Male or Female? Who's sweeter?

[kathy]

I know there's no rule here but anyone have any feelings on this matter. My girl died but when I had 5 boys and 1 girl, there was no comparison. The boys have always been much sweeter while my girl was a little distant and much sassier.

Any thoughts?:rolleyes:

[jenluckenbach]

MALE

[Pam]

I am probably the least qualified to answer here as Trevor and Andy are my first and only cats ever. They are both very sweet and of course they are males. :)

[RP Cathouse]

Ok, this is a hard one! As, my cats have aged they have become more loving. Especially Jez, who is a 7 yr. old Maine Coon. The young ones have alot to do like eating and playing and napping all the time. Not enough hours in the day for snuggling, except Miss "Q" she seems to find the time when I am on the computer.
Tyler the Ocicat is very devoted cat to one person and will watch over me at night and stay in the same room with me when I am home. Penny wants attention when she is due a litter of kittens but once the kittens have new homes she is a little stand offish. But the greatest lover is Moses a high white camoe Maine Coon. He snuggles close at night or if I take a nap. He gives me kisses by wiggling his mouth or lips on my face and loves to be held and cradled like a baby. In a past life he must have been the love of my life.

Stella

[CatDad]

At the moment in our house it is Bob who is sweeter. Of course, Joey, who is female is trying to catch up. She came to us at a disadvantage, being semi- feral and a bad start at another home. Ask me again in year and I may have a different answer.

However, RB Flicka was the sweetest kitty I have ever seen and that includes Bob and Joey.

I think that it really depends on the kitty, but I will defer to Jen on the final answer.:)

[catland]

I think that the boys are overall sweeter, but when Jan feels like turning on her female charms - watch out - no one is sweeter than her. (then she turns off her charms and is miss grumpy kitty again.;) )

[Edwina's Secretary]

I have been thinking about this recently. So many people who visit exclaim how Eddie is so much more friendly than Edwina. Yet Edwina is the one who is always on my lap or the lap of my husband. Only once have I gotten Eddie to sit on my lap and only for a few minutes! Edwina loves to cuddle...but she is VERY selective with whom she wishes to be affectionate.

So Eddie is a superficial guy who is friendly with ANYONE and Edwina is passionate but exclusive. hhhmmmmmmmm...


;) :D ;)

[Felicia's Mom]

Male is my choice.:)

[catlover4ever]

I have to agree that this is a hard one. My males Smokey and Abner are very very sweet, but Mystic is always looking for attention and to get some lovings. Tucker (female) is 16 years old and VERY grouchy, but always one to want love. Tigger is very loving at night and only on her terms.

So I would have to say that the males in my house are much more sweeter than the females.

[kathy]

I have a 'Smokey' and I love him to death tho I've decided that he is autistic, as he is in his own world. I could say retarded but I say autistic with special needs. I hope that doesn't offend anyone when I say that because I don't want it to but he's like no other cat I've ever experienced and I think I'll start a thread about 'retarded' cats.

anyway, I would love to know why the boys are sweeter than the girls but I don't suppose we'll ever figure that one out.

[jazzcat]

I have one male and two females and by far my female Jazz is the sweetest. She's unusually sweet according to my husband.

Ripley has never been what you would call sweet but he has his teddy bear moments. Unfortunately he has some anger issues. One vet told me he has Feline Rage and it is mostly directed at me. It has calmed greatly with age but he still has his "fits". It's very scary to have a 20 pound cat stalk and attack you. I have the battle scars to prove it on my legs and arms.

His behavior is one reason it took me over 10 years to get a second cat. Jazz's sweetness is what made me want a third cat.

[krazyaboutkatz]

I grew up with all female cats except for one called Smokey. He was the sweetest and most patient cat I've ever known. My female cat Puff became crankier as she got older.

When I decided to get a cat of my own, I wasn't looking for a specific sex. Storm happened to pick me and he just also happened to be male. He made me fall in love with the male cat. Now I have 4 males and I think they are much sweeter and more lovey than females. They also tend to be more easy going and less demanding too.:)

[neko1]

I agree that males are sweeter and more easy going. My females can get that -insert "B" word here- attitude.

