Does age matter?

[sweet_stormy]

Does age matter when you date someone? I mean, I've seen people that are like 10 or more years older than their partner (or the other way around). Does age really matter? If you're in love, should it matter? I like this guy who is 4 years older than me, but he would never go out with me because of our age difference. What do you guys think? Does age really matter all that much? Post your opionions here. I just want to know what you guys think. It's just an opionion, so no one is wrong on their answer and no one is right. SO, POST AWAY PEEPS! :D

[jenluckenbach]

It depends on the age of the people (not the age difference). If both parties are adults, NO. But when one is a child then it really DOES matter.

[2kitties]

What Jen said.

[boscibo]

It depends on how old you are. My SO is 9 years older than me, but we met when I was in my late twenties.

On the other hand, when I first started dating (at 15-16), a couple of guys in their 20's asked me out - and that is sick! Once you get into your twenties age isn't such a big factor, but if you are in your teens it is. Not to mention if you are under 16, in a lot of places it can be illegal.

I just looked at your profile - you are 14, right? So the guy is 18? He is a legal adult, and I would seriously question him if he is interested in a 14 year old.

[Samantha Puppy]

A 13-year old and an 18-year old? Absolutely. A 23-year old and a 28-year old? No, though interests may be different due to where you are in life. A 20-year old and an 80-year old? I'm sorry, but in my opinion, that's nasty. I cannot help but think that there is some ulterior motive if the age difference is that great... but hey, it's happened before and sometimes, it actually is because they provide great companionship. So... it just depends on the age.

Due to my past experiences, the younger you are, the less serious "love" should be taken - though just the opposite happens.

[slick]

Picture it, Vancouver, 1948.

A beautiful bride of 24 walks down the aisle to greet the groom who was 44. Hardly anyone showed up for the wedding because back in 1948 people thought differently and the age difference was just too much. Not only that, but the groom started dating the bride when he was still married to his first wife :eek: :eek:

Mom and Dad were happily married for 47 yrs before he passed in 1995.

Does age matter?? Heck no. (in adults, that is.....)

[Logan]

I totally agree with Jen (and Slick). I am five years older than my husband. :o It truly doesn't matter at our age, but had I been 20 and him 15, I think it would have mattered a lot! :eek:

But since I met him when I was 39 and he had just turned 35, I think it was ok. :) I should rephrase that.....it is definitely ok!!! :)

[stacwase]

My husband is 13 years older than me. I married him when I was 24. At our ages, it didn't make a difference.

However . . . (there's always a however). . . when I was in high school I dated some older guys and it did NOT work out well. Older boys tend to get verrrrrrry pushy about the S.E.X. thing.

[Chinadoll]

It depends... 4 years when you're in your 20's or above is no big deal, but when you're a teenager, it makes a huge difference. There is so much growing and maturing done between 14 and 18. Not to mention that it's illegal for an 18 yr. old to be with a 14 year old.

[babolaypo65]

As people have said it depends on the ages of people involved. 18 and 14? Wrong. Illegal. Sick.
24 and 20? fine.

Until you're an adult its a huge difference. Think of it this way, would YOU date someone four years younger than you? Kinda gross huh?

This is the second time you've started a thread like this in about a month. It's still wrong for an adult to date a child.

[Tubby & Peanut's Mom]

I agree with everyone. Terry is 15 years older than me. But picture this. He's 28, been married once but now divorced, well on his way in his first "real" job, really into Corvettes and racing. I'm 13, a geeky barely teenager, still have my Barbie dolls lined up in my room and not even beginning to "sprout."

28 years ago when this was the case, it would have been totally sick of him to even remotely consider dating me. But when we finally did meet and start dating, he was 47 and I was 32 - well old enough to be over the age difference.

My Grandma was 20 years younger than my Grandpa and Terry's dad divorced Terry's mom and ended up marrying a woman 15 years younger than him. So I guess it sort of runs in our families. ;)

So it completely depends on the age of the people. 18 and 13 or 14 is too much of a difference. 25 and 21 is not. When I was 18 I was dating a guy that was 26. I didn't think so at the time, but I now see that was too much of a difference.

