My divorce is going to court...Update Mar 11

[Queen of Poop]

After receiving his ridiculous settlement offer we are going to court. Later in January I must be questioned by his lawyer for a thing called discovery. A couple days later he will be questioned by my lawyer. Apparently this questioning can take 6 hours. Anyone been thru this before? I'm really wondering what will be asked.

[NicoleLJ]

Sorry I have no advice or experience for you. I think it might be to discover what posessions there are to be divided, maybe? See if one of you is hiding something from the other.

I am filing for my divorce hopefully at the end of January. Sending you hugs your way and prayers that all goes well.

[Catty1]

Cataholic would know the meaning of the term...my best guess is that it means 'discovering' the facts, in this case the financial disclosure.

From what you have said, your lawyer is getting ready to really enjoy her side of this! ;):D

[wombat2u2004]

After receiving his ridiculous settlement offer we are going to court. Later in January I must be questioned by his lawyer for a thing called discovery. A couple days later he will be questioned by my lawyer. Apparently this questioning can take 6 hours. Anyone been thru this before? I'm really wondering what will be asked.

Here you go........

http://family.findlaw.com/divorce/divorce-process/divorce-discovery.html

I find it odd tho, that you are to be subjected to questioning by HIS lawyer.
That doesn't happen here downunder. HIS lawyer may ask information from YOUR lawyer, who in turn asks you for that information.

[Pinot's Mom]

{{{hugs}}} - hoping all goes well in this process.

[Queen of Poop]

Thanks all, and thanks Wom. Really good info there. We've already supplied all the documentation, did that a year ago.

[happylabs]

You should ask your lawyer these questions if you are paying him/her. I would think also that your lawyer should be present for the discovery. I live in Pennsylvania and we did not do that when I went through my divorce.

The two attorneys talked between themselves and I believe my lawyer asked me questions and she filled out the papers while I was there in her office.

Make sure you have a divorce lawyer, one that handles divorces on a regular basis. Never get a general lawyer for anything important.

I work in the legal system as a secretary to a administrative law judge for the state.

I wish you well. It is not easy. It has been 8 years since I went through mine. The ex left me for his old college girlfriend. If there are things you feel strongly about keeping, be firm. I didn't back down and ended up with the house, my car and $600.00 a month child support. All he cared about was being with the girlfriend.

Good luck!

[Cataholic]

QoP- I am always happy to answer, privately, any questions you might have. I have reason to believe the litigation process is similar in the US and Canada. Not identical, but similar.

Litigation is in stages. First is the pleading stage- Complaint (or Petition), Answer, Cross claims (if applicable). Everyone is setting up their case- in very broad, and yet to be proven- terms.

After the pleading stage, the litigation moves into the discovery process. As someone pointed out, it does mean to 'discover' what opposing parties cases are about. I believe that Canada is an 'adverserial' system, like the US, but doesn't allow 'trial by ambush' (I think GB allows that). So, when the parties go to trial, everyone knows what everyone intends to introduce as evidence. They get that information in the discovery process. Generally, the discovery process starts with written discovery, called interrogatories (questions) and request for production of documents. In a divorce case, the documents would prolly be the focus- pay stubs, last years earnings record, debts, assets, mortgage amount on house, etc.

After written discovery, most of the time it moves into depositions. I think you meant you are going to be [I]deposed[I] in your original post. That is the time where you are placed under oath/affirmation, and the other attorney gets to ask you questions, and you provide answers. Then your attorney does the same thing. 6 hours seems super, duper long. BUT, I always tell people I am the fastest depo taker in the universe. I don't ask those usual questions, the ones I don't really care about. I have had clients deposed, for personal injury lawsuits in which the other attorney talks about their entire education....I mean all the way back. Whatever for, I don't know.

So, you are probably being deposed, and your attorney would be able to guide you in this process. I normally prep my people an hour or two, plus send them home with some light reading material about the general dos and don'ts. I am in no way saying your attorney should do this, that what I do is better, etc. I am not providing you legal advice, I am not licensed to practice outside my own state, this does not constitute a legal relationship, etc. Just some general, basic comments on the litigation process.

