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Maybe a silly question - how would you feel if a family member asked to borrow your car to take on vacation with her, her boyfriend, and her daughter? She isn't the most trustworthy person in the world but getting better, he is more trustworthy than her, but I'm still not sure how I feel about it. It would be for a week, from Pennsylvania to Myrtle Beach.
I would feel better about helping them rent a car, with appropriate insurance taken out, and making sure they are both licensed drivers. :D
I can't believe anyone would even ASK! That takes nerve in my book.. It is a BIG NO NO in my opinion...
If it is your main car which you use and need daily, then no.
But if it is a second car which is not needed, then I would lend it out.
It is my main car that I use all the time, but they said they'd give me his truck to use while they're gone. Honestly, I really don't want to lend it to them, and I'm not comfortable with it, but I have a problem saying no and can't think of any excuse for why I'd need my car that week. I'm just wondering if I'm being silly for not wanting to lend it.....
I had the idea for them to rent a car as well, but they don't want to spend the money for that.....
That is a very good compromise idea, Cat! Quick Thinking and a possible solution to a sticky situation.Quote:
Originally Posted by Cataholic
I agree with most probably that I wouldn't be too comfortable with notion. Unless I had like 20 cars and they were just sitting around doing nothing...
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Originally Posted by JenBKR
I am going to pick on you for a moment. I **just** had this 'excuse' issue with my sister last night. You are an adult. Why EVER do you need an excuse to do or not do something? WhatEVER is wrong with a simple, "No, I would rather not. I am not comfortable with that". Period, end of sentance. No more discussion. Talk to the hand, cuz the face ain't listening.
You don't want to lend it to them. You aren't comfortable with it.
Your problem isn't with saying no, it is with being assertive. :D
This isn't being mean. This isn't about being better than someone. It is holding true to yourself, and your ideals (okay, ideals might be taking it too far). But, really, I am somewhat puzzled over your, "I don't want to, but, maybe I should do it" position.
I think it is a bad idea, under the scenario you pictured. I have traded cars with various family members. Alot of the time, when I did rescue runs, I borrowed my mom's car!!! So, I am not against car lending in general, just under the picture you have painted.
Wow!!!Quote:
Originally Posted by JenBKR
I mean... I want to fly to CA this summer - but I also don't "want to spend the money" for the plane ticket. That is awful nervy of them!!!
Shiiitttt... what to tell them... what to tell them???
How close of a relative??? Will they reimburse you if something breaks down with the car???
If not... then maybe you could tell them that you would really like to but you just can't take the chance. You are afraid that the car isn't all that road worthy, needs inspected soon and that a long trip without a check on brakes, suspension and fluids is something you are concerned about. You would feel terrible if something happened or someone got hurt because your car malfunctioned???
[QUOTE=Cataholic]You can pick on me all you want, because you are right. I don't know why I have such a hard time just saying no.....but I have always been like that. I am not assertive much at all, and I feel kind of bad saying no. It's my husband's sister, and he had already told her that it would probably be ok (I am certainly going to have a little talk with him about his saying that).Quote:
Originally Posted by JenBKR
hmm some good ideas - that would probably work too! lol I loaned my car out a few times before, and the last time I did (not to them, it was a different in-law) I got the car back with barely enough gas to coast to the gas station. Ever since then I have been leary about lending it out.Quote:
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Originally Posted by Cataholic
Well, I don't mean to **really** pick on you. ;) I am not being very sypathetic to you, am I? For me, assertive and Johanna belong in the same sentence, and I don't stop to realize that I just not be the model we all strive to be like. :o
Now, you have added some facts that change things a little...your hubbie shouldn't be lending out the car without the two of you being on the same page. Per chance, did he leave you to do the dirty work? :p
[QUOTE=Cataholic]Quote:
Originally Posted by JenBKR
haha I know you're not *really* picking on me...I think I need to take a page from your book. I wish I could be more assertive, and I'm actually better than I used to be.
I'm not sure if hubby wanted me to do the dirty work or actually believed that I'd be ok with it, but I think we're going to have a little talk tonight.....
No. If they have a truck they'd let you borrow, tell them to use it themselves.
I don't mind when people borrow my car to go to run an errand or use it for the day because there car is in the shop. But to go on vacation? MMMM....no.
I don't understand? They have a truck. Why can't they just take that?
They don't want to take his truck because it's a gas hog.....
And they don't want to take her car because it is seriously a piece of junk. Also, they want a car with air conditioning...