Desperate Help Needed - Noah

[carole]

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Dearest Kelly, fingers, paws,and tails are all crossed over here for the purrfect happy ending.


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[krazyaboutkatz]

Kelly, I sure hope that everything went well and that this will be you and your furkids new home.:) Good luck and I look forward to hearing a wonderful update.:)

[NoahsMommy]

Oh......My......Gosh!!!!!!!!!!!!

Its and my new roomie are WONDERFUL, more than WONDERFUL!!! Oh my gosh, I"m sooooooo excited and so happy!

EVERYTHING seems so perfect, like this is an opening, a way out that has been planned for ME, heaven sent!!!

The place is beautiful and Kristin can NOT wait to meet my fur angels. When I pulled out the 4 pages of pictures, she said, "I KNEW you were going to bring me pictures, this is so cool! They're sooooo gorgeous and I can't wait to meet them!"

We ARE telling management we have a kitty or two, depending on the pet deposite. If my credit is too bad, she's OK with us making up some legal document between ourselves. YAY!! I have to go, mom's coming.

I'll update more tomorrow.

[Pawsitive Thinking]

So happy to read your wonderful news Kelly!!!!!

[dukedogsmom]

That sounds so great! I hope everything works out. We'll all be so happy for you to get out of the hell that you've been in.

[NoahsMommy]

That sounds so great! I hope everything works out. We'll all be so happy for you to get out of the hell that you've been in.

Me too, Val. You know, I've tried to keep positive about everything, but it really, truly is hell there. As soon as I clicked off PT, she walked in and started yelling at me for a non-issue. I immediately shut down - as she stood there watching to be sure I did - when to my room and texted Staci that if in the next month I feel bad or sad about my leaving without letting them in on my plans to remind me of how horrible, unloved and unimportant she makes me feel. Something that IS, now I see, abuse. She makes my life a constant emotional rollercoaster - the EXACT thing I MUST avoid to not get sick.

Please God, let this work. Help me help myself get out of here - to be where You and I need and want me to be. I need this so very much.

Thank you all so much for loving me, for you concern.

OK, gotta go. Starting to cry at work isn't a good thing.

Love you!!!

XOXOXOXO

[wolf_Q]

That is great news! I hope this will work out for you and you'll be able to have your cats back with you. :)

[carole]

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Kelly i am thrilled for you, this truely sounds like heaven sent doesn't it?

Everytime i read your posts I feel so sad to think your mother does not realize what a beautiful daughter she has inside and out,one thing to be thankful for Kelly, you are nothing like that,it takes a very special person to rise above the abuse they have in life and not repeat it, you are indeed that SPECIAL person.

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and a ton of LOVE, all the best sweetie. :)

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[Emeraldgreen]

That is sooooooooo wonderful!! I will be praying for you that this all works out and that within a short time you will be living in that beautiful home with your cats, just as it should be. The next chapter of your life will be so much better. Hang in there! :)

[kt_luvs_kitties]

We love you Kelly. Please pm when you can so I will know you are ok....

How much is left on the Balance for Noahs "vacation"?

And I will continue to pray for you. *HUGS* Katie and kitties

[Cinder & Smoke]

How much is left on the Balance for Noahs "vacation"?

:(
Noah still owes $515.00 in PAST charges ... and it goes up $10.00 every day.

It's been over a week since the last donation was received by Balcom Canyon.

Call Balcom Canyon Pet Lodge at (805) 523-7076 between 8am - 6pm PST
on Monday - Friday to donate by credit card.

Give Early ~ Give Often ;)

[dukedogsmom]

Phred, Brody's mom made a very generous donation that will go towards it. I'll be paying that Friday along with what I can pay. Should make it go down a little.

[AmberLee]

Great news, NM. Fingers crossed that it's clear sailing ahead for you all.

[krazyaboutkatz]

Kelly, I'm so glad to hear that your meeting with your hopefully new roommate went well and that she already loves your cats.:) I hope that from now on that things start going smoothly for you and that your health remains good too. I'll be keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.:)

[emily_the_spoiled]

I put my contribution in for Noah's spa last Thursday so hopefully it will help a little...

[Pawsitive Thinking]

Phred, Brody's mom made a very generous donation that will go towards it. I'll be paying that Friday along with what I can pay. Should make it go down a little.


Thanks for sorting that out for me Val :)

[NoahsMommy]

My heart seems to be on a constant emotional rollercoaster. I get upset/scared/sad at home or in dealing with some other issues...then I come here and my heart SOARS with happiness, gratitude, gratefullness (is that a word?), and above all, LOVE.

I've said it so often, but each time, it comes from my heart. You are all sooooo very wonderful to me...I'm the luckiest person, ever! You have all blessed me more than I can imagine, more than I can say.

Thank you so very, very, very much.

:) Love, Kelly :)

P.S. I'll update on the apt in a bit. I have to finish a project first.

XOXOXXOXXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXO

[carole]

Kelly how anyone could not love you is beyond me anyhow, you are the sweetest, loveliest person i have had the privilige and pleasure to meet online, and i know you are like that in real life too, one can only wish everything of the best for you, cannot wait to hear about your appointment, hurry finish your project lol. :)

[NoahsMommy]

(((((Carole)))))
Thank you for your kind words, you're so sweet! :) :o

Well, so far everything is going well with the apartment. Kristin is VERY, VERY cool and we're working out my credit issues and even the cat deposit between us. I'm meeting her tomorrow to give her a check for the first months rent and half of the deposit she paid. I'm getting an insurance check in a week or so from the car accident/s I was in, so I have that money to help me move in and also have a buffer in the form of a savings account in case I get sick and need extra money to keep me independent.