[Queen of Poop]

QoP- I am always happy to answer, privately, any questions you might have. I have reason to believe the litigation process is similar in the US and Canada. Not identical, but similar.

Litigation is in stages. First is the pleading stage- Complaint (or Petition), Answer, Cross claims (if applicable). Everyone is setting up their case- in very broad, and yet to be proven- terms.

After the pleading stage, the litigation moves into the discovery process. As someone pointed out, it does mean to 'discover' what opposing parties cases are about. I believe that Canada is an 'adverserial' system, like the US, but doesn't allow 'trial by ambush' (I think GB allows that). So, when the parties go to trial, everyone knows what everyone intends to introduce as evidence. They get that information in the discovery process. Generally, the discovery process starts with written discovery, called interrogatories (questions) and request for production of documents. In a divorce case, the documents would prolly be the focus- pay stubs, last years earnings record, debts, assets, mortgage amount on house, etc.

After written discovery, most of the time it moves into depositions. I think you meant you are going to be [I]deposed[I] in your original post. That is the time where you are placed under oath/affirmation, and the other attorney gets to ask you questions, and you provide answers. Then your attorney does the same thing. 6 hours seems super, duper long. BUT, I always tell people I am the fastest depo taker in the universe. I don't ask those usual questions, the ones I don't really care about. I have had clients deposed, for personal injury lawsuits in which the other attorney talks about their entire education....I mean all the way back. Whatever for, I don't know.

So, you are probably being deposed, and your attorney would be able to guide you in this process. I normally prep my people an hour or two, plus send them home with some light reading material about the general dos and don'ts. I am in no way saying your attorney should do this, that what I do is better, etc. I am not providing you legal advice, I am not licensed to practice outside my own state, this does not constitute a legal relationship, etc. Just some general, basic comments on the litigation process.

My lawyer called it discovery, but you're description of deposed is right on to what is going to be done. My lawyer told me to chill and we will go thru it all in early January to be ready for the 24th. However, I over-think and over-stress over EVERYTHING. And thought if I could get an earlier idea I wouldn't make my IBS any worse with the additional stress. The worst part for me really is that he will be in the room. Thank you so much for your explanation.

[NicoleLJ]

My lawyer called it discovery, but you're description of deposed is right on to what is going to be done. My lawyer told me to chill and we will go thru it all in early January to be ready for the 24th. However, I over-think and over-stress over EVERYTHING. And thought if I could get an earlier idea I wouldn't make my IBS any worse with the additional stress. The worst part for me really is that he will be in the room. Thank you so much for your explanation.

Remember one thing. You are strong. You survived and that proves you are strong. You are intelligent and capable. You can do this and face him because you are all of those things.

[K9karen]

I was deposed with my dog bite case. The dog owner was there with his lawyer also. I just told the truth as I remembered. My lawyer prepped me also, reminded me to say "yes" or "no" and DON'T speak unless asked a question. No head nods. I convinced myself to stay strong. It was emotional. There were times I wanted to cry or interrupt the defendant, but of course I didn't. I sat at a huge table and was able to squeeze my lawyer's thigh under the table, (really) when I felt myself starting to spaz. :rolleyes: (I had to call his wife and explain his bruises!!! :D)

I'm like you, I worry. Take a deep breath. Your "ex" won't be able to talk back to you. You'll be fine. I looked at it as "what right is right and justice will prevail". And it did. HUGS

[Alysser]

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Love,
Alyssa & Mikey :love:

[krazyaboutkatz]

I hope that everything will go well. Good luck.:)

[Queen of Poop]

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Love,
Alyssa & Mikey :love:

Awwwww, can I print this? I'll keep it with me during the "ordeal". You two are so awesome!!!!

[Alysser]

Awwwww, can I print this? I'll keep it with me during the "ordeal". You two are so awesome!!!!

Of course, hey if I can help in anyway and this is it I say go for it. We got your back, and by "we" - I mean the whole forum. :)

[rosethecopycat]

My thoughts will be with you.