[wolfsoul]

In my experience I've liked male cats better, even though I have a female. I've found that males don't bug me for attention, but take it willingly. Sara drives me nuts lol. :o She'll meow and meow and lick my arms and my legs and follow me around...I'm perfectly fine giving loving, but at that point I'm annoyed.

[kathy]

thank you! I'm loving all these options and pictures. Some day I'll figure out how to do the photo thing and you'll get to see Chuck, Biff and Buff , Spats and Oliver Wang, my adorable boys.

[Lorraine]

I love all kitties, but I personally believe that males are more affectionate from my experience.

[Isis_7]

Males, definately! I love Ally, but she can be a b*tch.

[Pam]

Lorraine - your avatar is also my wallpaper. :) I just love it and haven't seen anything ever that is cuter. ;)

[annedadosky]

Hi Kathy:

I have owned seven cats since 1989. Some of them are dead. Is your cat a domestic? In domestics, I think the sex does not matter.

I have had three Siamese. One is still living. In this breed, my husband agrees with me that the female has the better personality.

Sinceerely,

Miss Tobina
Cincinnati, OH

[kathy]

my cats are domestic tabbies. all boys and sooo sweet. as i said, my girl was difficult with them, loved me but distant, and never integrated with the boys.

i really think it's just luck of the draw but if i think the chances are better that a cat will be sweet if you go with a male but all are treats!!

[prechrswife]

Our male, Samson, is much more of a "snuggle-bunny" than the girls are. Saphirah and Chloe snuggle on their own terms.

[sirrahbed]

Males - far sweeter I think (especially orange ones)

[carole]

This is simple for me to answer, FEMALE, my Lexie is the sweetest, gentle natured lil cat I have ever known, whereas Ash, he is a cat to be reckoned with and be very careful how you touch, pet or handle him, he is kinda scarey sometimes, even my 22 yr old son who adores Ash, is scared of him, I guess you could say Ash gets RESPECT, and lexie just gets cuddled and snuggled to bits lol.

[shais_mom]

When I was thinking about getting a cat I was told to get a male b/c they are more lovey and affectionate. But since I was looking at calicos that wasn't going to happen.
But then I decided to take Kylie out of a bad situation and haven't looked back.
She is such a sweet little spirit. She isn't overly lovey, but is definatley snuggly when I am watching TV or lying in bed. I just love her little soul.
Now my friend has Kylie's sister Tome, and she is the queen of *itchy! They have the exact opposite personalities. And they have just acquired another kitty that is a boy and he is laid back, and lovey and very affectionate.
So even tho Kylie is my first cat, I have to go with the 'luck of the draw'???

[kathy]

and Kylie is absolutely gorgeous!!!! If i'm ever looking again which i hope doesn't happen since I plan to have my 5 boys around forever, I want a snow white cat just like Kylie.

[Uabassoon]

My female Tibby is much sweeter than my male Corkscrew.

[AvaJoy]

Interesting thread, and I've so enjoyed reading all the input!

I've got 4 females and 2 males currently, and I'd have to go with the boys as being more easy-going. The girls are prone to those "Miss snippy-pants cattitude Diva" moods, whereas the guys are more even-tempered, with fewer emotional fluctuations.

I wonder if this could depend upon the gender of the guardian versus cat . . . maybe a male guardian with both male and female cats would say the females are more docile toward him??! :confused:

[kathy]

Hmmm. good question. But that would be assigning a little more thought to their process than I think they're capable of but who am I to say.

I just think there's something in the male cat that just tends to be more easy going than the female. It makes me wonder about humans and if, without the socializing process everyone goes thru, maybe men would be the sweeter sex? But that's way to impossible to even try to figure out.

I'm thinking of setting up another thread about cats eating with their paws. I assume it might be quite common and a very fun discussion. I hae 2 brothers that do it.

[KitKat023]

well, so far, mostly my males have been more social towards me, but I do have a female now who is kinda the pet me or else type. Of the other 2 female kittens, one is tolerating of me, the other stays as far away from people as possible unless there is food involved.

