Wish I could go home.

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Originally Posted by JenBKR

Uh oh, what did he say?

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He keeps saying to Abort it if I am. Well he already knows my views on that. So he told me to Adopt it out, once again he already knows my views on that. So he went back to telling me to abort it. He was nothing but a broken record.

He knows how I really feel about about child support. I'm against child support if the father does not want the baby (before its born). After a child is born & he has been the father, then he needs to pay child support.

Since Rob & I are not together & he wants me to abort, then in my books hes not the father & will have nothing to do with it.


The way I see things is that if you get a pet, you are committed to its care, love & happness forever. I feel the sameway about this, I choose not to abort so I am committed to its care, love & happness forever.

That is IF I am preg.

I am so sorry.:( I hope your life gets back in order as soon as possible.

If you are pregnant, kids are VERY expensive and whether he wants to be a father or not it won't matter, he will still be one. He knew the consequences of how babies are made and chose to take the risks, so he has to assume repsonsibility. If he doesn't want to be a part of the baby's life, that is his loss, but he still owes half of what it costs to raise a baby. If you are pregnant please don't try to take it all on yourself. It's waaay to much for one person to handle if they don't have to, and you know he's the father, if you are, so you don't have to. I understand your feelings of responsibility towards a baby if there is one, and that is great!, but you don't have to do it alone and shouldn't try to take it all on yourself. Even if he never ever sees that baby, he needs to support it, he was there when it was created and he needs to be responsible. If he didn't want a baby he should have taken precautions to avoid it, and deal with the consequences if those precautions didn't work.

I'm so sorry for your situation and finding out those things you did, I know that hurts you all over again, but don't let it cause you to try to carry a burden that heavy all on your own, if it turns out that way. You do need to find out as soon as possible though, so you can gt proper care if that's the case. Good luck to you!

Well said Vela, I feel the same way. If you are pregnant, child support is money for the baby, and baby deserves that money. Even if you didn't really need the money from him, you could set up a college account or something like that for the baby.

I am getting way ahead of myself though. You don't know if you are pregnant yet, so don't even worry about what to do if you are at this point, just concentrate on finding out whether or not you are pregnant. We'll get you through this, we can help :)

I'm going to take my friend up on her offer & move in with them. They have kids & own a house, so all will be well. I don't want Rob supporting me in anyway. He'd rather see it dead then alive, so he means nothing to me no it. Hes been remove from the loop & I KNOW he spies on me on PT so I wont be posting the answer for all to see. I will PM only the ones I trust (the ones posting in here so far)

He's freaking out! I'm not posting about this topic where all can read it anymore.

sorry to hear about Rob what an a$$ and what a wierdo for spying on you here, he doesn[t deserve you... Good luck with whatever happens remember I just had a baby in Dec so if you are preggo PM me anytime with any questions or concerns.

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Originally Posted by Jods

sorry to hear about Rob what an a$$ and what a wierdo for spying on you here, he doesn[t deserve you... Good luck with whatever happens remember I just had a baby in Dec so if you are preggo PM me anytime with any questions or concerns.

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Thanks, I don't know why, but I've been getting the feeling that he thinks I've been cheating on him & thats why he feels the need to spy. I've never googled over another man, never touched another man & a nother man has never touched me! He's the cheater, not me. Ther eis NO WAY I could cheat on him, I mentally cannot do it. I have a HUGE conscience & it wont let me even think of such things. However it can get crazy about other people & sadly it was right about Rob, he was cheating on me, I was just denying it.

Aww hun, what a jerk he is:mad: I hope in a way your not pregnant so you dont have to do this on your own. UGH I absolutly hate men who do that!!!
He's telling you to practicly kill the baby is he like mental? Thats like murder!!!
Gosh I'd hate to see him have any pet on his own...
Sorry to be ssaying those mean things about him but what a %$@#!@ for telling you that and making you go through this on your own! GRRRR if he does see this then you need to grown up be a man and take the responsibilties life comes with!

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Originally Posted by buttercup132

Aww hun, what a jerk he is:mad: I hope in a way your not pregnant so you dont have to do this on your own. UGH I absolutly hate men who do that!!!
He's telling you to practicly kill the baby is he like mental? Thats like murder!!!
Gosh I'd hate to see him have any pet on his own...
Sorry to be ssaying those mean things about him but what a %$@#!@ for telling you that and making you go through this on your own! GRRRR if he does see this then you need to grown up be a man and take the responsibilties life comes with!

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If I am preg. & I would be keeping it, then he did say its his kid & his responsibility blah blah blah.. But I'm sorry! He wants it dead & tossed in the trash. I don't want him to have ANYTHING to do with this kid ("if" I am), nor do I want him in its life! Hes already forfitted the right to be its father in my books, its too late to change, All I needed to hear was I'll support it or kill it & that would be my decission on how he'll be involved & he'll have 0% involvment!! I'm not telling ANYONE the answer when I find out (except through PM), I'm not telling his brother nor my family. My familly will find out if I pop one out & they will have to swear to keep their mouths shut.

I'm not even telling anyone where I'm moving to.. Its far away & thats all anyone needs to know.. However It'll be after summer

He's spying on you? Sheesh, he is sure being a jerk (especially since he is the one who cheated!) I really hope that you can get through this ok, seems like so much is happening all at once. If you ever need to talk let me know, I know how things can get to be too much at times. Good luck when you take the test, I will be thinking about you tonight!

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Originally Posted by JenBKR

He's spying on you? Sheesh, he is sure being a jerk (especially since he is the one who cheated!) I really hope that you can get through this ok, seems like so much is happening all at once. If you ever need to talk let me know, I know how things can get to be too much at times. Good luck when you take the test, I will be thinking about you tonight!

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I ran into a snag about the test, I cannot do it until tomorrow. I have to work overtime tonight (tue & thur) so I can get enough $.

But I'll let you know for sure & as soon as I know, casue I think I have to take it first thing in the morning (so that'll be wed.)

omg what a jerk. Please keep me updated in pm's! Everybody loves you on here and stay strong, because I know you are!!

You've recently had a lot of stress in your life, so that could account for the missing your period just as much, lots of things can disrupt a women's cycle. We'll keep you in our prayers.

Gosh, I'm really sorry you are going through all this stress. That sucks big time how Rob has treated you. :( You seem like a really strong person but stuff like this can get really get a person down. You will be in my thoughts. Hang in there...