Who should I get?

[tokolosh]

I'm placing this in the rescue forum because I do feel strongly about choosing a shelter or rescue cat, and because I figure experienced rescue people will be able to offer the best advice, insight, suggestions etc.

Assuming we are allowed to get ourselves another cat, I've been thinking almost full time about what kind of cat (personality) to go for and also how to recognise those personality traits when I see them. My history here is almost a problem. We had family cats all through my childhood, but that was a while ago :D And I wasn't the primary caregiver then so I didn't have the ultimate responsibility for their wellbeing. As an adult I've adopted one cat, and she turned out to be such a total keeper I've never really had to assess or negotiate 'consciously' choosing a cat. I tend to forget this and say grandly I've never met a cat I didn't like, but in fact it's not true. I have encountered a (very) few cats I truly disliked. And I've met quite a few I liked fine just because they were cats, but I didn't feel that I'd ever develop that heart-tugging affinity with them. Some very mellow, very easy going cats have even struck me as kind of boring .

I guess I just worry about ending up with one of those second types of cat. If I take someone, I don't think I could muster the gall to return them just because they weren't 'special' enough to climb right into my heart. I'd dump a guy for not being special enough, but not a cat ;) I'd keep them and take care of them (scritches and cuddles and all, along with the food and the vet care). But of course I want both me and my son to be in love.

So here are my worries, in no special order.

- I think we like shy cats. I'm introverted, my son's introverted; we just have a natural empathy for introverts who come with fur. I'd rather give the love and attention and home to someone who isn't assertive enough to swagger right out there and grab it all for themselves. I go for the ones who are a little unsure they really are special enough to be loved and then bloom slowly when they discover they are. And/or someone who's unsure how they'll be treated until they find out they can trust us. We're both very quiet, very 'gentle' people and my son's practically a cat whisperer, but still . . . . my worry with this is that I'll end up with someone who's too shy even to warm up with US, or too skittery ever to settle down. I don't want to adopt someone who never will be at ease with cuddles and scritches and make us all unhappy with attempts to change that. Or someone who will be so nervous we have to tiptoe around our own home. I do have that neurotic landlord to worry about. I just feel like we can't really afford another cat who resorts too easily to trauma-peeing when you vacuum too many times in one week. Is there a set of behaviour hints I can look for to find the line here?

- I think I want a cat who's had a hard time up till now - either stray, or abandoned/given up by earlier families. I just kind of 'feel' it as a fairness thing. I also feel better with someone who's got some 'outside' smarts. Not that I'd sling the cat outside and close all the doors if it wanted to stay inside all its life, but we live at ground level, and windows and doors MUST be opened. So anyone we get will have access to the great outdoors, and I'd rather it knew what the great outdoors is. But at the same time I feel like we need a cat who WILL bond with us once we take it. If I had one of those walkabout cats who vanish for days or weeks at a time I think I'd fret myself down to the bone. Again, things to look for?

- Finally, we are unreasonable. Cat-having for us is an interactive thing. We definitely need to trade cuddles and scritches and head-bumps, and spend a certain amount of our lives with a cat on our laps. (I also have an unfulfilled yen for one of those cats who follow you around and natter at you about their whole day. Limpet was lovely and very interactive with us, but she was just like my son: silent when happy and only remembered she had a voice when she had rights to read us. The 'but' on this one is I don't think I can deal with one of those velcro cats who never leave you alone. I worry about getting a cat whose needs are greater than what I can meet. It's such a cycle - the more you resist the more they need, so the more you resist etc etc. Are there ways of predicting a cat who will be actively happy person-time but also intends to have its own life?

My problem is basically that I'm spoiled rotten and maybe don't deserve a new cat at all. We had a Formative Cat who was stuffed to the eyeballs with personality but also happened to be almost insanely sweet. Now I'm just plain spoiled. No other cat will be Limpet and I truly know that. I want all the personality all over again, but I don't want that to mislead me into adopting someone who would be better off with someone more experienced, more patient, with more spare time to give . . . When I read that over it does sound like I'm being unreasonable.

Thoughts? Experiences, anecdotes, insights? Advice?