[mesiecat]

Males are definitely sweeter

[Christiansmommy]

Hmmmm...in my house...it is a tie! They are both equally sweet. They both jump on your lap and purr away, and they both love visitors. Gunniess was more easy to adapt to Dandy, than Dandy to Guinness, so in that reguard...Guinness. He has NEVER hissed either...at anyone, but Dandy has hissed at Dale and Guinness, when we first brought him home.

I really couldn't decided who is friendlier...like i said, a tie!!

Robyn

[kittenwhiskerz]

I have to say our found stray "Sunny" (a big white and orange boy) is sweeter in general than our little tiny 14 year old girl "Silver". But she is unique in that she is afraid of most people (except me whom SHE adopted). She expresses her fear by snarling and sounding like a wild cat! She has never let any other cat touch her, but she allows "Sunny" to give her kisses for exactly 45 seconds before she goes into attack mode. He Jumps and backs away. :)
Darrolanne from CA

[lv4dogs]

Meko is my first cat i am keeping, although i worked as a vet tech for years, volunteer at a couple local animal shelters & have had quite a few rescue/fosterers and I would say out of the majority, males are more cuddly & nicer.

Meko though is a female (shes only 5 months old though) but she is especially sweet compared to most females, I spend a bunch of time w/ her though & she knows a few tricks (shake paws, sit pretty, come when called, not to beg, & sit).

[mesiecat]

how did you teach her to shake paws? I have taught mine to fetch, beg, talk, and follow me around the house. I can not teach either to shake...

[annedadosky]

Hello Kathy:

I have had seven cats at different times. Some were Siamese.
I would say overall that sex doesn't matter. Although cats develop attachment to one person (show most of their affection to one). I did have a female Siamese who did this with my husband, but overall I would say sex doesn't matter.

I have had both male/female

Sincerely,

Miss Tobina

[western_rider]

From my experience with my two current cats, females are sweeter. Nicodemus (female) is really sweet and cuddles with me every time I sit down (and looks happy and content and purrs wether I pet her or not) and sleeps with me every night. Tobias (male) on the other hand, most of the time keeps to himself and only on the very rare occasion will come and cuddle with me (generally only when he's cold after I've given him a bath). So I'd have to say that females are definately sweeter.
Also, my family have owned quite a few cats and it's been the females who have been consistenly the sweeter cat.
Randi

[Julie Grove]

I have only had girlie cats both of whom I absolutely adore, however.....Gigi was always determined to intervene when it came to my love life and frequently caused trouble if ever I had a boyfriend. When the poor guy in question was invited to sit on my sofa (I guess with the silly idea that he would be sitting with me), Gigi would appear out of nowhere and drape herself across his lap, whilst gazing up at him in an adoring fashion, and demanding to be stroked, and of course totally ignore me! If that failed she would just sit between us and refuse to move! Bless her. I wouldn't have swapped her for any male!

[kittenwhiskerz]

LOL Julie that is SO funny! There is a cartoon that runs in our newspapers called "Kit 'N' Carlyle". It's about a funny little black and white cat whose mission in life is to protect her mommy and also to fool her into giving her all the treats possible. Your story reminded me of her because the kitty is always picking on the guys that come over.

Darrolanne from CA

[Julie Grove]

Darrolanne, Gigi was a very cheeky and rather clever cat and she was always possessive with me. She never minded my girlfriends but she just did not like me to have a boyfriend. I broke up with my last boyfriend over a year ago but we are still friends. He confessed to me the other day that he was always jealous of the love and attention I gave my girls and felt he never had his fair share! I said sorry, but my cats come first!!!! And he has always maintained that me and Gigi are 'two peas in a pod'!

[spunkymeow]

I have both a male and a female kitten. They are both 8 mos. old. I have noticed by far that the boy is much, much sweeter and more affectionate. The girl is very docile and sweet too - but more of a loner. The boy is constantly following me and jumps on my lap any chance he gets. I think males are by far more sweeter. I have also heard that from a lot of people as well. They say, hands down, males are more loving then females.

[Lixx]

Right now we have two girls and 4 boys. I would have to say the males are snuggler. The females like to be around, but not on me. The boys are on me if there's any means to be!

