My Beloved Cat Died Alone @ Home

[steel]

About 4 weeks ago my beloved 16 y/o female cat threw a blood clot. It passed & then she threw another blood clot last friday. Last sat (2/9/13) she was in her favorite cat house sleeper & she lay her head on her paws & moaned in pain. My phone was having problems so i went next door to use the phone to call my boss & tell her whats going on so i can rush salem to the vet (i was suppose to work). When i got back salem was dead. I was only gone 5 mins. I did not want her to die alone but she did. Now i feel VERY guilty. I know all about nasty blood clots & salem was most likely going to be pts. She was never the same again & her appetite was terrible. I really miss her & have enjoyed her company for over 14 yrs (i adopted her in the fall of 1998). Just last dec 27th my other 16 y/o cat who has been with me since 10/98 died of a mouth tumor. I feel like i lost 2 of my kids (i have no children). I currently have 3 cats ages 7-12 (maybe older) but its much different now. Salem & buddy were top cats here & best of friends. It sure is a lonely feeling. I did bury salem about 2 feet next to buddy. No one including animals should die alone but i know stuff happens. At least salem died in her fav cat house in familiar surroundings. I miss salem & buddy dearly.

[Taz_Zoee]

I've always been told cats prefer to go alone. She probably waited until you were gone to make her journey to see Buddy. Cats always hide when its time to go.
Please do not feel bad. She knows how much you love her and will miss her.

RIP Salem, I hope you and Buddy are having a grand time at the Rainbow Bridge together once again.

[neko1]

I know how you feel and I struggle with the guilt all the time.

I was at work when my cat passed. I shouldn't have left in the morning when he meowed at me, but I had to go to work. He was gone by the time I came home, he passed in the same place I left him.

Everyone says he meowed to say goodbye, but he was the kind of cat that was velcro'd to me and I still feel that I should have been there....

[Karen]

It is okay, do not feel guilty. Salem knew how much you loved her, and that matters more than that last moment. Love lives on, seat never wins.

[pomtzu]

Don't feel guilty - most animals prefer to die alone if they have the ability to do it - domesticated and wild ones alike. I've had 2 cats pass on at home, and they both picked out hiding places in the house to do it. The kids also had rabbits outside in a hutch when they were small, and the last survivor actually chewed thru the wire of the hutch to get out to go off and die. Fortunately I found him before the kids did.
Salem is at peace now and would not want you to feel guilty. I'm sure she knew you were trying to help her and loves you for all of your love and companionship over the years.

RIP Salem :love:

[smokey the elder]

I'm so sorry about your precious Salem.

[steel]

Salem had trouble breathing & was heading towards the back of the tv. I picked her up & held her & then put her in her cat sleeper house. A few mins later she was moaning in terrible pain & died shortly after. I just cant get that moaning out of my head. Salem was always running around the house & very talkative. When i talked on the phone she was often meowing at me. After salem threw the first blood clot her quality of life was not good. She was quiet for a few weeks but when she stopped eating i knew the end was near. I wish i knew about this website. http://www.vin.com/FATCAT/

[phesina]

I am so sorry for your loss of your beloved Salem.

[steel]

Thanks for the posts. Its been 1 week since salem,s death. A neighbor yesterday made a rude comment to me stating that maybe it was a blessing in disguise that my 2 cats died due to my financial situation. That hurt but this lady is always making rude comments to people. Forgive those who cant help themselves.

[moosmom]

I'm so sorry for your loss.

Taz Zoe is right. Cats prefer to be alone. That's why a cat in the wild (and even outdoor pets) runs away to die. It's hard when they're sick and can't tell you.

MooShoo did the same exact thing 3 years ago 2/13. He was only 10. Feels like yesterday.

You are in my thoughts and prayers.

[maerlyn]

I can empathize. Years ago, I took in a neutered male, obviously quite old. I don't remember how long he was with me, but he'd obviously been someone's pet - even the vacuum cleaner didn't bother him! When he became ill, I drove him to the vet. Since he'd already been abandoned at least once in his life, I promised him that I'd bring him home; he wasn't going to be abandoned again! The vet diagnosed FeLV and offered to send him on to the Bridge right then - but I'd promised him I'd bring him home, so home we came. That night, the next - I don't remember - I was fairly certain his time was coming; I made him comfortable in a large carrier and put it beneath an end table. I left a night light on so he wouldn't be in the dark. The next morning, he was gone, but his body was kind of stretched out, as though he might have had a seizure. I felt the same guilt you feel, but that pain was mine - and is yours. "Mr Bojangles" was happy - and Salem is so very happy, too - gloriously alive, perfectly healthy,and blissfully, supremely happy. She holds you no grudge, so why punish yourself? She left on HER terms, not on anyone else's; don't we all wish that for ourselves? Cry and cry and cry - it helps to wash out the pain, but know that your beloved Salem is living in Love, and waiting - ever so happily! - for you. May Salem's Creator bless you with peace.:love:

