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I wanted you to know I am thinking of you, Kim. I know this is a horrible time for you. Be strong for Jenna and please, please, please take care of yourself, too.
We love you and hate to see you in the midst of such turmoil as a mother and a grandmother. It is going to get better. It has to!
Logan
Kim - how are your other daughter and husband reacting to this? What are they doing?
Is is possible that your being so upset, which you have a right to be - are you pushing them out without meaning to because you are so caught up on "how" to fix this?
If you are someone who always has trouble reaching out to others, this is the time to stop. Maybe your husband and daughter learned long ago that whatever they did, it wasn't good enough - so they don't try any more.
I am not bashing you, hon - but I saw this happen in my family, and others. And it really hurts more at times like this.
{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}
I have read this thread many times and thought about how I could offer words of wisdom or encouragement. I find that I have nothing to offer that others haven't already offered.
But I do want you to know that I'm thinking of you and your family and sending prayers.
I saw my daughter in court this morning. It was extremely hard seeing her in handcuffs off in a seat in front of the entire courtroom. Chad had an attorney who asked the judge to drop the protective order from him in regards to Jenna. The lawyer had Amy Beth sign to agree to this. Before I even got home, Chad and 2 police officers were at my door and took Jenna from my husband. There is nothing I can do about it at this point. He is a "free" man and she is his daughter ... since Amy Beth agreed / signed to drop the protective order regarding Jenna, then he has every right to her. Right now I am just so exhausted that I am numb.
I bawled my eyes out nearly the whole time I was in the courtroom ... it was very hard sitting there all alone. Several other women in the courtroom came over and hugged me and gave me tissues. After court, I ran in to Chad and his mother in the elevator. She hugged me and I didn't even speak, I just broke down in her arms. The elevator door opened and I got out. I looked into getting an attorney to file for custody of Jenna, but the only who could / would talk to me today wanted $6500.00 up front! We don't even have 1/3 of that! Right now I am just not going to pursue custody. I know that Chad's mother will be the one actually caring for Jenna while she is in "his" custody. Chad even told my husband that he doesn't want full custody of Jenna. He also claimed that he had been staying at Amy Beth's apartment with her some during all of this. I don't know who to believe anymore and I am fed up with the whole thing. I know that between myself and his mom, Jenna will always be cared for and protected as much as possible. The court date is set for January 2nd to determine the outcome of her charges.
For those speaking of my husband ... you have the wrong impression! Jerry could not be a more supportive or loving husband to me. If anything he is too tender-hearted almost to a fault. He loves me and my girls and would do absolutely anything I asked him to do. My younger daughter (Amanda) is tired of having her time with me messed up and pre-occupied with Amy Beth, Jenna and their problems. I know exactly how she feels ... I lived the same scenario with my older brother and sister.
I was afraid this would happen. Without her staying with a protective order, with him the father, he is entitled. I have no idea what to do.. None..
I feel for you so much. I wish there was something I could do.
I am glad you have Jerry's support....I hadn't heard much about him, and am glad to hear this.
As I said in my post, I was not trying to bash you - I just didn't know what he was or wasn't doing!
It almost sounds like you and Chad's mom might have some sort of alliance...your kids are both in trouble. She has been in pain too.
Maybe you can arrange visits meanwhile?
I know you can't see which way is up right now, Kim - but I hope you have some quiet time right now.
I guess Amy Beth signed over custody because there was legally no one else she could sign over to at that moment...and she certainly wouldn't get Jenna back right now.
PRAYERS and HUGS.
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Dear God, please bless Kim and her family this afternoon ... please help them to feel your presence at this holy time of the year. Please give them physical health and strength. Please be with Jenna and her parents and all those who love her. God, I know that what is impossible with people is possible with you, so I would just ask that your peace would be with Kim and her family right now. Thank you, God, Amen.
My heart goes out to poor little Jenna. She is more than likely one confussed little girl. It's not a wonder she hasnt freaked out when officers in uniform show up. It's twice now that they have showed up and she has been taken somewhere else to stay. Even though it's been from one grandparents to the other set of grandparents the way it's occurred would upset any child let alone someone as young as Jenna.
