Survey on marriage (for homework)

[Whisk_Luva]

Hello....
I have a small request....
For my RE homework I have to do a survey thing about marriage... and so I was wondering if people could answer these questions for me please??
Thank you :)

Did you marry in church? (most recent marriage if been married more than once)

If answer is yes
- Are you Religious?
- Why did you marry in church?
If answer no
- Where did you marry and why?

[Pawsitive Thinking]

We got married at the Town Hall Registry Office.

Neither of us are religious, we had been together for many years and already had Katie :D (I never wanted the big dress thing either)

[anna_66]

Did you marry in church? Yes

If answer is yes
- Are you Religious? Yes, I guess so. But I don't go to church
- Why did you marry in church? Just the thing to do

[kittycats_delight]

Did you marry in church? No

If answer no - Where did you marry and why? We married at my mother's house mainly because neither of us are religious and hubby was not good in a group of people. So it was just him & I, my mom, 2 friends of mine who were witnesses and the judge performing the ceremony.

[catnapper]

Did you marry in church? NO

If answer no
- Where did you marry and why?
Back yard of my parent's house. Partly to save money. Partly because my old next door neighbor was a minister and he felt like a second father to me. I wanted to have him officiate, even though he was not our denomination (hubby's Protestant and I'm Catholic, the minister was something all together different, still not sure what he is) Mr. H had moved to the south and actually flew back to Pennsylvania to officiate in my wedding.

All my Catholic friends were having a fit about me not marrying in the church. I hated the idea of being married by a man I didn't know anything about (a random priest). I wanted someone I knew to perform the ceremony. I wouldn't have had it any other way :)

[Medusa]

Did you marry in church? (most recent marriage if been married more than once)

If answer is yes
- Are you Religious?
- Why did you marry in church?
If answer no
- Where did you marry and why?

Yes, we married in church but we were/are not religious. I've always been a spiritual person and am still looking for a church that I can feel at home in. So far, no luck, so I do my inspirational reading and praying every day, knowing that I don't need "sticks and bricks" to encase my spirituality and love for God. I do yearn for a spiritual community, though. We married in a church mainly to keep our families happy and I had been married by a Justice of the Peace for my first marriage and it was an unpleasant experience and I didn't want to do that again. Plus I'm big on ceremony and ritual and I liked the idea of having family and friends there to witness and participate. For the second marriage, my 7 year old son (at that time) was the ring bearer and I wanted to make him a part of the experience. I also thought that by getting married in a church, perhaps the marriage would "stick". It did for 24 years. Then it came unglued. LOL

[Pam]

Did you marry in church? Yes

If answer is yes
- Are you Religious? Yes.
- Why did you marry in church? God ordained marriage. Marriage was His idea and we chose His church as the place. :)

[catlover4ever]

Did you marry in church? Yes


- Are you Religious? Yes Catholic
- Why did you marry in church? I never had a thought of getting married anyplace else. We were married at our Cathedral by a priest who knew both my husband and I since we were kids.

[Logan]

Did you marry in church? (most recent marriage if been married more than once) Yes, we did, surrounded by our children and family.

If answer is yes
- Are you Religious? Yes
- Why did you marry in church? Well, for one thing, we met in that church, so it was a very special place to us. Plus, to have the ministers we love and trusted, right there in such a beautiful, quiet, sacred place, where our family celebrated communion together during the service, just seemed like the obvious thing to do. And it was perfect, if I do say so myself.

[gemini9961]

Did you marry in church? No.
If answer is yes
- Are you Religious?
- Why did you marry in church?
If answer no
- Where did you marry and why? We got married in Jackson Hole, WY outside of the visitors center beside the Elk Refuge. Why there you say - we had never been there (it's beautiful out there) and we aren't real religious people so church was not an option. We didn't have a traditional ceremony. The magistrate read us a native american marriage type thing, I have the copy of it. It was outside, just hubby and myself, his parents and the magistrate. No dress for me either. It was just what we wanted and I wouldn't change anything about it.

[sparks19]

NO we did not marry in a church. Although we are both Christians we got married at the courthouse. We went for our marriage license on Friday and got married on Monday. It was just the two of us. No one else was there.

[Edwina's Secretary]

Did you marry in church? (most recent marriage if been married more than once)

Yes, I was married in a church. Well, it was a church building. It had been the church of a t.b. sanitarium.


- Are you Religious?
I am not religious. I have become decidedly less religious in the 10 years since I married.

- Why did you marry in church?
It felt right at the time. It seemed like the thing to do. For our families. It was a compromise.

[Christiansmommy]

Did you marry in church? Yes


- Are you Religious? Yes
- Why did you marry in church? The reason we married in the first place is we believe that God wants man and woman to marry...otherwise, we would have just lived together, but we feel God wants man/woman to be in a union of marriage with Him as head of this union. So we married in a church b/c it is a place of God, a place of worship...so it only made sense! :)

[sirrahved]

Did you marry in church? (most recent marriage if been married more than once)

Yes, I was married in a church.


