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Samantha Puppy
12-19-2004, 10:27 AM
I posted this story in another thread in relation to the death penalty, but that's not why I'm posting it here. I'm posting it here because I want everyone to know about my neighbor, Anne, and what happened to her and her family 14 years ago today. There isn't a day goes by that she doesn't enter my thoughts in some way. Rest in peace, Anne... you are missed.



In 1990, I was 12 years old - just 1 or 2 years younger than a lot of the kids who post here on Pet Talk. In the evening of December 18th, my neighbor Anne called me to see if I could come babysit for her. Her oldest son Tony (8 years old) was testing in karate to get the next belt up, but her younger son Jeffrey (4 years old) and baby Becca (6 months old) were getting antsy. I loved her, loved her kids, so I agreed to babysit. She came to get me (even though I only lived a couple houses up) and when I walked into her house, I complimented her on their Christmas tree. Her face lit up and she replied, "Thanks! This is going to be the best Christmas ever! I have a wonderful husband, two beautiful boys and a gorgeous baby girl." Those were her exact words. Then she left to go back to watch Tony test for his belt. I was only there for about 90 minutes before Anne got back with him. She tried to give me $10 for my "troubles" but I wouldn't accept it.

The next morning, I awoke to my mom sobbing. In my twilight, I thought that perhaps her grandmother had passed away. A minute later, she came in and sat on my bed. I opened my eyes, expecting to hear "Me-mom died last night." Instead, I heard "Anne was murdered last night." I couldn't speak. I just immediately started crying. Why would anyone want to hurt Anne? I know everyone who loses someone says that they were so sweet and kind and all that, but Anne really *was* all of those things.

By the end of the day, her husband Ed was arrested and charged with his wife's murder. I was confused. They went to our church. Why would Ed do that? Why would he take away the mother of two young boys and a 6 month old baby girl? Ed did this because he was having an affair and he wanted his girlfriend, his kids and his house, but not Anne. He knew that if he divorced Anne, she'd get it all (and rightfully so, in this case). So he crept up the stairs 6 days before Christmas, killed her as she slept and left. He left her 8 year old and 4 year old sons to find their mother dead the next morning when he (Ed) called to "check up" on her. The boys lifted the pillow to find their mother dead - shot in the back of the head, pointe blank.

He was tried and convicted and got life without the possibility of parole for 24. Today marks the 14th anniversary which means he is eligible for parole in 11 years. Tony is now in college at University of Maryland and has all but blocked out that portion of his life. Baby Becca turned 14 this past May. She loves hearing stories about her mother. Jeffrey committed suicide on July 31, 2003 at age 16. In his note, he said that he missed his mother and wanted to be with her.

I'm sick to my stomach reliving all this, but I want you all to know that on this day a very special lady was taken from this world far too early.

Rest with the angels, Anne - you and Jeffrey.

Kfamr
12-19-2004, 10:31 AM
Jaime, this story has me in tears.

What is wrong with people!?!? :(


Rest in Peace... Anne and Jeffrey.

Laura's Babies
12-19-2004, 11:24 AM
Jamie, I am in tears too as this brings back some painful memories for me too. My best friend of 20 years was murdered by her son around 5 years ago. She too, worked on the boats like I do and she got off on Wednesday to go home to celebrate her birthday with her family that Friday, at 3 am Thursday morning, he called the fire department to report the house on fire. Friday, he was arrested, he had strangled her to death, drug her to her bedroom and set her bedroom on fire. She would have been 55 Friday and he was 31 years old and was found guilty of 2nd degree murder. When I heard she was dead and in a fire, I KNEW she had been murdered..

My delima was, I watched him grow up and I loved him too and the last time I saw them together, I told her "As long as he is alive, YOU will never die, he looks SO much like you!". I lost 2 wonderful friends that night.

So, I know your pain first hand!

GoldenRetrLuver
12-19-2004, 12:29 PM
Oh my gosh. I had chills running up and down while reading your post, and now find myself in tears. What a horrible thing to happen to such a wonderful lady, and what a sick man.

Rest In Peace, Anne and Jeffrey..

