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06-15-2004, 08:54 AM
My husband came home a few minutes ago. He was just fired from his job, after nearly 10 years. He got a letter stating his position is being eliminated, and his boss said other positions are being eliminated as well. The company apparently is suffering financial problems. He works for a cable company in town as a product specialist and technical support person. He had worked up to making a decent salary, and the benefits were outstanding.

I can't begin to say how frightened, upset, and down we both are now. He has a month to find a new job, and it's not really easy to find good work here like he had. He liked it there, and is so devastated and there is nothing I can do to make him feel better. I am scared and upset myself.

Please pray for us...

06-15-2004, 09:00 AM
Prayers and positive thoughts are being sent your way immediately. I know this is no consulation but things do happen for a reason. Keep the faith...you never know what is around the next corner.

When I first got married, Mark and I bought a house and a new truck for him...2 weeks later he got his pink slip. I though....we are never going to get through it....but I left it in God's hands and he did not loose his job. Of course it came down to the moment he was leaving on his last day for his company to tell him to come back to work on Monday.

{{{hugs}}} Meg

06-15-2004, 09:07 AM
Oh I'm so sorry. That's devestating news. Many prayers for you and your family. But I know things will work out for the two of you.

06-15-2004, 09:13 AM
Sending hugs to you .I know this one well. After Tims cancer stuff he couldn't find any one to hire him, but an old co worker hired him. A bout 6 months ago they had not enough work(hard wood floor installs) so he went to work part time for the home depot contracting service.He hs been doing an extra floor a week since ,well suddenly last week the bosses declared all or nothing. since home depot pays more for less time involved he said bye bye to the other . Its spotty work, but as said before we are leaving it to God .My job ends in Sept. But I have a new plan for this winter for ajob for me.
Tim gets restless and about every 5 years he trys something else but always goes back to flooring becouse hes good at it and ususally by this time would have had several offers. I guess he just hasn't told any one yet. Wants a vacation. :)
You'll be ok just take a breath and relax you'll be ok. He sounds like a guy who will do any thing to make sure you are ok.

06-15-2004, 09:13 AM
Having been in the same position as your husband, I can understand how frightening it is for him and you. I also realize there is little that anyone of us can say or do that will make that feeling go away. Just know that some of us have had the experience and we have all made it through and generally it has worked out for the better (even though it may not seem like it at the time).

Know that we are thinking of you and praying for you and your gang.

06-15-2004, 09:17 AM
Prayers and positive thoughts sending your way! God will provide, this I know for sure. I know how cruddy downsizing can be, especially in the technological industry. When the cable company here got bought out, the new company fired all the old employees...suddenly in one shot over 1,000 people were out of work. Big corperate people don't see hard workers trying to make it they just see $$$. It makes me sad to see what people are capable of because of money.

Sorry to rant...

Keep your chin up!!! Like I said, leave it to the Lord and He shall not leave you wanting! I truely believe that!

*Hugs to you and your family*

06-15-2004, 09:23 AM
How frightening. :( Losing a job can be very difficult, and very mind draining, because you just can't predict what's going to happen next. I will be praying for you and your family, and hoping your husband gets a job, even better than the one he had, soon. Sometimes God puts us through tests that seem to be the worst thing that could happen, but later God brings out the best from it. Keep your chin up. I'm sure things will improve. Try not to worry too much. Hopefully your husband will have a job again in no time.


06-15-2004, 09:30 AM
Oh, Jessica, This is terrible news. I wish I was there to give you a hug and to try and comfort you in person. Everyone has offered some great words of wisdom and advice. I will be thinking and praying for you and your husband. Please try not to let your spirits sink to low. I know that is an easy thing to say. Being scared and worried can really take its toll. Stay strong and stay positive and most of all be there for each other. This is a test, a HUGE bump in the road, you can do it and succeed. All will be well in the end.

All my prayers are for you and yours today!


06-15-2004, 09:32 AM
Originally posted by popcornbird
Losing a job can be very difficult, and very mind draining, because you just can't predict what's going to happen next.

I think that is the worst part of all about it. And I have an anxious type mind that jumps and flits from all kinds of possibilities instead of just trying to keep to the moment, or even looking at positive things that can come of this. Little things keep hitting me, like how we will lose such good medical insurance, and how we will lose our free internet and cable service... It's so hard right now not to think of all the bad things.

It seriously is comforting to read all of your kind thoughts. It is comforting to hear about those of you who have been through the same thing and that everything turned out okay.

When I push thoughts of "what might happen now" from my head, I am left with how hurt and devastated David is, and that is almost harder to bear than the fears. He liked his job, had a lot of friends there, really liked his boss. He broke down when telling me, and my heart is breaking horribly for what he is going through.

06-15-2004, 09:35 AM
Prayers and thoughts for you.

06-15-2004, 09:37 AM
That's so frightening. I'll be sending tons of positive thoughts your way.
Take care and stay strong.

