send them somewhere where he won't know where they are. Threats like that are an even bigger indication that you need to get out now.
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send them somewhere where he won't know where they are. Threats like that are an even bigger indication that you need to get out now.
agreed. please don't let this go on any longer!Quote:
Originally Posted by Lady's Human
You could tell him if he tries to take the dogs you will report him for animal abuse! Good luck to you and your pups! :( Let us know how Coco is in the morning! Poor baby.
Today seems to be okay for coco! She was a little slow moving last nite and had no interest in playing after came back home! Today she is running, jumping on the couch and thinks she can handle any set of steps with her wets paws, which she seemed to forget she falls when her paws get wet!(it rained outside last nite)
If you really love this "man" can you ask him to sit down for a heart to heart talk? Let him know how much your pets mean to you and that when he deliberatly hurts them, he is hurting you? If he seriously can't understand a word you're saying, then I would document all of the times he has hurt your pets. I would then bring your pets to a family member who you know & trust very very well. Then I would ask him to leave. I would change the locks on all the doors. If he tries to take the pets away, I would get a damn good lawyer and show him/her all the documented times he's hurt your pets.
How old is your boyfriend anyhow? He sounds like he is very imature and is jealous of the attention you give your pets. Someone on the board said something about child abuse and it's true - people who hurt animals will hurt their children.
I hope he hasn't hurt you.
Take care.
This Andy fella sounds dangerous to me. If he'll abuse one of your dogs then you aren't safe around him either. Do the dogs belong to you? Do you have a friend or family member you can move in with for awhile? Where you live, is it your place or his? If it's yours, kick his a** out and take out a restraining order on him. It sounds to me like he's playing mind games with you and is manipulating you which is, in itself, very dangerous.
Best of luck to you, Tonya, and may God give you the strength to do what is right for you and your babies.
Labmomma
elizabethann is he only 18, just graduated last year! so yes he is VERY immature, and he does get jealous very VERY easy! and labmomma i believe the dogs are mine rightfully, i pay their vet bills, i sent in their registration(with the fee), feed them, bathe them, potty train them, i do basically everything for them so i consider myself their rightful owner! Andy bought the dogs for me as a "gift" but he still thinks their his, especially coco, even tho she was my birthday present!
Okay im done, i've decided this is getting ridiculous! So I get up every morning between 6 and 6:45 and play with the puppies all day! well i just got back from wal-mart as you all know, I text andy and i told him i sure hope he isnt being a poop today, and he told me he was hungry! I ask him if he wanted eggs, he said yes! When i got home both dogs were in their crates whinning to get out(where is andy when all this is happening?) oh he's just PLAYING PS2 right next to them!! so i asked why he didnt let them out while he was out in the living room, his response "didnt want too" yea okay, so now lets see if i cook ur a** eggs! so he cooked himself the dumb eggs! i walked out in the kitchen to grab a pop from the fridge when he holds up the plate to coco and says sit, he gives her a HUGE piece of scrambled egg, and starts eating the rest himself, i dont know about anyone else, BUT i thought we had TWO dogs, not just one! Cainan was sitting their patiently for his piece of egg...he never got! GRRR...i think everything should be fair! they dont understand things like humans do(of course you all know that, but im just venting) that just isnt fair to give more to one dog then the other! he's so stupid!!!!
Ill have everyone know, i yelled at him and called him on everything he's done wrong to those dogs! he is now not talking to me! and his answer to everything after yelling at them is...*turn his head and continue watching tv* like nothing ever happened! except for the fact that he's mad at me! but who cares!
Tonya,
This BOYfriend of yours IS an abusive personality, to say the very least There may be things that you do not know about him or maybe you do. He will not get better unless there is help for him and HE sees he needs help. He is abusive to you even though he might not have actually struck you.............yet. He sounds VERY immature and you are the one who has to decide whether you want to hitch yourself to his wagon, so to speak. You are not married to him so you are free to leave, even IF you WERE married to him you are free to leave. If he mistreats animals for whatever reason he can't be trusted with them. Who knows what he does to them when you are not around.
He sounds as though he does or could have an explosive temper at times. The way you describe it doesn't sound as though he treats you very well either. I would keep the dogs. Does he have any proof that HE has ownership of the dogs? Are they AKC registered or a bill of sale with his name on the papers?
there is no proof that he bought the dogs, the registration is totally in my name! I made sure i sent them in with my name only before he got ahold of them!
Then by law they are yours. :D
Please, watch out for yourself and your fur-kids.
Has he always acted like this with the pups? Since you got them?
no not at all! When we got coco he never acted like this, he was so good with her, he'd play with her, cuddle with her, and teach her commands all the time! ever since we came across that puppy that he took to the humane society cause he didnt get along with coco, @ ALL, he's just been on edge! he was good for about a week after the puppy was gone, but now that cainan has been here it's like he's just too jealous of him or something! every once in a while he shows cainan emotion, like playing and adding him into games and such, but he doesnt do it all the time! it's just so weird!
Really.... you shouldn't go any further... he sounds like a total idiot. I would suggest breaking up with him.