The check I'm giving her tomorrow after work came from my grandma who is #1 keeping my 'escape plans' secret and #2 has been very supportive of me when I need to talk, vent, cry or just need prayers. When I get the insurance check, I'll pay back my grandma for the money I need to get to Kristin. :) :D :)

So....its all going as planned. My only obsticals now are:
*Waiting until 2/2 to move (because its a Saturday)
*Figuring out how to move things from my parents house
*How/what to tell them after I'm out of there

Any advise, ideas are much appreciated.

Hugs,
Kelly

P.S. I'm planning on asking my brother to help me move 2/2. I have my futon (now my bed), my desk and a bunch of boxes in a storage unit we share. I just have to be CERTAIN he keeps my move secret. I'm 99.99999% certain he wouldn't tell my parents, but I'm being EXTRA cautious.

[sasvermont]

K, I know this move will be good for everyone, including your folks. I hope your brother respects your decision and knows how to stay loyal to you. It sounds as though he too is subject to your Mom's rath. I trust you have enough love left that you will be civil and kind when you tell her. I wouldn't think anything else of you, but boy, can times like this (coming up) can be ugly. Take the high road honey, and keep saying things "positive", even if things turn dark on the moving day. Prepare for the worst and hope for the best. I bet your folks will be surprised and feel as though you did things behind their back. They seemed to give you no choice!

I wish you luck, and a smooth transition to your own place. I bet once you get there, you will be thrilled.

I wish you were closer. I have a fully furnished apartment that my Mom is leaving (probably this weekend).....and it is just right for the person needing a quick place - and in a nice environment.

Anyone else need a place to live.....furnished......???

Keep us posted dear Kel.

[zippy-kat]

Best of luck to you, Kelly!!

[Karen]

I have an idea! How about your brother arranges to take your parents out for the afternoon on that Saturday ... takes them to dinner or something. That would give you time to move out safely, and you can signal him on his cell when it's all clear, without them knowing he was involved.

[gini]

Dear Kelly, I wish you the best of luck and happiness with your move.

You are getting some good advice here - I would add that maybe you tell your parents how grateful you are for all that they have done for you. It sounds phony - but truly they have given you a place to live - well, maybe not "live" but at least reside. I am just following up on the "positive" suggestions that Sasvermont has given you.

I would at all costs try to avoid any confrontation with your parents. You don't need the stress - it isn't good for your health. Keep your mind on how happy you are going to be in your new home and WITH YOUR CATS!

Also - will you be able to immediately transfer your mail to the new address?
I wouldn't want to see that insurance check go astray!!! You are counting on it.

When you get settled in - take a deep breath - and know that life will now be much better and happier for you.

I will put a check in the mail this week for Balcom for Noah's care. How I remember that little boy when he was at my home. He thought he was in charge until I had a little talk with him - and he looked at me like WHOA
and then backed off. He's orange - and comes with attitude:D

[slick]

Kelly:
Moving sucks any time but in your instance I can only imagine how stressful it will be, but as Mz Gini says, keep reminding yourself of the good times ahead and how nice it will be to once again have a kitty purr you to sleep. It's so nice that Kirsten love kitties and it sounds like everything will work out OK.

I would love to donate but unfortunately I've nothing to spare at the moment. Please forgive me. :( But I am praying hard for you sweetheart. After all you've been through, you deserve all the good things that life has to offer.

Big {{{hugs}}} from me
xoxoxo

[Emeraldgreen]

Hi Kelly, only 18 more sleeps until the big day! :D It will be an exhausting day but I'm sure but it will all be worth it. I like Karen's idea about having your brother keep your parents occupied. But if you need him to help move the heavy stuff, maybe your grandma could get involved with occupying them by inviting your parents over for lunch that day or something and then you and your brother could quickly move out your stuff.
If you pre-write a letter to your parents over the next few weeks and put in it all that you want to say, you can leave it at their house so they have some sort of explanation when they get home. And then you could get in touch with them by phone later that night and talk about it some more. It might give them a chance to absorb it a bit at a time.
If you're not 100% sure that your brother will not able to keep the move a secret, maybe you could ask him to do 'something' (lunch, the movies or some kind of favor) with you on February 2nd to make sure that he reserves that day for you and then when he comes over, you can let him know what you really have planned.
I'm sure you'll fine tune all your ideas over the next few weeks as 'the first day of the rest of your life' draws nearer! Hang in there and try to stay postivie. :)

[Catty1]

Kelly - would your grandma find 'something for your parents to do' on moving day? Something to get them out of the house?

I hope your brother can handle himself if they find out he helped! OH WAIT - he lives far away! :D

HUGS to you girl!

[shais_mom]

Kelly - would your grandma find 'something for your parents to do' on moving day? Something to get them out of the house?

Actually if I remember correctly, the grandma that she is referring to is her PATERNAL grandma so I doubt if her mom has much to do with her. Honestly, I'm surprised she allows Kelly the freedom to see her! The "parent's" that Kelly refers to is actually her mom and STEP DAD - they have been married for about 8 years.



I hope your brother can handle himself if they find out he helped! OH WAIT - he lives far away! :D

HUGS to you girl!
Actually - I don't think he does. But I think he could handle himself pretty well. I've not met him but I have a hunch!

[krazyaboutkatz]

Kelly, I'm glad to hear that Kirstin is helping you with your credit and deposit.:) I hope that everything goes smoothly with your move. You've already been given a lot of great advice so there's nothing more that I can add. I know that once you're in your own place with your furkids that your health will get much better and you'll feel so much more relaxed.:) Please take care and continue to keep us updated.

[Pawsitive Thinking]

Not long now Kelly!!!

Next time Mommy Dearest starts you just repeat to yourself "PT loves me" over and over again. She may not appreciate you, but we do!

[Cataholic]

I didn't go back and re-read what you said about your parents having control over your finances...but, how are you addressing that issue? Will they hold or keep your money from you once they realize you are moving out? Is it more that you are expected to turn it over to them, rather than them having control over it? I wasn't clear on that, but, you need your money, and if they have it...well....