[bluekat]

I agree with Jen. If they're adults, it doesn't really matter, but if they're teens, then no. Its just really weird to me, even if they're just 3 years apart.

[GoldenRetrLuver]

It's not just the age difference, it's the maturity level of the two people as well. But, no I don't agree with a 13 year old going out with an 18 year old.

[lizbud]

Originally posted by babolaypo65


This is the second time you've started a thread like this in about a month. It's still wrong for an adult to date a child.

That's right & the last thread went downhill fast. I believe you
already know what most people think, so why do this all over
again ?

[CamCamPup33]

ahh.. It really depends.. Maybe a 13 and a 16 year old.. Maybe.. ehh... maybe.. i dont know... I dont think it does.. If your in love with someone you know whats right, age doesnt matter..

[Foam]

I think maturity has a lot to do with it. You can date someone 5 years older than you and not feel any diffrence in age because of maturity level.
It all adds up. Maturity, experience, devotion and trust. Age doesn't exactly have too much to do with it unless the person's like..15 years older than you.
2-4 years is a good range for me AFTER maturity. :)

[binka_nugget]

Funny you brought this up, I've recently had a little disaster with someone ALOT older than me. He was a past co-worker and it was really disturbing to even think about it. He had to be at LEAST 35..and I'm not even 16 yet. *shudders* gross.

If both are mature enough, fine..it's up to them. But when it's a young child and someone older, no I'm against it. Even if the young child was with someone the same age..I'm not so keen on the idea of kids already dating at the age of 12.

[G.P.girl]

Originally posted by jenluckenbach
It depends on the age of the people (not the age difference). If both parties are adults, NO. But when one is a child then it really DOES matter.
ditto

[cubby31682]

It all depends. At 14 no but when I was 16 I met Corey which is now my husband, at the time he was 22. We have been together for 5 years. I honestly think it has been the best 5 years of my life. He got me through things that I wouldn't have been able to get my self through. Sure alot of people had alot of thoughts about the two of us. At the same time my parents were ok with it because they seen how happy he made me. If Corey would have been anyone else then they would have made me stay home. No dating no nothing. If I was 14 and Corey was 22 then no my parents would have stepped in right away. Especially my dad. My dad liked Corey he didn't mind at all as long as Corey didn't hurt me my dad was fine with him.
So I think it depends. At your age you shouldn't be dating an 18 year old. So it's only 4 years between you two. Look at it this way. He's 18 your 14, would you want to date a 10 year old? That is still 4 years. But that would be sick. Right?

[micki76]

I have to agree with cubby31682. I dated someone that was 3 years oler than me in high school. It was a normal relationship. We had no issues of “pressure”.

Just an FYI – it’s not illegal in most states to date someone under the age of 18 of you’re 18 or over, it is illegal to have sex with a minor, though. To make dating a minor illegal, would be an impossible law to uphold, especially when teenagers are dating. Someone’s going to turn 18 first, after all.

[2kitties]

Okay, here is something I have a problem with.

If one is convicted of any sexual crime toward a minor, you are a Registered Sex Offender for LIFE. Anyone can access that info and it will always follow you around.

I think that is great! Child molestation/rape/etc. are some of the most horrific crimes in our society.


But there is one problem...

Let's say you are an 18 year old boy. Your girlfriend is 16. You two have sex and her parents find out and get angry. They prosecute. In most states this is called statutory rape. Even though you are both willing participants, you get convicted. You are now a Sex Offender for LIFE!

This scenereo is quite different from what we consider sex offenses, rape, or child molestation. Unforatunatly, most people checking sex offender records can't tell the details of you case. So, for all they know, you are a violent criminal to small children.

How is that fair?

[Tina]

It just depend on the people. And how mature both of the people are.

My husband is 11 years older then me. I met him when I was 17 and he was 28. Alot of people in my family hated it at first, some came around. But not everyone. They came around maybe couple months after Rob and I were married. Rob was 29 and I was 18 years old.