Karen
12-19-2004, 01:08 PM
These women are both alive in your hearts, which gives testament to what good people they were. Rest in peace, and sing with the angels.

moosmom
12-19-2004, 02:47 PM
Such a tragedy :( I'm sure that the family of Anne will make sure that this animal does NOT see the light of day EVER!!

popcornbird
12-19-2004, 02:55 PM
Oh my gosh. :( What a horror story. Sent chills down my spine. I am so sorry for that wonderful lady and her poor children, and cannot believe what a sick monster her husband turned out to be. What a nightmare. :( Such monsters don't deserve to be citizens of this world.

teenster3
12-19-2004, 08:22 PM
Oh my, what a horrible story for both of you! (Samantha Puppy & Laura's Babies)
I just can't even imagine the idea of murdering a family member. I wonder what goes through their sick minds when they do these hideous crimes, especially when children are invloved!
So, very sad!
Too many sick, demented people out there & people you wouldn't even consider or think of to do these crimes!:confused:

Jods
12-19-2004, 08:26 PM
I'm very sorry for the losses of both of you. What a terrible world we live in sometimes :(

shais_mom
12-19-2004, 11:42 PM
how horrible.
I always feel so sorry for the kids b/c they are left with noone.
RIP

luckies4me
12-20-2004, 12:18 AM
That is so horrible. :( Poor women, and poor kids. I sure as hell hope that jerk doesn't get out!:mad:

kimlovescats
12-20-2004, 12:30 AM
I am at a loss of words, but I pray for your comfort during this time of sorrowful memories .... and the same for you Laura!:(

Corinna
12-20-2004, 12:35 AM
Why is it we are hearing more and more stories like this? Don't the idiots who do this realize they can rebuild their Lives? that divorce is a painful but better option. I don't get it. May they rot in He!! but the lives they wreck of the innocint kids. most times their own flesh and blood. What has happened to our pride in family and family names. I would never think of disgracing my fahter (maiden name) or my husbands family.

Samantha Puppy
12-20-2004, 08:54 AM
Thanks for your kind words, everyone. And Laura, I'm sorry for your loss as well...

cloverfdx
12-20-2004, 09:54 PM
Oh Jamie your story has bought me to tears, how heartbreaking for everyone involved. I just dont get some people :(.

RIP Anne, Jeffry :*(.

Logan
12-20-2004, 10:31 PM
Just tonight, a friend over at another site, posted that the mother of one of her son's friends was murdered by her husband in front of the daughter today. :( :( I will never, ever understand what brings people to this point.

flamepony12
12-20-2004, 10:43 PM
OMG I am so sorry. :(:(:( (((HUGS))) It is very kind of you to make a memorial. :(

Laura's Babies
12-21-2004, 08:53 AM
The one thing that had me so upset was in my friends case, he loved his mother so much that he never married because he couldn't find a woman like his mother and he said he would never marry until he found one like her. He loved his Mama so much that he would rather hang out with her and her friends than people his own age..... My question that I kept asking "What was so BROKEN that he saw that as the only way to fix it?" I don't think we ever got the whole story on what really happened and now we will never know. I miss not being able to pick up the phone and call either one of them..

aly
12-21-2004, 12:52 PM
I'm crying so hard. My heart goes out to that family. I just don't know what to say. I hope that evil man never gets parole :(

I witnessed a similar situation that happened with the family that lived across the street from me for years. I was in the hospital with them when both boys were born and I babysat them every single day for many, many years. The parents got a divorce and the mother's boyfriend ended up killing her ex-husband in front of the boys when they were just 7 and 11.

I'll never know what comes over people. My heart is just hurting so bad for all of the innocent victims that have ever been affected by such hatred and evilness :( :( :( :(

Tonya
12-21-2004, 11:41 PM
Rest in Peace, Anne and Jeffrey. :(

My Peanuts
12-22-2004, 02:13 PM
That is so terrible. I couldn't even imagine what those children were feeling. :( It makes it even worse that Anne thought she had a wonderful husband. :(

RIP Anne & Jeffery