Taking everything you say as true, I would probably arrange for a police officer at the time of the move. While it might be your mom/stepdad, the way you have described some of their actions is a little off, and you want to make sure this happens exactly as planned.

[Cinder & Smoke]

Johanna brings up an interesting point with "your parents having control over your finances" ...

Do your parents hold a Power of Attorney that names them as your overseer or
gives them financial control over your accounts?

Do you voluntarily put your paychecks, alimony, and other income into a
"joint account" that your Mother has access to?

I'd take steps to nullify any of these agreements if they exist.

/s/ Phred

[moosmom]

Kelly,

You've got my reference if you need it. I am so very happy you're finally going to have a life of your own. I also believe it'll help you healthy wise. I know mine have helped me.

Let me know if you need anything.

((((((HUGS)))))

Donna and kits

[Taz_Zoee]

While it's great that you are getting out of the "difficult" situation with living in your parents house, I'm just sorry you do not have the support from your mother that you should have. I hope someday you will get that from her. I do not know what I would do without my mom, even though I do not talk to her everyday.
Do you think that not living there your relationship with her will be any different? For your sake, I hope so. Yeah, they will be upset and angry about you moving, but they will just have to get over it. You are an adult and can (and will) make your own decisions. Hopefully someday they will realize that.
I am so happy for you that you will soon be reunited with your furkids. :D

[Russian Blue]

Wow, what a difficult situation! I haven't had much time for the forums (and rarely come down to General)so forgive me for only seeing this now!

I think Karen's idea is a good one. Get the parents out while you move - way easier! And if things are that heated, Johanna's suggestion of a cop wouldn't be bad either. At least it would keep it civil while they are there.

I'd also leave a letter explaining everything...exactly as how you see it. A letter is often better, since you have time to word it correctly, instead of in the heat of a face to face discussion.

We went through something a tad similar.....Rob's mother. She accused him of everything and anything. She told him to pick sides (parents are divorced) and said Rob was doing things behind her back (which he wasn't). As you can imagine, Christmas was wonderful. :rolleyes:

Rob decided 4 years into our relationship that it wasn't worth maintaining a relationship with his mother because of all the threats and bitterness. We haven't had any contact with her in 8 years and it is so much better. Sometimes it's better to choose who you have in your life, rather than just accepting a negative relationship that hurts your own health/well being.

I wish you the best Kelly - for your health and a new beginning. ;)

[Craftlady]

IF they hold power of attorney, you need the following ...
Revocation of Power of Attorney - allows you to revoke a power of attorney document. Go to your lawyer and get that taken care of before you move.

[Laura's Babies]

Gee Girl, the fewer people that know, the better it is and less likely someone lets something slip. Once out, will you then have controll of your money again? I certianlly hope so, otherwise this can get really ugly!

I have to ask, is your mother bipolar? Maybe even undiagnosed bipolar? I hate to think someone would treat their child like that well into adulthood and could help it. You don't have to answer me, it is just something for you to think about.

I will be back to work on 2/2 so I am going to have to wait until the end of Feb to find out how it went and how you are doing. Let me wish you well now and there be nothing but sunny days and peace in your life for you and your babies. May it be a wonderfully happy reunion for you and the babies.

[NoahsMommy]

OK, first, I need to vent and request a pep-talk of what I already know. You know how it is, right?? Then I'll answer all questions. Actually, I'll do the opposite, answers first.

OK. My parents, I owe them money for when I got my divorce, got fired 4 times due to my Crohn's Disease and needed medication, to pay my bills, etc, etc, etc. I've been paying them something (even when on unemployment and it BARELY covered my bills) each month and in the past few months that I've been more stable, they've been getting a significant payment monthly. ($500/monthly) Because I owe them money for a debt that began in 2005 (I was in the hospital for MOST of the year, jobless twice, had my surgery and left David to move on my own - then lost the apt.) they've demanded that I give them my paychecks and spousal support checks. I didn't know this when I moved home...it was "explained" one payday when my mom asked how I was going to pay for medication or a co-pay and my response was, "I'll go cash my paycheck and pay that way." (I didn't have my own checking account because I was going through a divorce - they tend to freeze your accounts during the time when it becomes final.) She said, "Oh no you wont! With all the money you owe us, you need to give that money to us. WE will work on a budget and give you what you need. That is more appropriate, don't you think??" (Do I need to say this wasn't a suggestion, or tell you what tone it was said in???? :( )

And thus, the money control began. I stressed that I needed a savings account and we put that in my mom's name. Luckily, I've had to USE that money for Christmas/Birthday presents, medication when my COBRA wasn't active and one month ALL my expenses because I had to pay for some deductables, two new tires, etc. etc. etc. I say luckily, because I wont need to "battle" with my mom to get that money as there isn't much in there!! ha ha

I physically HAND over my endorsed checks (paychecks and alimony) to my parents. This is something I will not have to do in the VERY near future (YAY!!!) and once again be in charge of my money. MY MONEY.

The timing is perfect because in February, 3 large bills will have been paid off, freeing up almost an entire paycheck. That alone can cover most of my rent and I'll still have another paycheck and my spousal support. The insurance check I'm going to be getting (as well as my spousal support) will be sent to my friend CiCi's house.

This insurance check will also be my savings - a substantial buffer for me just in case something happens work or health-wise. BUT, on those fronts, I'm doing VERY well!!!!! :D :D :D

RE: my grandma
Staci is correct, this is my paternal grandmother. While my parents include her occasionally, it would be VERY fishy for my grandma to ask THEM to do something. She's a quiet, simple person and have ZERO in common with my parents. Also, my grandmother is a HORRIBLE actress and wouldn't be able to do it. She gets upset/stress VERY easily and well, this would add to that. GREAT idea though...really, thank you so much for your brain storming...it really is helping me!