[Karen]

Your story makes me think of my sister-in-law's beloved Miss Sofi - http://CatoftheDay.com/archive/2000/December/06.html - she was very shy and withdrawn from being at the shelter so long just because she was a black cat and hard to see in the shadows, but she became just the most spoiled loved - and still is Diva kitty, never loud, but always gets her way.

Maybe a kitty like her would be right for you to bring home to love?

(No Sofi, I understand, there is no other kitty like you, I know ...)

[chocolatepuppy]

tokolosh, it seems I just adopted the cat you want, my Tessa. Sorry, I'm keeping her!:D I know what you're saying, you want a certain cat that 'acts' a certain way. It also seems you're also aware, with cats, you get what you get!;)
Good luck with your new kitty/cat, no matter his/her personality I'm sure you will love it just the same. It seems the only way to get just the cat you want is to have a few. All three of my cats have different ways about them.:)

[jenluckenbach]

I TOTALLY understand that you want what you want. But with that said, I (as a foster mom to rescue cats) would be leary to adopt to you. If only for the fact that I could never guarrentee how an animal will behave in another's home. I could only tell you how said cat behaves in MY home.

Which is a clue to where you should start looking. Contact a rescue group who's cats live in foster homes. These people should know their cats' pesonalities the best. A lot better than cats who live inside a cage all day.

The second best type of rescue is where the cats live free-roaming in a building/room. At least then you can go and sit with them and interact with them in their own environment. They will act more like themselves than if they were just released from a cage to meet with you.

I agree whole heartedly that shy cats are wonderful pets. The feeling of joy one gets as they blossom, is without description. I have several cats like that myself, but each and everyone of them will only develop to the best of their abilities and there are no guarrentees.

I wish you much luck and happiness in your search.

[Freedom]

I TOTALLY understand that you want what you want. But with that said, I (as a foster mom to rescue cats) would be leary to adopt to you. If only for the fact that I could never guarrentee how an animal will behave in another's home. I could only tell you how said cat behaves in MY home.


I agree. Plus, many of the cats I took in to foster needed time to adapt. Unless I'd had them a year (by which time I had adopted them myself), I really couldn't tell you what they will be like.




I agree whole heartedly that shy cats are wonderful pets. The feeling of joy one gets as they blossom, is without description. I have several cats like that myself, but each and everyone of them will only develop to the best of their abilities and there are no guarrentees.

I have 3 who still, after 3 years, are working on "blossoming." ;)

[moosmom]

Jenlukenbach,

YOU hit the nail on the head. I agree that people want, what they want, WHEN they want it. That's the sad part these days. That's when pets wind up in shelters. :( Or dumped when the pet doesn't meet their expectations.

I adopted B@D @$$ Buddy to a guy named Hal, who wanted to mold him into his beloved RB kitty. Well, BAB wound up being swatted with a newspaper (he would cower whenever hal picked one up) and OVER squirted for doing what what comes naturally, wanting to be high up!!! BAB would knock stuff off the mantle, scratch in inappropriate places (he had NOT cat scratcher!!). After 6 months, I pulled Buddy. He's now at my house, happy as a clam!!!

I wish you luck, Tokolosh.

[tokolosh]

Jenlukenbach,

YOU hit the nail on the head. I agree that people want, what they want, WHEN they want it. That's the sad part these days. That's when pets wind up in shelters. :( Or dumped when the pet doesn't meet their expectations.

I should point out that I don't intend to mould anyone. If I thought I could do that you wouldn't be reading this thread. I'd just march in, grab whoever looked good to me for some shallow reason, and blame the cat for all incompatibilities once I had them at home. My point is more that I know well we're a specific kind of person and a specific kind of household, and I have some sense of where our show-stoppers are. I'm trying to be responsible about it. I'm worried about mistakenly picking a cat who wouldn't be 100% happy with us whatever we did, who could have been happier in a different home. And peeing . . . well, I can't see how it would help the cat either if the entire gang of us ended up living in a cardboard box on the street.