I am so thankful that I 'got out' so cleanly. (It wasn't me who wanted out though- to clarify)

I hope all of our dear PT friends realize all the struggles we are still facing, even one year later. It has so many facets, emotional, psychological, financial, legal.
It is just draining.

All the best Gayle. :love:

[Catty1]

Thinking of you, Gayle - good luck!

rose, how are you? I don't want to hijack Gayle's post, just haven't "seen" you for a while.

[carole]

Gayle just want to offer you my support, and hope that all goes well for you.

As a fellow IBS sufferer, have you heard of a medication called gastro-soothe, it is for IBS, and can be bought over the counter, i was given it on prescription by my doctor, it may have a different name over there though, i always take it when traveling and it works, don't know if it is a mind over matter thing or not, but don't care it does the job, i am not worried about traveling when i take it, and so the vicious cycle does not begin.

Also since i have been on a low fat diet most of the time,my episodes are almost nil, only when i break free from the low fat and have some nawtee times, so something to consider.

Again best of luck with your difficult situation, just remember you have done nothing wrong, and be strong and confident, i wish you well.

[Marigold2]

Go in proud and go in to win Gayle.

[emily_the_spoiled]

Gayle, when I was still living in Calgary I went through the process of a deposition (for a car accident). Your lawyer is right that the process isn't "that bad". The worst part is the anticipationm but once you start answering questions you will get into the "swing of things". The lawyer gave you good advice, just stick with short and sweet answers. Do not elaborate and answer specifically what was asked.

Good luck with it. You will be fine.

Cheryl

[Queen of Poop]

My lawyer finally went thru all the stuff I prepared for her at the end of November. She's crafting our own settlement offer, hopefully to send to him on Friday with a Wednesday deadline. If he accepts it will be all over. If not we proceed as planned with the questioning, going to court, spending tons more money, etc.

Need some PT prayers that the offer goes and he accepts. I know, if we all pray hard enough and think positive enough this can happen.

Thanks all so much!!!

[Karen]

Consider prayers said!

[phesina]

Prayers and good energies coming from us!

:love::love::love::love::love::love:

[RICHARD]

Everything will work out, you have the power of PT behind you!:D

[Medusa]

Keep telling yourself "All is in divine order". Because it is. :) I prefer not to pray hard. Let's give it the light touch instead.

[Alysser]

Good luck, Gayle! :love: I'm going to be thinking of you and hope it's over soon. :)

[Pinot's Mom]

Prayers and good thoughts, Gayle!:love:

[krazyaboutkatz]

Lots of prayers and positive thoughts are being sent your way.:)

[Catty1]

More prayers! See you soon!

[NicoleLJ]

You know you are in our prayers.

[Edwina's Secretary]

I recently represented a client in a deposition. The "other side" was being deposed.

Our attorney asked her some questions that sent her digging through her purse for business cards, etc.

Our attorney wrote me a note (lot of that goes on...) saying..."Rule #1 of being deposed - never bring your purse."

You might ask your attorney about that. It made sense.

[Marigold2]

Interesting advice.

I recently represented a client in a deposition. The "other side" was being deposed.

Our attorney asked her some questions that sent her digging through her purse for business cards, etc.

Our attorney wrote me a note (lot of that goes on...) saying..."Rule #1 of being deposed - never bring your purse."

You might ask your attorney about that. It made sense.

[cassiesmom]

My lawyer finally went thru all the stuff I prepared for her at the end of November. She's crafting our own settlement offer, hopefully to send to him on Friday with a Wednesday deadline. If he accepts it will be all over. If not we proceed as planned with the questioning, going to court, spending tons more money, etc.

Need some PT prayers that the offer goes and he accepts. I know, if we all pray hard enough and think positive enough this can happen.

Thanks all so much!!!

Prayers that the offer will be accepted. ((HUGS)))

[Queen of Poop]

Hey all, things have changed again.

Questioning put off, maybe to never happen at all. Both lawyers are now committed to making a settlement!!! Woo hoo!!! About time.