RE: Kevin, my brother
I think that I can trust Kevin to help me move and to keep things quiet. My parents only see him about once a month and he is secretive by nature anyway. He was raised in the same house and has been treated the same way...he left our family for 4 years and only recently came back. Any guesses WHY he left? ;) My mom treats him like the prodigal son...he can do no wrong and even when he does, she wouldn't DREAM of treating him like she does me, otherwise, he'd go away again.

I'm grateful that Kevin DID go away for all those years, because I know that maybe one day my mom will give me that same respect he gets now. Maybe I'll have my day as the prodigal - even though I've ALWAYS been the good one. (I don't mean I'm happy Kevin ever left, I missed him daily and would break into tears just thinking about him with worry. :( The day he called me is easily one of the BEST days in all of my life. And, he called ME....then her. He saw ME...then her. Does that tell you anything?)

Having Kevin & Krista (his gf) take my parents out for a day may prove to be an EXCELLENT idea. I could at least get some thing out of the house. I have a bunch of boxes in their storage shelving in their garage. Unfortunately, its above where you park your car, so I'll need help. That's my problem. I'll have to see if CiCi and her hubby could maybe help me.

Then Kevin could help me get my stuff out of our shared storage unit. My bed is in there - the futon that was in my Calabasas apartment. My parents pursuaded me to sell/give away most of my furnature to help me save on storage costs. It was a good idea as it saved me money and I haven't been stable health/job wise until now. But, now it leaves me without a lot of furnature. That isn't a big deal to me or Kristin and we'll get our furnature together, eventually.

I'm taking my computer...so they'll have to figure things out for themselves that way. They've only recently been using one anyway, so it wont be a huge shock for them.

The best part? I'll get to pickup ALL my kitties and take them HOME!!!!!! I'm soooooo excited!!! WOOHOO!!! This is going to be so wonderful.

VENT: Gosh, its such a long story with tons of background info. Basically my grandma called me this morning all upset and worried I was making the wrong decision. :confused: :( First, my grandma would rather live with abuse than rock the boat ANY DAY. I'll just leave it at that...it is how she views life and responds to it. I hope that gives enough information so that all you/I have to do now is consider the source and keep my faith in myself and in what I know in every cell of my body to be the right thing.

My gma knows that if I leave my mom's home, I can never return A: if she's that upset and B: she's TOLD me I only get to come home one time. Well, I'm GLADLY leaving and WOULD rather live in my car than come back to her. Gma said, "with all the times you've gotten sick and lost jobs, are you sure you want to do this??"

I UNDERSTAND her concern. But I've been working this all out for at least a year. Financially its the perfect time, job-wise it it as well. Even my health has been the best its ever been in the last 10 years! I'm even LOOKING better physically!! As soon as I made this decision, it was like the heavens opened and angels sang! I know it my heart this is right and every professional involved in my care is telling me to GET THE HECK OUTTA THERE!

Anyway, hearing her this morning made me feel...well like she didn't have faith in my health, my job, my decision, my future. I KNOW my decision is 150% correct and I need SUPPORT, not what she did.

I was very, very kind with her, of course. I thanked her profusely for her love and concern. She only wants the best for me - but we're very, very different people in very, very different situations. I asked her to continue praying for me and that I understood her concern.

Wow, did all that gma stuff make sense? Have you all fallen asleep with this WAY TOO LONG post???

RE: Letter to parents
This is most likely what I will do. But I wont be calling THEM afterwards, at least not right away. I'll need to guage the situation. I 100% expect this action on my part to "make" them sever the relationship. I don't expect them to understand ANYTHING I say to them. But, I will do it with love, kindness and respect...despite the lack that I get in return.

I AM VERY GRATEFUL to have a place to live...I'm grateful for a lot and will be very positive and repeatedly grateful in this letter.

OK, I think I addressed everything. If not, I will later.

Thank you all, for so much....

Love, Kelly & Kitties!!! (YAY!!!!!!!!!)

[NoahsMommy]

To sum up what my gma made me feel like:

Doesn't she know I already have in the back of my mind CONSTANTLY (every second of every minute of my LIFE!) the fear and worry that I may become very ill again and loose my job? I don't need to be reminded when my job is to DEAL with it IF it arises, not live in terror each second.

I'm trying to explain this, but don't know if I'm doing well.

I NEED to plan for IF that happens (which I have in the form of this insurance check and the savings I'll start with it) and then REMOVE the worry because that alone WILL make me sick. When she already knows my fears combined with the heart wrenching possibility that I may never speak to my parents again...it just hit me right where I worry. It added to an already overflowing sense of dread, terror. This is my LIFE. I AM terrified my life will repeat itself, but I cannot dwell on that.

I can only react and plan and pray.

[carole]

Aww kelly, such a difficult situation all round, one can only feel empathy for you, you have it real tough sweetie, but Grandma means well, remember that, i am sorry she is making you feel worse, but she is only concerned for your well being, i know you already know that.

Wow you have really been caught up in a catch 22 situation here, and i completely understand now why your parents have had such a hold over you, although i cannot understand them at all,if it were me i would not even want the money back simple as that, and would support you in every way possible,it is almost like they enjoy having control over your life,personally i think it is great to raise your kids and then see them become independent, it means you have done a reasonable job.

I have done a lot of reading on crohns disease, and it is the pitts, to even beable to work as you do is simply amazing.

I wish you all the best dearest Kelly, and i can feel your excitement oozing out on these pages,take care and count down the days to your freedom again, HUGS.

[ChrisH]

I NEED to plan for IF that happens (which I have in the form of this insurance check and the savings I'll start with it) and then REMOVE the worry because that alone WILL make me sick. When she already knows my fears combined with the heart wrenching possibility that I may never speak to my parents again...it just hit me right where I worry. It added to an already overflowing sense of dread, terror. This is my LIFE. I AM terrified my life will repeat itself, but I cannot dwell on that.

