2 Time Loser

[Queen of Poop]

Looks like I will soon be a two time loser. My husband says our marriage is over. That I love Sasha (dog) and the ferrets more than I love him. Well, that kind of goes without saying, they haven't done the many things he has done to me in the 7 years of our relationship. I'm really sad and feeling really hopeless right now. :(

[Uabassoon]

Please don't think of yourself as a loser. He's the loser, and it sounds like you are winning by losing a guy that doesn't understand how important and special animals are.

[caseysmom]

First I am sorry your marriage is ending, that is really sad. But this guy is jealous of your animals my gosh that is very immature.

If he has done bad things to you he doesn't deserve you, move on and be happy.

[JenBKR]

((((HUGS)))) you are certainly not the loser, although I can understand why you feel that way. I don't know your situation, but it sounds to me like he's making the biggest mistake of his life, and maybe this will be a blessing in disguise for you if he has done 'things' to you for the last 7 years. PM me if you need to talk.

[Lobodeb]

If he's jealous of your dog and ferrets, then he's the loser, not you. Please, don't ever let someone make you feel bad about yourself. I'm sorry to hear that your marriage is ending, but no man is ever worth losing your self respect!

Please try to keep your chin up.

(((((((((((((((((((Hugs)))))))))))))))))))) to you. I know I don't know you very well, but I'm here if you need a shoulder to cry on.

[tz1]

He must be pretty insecure to feel threatened by your pets...keep your head up :)

[moosmom]

Queen of Poop,

I'm sorry he did that to you. What a turd. His picture is in the dictionary right next to "Classless".

Now hear this...

YOU ARE NOT A LOSER!!!!

It's HIS loss, not yours!! Hang in there, girlfriend. Wanna join the "Dateless and Desperate Club"?? I'm the President and my best friend is VP and treasurer. ;)

[lizbud]

He must be pretty insecure to feel threatened by your pets...keep your head up :)


I feel the same way. He's the loser.

[finn's mom]

That sucks. I hope it all works out for the best, though. And, as hard as divorce is, it sometimes truly is the best thing. I am sorry to hear about that, though. And, of course, you know that you're not a loser.

[Flatcoatluver]

I am so sorry!! but understand that what will we do without our pets? If he won't except that you have a stong bond with you furkids, then forget him!!!!

[Karen]

Would he be willing to go to any kind of counselling with you? Sounds like he's the one with the problem, not you. We all know you're a good person, what's his problem? ;)

[kimlovescats]

I'm so very sorry ... please know that you are NOT a loser!

((((HUGS))))
Kim

[IRescue452]

Who's the loser? Don't put yourself down. I'd rather be single than married to somebody who doesn't like my animals. Anybody who asks you to sacrifice your happiness for theirs doesn't love you.

[emily_the_spoiled]

I am sorry to read about this. But everyone is right, if he is willing to throw away 7 years because he believes you love your companions more than him, then it is his loss. Even if he isn't willing to see a counseller, you should go for yourself. Think of it as a "tune up" for the next phase of your life.

[Queen of Poop]

Thank you for the support everyone.

I have been seeing a counsellor and am trying to get in with her ASAP. He will not go to counselling as he doesn't see that he has a problem. We have talked some and have determined to try to be nice to each other for the remainder of this year to not ruin Christmas for his kids - my suggestion. We will see what January brings. I still love him very much and I'm praying for a Christmas miracle that will keep our family together. But yes, as you've all said, to ask me to compromise my pets is simply not an option, I don't ask him to compromise his kids. We shall see where this goes, for now just trying to keep the emotions in check.

Thank you again all of my friends for making me feel better. You guys are the very best!!

[LKPike]

.... I kiss my dogs and bunny more than my husband, and he laughs more with his macaw than with me lol we're just animal lovers with mutual respect for each other, and we KNOW without a single doubt that we both love each other, when I want to go to museums he'll roll his eyes and say fine, when he wants to go to car shows I'll pout but I'll go without a complaint. thats a stable and equally balanced relationship(inmy eyes :))
you have to have those things to make a relationship work and if you have respect and love for him and the relationship, then its HIS problem and not yours so don't feel bad about that!!

I know that kind of heart break after putting several years into a relationship, took me 8 months to get over it but I did! and now I'm married, cared for, with a very easy life :) Life ALWAYS gets better, sometimes you just need a little bad luck to get you to realize it.

[kuhio98]

Gayle ~ I am so sorry to hear this. Do you believe the reason he gave you is truthful? Is he really that immature and shallow? Or do you think something else is going on? The reason he gave you is not a reason to leave a marriage. Maybe the "many things" he's done to you in the last 7 years show a pattern and could explain the "real" reason. Whatever the reason, I'm so sorry. And maybe the reason really doesn't matter. You can't save a marriage all by yourself and if you have a partner that's not a willing spirit... well, you don't really have a partner. Someone you know that you can count on.

No wonder people love their pets so much. They are loyal and always love you no matter what. :)

[crazy_caique]

I am sorry to read about this. But everyone is right, if he is willing to throw away 7 years because he believes you love your companions more than him, then it is his loss. Even if he isn't willing to see a counseller, you should go for yourself. Think of it as a "tune up" for the next phase of your life.


I agree with emily and everone esle it's his loss.