- Are you Religious?
Yes, husband and I are both religious, he's a pastor:)

- Why did you marry in church?
We were married not only in the law's eyes, but God's. God instituted marriage... why not get married in His house?

[pitc9]

Did you marry in church? YES

If answer is yes
- Are you Religious? Not really, we don't go to church anymore
- Why did you marry in church? Because we were both raised as Catholics
If answer no
- Where did you marry and why?

[cyber-sibes]

Did you marry in church?
Yes, both times

- Are you Religious?
I would say we are "spiritual" rather than "religious".

- Why did you marry in church?
Several reasons-
Our spirituality is a great source of healing, strength, & purpose. Our spiritual community is very important to us, our friends were there as witnesses to our sacred commitment, (& they had a blast clapping & cheering.) We were a little worried because my MIL was a staunch Catholic, but she enjoyed our Unity ceremony very much, including that we had a female minister. It was a little more elaborate than I would have done because it's my husband's first marriage (& I think his family gave up on him ever marrying, lol!)

[Sevaede]

Did you marry in church? (most recent marriage if been married more than once): No.

If answer is yes
- Are you Religious?
- Why did you marry in church?
If answer no
- Where did you marry and why? We got married in a park, in between two freshly trimmed willow trees, in front of a tiny little creek. We didn't really WANT to get married in the courthouse, and not in a church, so we picked a nice little outdoor location by the same two non-denominational ministers that my dad and late stepmother were. A lot of it was due to our financial situation AND location. We plan on having another ceremony (like we had originally planned for) and will have a handfasting in a couple of years, hopefully. :)

[popcornbird]

Did you marry in church?

No. We're Muslim, so we married at the mosque.


- Are you Religious?
Yes.
- We married at the mosque because it is the house of God, it is the place where people go to worship God every single day. As marriage too is a union ordained by God, what better place could there be to get married? We wished for our Creator's blessings on the day of our wedding. :) It is considered virtuous in our faith to hold a wedding at the mosque, as we consider marriage a social as well as a religious ceremony.

[kuhio98]

Did you marry in church? (most recent marriage if been married more than once) No.

If answer is yes
- Are you Religious?
- Why did you marry in church?
If answer no
- Where did you marry and why? We got married at Smith's Gardens in Kauai, Hawaii because we wanted to it just to be the 2 of us. We thought about eloping to Vegas but it seemed to tacky for us. So, we flew to Hawaii. The wedding package included a photographer and witness! Highly recommend it if you don't want the whole, stressful wedding planning nightmare. When we came home, we had a huge reception of friends and family. No one was upset. In fact, they all thanked us for not making them go to yet another wedding! :)

[Pembroke_Corgi]

Did you marry in church?

No.

Where did you marry and why?

We got married at the city municipal building. I had no desire to have a big or even small wedding. We had lived together for years before we got married and it was more of a formality so we could have the legal benefits of marriage. Our commitment to each other was just the same before and after we got married. It only cost us $10 too! :p

[beeniesmom]

Did you marry in church?

No, but I really wanted to. My hubby and I could not get married in a Catholic church because he was previously married in a Catholic Church (first wife). We got married at the local courthouse.

[Karen]

Did you marry in church? (most recent marriage if been married more than once)

Yes, we did.

Are you Religious?

Yes, have attended church all my life.

- Why did you marry in church?

To have a traditional ceremony, and to hold it in a sacred, special place - we got married in my "home" church, that I had attended since the age of 4 1/2. And that my Dad, brother and his family still attend. And a wedding is a sacred commitment, made before God, so having in a church makes sense.

And as a plus, it's a big enough place to hold our family and friends!

[JenBKR]

Did you marry in church?

Yes

If answer is yes
- Are you Religious? Yes
- Why did you marry in church? I wanted to be married in God's house, with His blessing.

[Lizzie]

Did you marry in church? (most recent marriage if been married more than once)

No

If answer is yes
- Are you Religious?
- Why did you marry in church?
If answer no
- Where did you marry and why?

Oxford Registry Office. I had been very religious until studying in Oxford - a classic place to change your faith or lose it or gain it, and T. was very anti-religion at the time. I made my own outfit from a Vogue designer pattern and had to be sewn into the top because I didn't finish it on time. There were no rings and I didn't change my name. After the ceremony, my brother turned to me and said "that's it?!"

I'd never wanted a big church wedding and find weddings in general to be really boring.

[Twisterdog]

No, we did not get married in a church. Neither of us is traditionally religious, and neither of us attends a particular church. If we would have married in a church, we would have basically been picking one at random out of the phone book. We felt that woudl be more than a little phony and hypocritical.

We got married in the ballroom at the Holiday Inn, because that was where we had our reception immediately following. It was nice and simple that way, no driving around, and they set up everything for us.