Kelly, you have done, or will do, as much as you can to safeguard the future, and that is all you can do,
because that is all that it is, a time to come. You cannot know exactly what will happen so ...

Write it on your heart that every day is the best day in the year.
He is rich who owns the day, and no one owns the day who allows it to be invaded with fret and anxiety.
Finish every day and be done with it.
You have done what you could.
Some blunders and absurdities, no doubt, crept in.
Forget them as soon as you can, tomorrow is a new day;
begin it well and serenely, with too high a spirit to be cumbered with your old nonsense.
This new day is too dear, with its hopes and invitations,
to waste a moment on the yesterdays...
- Ralph Waldo Emerson

Be bold--and mighty forces will come to your aid.
- Basil King (1859-1928) Cleric and writer

Good luck sweetie, you will be in my prayers.
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[sasvermont]

Gosh, I just know you will thrive on your own Kelly. As I said in a previous post, take the high road. Don't assume anything, including knowing what will happen and how your folks will respond, and why! I know that it is tempting to try to predict, but it is also dangerous. Of course it is best to have plan a, b, c etc. ready for application, but to spend too much time wondering how someone else will react, well, it is a waste of your time. You deserve a break my dear, and you should concentrate on you and your needs and not wondering about what is in someone else's head.

Will you fail at this attempt to live on your own? Probably not. Anyone of us could come up short in our living situations. I bet I moved home three or four times as a young adult. It is why they call it home. It is a safe place to be. Unfortunately your Mom has taken home to an entirely different place. Sounds more like prison to me. She sounds like the warden and not Mom.

As far as your health is concerned, well, again, anyone of us could run in to a problem. I know I have and made arrangements to work with the problem until it was cured. You can always move here to Vermont. Don't forget that.

I wouldn't write your Mom off quite yet. She may surprise you and deal with this in an adult like way. I don't blame you for wanting out. I wonder why she is so mean to you? You need to distance yourself from her, and this seems to be the way.

So Kelly dear, chin up. You can do this. Keep your eyes open and your spirits up. You have so many cheer leaders here.

Love,
Sas and her campers

[Catty1]

Sign for your grandma, God bless her :) : "My mind's made up - don't confuse me with the facts." ;)

[Pawsitive Thinking]

You are so doing the right thing!! It even comes across in your posts how much better you feel about life :D

Your grandma is just concerned for you so you did well in letting her say her piece but don't let her put you off your future!!!

As for your parents, at the end of the day it will be up to them to keep the lines of communication open between them and you. You are hoping to have contact with them but if they choose not to then it is their problem and their loss!

Don't dwell on the past - thats over and done with and it can't be changed or repeated. Things are on the up for you!!!! and we are all here for you to help out in any way we can - you will never be alone

[NoahsMommy]

Update: Its going to be reallllllyyyy quick and I can't address your recent posts until I have some privacy online. But I wanted to update you! :)

#1...Kristin and I met and I gave her the money so that we're official! We've decided to make up our own lease agreement and have already approved our first draft. :) (We both wrote it, I typed it and emailed it to her. Waiting for changes/additions. When we're done, we'll get it notorized.)

#2...I spoke with my brother's girlfriend, Krista and she was SOOOOOOOO supportive! She said they'll help me move WHENEVER and we can use her dad's truck!!! That'll save me a ton of money (that would have had to come from my ins. check)! :D ALSO, she said they'll take my parents away for lunch or even the day on 2/2 (moving day for me and the cats). Kristin is fine with me bringing my stuff AND would LOVE it if I brought her a kitty or two to keep her company until I got there!!! (She actually asked me if I could!!! YAY!!)

#3...I overheard my mom mention that next Saturday (the 26th??) there is some grand opening at a Trilogy place they want to go to. God is smiling down upon me/us - this thing they're going to is like, 4 hours away!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!! They may even "make a weekend out of it"! That would give me a ton of time to get my boxes, my room and anything else packed!!! WOOHOO!!!!

Isn't this all so wonderful??? I'm so happy. Thank you my PT Family - my Angels. Thank you, God!!!!

Love, Kelly & Kitties

:) :) :) :)

P.S. Oh! I changed my Spousal Support address to CiCi's for my next check (February). Its all so exciting!!!

[Taz_Zoee]

Kelly, this is wonderful news!! I am so excited for you!! :D :D

[shais_mom]

Update: Its going to be reallllllyyyy quick and I can't address your recent posts until I have some privacy online. But I wanted to update you! :)

#1...Kristin and I met and I gave her the money so that we're official! We've decided to make up our own lease agreement and have already approved our first draft. :) (We both wrote it, I typed it and emailed it to her. Waiting for changes/additions. When we're done, we'll get it notorized.)

#2...I spoke with my brother's girlfriend, Krista and she was SOOOOOOOO supportive! She said they'll help me move WHENEVER and we can use her dad's truck!!! That'll save me a ton of money (that would have had to come from my ins. check)! :D ALSO, she said they'll take my parents away for lunch or even the day on 2/2 (moving day for me and the cats). Kristin is fine with me bringing my stuff AND would LOVE it if I brought her a kitty or two to keep her company until I got there!!! (She actually asked me if I could!!! YAY!!)

#3...I overheard my mom mention that next Saturday (the 26th??) there is some grand opening at a Trilogy place they want to go to. God is smiling down upon me/us - this thing they're going to is like, 4 hours away!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!! They may even "make a weekend out of it"! That would give me a ton of time to get my boxes, my room and anything else packed!!! WOOHOO!!!!

Isn't this all so wonderful??? I'm so happy. Thank you my PT Family - my Angels. Thank you, God!!!!