[catmandu]

I know how you feel as Joseph , Princess, Bo Bo , Moose and Orangie all dies at home and only after I left being by their side to feed the other Ctas or myself. Our Cats do not want us to see them pass on it is not an easy sight to see.
Salem knows how much you loved her and is sad that you are unhappy and wants you to know that she is in a good place where there are Animal Angels all around her and she is wearing her Wings of Silver and Gold now.
Salem is starting her search now for that place in Paradise where you can all be together in love furrever.
One Fine Day:love:

[carole]

I am so sorry to read of the passing of your precious furbaby Salem, please please don't feel guilty, you did your best for your kitty and it was so sad that it happened as it did, but you were not to know, and you were on your way to get help,and as for the most thought less comments from that lady, shame on her, just ignore them, thinking of you at this very sad and difficult time,i hope everyone here can help bring a little comfort to you in your grieving for you darling furbaby,my heart goes out to you. HUGS:love::love:

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[steel]

I appreciate the posts. I talked to a lady last sat who told me her last 3 cats have died at home. They all had kidney failure. Salem was my only cat out of 6 that has died at home. It just bugs me that she suffered her last month of her life. I miss her so damn much. She was quite a cutie & she had a cleft. You often dont realize what you had until its gone. Prior to salem & the blood clot she often drank water, urinated alot & ate alot. She never put on any weight & looked healthy. This went on for a few yrs. I guess it was her time to go but losing 2 cats within 6 weeks was a total shocker.

[phesina]

I am so sorry for you in your grief and pain. Salem knew how much you love her, that you had stepped away to help her, and she loves you always. You are with her in the ways that count, in the heart and soul and spirit. You and she and your others are and will be together, always.

Salem is no longer suffering, she is whole and healthy again, a beautiful Angel, at the Rainbow Bridge, where she will greet you in love to welcome you Home.. One Fine Day.

May your precious memories help to bring you peace and comfort. God bless.

Hugs and purrs to you from Pat and cats :love::love::love::love::love::love::love::love:

[catmandu]

I have a feeling that Our Pets do not become Angels alone:love: that Our Pet Talker Angels come to gather them up and take them to Paradise where they receive their Wings of Silver and Gold:love:
Then they become one of Our Awesome Angels and search for a place where you , Buddy and she can be together in love forever:love:
One Fine Day:love:

[krazyaboutkatz]

I'm very sorry for you loss.:( RIP sweet Salem.:( Please take care. (((HUGS)))

[steel]

Its been a few weeks since salems death & i still think about her & buddy daily. Salem was the talker in the household & i miss that even though she sometimes drove me nuts. You get used to your pets being around & when they die it really is quite devastating.

[Sindy]

God knows what we can handle and He was close to your baby leading him to Rainbow bridge. I am so sorry. (((Hugs))))

[renopithicus]

About 4 weeks ago my beloved 16 y/o female cat threw a blood clot. It passed & then she threw another blood clot last friday. Last sat (2/9/13) she was in her favorite cat house sleeper & she lay her head on her paws & moaned in pain. My phone was having problems so i went next door to use the phone to call my boss & tell her whats going on so i can rush salem to the vet (i was suppose to work). When i got back salem was dead. I was only gone 5 mins. I did not want her to die alone but she did. Now i feel VERY guilty. I know all about nasty blood clots & salem was most likely going to be pts. She was never the same again & her appetite was terrible. I really miss her & have enjoyed her company for over 14 yrs (i adopted her in the fall of 1998). Just last dec 27th my other 16 y/o cat who has been with me since 10/98 died of a mouth tumor. I feel like i lost 2 of my kids (i have no children). I currently have 3 cats ages 7-12 (maybe older) but its much different now. Salem & buddy were top cats here & best of friends. It sure is a lonely feeling. I did bury salem about 2 feet next to buddy. No one including animals should die alone but i know stuff happens. At least salem died in her fav cat house in familiar surroundings. I miss salem & buddy dearly.

First, I'm very sorry for your loss. Second, you have absolutely nothing to feel guilty about. You were doing what you thought (and what I think any rational person would have thought) was in your cat's best interest. You were trying to help her. She knew that you loved her and I'm sure she loved you right back. It's wonderful that you had each other for so long, though of course I know how much it hurts now. Please know that our thoughts are with you!!!!