[Catty1]

YAAY! I guess when the other lawyer saw ALL the facts on paper....hee hee hee! ;):D

[NicoleLJ]

Doing a happy dance around the floor for you right now.

[gini]

I pray that all of this will be settled so that you can go on with your life in happy anticipation of only good things coming in your future.

[Queen of Poop]

So my lawyer is a little behind on her own deadlines. Rather than getting the answer back today, she is just sending the settlement offer to his side this morning. Better late than never I guess. Fingers crossed it passes without argument and this gets finished.

[Karen]

We're still hoping and praying for you!

[phesina]

Sending prayers and good wishes on your behalf..

:love::love::love::love::love::love:

[robinh]

So hoping things go well and you can have this done and over with soon. It will be the first day of the rest of your life.

[Marigold2]

Waiting to hear your good news.

[gini]

I hope your news is good!

[Queen of Poop]

Still waiting.

[Catty1]

More prayers, fingers crossed.:love:

[Queen of Poop]

Ok. No response from his side in almost a month. So we are proceeding with the previously re-scheduled questioning. It will take place next Friday, February 25th at my lawyer's office Both of us in one day. His lawyer has today to get back to us to get negotiations going otherwise it will proceed to questioning and then court. Something I understood he wanted to avoid. So we'll see where this goes.

[Karen]

Good luck, we'll be thinking of you that day! And when you walk in there, remember, you have hundreds of Pet Talkers behind you, taking your side!

[wombat2u2004]

Ok. No response from his side in almost a month. So we are proceeding with the previously re-scheduled questioning. It will take place next Friday, February 25th at my lawyer's office Both of us in one day. His lawyer has today to get back to us to get negotiations going otherwise it will proceed to questioning and then court. Something I understood he wanted to avoid. So we'll see where this goes.

Hmmmm....they are all giving you a run for your money eh ????
Not to mention the common practice of jacking the bill up by drawing out the case.
Best of luck with it next week mate. ;)

[Queen of Poop]

Thanks Karen and Wom. Appreciate the support.

Late letter from HIS side. They are going to provide a response to our settlement proposal by the end of this week. More waiting, but maybe it will be good and then things can be over.

[Pinot's Mom]

Prayers for a good (or tolerable) outcome...lots of {{{hugs}}}:love:

[gini]

Sounds like they are just trying to wear you down so you will settle for anything - just to get it over with.

Stay firm - two years from now you won't be able to do anything about this.............so you can wait another week - look how long it has been already.

Prayers and cuddles and encouragement for you......................!!!!:love:

[phesina]

{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}} and ~~~~~~PURRS~~~~~~ and lots of prayers for you, that you stay strong, and that this works out the best possible way it can for you and you can finally put it behind you!

:love::love::love::love::love::love::love:

[Queen of Poop]

In case anyone was wondering, there is no settlement today. There was nothing forthcoming to my lawyer before noon today and then their office closed for the long weekend. So even if something was sent I will not receive word of it until Tuesday. I do not anticipate the questioning next Friday will go ahead. So again it is more hurry up and wait. That's ok though, I have loads of patience and I will see this thru to the end. Thanks again all for your support.:love:

[Karen]

Okay! Enjoy the long weekend, we'll be thinking of you hoping for good news Tuesday! But why is it a long weekend for you folks? We have a long weekend for Presidents' Day - George Washington's birthday is actually Tuesday, but it also celebrates Abraham Lincoln' birthday, which was the 12th - but they were American Presidents ...

[Queen of Poop]

Okay! Enjoy the long weekend, we'll be thinking of you hoping for good news Tuesday! But why is it a long weekend for you folks? We have a long weekend for Presidents' Day - George Washington's birthday is actually Tuesday, but it also celebrates Abraham Lincoln' birthday, which was the 12th - but they were American Presidents ...

This is what they lovingly refer to as the FAMILY DAY WEEKEND. Theoretically you're supposed to be doing something with your family on Monday. As I recall it's because a number of years back our Provincial Premier's son got into trouble with drugs and died. Something along those lines anyway. So the day was set aside to promote the FAMILY UNIT.