It's sad when small children are caught in the middle. God is watching over Jenna for sure & that is a comfort.
Kim my heart goes out to you, and i am extremely saddened by the latest situation, i can only imagine how you must be feeling, if it's any consolation remember this is the drugs not really Amy Beth, no it does not excuse her behaviour, but it is why she is doing what she is doing, sadly they become the most important thing in their life, when they don't care enough about themselves they are hardly in a position to care about anything or anyone else.
I am certain she loves her daughter and you too,but right now she is ill and needs help desperately, before she can be a caring mother and daughter.
I so hope things improve and that you can attain custody of your precious Jenna, right now she has to be number one priority, as i know you already know that, please take care and i hope with all my heart that life gets better for you all and soon, HUGS.
Today has been another exhausting day, but I at least have some peace for the moment. I have been praying for guidance from God this entire time, and praying that He would put on my heart what was the right thing to do. Today when I left the courtroom, and returned back home, Amy Beth called me. At that moment I knew that I needed to bond her out, if only to see her baby for the holidays. I did it. I know many of you will be disappointed and not understand, but I ask you to please try to put yourself in my shoes. I felt like that if Chad had a right to now have Jenna during Christmas and not be in jail, why should my daughter not have the same? There is a good chance that either or both of them will have to serve time after their court dates ... Jenna deserves to have both her Mommy and Daddy in her life for as long as she can. I know now that his mother (Denise) is struggling as well ... she put her arms around me in the elevator today and said, "our kids really mess up, don't they?" I didn't say a word but just broke down and bawled in her arms. When the elevator door opened, I stepped out and we went our separate ways.
I just took Amy Beth back to her apartment, and her MIL (Denise) is going to bring Jenna over to visit with her. I pray that they enjoy their reunion and are blessed during their time together.
Thank you all for your continued prayers ... Cassiesmom, I appreciate your beautiful prayer here on the thread!!! You ALL mean so much to me!!! This all is far from over ... court and sentencing still lie ahead ... but for the next couple of weeks, I hope to be able to focus on the true meaning of Christmas and the Love that God has freely given to us all!
Kim
We are behind you at a 150 percent.. no kidding.. You are there- we are not.. I am so sorry it came to this- I just wish I knew what to say here..
kim-((hugs)) you are walking a hard road, i wish it goes well for you.
HUGS. You know the situation and your heart best.
Will Amy Beth be staying at her apartment? I wish you a family Christmas with all the love possible!
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Yes, she will be staying in her apartment. The same bondswoman bonded both Chad and Amy Beth. She told her that if either one of them tries to contact each other in the slightest way, she will have them both thrown right back in jail! They both have court appearances on January 2nd.
Chad has custody of Jenna right now and Amy Beth has supervised visitation with her. However, Chad told my husband that he didn't want full custody of Jenna when he picked her up today!
Amy Beth has to find a job ASAP ... she was told to get a title loan on her car right away and pay whatever she could get to her bonding agent. Once she gets a job, she has to make $100.00 per week payments on her bond as well. If she misses a payment, she goes back to jail as well. The bondswoman told her that if she could come up with $2,000.00 in the next week then they would consider her paid in full. (Her debt is actually $2,500.00) Well, if she (we) had that kind of money sitting around she wouldn't have needed to make payments! :rolleyes: They also only gave her 90 days to pay off the full debt! :confused: Even if she goes back to jail before it is paid off, she will still owe the balance.
I can't thank all of you enough for caring to keep up with this thread and continuing to pray for us! It is far from over, I'm not nieve about that, but I can at least take a breather and enjoy Christmas with my complete family.
LOVE YOU ALL!
Kim
I am sorry for what I said about your husband and Amanda I did not realise the situation but I am glad that Jerry is there for you.
I am keeping you in my thoughts and hope that Jenna has a good Christmas and hopefully her New Year looks brighter. I am also going to say that I hope Amy Beth abides by her bail conditions and that Chad does also - take care and I pray you have a peaceful Christmas and New Year