[wolfsoul]

I think it depends.

My mom and I were talking about something like this yesterday. I've decided that I wouldn't be happy dating someone who is exceptionally older than me. My mom's boyfriend is ten years older than her. The average lifespan of a man is 70. So he may have only 20 years left. A woman's average is 80. So my mom has 40 years left! She has atleast twice as many years left than him! Even if he succeeds the average (which alot of men do), it would still make me sad to think about it.

[babolaypo65]

All good answers. All MOOT for a 14 year old CHILD talking about dating an ADULT.

[2kitties]

did I miss something? do we have a 14 year old here trying to date an adult?

[babolaypo65]

Originally posted by 2kitties
did I miss something? do we have a 14 year old here trying to date an adult?

The originator of the post, Sweet stormy, is interested in dating someone four years older than her. she is 14 (or almost). last month she posted about an adult wanting to have sex with her. It's rather sad.

[2kitties]

Oh. I didn't put two and two together before.

Nope. Sorry. Bad bad. But I made that point back in the other thread when I said this guy was a weirdo with serious issues.

[tikeyas_mom]

well I am a scary example of a friend who wants to date somone 9 years old them her!! :eek:...

she is 17 and she has been talking to this guy on the internet lately he is 26 :(:(.. They are going to meet, and I really dont want them too. She has never kissed a guy, and she really likes him :eek: how can you like somone you have never met??? :confused:????

I have a friend whos mom is 40 and whos dad is 80 :eek:

I would date somone 4 years older then me, and thats it..

[2kitties]

T_M I think you should suggest to your friend that she wait until she is 18.

[Relentless]

I think it doesn't make a difference as long as its legal, I dated a thirty five year old when I was seventeen(I'm eighteen now), see that would have been illegal if we did anything, but other than that it was the same to me as dating someone my age.

[petlover]

My boyfriend is 14. But, I think that is ok since I am 13. It doesn't really matter there. But, if I Chad ( my boyfriend) was 16 or above, than that would really mess with our relationship. Accually, if Chad was 16 or over, there would be NO relationship. My parents wouldn't allow it, and neither would I. I am glad that Chad is younger though! *faint*




SIGH ..........................:rolleyes:

[G.P.girl]

lol! one or two years makes no difference. i think my boyfriend was 14 and i was 13...until i dumped him. well actually he's still ayear older thanme just he's not my boyfriend so---uhhh nevermind :p

[sweet_stormy]

i dont want to date this guy right now. i know i never will get the chance. but i have read some of the posts that say stuff like someone was 9 years older than u, parents were 40 years apart. i mean, come on. i would never date someone who was over 5 years older than me. no offense to the peeps who date OLDER men or women. its their decision. i just wanted to know what u peeps thought. u know? i know that i would never have a chance with the guy that i like. other guys in his grade say that hes trouble. but he is so nice to me. he sticks up for me when his friends talk bad about me. maybe its just an act, maybe its not. how am i suppost to know? he told me that im not ugly. i just dont know anymore. when someone is nice to u dont u think that its not an act? i mean, unless you personally know that person.

[ramanth]

I agree with most everyone. 14 and 20.... No way. Everyone I dated in High School were in my grade or one grade above. (I was also older than most everyone in my class because I repeated 3rd Grade.) My last ex was 5 years younger and it took me a long time to realize how immature he was. Andy is 5 years older than me. You wouldn't know it by looking at us.

Boys were fun when I was 14..... to beat up on the playground. *evil grin*



Originally posted by tikeyas_mom
she is 17 and she has been talking to this guy on the internet lately he is 26 :(:(.. They are going to meet, and I really dont want them too. She has never kissed a guy, and she really likes him :eek: how can you like somone you have never met??? :confused:????
Suggest that she watch Strangeland. She may just change her mind.

(And if she still insists, make sure they meet in a public place. NEVER meet someone at their home or a motel/hotel.)