Which is a clue to where you should start looking. Contact a rescue group who's cats live in foster homes. These people should know their cats' pesonalities the best. A lot better than cats who live inside a cage all day.

Great advice, thanks. I've actually been in touch with a few but they don't seem to be feasible for our situation. They either insist on indoor-only - I get their point, it's just that I can't promise it - or they're winding down operations, or never return their phone messages. I've been going to the local SPCA and spending repeated time with a specific cat to give it time to make up its mind about me. I found one who was an utter charmer, but very shy after coming from a household where she was being bullied by the other cats. She'd sit in the back of her cage and chirrup at me for scritches, but at first she wouldn't approach to get them. The last time I saw her (Sunday) she was warming up. It took a while before someone came to unlock her cage, and she was leaning on the bars the whole time, begging for me to stroke her through them :D I would have taken her just based on that progress (permission being granted), only her profile has vanished online so I think someone else suddenly noticed what a honey she was and got her first.

[cassiesmom]

The second best type of rescue is where the cats live free-roaming in a building/room. At least then you can go and sit with them and interact with them in their own environment. They will act more like themselves than if they were just released from a cage to meet with you.




I adopted my kitty from a no-cage shelter. Her personality (purr-sonality?) continued to develop for a long time after she came to live with me. Sometimes I think it's still a work in progress! She has never been a lap cat and it took me a long time to realize that I would never be able to make her into one. I'm sure any kitty you adopt will be a wonderful addition to your family.

[jenluckenbach]

They either insist on indoor-only -

It is true, many (if not most) rescues require this. (at least in the USA).

As for those that don't return phone calls, try using email. You might get better, faster response. At least this in my experience.

Take time to read the profiles of cats at shelters in your area posted on www.petfinder.com. Not all rescues take the time to really descibe each cat, but those that DO take the time make your search a bit easier.

[Freedom]

Seriously, if you can't keep a cat as indoor only, do everyone favor and get a stuffed animal.

I'm sorry but that is how I feel about it. The life span for an outdoor, or indoor / outdoor cat is just too short, and filled with pain. Cats have been domesticated and are not able to care for themselves outdoors.

[tokolosh]

Seriously, if you can't keep a cat as indoor only, do everyone favor and get a stuffed animal.

I understand people feel strongly about this. I'm not sure if you intended to be as rude as you sound or it was an accident though.

Here's the way I look at it. There are gazillions of cats (unofficial count) who don't have homes of their own, and there are not a gazillion people who want or can care for a cat. Nor will there ever be. Still less are there a gazillion homes that perfectly match every possible criterion for a 'perfect environment'. And there's a critical shortage of shelter space for all the overflow cats. There is no livable way for me to keep a cat indoors all the time if it's really determined to spend time outside, but what I can do is provide it with good food, shelter, clean water, affection, warmth, play time, scritching, protection from the elements plus many dangers and fears, socialization, gentleness and space of its own within its own home, comprehensive medical coverage and attention to any medical needs it might have through the course of its life. If you think that same cat would be better off and live longer taking up a shelter space that could be used by some other cat that's permanently - and without any choice in the matter - out on the street, that's your prerogative. But I guess I just don't grok that logic. Maybe every stray/feral cat where you live gets a shelter space, no matter what. And maybe every shelter cat where you live finds a home within a humane timeframe. That's not how it works here. Even in no-kill shelter they get depressed, they get sick and they die - sooner than they probably would if they were adopted out to even someone like myself who (horrors) leaves her windows open when it gets real hot.

I dunno. I let my cat Limpet go outside if she wanted to - and she did. On the other hand, I paid insurance premiums for her her entire life, and most people I know who have pets don't. But that directly influences the length and quality of a cat's life as well. I really can't see how I'm less worthy than someone who seals her home like a fortress but has to choose euthanasia at the local ER for no other reason than because they just can't afford whatever care the cat needs.

[mrspunkysmom]

I don't think you are being unreasonable. You have some concerns that need to be addressed and resolved.

I think you are rushing this. Take your time choosing a cat or two. One might choose you down the way a way and it will work. I've only chosen a cat once. The other 4 are rescues, so to speak.