[Marigold2]

What a long ordeal this is for you Gayle. Wishing you all the best.

[Queen of Poop]

What a long ordeal this is for you Gayle. Wishing you all the best.

Thank you.:love::love: It's going on and on and on.

The questioning was rescheduled again to March 14th, at my demand. His side is apparently working on a reply to our settlement proposal and wanted more time. I want to keep the questioning on the table so they continue to make progress. So more hurry up and wait. Which is OK I guess, it's too cold and snowy to buy a house right now anyway. Always looking at the bright side!:D

[Marigold2]

That a girl. This is hard on you but it must be hell on him. :D

[cassiesmom]

Thank you.:love::love: It's going on and on and on.

The questioning was rescheduled again to March 14th, at my demand. His side is apparently working on a reply to our settlement proposal and wanted more time. I want to keep the questioning on the table so they continue to make progress. So more hurry up and wait. Which is OK I guess, it's too cold and snowy to buy a house right now anyway. Always looking at the bright side!:D

Continued prayers and a candle,
http://www.gratefulness.org/candles/message.cfm?l=eng&cid=12785966

Elyse

[wombat2u2004]

Give nothing away mate. Just hang in there and don't ever let them wear you down. ;)
Lets all just hope that you can be out of this mess soon.

[Pawsitive Thinking]

I hope all of our dear PT friends realize all the struggles we are still facing, even one year later. It has so many facets, emotional, psychological, financial, legal.
It is just draining.

All the best Gayle. :love:

ain't that the truth :rolleyes:

[rosethecopycat]

Thinking of you, Gayle.

Light at the end of the tunnel....keep thinking......

[phesina]

Sending you good wishes and love, Gayle..

:love::love::love::love::love::love::love::love:

[Queen of Poop]

To update everyone, there has still been no response from his side, so my lawyer, tired of the waiting game, is sending a letter today to demand we proceed with the questioning on Monday, March 14th. Enough is enough already. We're ready to take this to a judge and be done. I will be sitting with her tomorrow afternoon so she can prepare me for the questions. I wish someone could prepare me to be in the same room with this monster! That's going to be the hard part. I know you all will be behind me though so I will stand tall (as tall as a 5 foot nothing girl can) and strong. So they can either provide a response immediately or we forge ahead. We'll see how it shakes out.

[Karen]

I know you all will be behind me though so I will stand tall (as tall as a 5 foot nothing girl can) and strong. So they can either provide a response immediately or we forge ahead. We'll see how it shakes out.

Okay, it's not the size that counts, it's the size of the attitude that counts! I have gotten through various situations in life that people couldn't believe I did unscathed, and I would explain, "Hey, I may just be 5'6" but I think I'm 6'2"! I inherited Dad's attitude, just not the height to back it up."

So for that day, I am officially loaning you my Tall, Strong and Fearless attitude, okay? And another tip - a low, deep growl is completely unexpected from a little white girl. Scared the bejesus outta folks when they were not expecting it. I explained to one person - "hey, my German Shepherd helped raise me. Of course I growl like a big dog!"

So let me know what time I should be meek that day, and what hours, so you can use my whole attitude for your own! I'd send you my "lions, tigers and leopards" jacket if we had time, it's the fiercest article of clothing I own!

[Queen of Poop]

Okay, it's not the size that counts, it's the size of the attitude that counts! I have gotten through various situations in life that people couldn't believe I did unscathed, and I would explain, "Hey, I may just be 5'6" but I think I'm 6'2"! I inherited Dad's attitude, just not the height to back it up."

So for that day, I am officially loaning you my Tall, Strong and Fearless attitude, okay? And another tip - a low, deep growl is completely unexpected from a little white girl. Scared the bejesus outta folks when they were not expecting it. I explained to one person - "hey, my German Shepherd helped raise me. Of course I growl like a big dog!"

So let me know what time I should be meek that day, and what hours, so you can use my whole attitude for your own! I'd send you my "lions, tigers and leopards" jacket if we had time, it's the fiercest article of clothing I own!


Awwww Karen, LES and giggles. Thank you so much. I love you!!!!!