06-15-2004, 09:39 AM
Oh, this is just breaking my heart. Where is David at now and what is he doing? I hope he is not the type to shut you out when he is hurting and upset. I just don't know what to say. We are here for you, Jess, whenever you need to talk. Please remember that.

06-15-2004, 09:45 AM
Oh, Jessica, I am so sorry. :( I can imagine your worry and concern. Please know that you and your husband will be in my prayers. Many of us have been there at one time or another. I experienced several months without a salary last year, and it was terribly troublesome for our family.

Things do, and will, work out. Remember that sometimes, through hardship, we are reminded of the importance of our faith. You keep praying and know that you have many friends out here who are here for you if you need support.


06-15-2004, 09:54 AM
Robin, he's downstairs laying down. He said he just needed a day to come to grips with all of it. I went down to sit with him for a bit, but I sensed he would like a bit of time to himself, and he didn't say anything when I came back up so I'm sure he probably just needs a bit of time at the moment.

Tasha is down there with him. When I went down, he was cuddling and holding her. :(

I know for a fact sometimes pets offer something to soothe the soul in the way nothing else can.

06-15-2004, 10:10 AM
Oh Jessica I'm so sorry - this is devastating for you both.
I'll keep you in my thoughts and send positive vibes across the miles.
Don't get into a panic - that's going to do no good whatsoever - and David will need you to his rock for some time.
Lots of cuddles and no recriminations.
Remember - 'This to, will come to pass' :)


06-15-2004, 10:11 AM
If you are seriously concerned about the insurance, see if he is eligible for COBRA insurance, which extends coverage (at some cost to you, but still) beyond termination of employemnt.

It's a rotten time, feels like a gut-punch, but you will get through it.

In our prayers ...

06-15-2004, 10:14 AM
I'm so very sorry to hear your husband lost his good job. It must be frightening in these times with so few jobs available. :(

My best advise is to go online and register to various job databases - simply sit down every day and see what there is - and perhaps contact some Temp. Bureaus too.

We'll keep fingers and paws crossed that he'll find another job soon. :) Best of luck!!

06-15-2004, 10:20 AM
That is so horrible! I can't imagine how he feels. The corporate world plays so dirty. I hope that he finds something even better and soon! Let those sweet dogs of yours make you both feel better. Keep in touch with us and we'll do our best to cheer you up. Try not to think about the "what ifs" I know it's hard but it'll just get you down and make it worse.

06-15-2004, 10:25 AM
Everyone is right...it's a shame there's nothing we can do to stop this from happening. Especially when you put so many years into a company just to be thrown out!
I hope your hubby finds something WAY better & enjoys it too!
Leave it to the good ol' pets to take comfort in!!!!!!
My thoughts are with you & your family!!!!!

06-15-2004, 10:33 AM
What a horrible thing for you both! Try to keep your Faith, as I am sure that something unseen is waiting for you just around the corner! (HUGS)

06-15-2004, 12:04 PM
Prayers on the way from me too.
I went through the same thing after my company folded. I had been there 20 years. Look into unemployment benefits and also see if there is a job placement program in your area.
I know it's frightening but things will work out the way they are supposed to.

06-15-2004, 12:15 PM
{{{HUGS}}}} I was in his place last October. Its frightening & a blow to the ego at the same time. But I have chosen to look at this as the opportunity to do something different and learn new things about life and myself. Just because change happens to you doesn't mean you can't make it work to your advantage. I did not find another job, but I also never looked! I'm starting my own business. Some days I wonder where money will come, then the next day I land a major project! With my husband's support, I'm making it work! Can your husband use his expertise to start a consutation company? You can make some seriously good money doing it. You'd just need to do some research on insurance for yourself.

God lets things like this happen for a reason. You just know know what that reason is right now. You'll be in my thoughts and prayers.

06-15-2004, 12:52 PM
Oh Jess!!!:(:(:( I'm so, so sorry for you and David. What a devastating blow:( It's so hard to understand sometime why such things happen to such good people. As hard as it is right now, try and have faith and stay positive, for David's sake. After a day or two, I'm sure he'll be able to think more clearly about where to go from here. I wish I could say or do something to help you:( Please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers Jess. And bless dear, sweet Tasha for comforting her Daddy. You're right, animals are such amazing heart healers. HUGS...Sandra, Cody and Star

Ally Cat's Mommy
06-15-2004, 12:57 PM
What a terrible thing to happen! Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers!

06-15-2004, 01:09 PM
ouch - that's awful.

I wish you both the best of luck and hope that this works out in the long run.

take care.

My Peanuts
06-15-2004, 01:30 PM
Jessica, this must be a lot of stress for both of you. Try to stay positive that something will come along soon. I'll pray that everything will be ok.

06-15-2004, 01:37 PM
Oh, Jessica, that's awful. You and David will be in my thoughts and prayers.