AS for outsides cat - outside is dangerous. Perhaps you can find a cat that hasn't been out much and prefers indoors. My Jane was a throwaway who found her way to my porch. She refuses to go out and moves away from the door when I open it.

What do you mean by "all window and doors MUST be opened?" Do you have screens or are other animals and assorted bugs allowed to wander in? And you can buy screens to fit in open windows that have no outside screen.

AS far as cats wanting outside - Sometimes cats think they want outside. Spunky and Sam think they want outside. They love the window view and love chasing bugs. But outside is not safe. I say 'no', and they have learned to accept it.

Have you ever seen a bird dive-bomb a cat? The birds might be prey but they come with defenses.

I have invested in cat trees indoors. It gives them plenty to do and allows them to be up high without damaging my furniture.

Take your time. It will work towards yours and the cat's benefit.


I'm placing this in the rescue forum because I do feel strongly about choosing a shelter or rescue cat, and because I figure experienced rescue people will be able to offer the best advice, insight, suggestions etc.

. . . . . I also feel better with someone who's got some 'outside' smarts. Not that I'd sling the cat outside and close all the doors if it wanted to stay inside all its life, but we live at ground level, and windows and doors MUST be opened. So anyone we get will have access to the great outdoors, and I'd rather it knew what the great outdoors is. But at the same time I feel like we need a cat who WILL bond with us once we take it. If I had one of those walkabout cats who vanish for days or weeks at a time I think I'd fret myself down to the bone. Again, things to look for?

. . . . . .being unreasonable.

Thoughts? Experiences, anecdotes, insights? Advice?

[tokolosh]

I don't think you are being unreasonable. You have some concerns that need to be addressed and resolved.

I think you are rushing this.

I think you are right. But at this point all I'm rushing is the thinking aspect - and possibly overthinking the entire process, since that's how I tend to operate about certain things. Weeks of agonizing, then a split decision that always turns out to be one I never question again, once it's made :) And it's partly just my way of still keeping 'cat space' in my head - thinking about theoretical cats is better than not thinking about cats at all.


One might choose you down the way a way and it will work. I've only chosen a cat once.

Yup. My sister mentioned that she acquires cats almost accidentally, recently. She's a drooling slave to the ones that she has, but she doesn't analyse any of it very much. I analyse the snot out of things, but I seem to actually acquire my cats by coup de foudre.


What do you mean by "all window and doors MUST be opened?" I hope I didn't say 'all'. Although we have do two people with two bedrooms, and both of us do need air. Screens are something that actually never occurred to me, so I can look into that. But doors must be opened at least a few times each day so the humans can go in and out. Kibbles don't just walk through the letter box all by themselves, you know ;)


Spunky and Sam think they want outside. They love the window view and love chasing bugs. But outside is not safe. I say 'no', and they have learned to accept it.

To be honest, that's not the definition of 'determined' I'm trying to think ahead for. When we got Limpet we were full of great plans to keep her indoors all the time, and we fully intended to do it. She loved all three of us so much we imagined it couldn't be hard and we loved her so much we didn't want a single raindrop to fall on her. We HAD to keep her indoors for about five months anyway. First she was sick when she came to us, then she came into heat, then we had her spayed (SPCA hadn't done it when we got her, and she was so anaemic and ill we had to get her better before it was safe) and there was stitches drama that added on several more weeks (they eventually had to super-glue her incision closed and add stitches and a cone) on top of that. Even when she was well again we kept on trying. We got her before Christmas and we didn't give up well into the summer of the following year.

During all of that time we NEVER got her reconciled to the idea. Never even got close. Every entrance and exit from the house was like a SWAT team operation with three people involved. We literally had to pick one person to go in or out first, range the other two behind that one with hands at the ready to grab, and then the first one had to smear themselves all over the crack in the door (to block her access) and open it and move through with their body pressed between doorjamb and door like toothpaste leaving a tube. Please believe I'm not exaggerating this. Even then she often got through the gaps around the legs while the torso was passing through. With groceries or anything that tied up your hands or forced you to open the door wider than a human body, forget it. And it did not let up. When I think about it now, I get this image of her getting a single elbow into a tiny crack and then levering until she's achieved her escape :D

She had full access to huge windows from every room and both floors of the house, height, spiders to murder, tons of space, lots to play with - all the mitigations and compensations we could think of. She made it real clear she was ecstatic to live with us and intended to stay until the sky fell, and all she ever wanted to do out there was take a quick prowl through her turf and come straight home again to her laps. After trying for all those months and getting nowhere we could have returned her rather than keep living under conditions like that, I guess, but we didn't.