Love, Kelly & Kitties

:) :) :) :)

P.S. Oh! I changed my Spousal Support address to CiCi's for my next check (February). Its all so exciting!!!
wooohoo!!! :D

[AmberLee]

Wonderful news. Congrats, dear.

[krazyaboutkatz]

Kelly, thanks for the wonderful update.:) Since it sounds like your parents may be gone for the weekend of the the 26th, then maybe after you pack some boxes you could start taking some of your things over to your new place.:)(that is if Kirstin doesn't mind) and hopefully your mom wouldn't notice that some things were missing. I know that you're doing the right thing and that you'll feel much better after your move. Good luck.:)

[pnance]

Wow...I haven't had the chance to get back on here for a bit....but it looks it's working out...... Congrats Kelly!! I bet you can't wait!

[Pawsitive Thinking]

Fantastic!!

[dukedogsmom]

I just read your latest update. What wonderful news! We're all so happy for you! Fate and God is smiling down on you. Soon it will all be better :)

[Cincy'sMom]

Congratulations Kelly! I'm so glad to see everything coming together for you! All paws and fingers crossed things go smoothly!!!

[phesina]

Fantastic news! Well done, Kelly, and best wishes with the big move!

Pat

[carole]

Aww Kelly i am just as excited for you too, this is indeed the break you need dearest Kelly,all the best sweetie, for a smooth shift and a great life ahead of you.http://i264.photobucket.com/albums/ii185/jewellnz/woohoo.gif

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[NoahsMommy]

Awww, thank you for sharing in my excitement. :)

Only 12 days!!! YIPPEE!!!!!!!! :)

[NoahsMommy]

Here's a link from PT explaining what's going on: http://petoftheday.com/talk/showthread.php?t=131313&page=16&pp=15 (link opens at page 15, where most recent update began)

Good news is that I'm ESCAPING this hell-hole. Well, its nowhere near a hell-hole in all ways but emotionally! I've reached that point and I've about JUMPED way over it. I'm done dealing with the constant lack of respect, meanness, rudeness, and abuse I'm inflicted with daily. Daily from people (well, at least my freaking mother) that should be acting the exact opposite! Ugh.

Move-in date is 2/2/08 and I cannot wait!!!

I'll try and post some pictures of floorplans, etc here....

Floorplan:
http://i172.photobucket.com/albums/w18/kellyeverett/floorplan.jpg

Floorplans above: Its 1166 sq feet and is a dual master. Looking at the plans like the are now, just above this sentence, my bedroom is the one on the LEFT side. See how my very own bathroom is INSIDE my room? Meaning, in order to get to the bathroom in MY room, you'd have to come INSIDE my room - LOVE that privacy! The entry is at the top of this picture, in the middle. We enter into the living and dining rooms, with the kitchen low bar right there as well. There are WINDOWS galore! I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE natural light and this place is dripping with it! We get AM sun and can see the sunset from the balcony. We do not get afternoon sun, not the hot stuff. Bad for some roses, but most plants will grow on our balcony - which btw my room opens up onto!! There is a sliding glass door via the dining room as well. See? TONS of natural light!

MY closet is GINORMOUS! It could be a den or something! I'll be putting the litter boxes in there, along with anything else I want! ha ha :)

OK, here are more pictures and I'll keep going...oh, these pictures are from the ArchStone website, not the acctual apartment:

http://i172.photobucket.com/albums/w18/kellyeverett/maindoorkitchen.jpg
This is the entry door (see that door???) and the kitchen with the bar surrounding. Don't you love the cabinets and those two nice windows?? Its so nice and well-lit without much artificial light.


http://i172.photobucket.com/albums/w18/kellyeverett/kitchendiningroom.jpg
Here is the dining room and the kitchen. That door way leads to my room - if this was our apartment. Its funny though, its the exact layout, model, colors, etc. We just don't have that "stuff" or furnature. Its nice seeing these pictures to remind me, I didn't realize the kitchen cabinets had that ledge area for us to put stuff up there to decorate...fun!! :)


http://i172.photobucket.com/albums/w18/kellyeverett/kristinsmaster2.jpg
The model's version of Kristin's room. Aren't the windows lovely? Oh, did I mention we're upstairs?? Not sure if I did or not. I love and much prefer upstairs units for safety reasons - and they tend to offer more of that natural light I keep talking about.



No pictures of my room but there's one of my bathroom - I think.
http://i172.photobucket.com/albums/w18/kellyeverett/bathroom.jpg

We also have a washer and dryer enclave over by the front door and Kristin's bathroom. OMGosh!! That is soooooooooo wonderful - that was just icing on the already wonderful cake!!

http://i172.photobucket.com/albums/w18/kellyeverett/exterior.jpg
This is the exterior of the apt complex (Archstone) down over by the main enterence. Our outsides are stucco, I think. Will find out...

More coming in next post...

[NoahsMommy]

http://i172.photobucket.com/albums/w18/kellyeverett/poolarea.jpg
If I'm not mistaken, this is not the pool that is the closest to us. Not sure....will ask Kristin. Its pretty though. :)


http://i172.photobucket.com/albums/w18/kellyeverett/spa.jpg
The Spa and Shower...but not the closest one to our place....

http://i172.photobucket.com/albums/w18/kellyeverett/gym.jpg
Our very own Gym! YAY!!!! I'm already working on the healthful eating, on to the working out part! :)

http://i172.photobucket.com/albums/w18/kellyeverett/businesscenter.jpg
We are free to use our Business Center. Through that door on the upper right side is where we can use the internet, printers, FAX machines and copiers! Isn't that kind of nice?

OK...all done. :) I hope you liked the pictures. I'll eventually get some up of the actual apartment...not just the models.

Moving day is coming soon, THANK YOU GOD!!! I just sat down for my last (again, Thank YOU!!) "budget meeting" where they rub in my face how they CONTROL every cent I have. Ugh...thank GOD its over now.