If it goes ahead it will be from 10 am to 4 pm my time. I will keep you posted.

[Pinot's Mom]

Sorry I can't be with you in person, but I'm there in spirit! :love:

[Catty1]

Gayle, I can understand you being scared...but I think you could call up a good fit of anger as this jerk has likely played games with his lawyer and has held up the proceedings. I can just see you going into that questioning room and giving him the biggest raspberry ever!:D

(I don't think giant baseball bats are allowed in the room, are they? ;):D )

Wear leopard underwear and really long nails....there ya go!

[Laura's Babies]

Hold you head high.. You are WOMAN, LET HIM HEAR YOU ROAR!!!

Remember these few things..

1- The hard part is already behind you... (You put up with that jerk for how many years and survived? This'll be a piece of cake!)

2- DON'T PLAY HIS GAME IN COURT! (meaning, he will be trying to push any and every button of yours that he can, it ONLY works if YOU let it! DON'T LET HIM!!!)... if you change the rules of his game, he looses control!

3- Smile like you know something he don't know (That'll make HIM nervous!) and keep that smile on your face the whole time. Draw a smiley face in your hand to remind you to smile. SMILE WITH CONFIDENCE!!! WALK WITH CONFIDENCE! SIT WITH CONFIDENCE! SPEAK WITH CONFIDENCE! (Always SMILE before you speak!!!)

4- Remember- You ARE worthy!! You ARE unique! You ARE better than he is! and most of all you ARE better off without him!

[gini]

Hold you head high.. You are WOMAN, LET HIM HEAR YOU ROAR!!!

Remember these few things..

1- The hard part is already behind you... (You put up with that jerk for how many years and survived? This'll be a piece of cake!)

2- DON'T PLAY HIS GAME IN COURT! (meaning, he will be trying to push any and every button of yours that he can, it ONLY works if YOU let it! DON'T LET HIM!!!)... if you change the rules of his game, he looses control!

3- Smile like you know something he don't know (That'll make HIM nervous!) and keep that smile on your face the whole time. Draw a smiley face in your hand to remind you to smile. SMILE WITH CONFIDENCE!!! WALK WITH CONFIDENCE! SIT WITH CONFIDENCE! SPEAK WITH CONFIDENCE! (Always SMILE before you speak!!!)

4- Remember- You ARE worthy!! You ARE unique! You ARE better than he is! and most of all you ARE better off without him!


What a lovely gift Laura has given you - great advice. I can only
add an Eleanor Roosevelt quote "no one can make you feel inferior without your consent"

All of us are behind you - this will soon be over and you can celebrate the beginning of the rest of your life!

[Laura's Babies]

( Oh, if you really need something to make to smile in court, just look at him and remember what my Mama use to say
"IT'S OK TO BE STUPID! YA JUST SHOULDN'T OPEN YOUR MOUTH AND LET THE REST OF THE WORLD KNOW IT!"..... THAT saying right there has pulled me through so many rough spots with a smile on my face that puzzled everybody else when I should have been fuming I was smiling.)

[Karen]

Or, picture me there just walking past and growling at him in my best German shepherd growl ... That'll give you a grin!

[phesina]

Gayle, we're all with you in that courtroom.. including felines, canines, whatever-ines!

[Queen of Poop]

OMG, between Laura and Karen he doesn't stand a chance! :D

Thank you ALL so very, very much. Your support and advice are so truly appreciated. :love::love:

Had my prep yesterday, the questioning will proceed Monday. Unless, in the next 2 days they come up with a full and proper settlement. If he fails to show for the questioning things will escalate very quickly, much to his displeasure I'm sure. The time for being nice and patient has passed. My lady lawyer is like a dog that's been teased long enough by the bone just out of her reach, she's ready to get busy.

The stress is wreaking havoc on my IBS. But I keep telling myself, it's almost over, it's almost over.

[rosethecopycat]

Hang on Gayle-

Calming thoughts for Monday coming at you.

Think of us, because we'll be with you in spirit.