06-15-2004, 01:38 PM
My thoughts, prayers, and positive thoughts are with ya! {{hugs}}

06-15-2004, 02:10 PM
Aww:( I'm so sorry you both have to go through something like this. My dad got fired from his job a couple years ago and it scared my whole family (there's 5 of us). Luckily, he got hired by someone else in the same building and now he's happier with his new job. :)

I believe that things always happen for a reason, so keep your chins up as things WILL get better! :)
** hugs **

06-15-2004, 02:14 PM
Oh no Jessica. :(
Thinking of you guys, and hoping he finds something good, soon. :)

06-15-2004, 02:20 PM
I can't even imagine how devestated both you and David are right now. I'm so sorry to hear about this:(

I know I'm just repeating everyone else but I'm sure things are going to work out. Just keep you head up.

I'll be keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.


06-15-2004, 02:28 PM
I jumped ahead and didn't read all of the posts, just so I could offer you some sympathy in this new situation.

Yes, Karen said it just right.........feels like a gut punch.

Give yourselves a day or two to get the new situation under your belt.

Yes, he probably will need some time alone.........don't be hurt by that, he is having a difficult time and may need his space.

Faith........this has happened for a reason.........and now is the time to rely on God's judgement and ask Him for guidance and support.

Is it possible that he could do some freelance consulting work in his field? In other words, start up his own business?

I will follow this thread and please know that you will have my prayers that all will work out for you both.,

I am glad that you felt you could share with us - and you know that everyone of us is here for you and cares!

06-15-2004, 02:50 PM
Thank you everyone, for your words of comfort and encouragement. Nothing can make the fear and distress of this situation totally go away right now, but all your thoughts and wishes help more than I can put into words. Thank you so very much for keeping us in your prayers.

06-15-2004, 02:59 PM
Originally posted by catnapper
Can your husband use his expertise to start a consutation company? You can make some seriously good money doing it. You'd just need to do some research on insurance for yourself.

Good idea :)

It is scary to be out of work but I believe in fate. Your husband will find another job and it might even be a better situation than he had before ?

Thinking of you

06-15-2004, 02:59 PM
I'm so sorry to hear about your situation. One of my friends was recently fired from her job because the company closed. She was deep into depression for a few weeks thinking she wouldn't be able to find a good job. But about a month ago she was offered an amazing job that payed a lot more than her old one and it's just a better job all around. Sometimes good things really do happen.

06-15-2004, 03:38 PM
My favorite phrase to tell myself when I get down:

"God never closes a door without opening a window, sometimes the windows have blinds, but the wind will always steer you in the right direction."

06-15-2004, 03:47 PM
Oh, I'm so sorry, Jess. :( {{HUGS}}

You guys will be in my thoughts and prayers. Don't give up hope! I'm sure everything will work out. :)

Give Tommy and Tasha some hugs for me. ;)

06-15-2004, 03:57 PM
Wow. What a horrible shock.

I have no advice, but some of the other's advice have great ideas.

Will be holding you all in my prayers.


Miss Meow
06-15-2004, 04:23 PM
I'm sorry :(

It doesn't matter how much 'downsizing' occurs, it's still a shock to the system and takes a long time a recover from and move on.

Keeping fingers crossed that everything works out and a newer, better job with a stable company is on its way :)

Killearn Kitties
06-15-2004, 04:35 PM
I'm so sorry you find yourselves in this situation. I know how frightening it feels. I'll be thinking of you, along with everyone else. Take care of yourselves.

Holly's mom
06-15-2004, 06:17 PM
Oh, I am so sorry!! :( You will be in my thoughts and prayers. Try to keep a positive attitude, it may not seem like it now, but things will work out. {{Hugs}} to all of you.

06-15-2004, 07:04 PM
Jessica, the bright side to this is your husband has all this knowlege in his head. Nobody can take that away from him. I just feel so sure that something will happen and everything will be okay.

I am sorry that you and your husband are going through this, I know it is hard. He still has his health, and that is worth so much!
Having your health and a skill such as he has, is a very good thing you have on your side. And of couse your fatih in god.

You and your husband will be in my thoughts and prayers. (((Hugs))))


06-15-2004, 07:36 PM
Jessica I can feel the fear and anguish in your post and I wish I could just reach out and (((hug))) you. My hubby went through this same situation back in 1985. He lost his job on Halloween day and was out of work until a week before Christmas. When he would come home from the unemployment office he was in a horrible depression. He said he felt like a loser even though it was in no way his fault. We prayed and prayed and friends prayed too. As it turns out one night a colleague that he had worked with at another company called out of the blue. We literally hadn't heard from this man in years. The company that this man was now working for needed someone and he remembered my hubby and thought he would be the right person for the job, not even knowing what situation we were in. Sometimes all we can do is pray, but when you think about it that is the most powerful thing we can do. Keeping you and your hubby in my prayers.

06-15-2004, 08:07 PM
Originally posted by Pam
Sometimes all we can do is pray, but when you think about it that is the most powerful thing we can do. Keeping you and your hubby in my prayers.

What Pam said is so true, it really is.:) I am very sorry that
bad things sometimes happen to good people, but please know
I too will keep you both in my prayers. Have faith & hang in there.

06-15-2004, 11:27 PM
Thoughts and prayers are with you.
If you need anything we are here, and if you want to talk I am just a PM away.