[carole]

More than happy to help out,

No i did not marry in a church.

I was married at the gardens here in my city, indoors though as it was winter,by a marriage celebrant,because i am not religious and i do not attend any church or have a particular faith,therefore i would consider myself a hypocrite to be married in a church. :)

[Killearn Kitties]

Did you marry in church? Yes

- Are you Religious? No, I'm not
- Why did you marry in church? Because in the few years before I was married, I did quite a lot of work with the local church. I worked with the under 5's and taught them to sing etc. Also I wanted the person who married us to be someone that I knew. The minister who was a trainee with us at the time had agreed to marry us. He was a very special person and all the church groups absolutely loved him..so I really wanted him to marry us.

[jenluckenbach]

We were NOT married in a church (but we were married by a minister)

The wedding was in my parent's yard. We both always wanted an outdoor wedding. (and I was not a church-goer at the time)

[DJFyrewolf36]

We were not married in a church. Our wedding was a sudden one and we went to a place that was cheap lol. We just felt right about the timing of everything but our familes could not afford anything extensive. We went to the same wedding chapel that my parents got married in. Nevada has a ton of these places and ceremonies run 20 to 75 bux and honestly arent as "cheap" feeling as people make them out to be.
So romantic huh lol :D

[chocolatepuppy]

Did you marry in church? (most recent marriage if been married more than once)
Yes, in a non-denominational church as I am Catholic and hubby is Methodist. (We did get married much later in the Catholic Church.)

If answer is yes,
Are you Religious? Yes
Why did you marry in church? We wanted Gods blessing. :)

[lizbud]

Did you marry in church? (most recent marriage if been married more than once)

If answer is yes
- Are you Religious?

- Why did you marry in church?
If answer no
- Where did you marry and why?


Yes, we married in our local parish church.
I do not strictly practice my religion nor does my ex-husband.

We married in the Catholic church because we both attended church at
that time & that was the custom.

[Cincy'sMom]

We were married in the Catholic Church my husband grew up in, and had 2 priests, both close friends of my parents officiating. I don't know that I would say that we are overally religious, but we do have our beliefs. We were both brought up in Catholic families, attended Catholic school, and it never occured to me to not get married in a church.

[rosethecopycat]

Did you marry in church? (most recent marriage if been married more than once) No, we didn't.
If answer is yes
- Are you Religious?
- Why did you marry in church?
If answer no
- Where did you marry and why? We were married in Park City, Utah at a B & B. I am a believer with no home church (hearin' you there- Medusa :) ) and an introvert. Hubby is agnostic, so out of respect, I didn't want to make anyone uncomfortable, so we had a destination wedding.
We didn't know the officiate, that didn't bother me, since I didn't know any church official. I feel I had God's blessing, no matter where we were, He goes with me.
BTW, Our 10th anniversary is Friday. :D

[Catty1]

Got married in a church.

Why? Because we wanted a spiritual aspect...even though neither one of us was religious. We were okay with this - had seen the minister for a bit of pre-counselling - and wanted our families to be comfortable as well. Talking about God - who my hubby called "Louie" :confused: ;) - was part of our marriage.

[prechrswife]

Did you marry in church? Yes.

If answer is yes
- Are you Religious? Yes.

- Why did you marry in church? Our faith is a big part of our lives, and getting married in God's house was important to us.

[ramanth]

Did you marry in church? Sort of yes. We were married in a Tabernacle at a Christian Campground.

- Are you Religious? No
- Why did you marry in church? We married in the Tabernacle as a compromise. We wanted an outdoor wedding, but the in laws freaked out about us not marrying in a church. The Tabernacle had an "outdoor" feel and was churchy enough to please the in laws. My old neighbor who is a non-denominational pastor officiated. In-laws weren't too keen about that (they are Lutheran) but my parents intervened. ;) :D

[Jessika]

Did you marry in church? Yes

If answer is yes
- Are you Religious? Yes, both hubby and I are
- Why did you marry in church? Because of a number of reasons - our religion: we wanted to be married "in the eyes of God"; we wanted to do it "right"; and our mothers would have KILLED us if we eloped... lol

[kt_luvs_kitties]

Did you marry in church? (most recent marriage if been married more than once) Yes.

If answer is yes
- Are you Religious? Hubby is VERY spiritual. Much moreso than I.

- Why did you marry in church? My parents would not have paid for it otherwise ;) And hubby would not have wanted to marry anywhere else.

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[Whisk_Luva]

Thanks for your help everyone :)

[Maya & Inka's mommy]

Yes, we were married in church, almost 29 years ago :)
Why? Both our families are very religious, and dad's brother is a catholic priest.
We don't go to church anymore, since about 15 years ago, but we are religious.

ps. Not attending church services is mainly because of my bad health...

[Marigold2]

Yes married in a church both times.

No longer attend church due to problems within that church, just haven't found a new one but I do pray everyday.