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mina'smomma
12-14-2004, 07:25 AM
As many of you know Lee and I were in court yesterday afternoon. The man took our attorney's plea and plead guilty to manslaughter, habitual DUI, and driving on a suspended license. He is to spend 12 years in prison with no parole (due to him being a habitual), six years of probation after his term is served with 500 hours community service, and he will never have his license reinstated.

I think what shocked me the most is that he was remorseful for our daughter's death, and asked that even though he knows we can't do it now that he hopes someday we can find it in our hearts to forgive him. I would of had a hard time believeing him except he was bawling his eyes out. He just kept saying he was sorry for the pain he caused us over and over so I don't think it was a rehearsed speech. Maybe in time we can forgive him, but who knows. Right now we're working on trying to cope with our loss and move on with our lives.

I'm back to work and am glad because I'm not left by myself at home all day. I guess its a step in the right direction. I started working on the blanket again and its almost finished.:)

Laura's Babies
12-14-2004, 07:50 AM
Sorry for you loss. There is nothing like loosing a child.. I know, been there, done that. It is time the courts cracked down on the drunk drivers and he got a good sentence!

Oprah or Montel had a show one day when I was going through a horriable, horriable time. My best friend had been murdered and her son, a boy I watched grow up and loved was the one that did it. When that happened, I kept asking "WHY?", "WHY?." "WHY?".. If she had to die, why couldn't she have died in a car wreck? Why did both their lives have to be ruined and I had to loose BOTH of them and I kept asking HER, what am I suppose to do about Joseph? Am I suppose to turn my back on someone I watched grow up and love? Am I suppose to hate him? What am I suppose to do? I begged and begged for answers.

Then that show came on. It was about forgiveness after something like what happened to your daughter and what happned to my friend. The two things I got from that show was "We may NEVER know "WHY?"! We are not suppose to ask "WHY?" and how can WE be forgiven, if we can't forgive?

Our answers come to us in such strange ways but I sure got my answer and it has given me so much peace. I have let go of the worst thing that I have ever been through and I have not asked "WHY?" again. I still love Joseph, I feel like I have her approval now (because I know she loved him so much herself).
That show gave me acceptance and peace in my heart.

Jods
12-14-2004, 08:13 AM
I didn't know thats how you lost the baby>.. I'm so sorry, thats terrible. I'm still praying for you and Lee....

catmandu
12-14-2004, 08:15 AM
We are sorry,for your loss,and its the fact,that if this idiot,had thought,to call a Cab,your daughter,would still be with you.

mina'smomma
12-14-2004, 09:15 AM
I know I speak for Lee when I say we are very thankful for everyone's support. We doing a little better and continue on with our lives. This year we hung Amylynn's little booties that my mom made on the Christmas tree as a symbol of our little angel watching over us. We're going to go buy a little angel with her name to put on it next year. I did forget to mention that the driver's family told us they are going to pay for all my medical bills both physical and psychiatric to try and help ease any financial burden that has been caused. I thought that it was honorable of them to do that, and right now I know Lee and I could use it. My docotor's bill alone are over a thousand dollars and I still have to go back next week for another check up so this will help.

chrangharris
12-14-2004, 10:57 AM
Thank you for giving us an update. I'm very glad that the man who did this received his punishment. I'm glad that you are back to work- it is a step in the right direction. We are praying for you and Lee during this time!