I do understand that outside is safer than the inside. This is turning into a whole polarized debate, but all I intended to say was that IF I find myself with another determined Houdini like that, I would feel better about its chances if it had some ability to handle the hazards out there. And I just don't like making promises I don't know for sure I can keep, so I'm not prepared to sign those 'I will keep this cat indoors all its life' papers some shelters want.

[pomtzu]

I understand people feel strongly about this. I'm not sure if you intended to be as rude as you sound or it was an accident though.


Just as an FYI - Freedom doesn't have so much as an ounce of rudeness in her - unlike me! :eek::p:D

And from my past experiences with cats - all indoors - it's not that difficult to keep them indoors - you just have to let them know who's boss. You aren't going to break their spirit by doing this, and eventually they will get the message. If you do want one that is able to explore outside on occasion, then get a harness and put it on a leash and take it for walks. It isn't all that difficult to train a cat to walk on a leash, and that way, kitty can have the best of both worlds.

[Moesha]

I'm going to agree here with tokolosh. Keeping a cat inside that is determined to go outside is next to impossible. I think we all agree that outside isn't the safest place for animals, but as was mentioned earlier, outside under supervision or for brief periods with a way back inside is a much better alternative than what some kitties experience. I know the risks are higher for shorter lifespan and other dangers, but sometimes that is the reality. Morgan was a strictly inside cat and when I got Aroara, that was the plan with her. She definitely had other ideas. My house was in the country with woods and fields and those things tempted her way too much to keep her inside all the time. Plus she is terribly destructive in trying to get outside. I could take photos of the carpet and doors for you. She has her routine. That is the main reason that when I moved into a new house, I had to leave her at my parents. She would be miserable if she couldn't go outside, and she would make me miserable. And I couldn't let her go outside at all here safely. So I get visitation and pay child support and she lives at my parents' house.

Also, I completely agree with the over analyzing of what to do about a new cat. Along with my new house, I inherited a cat. My grandmother had to move to assisted living, so I'm in her house and with her cat. He is neurotic to say the least. But then living with her for his first 4 years didn't help. We've made great progress in the last 7 months or so, but I miss normal kitties so much! I have had dozens of kitties and know they all have their own personalities. Morgan was the absolute best kitty I could ever imagine. And I know that I'll never get another one like him. And it isn't fair to kitties to expect them to be like him either. But being with Tommy isn't what I'm used to either. I do go home to visit and play with my kitties there, but I've seriously been thinking of getting another one for here. I've been running through all the possibilities in my head similar to what you've mentioned and haven't come up with a solution yet either. I guess I'll just keep my eyes and ears opened and when I see someone that is desperate for a home, I'll adopt. A few towns away from me there was a call from the humane society that they had over 300 cats and kittens. I desperately wanted to go and pick one out, but then I got anxiety picturing myself trying to decide on just one. I'd feel guilty about not taking them all. So I didn't go. And now I feel guilty about that. I know that I'll help some needy kitty eventually. Anyway, the point of this was to say that I completely understand all sides of all the issues here. And I don't think it is fair for any one of us to judge another one of us. We're all here for the love of animals, particularly cats being discussed here. I hope everyone remembers that. And I also hope that when you make your decision, you'll be willing to share that and lots of pictures with us!

[krazyaboutkatz]

From what you have said that you don't want then I know you shouldn't even consider a Siamese type of cat. My cat Pearl is only a Siamese mix and she's very needy and clingy towards me. My cat Sky used to try to door dash and he would cry to be let out when I first adopted him. I live in a condo complex and we can't have outdoor cats at all. Over time Sky learned to love the indoors and now he doesn't door dash any more. I do open up my sliding glass door so they can all smell the outdoors. It has another door with a pet screen on it so bugs stay out and the cats can't get out either. My windows also have pet screens on them so I don't have to worry about a cat falling out of my window. I live on the second floor.