Rose

[Catty1]

Yes, it's almost over - and think of what will begin after that! YOUR LIFE. :D

You have talked about your lawyer a few times - and I think you've got the best. I would love to see what happens if the ex is a no-show and she gets to unleash everything on him!:D

Just answer the questions and let your legal dragon do the work! :)

[sana]

Yes, it's almost over - and think of what will begin after that! YOUR LIFE. :D



Totally true! QOP, just think of what the future could be,and so, get ready for it all to be over! ;):love:

[Queen of Poop]

As I predicted, there will be no questioning on Monday, March 14th. He is unavailable. Look out buddy, now my lawyer is crabby!!! Will provide more info as I find out where we go from here.

[Karen]

What a surprise - NOT! Does he really think he can get away with sliming out of this?

[Catty1]

What a COWARD! :D He's running, Gayle! He is a scared guy and thinking he can get away with not showing.

I wonder if a warrant for his arrest can actually be issued...

HUGS! Hang tight.:love:

[Queen of Poop]

What a COWARD! :D He's running, Gayle! He is a scared guy and thinking he can get away with not showing.

I wonder if a warrant for his arrest can actually be issued...

HUGS! Hang tight.:love:

Not a warrant, but something similar is in the works for Monday, unless his lawyer can get in touch with him today and get us something agreeable by Monday morning. He will be served and he will have to appear or be in breach of a court order, then the fun begins.

I'm doing just fine, I find this totally laughable and oh so predictable.

[phesina]

That's great :eek::rolleyes::D:D:D!

More CHEERS coming for you.. Hang in there, the light at the end of the tunnel is beginning to show.

[sana]

Who's a coward butt?! he, sure is! Certainly afraid, why else would he be unavailable. QOP lots of hugs and prayers that all this mess gets cleaned up fast and quick, and makes your future a happy one! :love::)

[wombat2u2004]

I wonder if a warrant for his arrest can actually be issued...

We could break his legs. He won't be able to run then. :D

[Queen of Poop]

Ok, you're going to love this....HE IS NOT GOING TO SHOW UP FOR THE QUESTIONING!!!!

His side sent yet another ridiculous 9 page document.:mad::mad::mad::mad:

He won't be attending the questioning Tuesday, it will proceed without him and then......its going to get interesting.

[NicoleLJ]

My honest reaction? No surprise really. He wants to continue to make this as long and agonizing as he can. It is his last part of being able to control and/or abuse you in some way in his mind. He probably is getting a sense of power that he could be agravating you. Typical abuse/controling man.

Hugs to you. You are in Dougs and my thoughts. Can't wait to see where it goes from here. Hopefully in a more positive direction for you.

[Marigold2]

OK dumb question here, can't you just go to Vegas and get a quickie divorce?


Ok, you're going to love this....HE IS NOT GOING TO SHOW UP FOR THE QUESTIONING!!!!

His side sent yet another ridiculous 9 page document.:mad::mad::mad::mad:

He won't be attending the questioning Tuesday, it will proceed without him and then......its going to get interesting.

[NicoleLJ]

OK dumb question here, can't you just go to Vegas and get a quickie divorce?

I don't think so. She lives in Canada. I think you have to be an american to do that. But I could be wrong.

[Catty1]

This divorce WOULD be quick if ex-hubby would settle the financial issues. There hasn't even been a counter-offer, nothing. I bet HIS lawyer is ready to strangle him!

[Queen of Poop]

You're right Nicole, its his last measure of control and I knew he'd not show. But this puts him in a bit of a legal mess now as he will be in contempt.

You're also right Candace, he will not settle equitably on the financial part so this questioning was to get that in order before it goes before a judge who will decide who gets what.

When the one year period came/went I requested we sever the divorce from the settlement so that I wouldn't have to be his wife anymore. He refused, said there was no good reason.

I will be working on a rebuttal to his 9 pages this weekend, my lawyer has a plan of action for Tuesday and we'll be in court right away. Good to have some action.

[Pinot's Mom]

This guy is something else. I'm sorry you have to deal with this. I HOPE his lawyer is getting fed up, but somehow I think he must be just as sick to put up with this.:mad:

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