face's on my threads and awwww's it shows the person enjoyed reading/looking at pics on my post and did not take it as....there was not even a post there in the first place.

(Also I dont mind if someone just glance's and dont post if your just scanning the site before you head off to work,school ect..)

I try to post everytime I look at a thread to show I care about what that person has to say or how much I love there pets and photo's.

If I do add some smiley's and awww.. I usualy add more to the post then just that.

*Sorry I dont post in the Dog & cat section maybe its because I dont own one* :o Ill try to post there sometime!