Love you all!!!

[dukedogsmom]

What an awesome place! I am so happy for you. I can almost hear your happiness :D Not long now and you'll have a totally different life. It's so good to see the change in you already. That's bound to be good for your health.

[Emeraldgreen]

Beautiful apartment! You and your kitties are going to be so cozy there!! It's going to be great! Hang in there. February is just around the corner! :)

[Rachel]

Kelly, I'm thrilled with your excitement at a new phase in your life. Believe me, I not trying to second guess your judgement when I say this - it's that I just wish there were a way for you to feel comfortable about telling your mother that you are moving out and why you feel you need to do that. It's not that I don't understand, I do. I just wish it were different. Seems like this method will only be another arrow in her sling if you know what I mean.

Thanks for the pictures. It appears to be an absolutely lovely apartment. Hugs and wishes for all the best life has to offer.

[ramanth]

I'm so happy this is all working out. Woohoo!! :D

[carole]

Oh Kelly the apartment is a dream come true, in more ways than one eh? it is so luxurious and you will have a pool, gym,spa facilities too, lucky you, you deserve this dear girl, i am over the moon for you. :)

[krazyaboutkatz]

The apartment sure looks gorgeous and very spacious too.:) I bet that your furkids will enjoy being able to look out of so many windows.:)

[Karen]

I love that you'll have your own bathroom - makes it easier to quarantine somekitty if ever need be!

It looks great, and I hope you will be very happy there. We're all pulling for you!

[Sparklecoon]

Congratulations! I know what it's like to have a controling mother. It's a hard thing to do, getting out from under a family members grasp but in the end I've found it's very worth it.

[Pawsitive Thinking]

You are going to be so happy there - it looks wonderful

[NoahsMommy]

Thank you all so much for the nice comments on the pictures of my new place. Oh how I long to be there, to have all this overwith.

I had a setback last night involving my brother. You know, it seems as though the only person I'll be talking to that are actually related to me will be my grandmother.

Sit back and grab some popcorn...here's a story for you all. Audience participation requested as I'm conflicted and really need advice.

OK...First, let me give you a little background information. I had thought my brother, of all people, would understand why I'd want to get the heck out of my parents house. He, about 6 years ago, left our family for over 4 years. He didn't dramatically leave - we all met him on his 21st birthday for breakfast (we as in our whole family: mom, Jerry, me, David, aunt, uncle, cousins, etc.) and shortly afterwards, we never saw him again! He stopped returning our phone calls altogether and his phone was disconnected. We tried his friends, I tried his ex-girlfriend and her family who I KNEW was in contact with him and they refused to help me find him for my wedding (!!!!!) or he just didn't want to come, who knows. He ended up "finding himself" or that's what mom and I call it as when he called 4 years and 6 months later on Easter mid-day, he never offered an explaination. We've had him in our lives again and mom acts as though he's the prodigal son. I get that she doesn't want to do anything to make him go away again, but its like we're reverting back to when we were kids. Kevin always got away with EVERYTHING, I didn't even ATTEMPT to do anything remotely bad and I STILL got in trouble for stupid things.

Anyway, in the past 6 or so months, Kevin hasn't been acting himself...not the Kevin I knew and loved. I think he has a drug problem, he's aggressive, mean, rude and really moody. I went on a "will NEVER, EVER do that again" camping trip with Kevin and Krista in August and it was torture because I didn't drive and was stuck there with him. He picked up and threw my tent accross the campsite, never thanked me for giving them all the money I had (I wasn't working) to my name for extra food (I brought my own), alcohol (I don't drink), and the camping spot which he complained about the entire time, was aggressive with Krista (she's a tiny thing and he's a burly iron worker) and interchanged being RUDE to me or ignored me the entire trip. What horrible act did I do to deserve such treatment? I spoke back when he turned his agression and mean attitude towards ME. (oh no he didn't!!) This was after holding my tongue for the entire ride up there, 2 hours trying to find his friends in a huge, dark camping spot (who finally pulled up after the tent throwing incedent), checking in (with MY money), and him yelling at us for not being able to find his friends and that his cell phone didn't work! :mad: I spent the entire weekend without cell service either and ignored by him. Krista, who I thought was smart enough to remain on my side (you know what I mean) was all NICE to him after the oh, 10 blow up fights they had in 36 hours! Not only that, but they would go fishing and I'm thinking I'm a guest and would get to go too...yea, no. They'd pick up the poles Kevin got all ready (they brought 4 and he'd gotten all 4 ready each time) and Krista would say,"OK, Kelly, we're going to go fishing (at this point, I'd stand as if I was taking this as an invite, silly me!) now, so we'll see you later." (doh! OK, guess I'll just stay here then!) Oh what fun I had!!!!!!!!!!!! I sat at a hot, gross campsite. Thankfully, his friends were actually NICE and I spent the time with them. See, I'm not bed, your friends seem to like me, you jerk! Two days later when we got home, Kevin called to say Krista had broken up with him. Hmmmm, I wonder why?

Of COURSE, they're back together and he'll be good for 5 minutes and then be back to his druggie, mean, aggressive, demanding, self. NICE! At TWO of my mom's social functions he's publically fought with Krista (she had manners and tries to get him to stop or at least go outside) and then LEFT the function with her stuck there! All my parents friends see this, or notive Kevin not there and start asking my mom and I questions which utterly humiliate her. She's been saying for a full year that she's "going to have a TALK with him!!" with her stern face on. Yea...that'll happen!

And I do what, to warrant that type of "talk" from my mom? go out on a Sunday with my GRANDMA and stay out till 9:00 or 9:30? Yes, I'm such a bad daughter, so inconsiderate!!!