I've found that as far as personalities, laid back, easy going, goofy cats have been the best for me. For some reason orange male cats seem to have these personalities. Also some cats like my Ziggy Stardust, take several years before they actually show their true personalities. She was a loner and now she finally comes to me for pets and scritches and she sometimes wants to sleep with me at night.:) Not all cats are lap cats. Storm will only sit between my legs and will only be on my lap if he feels threatened or scared by someone or something. He doesn't like to be held either. Sky has never been a lap cat but he's the friendliest cat that I have and he loves people. He's my kitty/dog. I can hold him for maybe a few minutes or so. Pearl loves to be in my lap but she doesn't like to be held. Ziggy will sometimes sit between my legs but has never been a lap cat and she also hates to be held. Alani loves to be held and he must have his daily hugs. He also loves to be on my lap. He's quite the love bug. Blaze will tolerate being held but he also loves to be on my lap.

I know you can never replace your former cat but you may be able to find a cat with similar qualities. I hope that you'll be able to find that special cat and that your landlord will allow you to have another cat. I would recommend looking at petfinder. This is where I found Alani & Blaze. Good luck.:)

[mrspunkysmom]

I tried to take Spunky on a leash walk and it was torture for him and hell for me. It's just best to not let him outside. Sam is an escape artist with harnesses. Limber as all get-out.

Cats use a different part of their brain when outside. It something spooks them, you cannot predict their actions and they will not listen to you. So mine stay indoors.

My mother had a cat that preferred outside and was adamant about it. Snow disappeared. My Pepper did too, but I lived on a huge acreage then.

Whether a cat prefers inside or outside might be due in part to how much of their early years was spent outside. On the other hand, my Maggie was part of litter from an acquired feral that also produced Hortense, an astoundingly beautiful Calico. Hortense, even at 6 weeks, hated indoors and took off, yet Maggie when brought in decided that she was in heaven and I took her home with me.

Go figure.

And I was thinking about getting another cat for a while, but I knew that if I did, I would have to turn away a rescue that showed up. Sure enough in June, I rescued two that were being tossed because their owner need to move on with her life.

[tokolosh]

From what you have said that you don't want then I know you shouldn't even consider a Siamese type of cat.

I've heard the kind of stories from Siamese owners that make me think they're glorious cats - but for me, better enjoyed as a spectator :D There was a British woman called Doreen Tovey when I was a kid who wrote several books about her life with a sibling pair and their mother, plus other animals over the years. If you ever luck out and find one in a second-hand store, GRAB IT. Even though I don't think I would be right for a Siamese, she made me love the idea of them anyway.


My cat Pearl is only a Siamese mix and she's very needy and clingy towards me.

Yes, exactly. I have to earn the money and deal with the mail and cook the food and all that, so I just don't have enough cling time available to be best for a cat like that. My dad had a cat at his house when I was in college who was like that, and it was sad. It just never seemed like any amount of attention would be enough to settle her down, and I found I just couldn't help it - I started almost disliking her, guilt and all, because she made me feel so cornered and so despairing. She came to seem to me like a bottomless hole. It just wouldn't be fair for me to take someone and end up feeling like I was being pressured by them all the time when they're just trying to get what they need.

On the other hand, with Limpet we did understand we were critically important to her. She had her own stuff she liked to do as well, but we knew she really did need us to be there and consistent and reassuring for her all the time. She was very like what they say about Russians - friendly curious cats, but they do bond to one set of people and once it's set the bond is the principal thing in their lives. She was fine when she knew we were there and she was with us, which was almost all of the time. But if something happened to unsettle her then we knew she'd need extra reassurance. I'm okay with that, maybe even better than okay because I have such empathy for it. I did notice that once she passed 10 or 11 she seemed to lose some of that confidence and become more timid and more easily rattled.