[IttyBittyKitty]

These are the cats that I have had the closest rapport with over the years


Tigger - Orange ginger male
Twirling - Gray fluffy male
Milo - Calico/Meezer girl
Randi - Ragdoll male


The boys win! I've loved all my cats, but you know that really, really special bond that feels extra special and close? Well, although I've almost always had girls, I seem to be closer to the boys
!

[kathy]

I'm glad everyone is still responding. I'd just love to know what is different in their 'genetic makeup' that makes to male more comfortable or sweeter or needier. I'm not sure it's 'genetic makeup' but I don't know what else to call it. It seems pretty consistent that males are just sweeter tho I hate to make generalizations.

[cmaijer]

I've always had females. My female cats have totally different personalities and have also changed somewhat as they have aged. Tammy, my 16+ year old, was always the "what have you done for me lately" cat. Although, outsiders always thought of her as the more affectionate, because she would come up to them instead of hide like Sheba. As Tam has gotten older, she has gotten more dependent on affection. She was never a lap cat before.

Sheba, 11+, has always been a pick up, lap sitting cat. She is a two-person cat, however. If strangers or even friends that come in the house, she hides until they leave.

Ming, 8+ months, is affectionate and a kisser, but she can just as easily bite you as kiss you. Don't know if she will outgrow this or not. Are others never were biters. She is mixed Siamese and I think this may attribute to her aggressiveness.

[kathy]

My tuxedo boy, Spats, is incredibly affectionate bordering on needy but when he's outside and either friends or strangers try to pet him, he will first seduce them with teasing and then smack them. I've been told about this but never really seen it.

I think he is just soo territorial about me and sees everyone as a threat. Otherwise I think he would have shown this behavior to me on occassion.

I don't mean to be self-centered but I can't figure out why he's soo feisty and provocative and such a total sweetheart to me.

[halliecat]

Not sure who is sweeter.....

Hallie is very mischevious! She thinks anyone who comes over is there just for her. She hasn't met a stranger, although she stays away from my brother-in-law who HATES animals.

Blackjack was very standoffish when there was more than one person around. But if you were alone he'd be your best buddy...

[BigCharles]

Hey all! I've been away for a while as I've been real busy at work.

Define "sweet".

My boy cat Lamoni is affectionate but won't set in the lap or sleep on the bed with both mommy and daddy. Fifi never comes out with some one new in the house but will sit in our laps and sleep between our pillows at night.

Fifi is fun and playful and will chase Lamoni. Lamoni is playful and will horn in when I try to play with Fifi using her toy. When he comes in she slinks off with her tail dragging.

Lamoni has about the kindest disposition of any animal that I have ever met. He probably is sweeter. Both of them make my heart race with joy whenever I see them.

But as for sweeter? Well when I kiss them they don't taste sweet to me. :eek:



I's a joke! :rolleyes:

[catnapper]

How on Earth did I miss this thread? Anyway, I've never had a famale cat, so based on my experience, male cats are the sweetest!:D

I've never had a female based on the common belief male cats are sweeter. My Aunt Janet once had a female Persian and she was the MEANEST thing you'll ever meet. However, my brother's Sophie is a doll... if you ever get to see her (she's afraid of strangers.) My sister-in-law has a sweet white kitty that pretty much takes anything the kids dish out.

[misstobina]

My husband and I have owned both sexes. I would say females are much sweeter. The female I own right now loves brushing. She will purr and raise her haunches up when I brush her.

I have had two males with bad personalities.

[Catboy123]

if u ask me males are much sweeter

[BitsyNaceyDog]

I have 7 cats and all but 1 is sweet, Scampers (female) is the true "essence of cat"- fat, lazy, and a total snob. The other 6 are 3 girls and 3 boys, and all sooo sweet. I really can't answer the question, except my orange tabby, Jimmy (a male) is probably the most sweet. however, as I'm typing my maine coon, Raisin (female), just jumped on my lap. My answer is it depends on the cat and its breed.

