Ok we just got our first cat and I have let her everywhere (not to my hubby's liking at first but he gave in gracefully) except our bed. I do agree with him that I would prefer that to be ours alone. Right now we have her closed up at night in the spare bathroom and vanity area with litter and water and food. He wants to let her out at night and leave our bedroom open and not have her on the bed - like that could happen - you all know she would be up there at night! What should I do - let her roam and shut our door? Keep her in the bathroom vanity(she doesn't seem to mind)? Or just tell my hubby ok and have him wake up to find her in bed with us? Thank you, Dbbie