I've found that as far as personalities, laid back, easy going, goofy cats have been the best for me. For some reason orange male cats seem to have these personalities.

I went and answered this on the other thread where you sent a reply, so I won't repeat myself here. Thanks for all your input :)

[Catty1]

Doreen Tovey! I LOVED those books!:D Cats in the Belfry etc! http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Doreen_Tovey

[tokolosh]

We've made great progress in the last 7 months or so, but I miss normal kitties so much!

There you go. If you ever had one cat you really truly loved, it's just not the same to have cats you're merely fond of, no matter how fond of them you might be. I am fond of cats. They do make me happy. I really like consciously choosing how I interact with them so they're happy too. And I want to allocate the available space in my family for a new cat somewhere where it will make a difference. But at heart I'm not a full-on full-time rescuer or foster-person.


I've been running through all the possibilities in my head similar to what you've mentioned and haven't come up with a solution yet either. I guess I'll just keep my eyes and ears opened and when I see someone that is desperate for a home, I'll adopt.

I have hope so I'm trying to have patience too. There's a guy on a mail-list I belong to who had a cat with a huge personality and clearly it was his primary 'person' in life. When it died over a year ago he pretty much shut himself down, cat-wise. And this is an extremely intelligent, strong-willed person :) But then his cousin came to live with him while he waits to emigrate, and the cousin has a cat of his own . . . it's been really funny and really sweet watching this guy resist the cat, when it's so obvious his goose was cooked the moment that cat came through the door. Johan can call it 'the current cat' and 'the resident cat' all he likes - the cat knows what it knows. I wouldn't bet an old hairball on the chances that cat is going to Holland with its 'owner' when the time comes.


I desperately wanted to go and pick one out, but then I got anxiety picturing myself trying to decide on just one. I'd feel guilty about not taking them all. So I didn't go. And now I feel guilty about that.

I go down to the local shelter and hang out with them. Give the ones who want it attention and stroking and some social time, waiting for that lightning to strike me again. I get overwhelmed too. I don't want to reject anycat. I just don't like having to say 'this one's lovely, but . . . '.



And I also hope that when you make your decision, you'll be willing to share that and lots of pictures with us!

Oh, you'll never hear the end of it. :) Whoever we get will be completely gorgeous.

[tokolosh]

Doreen Tovey! I LOVED those books!:D Cats in the Belfry etc! http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Doreen_Tovey

BEAM BEAM BEAM BEAM BEAM. Wasn't she wonderful? I have Cats In May - one of the last ones, where Solomon died. I can't imagine how that must have hurt her. I paid a freaking fortune for that book and I only wish I could find more of them to spend more fortunes on. She made me love those cats - and almost feel them - so much. She had such an ability to get inside their heads and tell things in their 'voices' without being cutesy or coy about it, so you laughed until you couldn't crawl, but also felt such empathy for them, like you completely understood things from their point of view. I loved how she'd call him Old Bat Ears sometimes.

And oh boy, those were cats with personality. Maybe that's what my problem is. I got wrecked by Doreen Tovey and her spectacular cats, and I just don't feel like I've got the wiring to be completely happy with a 'normal' cat anymore. Or maybe it was all just her, being so perceptive and empathetic with them. Could be she could raise any cat to that kind of status just by noticing things and describing them. But she sure had an influence on me.

I read somewhere that the Russian gene pool had to be 'retrieved' by back-breeding from Siamese at some point, and maybe I'm kidding myself. But I always felt like Limpet had some Siamesey-type traits. Her voice, when she used it, was a real shocker coming from such a neat sweet little cat. She had that cracked wail that could drill through concrete. When she told you off, you KNEW you were being told off.

[mathteach]

We recently lost our dear Princess and needed a new kitty to fill the void. We got so lucky with our Bentley. He was a rescue. We knew that we could only afford one more kitty. We already had Butler, age 2. We didn't want to separate 2 or more kitties sleeping together at the shelter. So we looked for a loner. Bentley was sleeping alone in the litter box so we picked him up and knew right there and then, we needed him and he needed us. Butler, my husband, and I love him. It was just luck! good luck to you.