[Mkitty]

;) I know what you meen I have four cats and one of them is a total angeldevel. I always tell my friends to be NICE to Coco. But they usually like to make her mad. I also have a cute:D named Cubby who loves me, and i love him. My other cat, Nikka, is afraid of EVERYTHING. But she's getting better. My last cat, Jack, has been havin' some spraying problems, but overall he is very sweet, and there is this look in his eyes that seems to see right through sometimes.:cool:

[Rowan815]

I used to think males were the sweeter of the two sexes, but little miss Shaedi has gotten me wondering about that. They don't get much cuddlier than her. I'm of the mind now that its an individual personality thing rather than a gender thing :)

[kittenwhiskerz]

This thread seems to be VERY popular! Been following it from the beginning. I'm old enough to have had many cats. I am thinking that although I "connect" emotionally with my girl cats (like girlfriends almost) they are pretty particular about who else they want to be friends with and that includes other cats. My male cats have always been the most dependent and perhaps that is why they appear to be sweeter. Quite loving and docile and ready to please. The girls have their own agenda and so it should be. LOL!!!!

Kittenwhiskerz ~CA~

[fairlady68]

Hi,

My sweet Julie the Calico Princess is the only cat I have ever actually "had", as opposed to just feeding them on the front stoop and seeing them for a few months before they disappear.

Julie is an extremely sweet creature. She was an adult stray who was abandoned by some people in the neighborhood over eight years ago. At first she was very needy and clingy, almost to the point that I did not think I could handle her! I was that close to taking her to the pound....and boy am I glad I didn't!

I was recovering from a severe depression at the time, and she was just what the doctor ordered. We were both neurotic and lonely, but over the years have both come to feel a whole lot better. Julie used to swat and bite "out of nowhere", like I have read about other cats doing. But she has pretty well dropped this behavior. I think it is because I have learned just how to stroke her without annoying her, and how to read her signals that she is ready for me to stop.

She is often on my lap or in my bed, especially when it's cold! I have noticed as she has gotten older, she is not as likely to spend long times in my lap, but she still needs my loving and certainly misses me when I am gone. She never does like being picked up, which is only a problem when it's time for the vet...and she will sometimes fight me for the bedclothes. But I have learned to get the catnip out and put it on another part of the bed, when Julie is lying on the top of the sheets and I need to get into bed. That always gets her to move out of my way!

I tend to want to get another female when, God forbid, Julie leaves me, because she has been so dainty and feminine and such a sweet little angel. In some ways, like one person said, she has been like a best girlfriend to me. I treat her like an equal or a roommate, not as an animal. She's not "just" an animal...she is a furperson!

One factor that may play a role--many people who have written in have multicat households. I have resisted bringing in any other cats, and this may have helped cement the bond between Julie and me, which seems to grow deeper with every passing year.

Take care,

[kittenwhiskerz]

Fairlady what a lovely story of you and beautiful little Julie. It tells a story of two in need of one another. You matched perfectly. You said sometimes she would "swat and bite" out of nowhere. Well isn't that exactly what some of us humans do in a depressive state? I know that I have done that and then felt sorry.

You say you don't want to get another cat while you still have your Julie, but I can't help thinking that it would be such a good thing. I don't think anything at all would disrupt the bond you have with this little girl. And she may just love having a sibling. It would open up doors and windows and feelings of love that could go to the moon. But of course you know best the deep feelings that you would have to consider.

Thanks for your story....:)

Kittenwhiskerz

[Canis Amicus]

i used to live with both (5 female and 2 male) and the males were the ones always looking for a caress, hugs, laps, belly rubs, etc, on this subject the male ones were tiredless.
The boy were always by my side, like a shadow.

[Mkitty]

I know what you mean! Our cat Coco can be sooo lovable, but than she'll bite and scratch if she wants, or if she's mad. Actually, it is usualy Cubby and Jack(male) who are usually lovable, and have never tried to intentionally hurt us. Our 2 female cats can be nice, but they have a mean streak.:)

[ActionCat007]

I have two cats, Katie and Simba. I think male cat's are sweeter, Simba is much more loveable than Katie. Also Simba will go to just about anyone for loving and Katie will only come to me.

[joker98]

From my experience, males are sweeter.

[cats0509]

I have known/kept 13+ cats (9 females, 3 males, 1 unknown), and I have always known the male cats to be a lot sweeter and friendlier than the females. Even the feral male cats were easier to get along with than the females. I have also noticed that mother cats are sweeter than other females. The mothers are sweeter once their kittens get a little older, when they are not as protective of their kittens.