Anyway, sorry for all that. My posts seem to be getting longer and drama filled. :rolleyes: So, I think my brother is still taking whatever the heck drug causes you to be evil, because he's been an utter s*it to me!! :( :confused:

Here's what has happened since my last update on the apartment/escaping plans/issues:

*As I updated you all, I spoke with Krista on Thursday night about my plans and she was very supportive: offering to help me move, to get dads truck so I wouldn't have to encure that cost, telling me that they'd do anything they could to get my parents out of the house for me, etc, etc. We talked some more and I kind of told her about our childhood, something Kevin NEVER talks about to her - isn't that kind of wierd? I mean, NEVER talks about. Who would date someone that wont talk about his childhood, thats what relationships are, the good AND the bad. If anything, at least she'd be able to understand some of the crap he puts her through! I'm just amazed, she's such a mature, smart girl, I don't know why she's wasting her time. (ugh, sorry, wrong thread!!) Anyway, she did say that he told her the reason he wasn't living with or talking to his family when she was with him those years we weren't talking/knew where he was, that he "didn't agree with the rules his mom had" and so "I moved away for awhile". OK, so obviously SOMETHING happened you didn't like. You told Krista that! She told me that she'd let me tell Kevin the good news and that my secret was safe with them, and that she was proud of me and really excited for me.

*That call to Krista was 1 of 4 I made to their phones. 1 each to their cell phones, 1 to the phone in their room and 1 to the main home number - which she picked up. So based on the messages I left, they knew, "I had some really good news I wanted to share with them. To call me so I could tell them the news and that btw, its something I DONT want mom and Jerry to know about." That was Thursday night.

*I'm in my room on Sunday night and my brother calls JUST as my mom and Jerry walk into the house, so I tell Kevin, "I can't talk, but I'm moving out, to an apartment, mom and Jerry CANT know...I can't talk, but I'll text you and call you tomorrow, OK???" I hang up and text him the following: 'Kev, I cant talk now because mom and jerry are home and they ALWAYS seem to listen! I can call u tomorrow to tell u about it? hugs, kelly'

*I leave my phone off during the day...and also when I'm in an appt, going through a line (anywhere)

Gotta go, will finish when I get home...

[moosmom]

Kelly,

Sure sounds like drugs to me. Either Crystal Meth or something else. You need to concentrate on yourself and your cats. Your brother is a big boy and can take care of himself. The less you worry about your family and brother, the stronger you'll grow.

And don't feel bad about your brother packing up and leaving. I have my only living sibling (brother, older by 5 years) sell his house in Shrewsbury, Mass. and move to Hendersonville, NC without even telling me!!!! I had no clue he sold his house until one day I happened to ask him. He has totally disassociated himself from the rest of the family (cousins) and hadn't spoken to my father in 20 years before he died. The only time I see him is at weddings and funerals. To this day I just don't understand why. Don't think I'll ever get an answer.

I'm so very happy for you, Kel. If anyone deserves a break, it's you. I'm excited about your new place and getting every one of your furkids back.

(((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))))))

Donna

[shais_mom]

Kelly,

Sure sounds like drugs to me. Either Crystal Meth or something else.
(((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))))))

Donna
I was actually wondering about steroids after some reading I did tonite. :confused:

[Cinder & Smoke]

Not to change tha subject back to Noah ...

Edit ... never mind.

[shais_mom]

Not to change tha subject back to Noah ...


you could PM her.
You DO realize this is one of the hardest things she has had to do in her life right?
She's pouring her heart out here - she is trying to get the support from her PET TALK family that she is sorely lacking at home :(

that said Phred - go drink a nice cup of tea and pat yourself on the back for a job well done with the WOODY ESCAPADE - you do deserve it...

[dukedogsmom]

Kelly,
I hope all this drama ends soon. I know you won't miss it. I finally made Brody's moms and my payment today. I can't wait till he's with you!

[NoahsMommy]

*Basically, I got 4 missed calls from him during the day. I got 3 voicemails (that I just later deleted without listening to) from him. I get in the car after the spa sessions (soooooo wonderful, btw, JUST what the Doc ordered! :) ) and call Kevin. I can tell from how he says, "hello" (that, and his multiple calls) that he's back in his "camping mood" - just what I DONT need. :rolleyes:

Long story short (I promise this time), he tells me that he thinks I should TELL my mom that I'm leaving. When I ask 'why??' in my "are you CRAZY??' voice, he says, "Because, they gave you a place to live!" as if I'm some ungrateful child!

I'm sorry, but WHO THE HELL is HE to say that to me??? A flood, no, a million TIDAL WAVES came rushing through my brain of feelings and memories as if they'd been waiting for the action or words from Kevin that would just be IT. Done. Here they come and there's no backing up those waves! At once, I remembered everything I went through because of the *hit KEVIN pulled growing up - not normal brother stuff - we're talking I had ZERO social life because Kevin was the bad boy who needed constant supervision and thus had to have someone at home for him in case of ANYTHING, so guess who HAD to be stuck at HOME every summer from 5th grade to 12th grade? I lost so many friends - what teenage wants to stay at someone's house all the time??? All the stuff he pulled, landed BOTH of us on our "dad hates us" list. I've covered for him for years and years. When he'd get in trouble while I was home and he was out doing whatever he wanted, I'd get in trouble as I was supposed to "guess" when he was being bad....ect.etc.etc. :rolleyes: :confused: :mad: :rolleyes: That is just ONE example of all the crap they pulled on me! I've "gotten over it" in that I accept it as poor education on my mom's part and that one day, Kevin will thank me for all I've done for him. Guess I hafta figure out how to get over it again, huh??

I guess I've resented them both for ruining my childhood, but Kevin was a mixed up kid. Now that he's older, he just, well is becoming a loser. I was shocked that he didn't see my side - I've always been there for HIM and took his side because he was my brother. Now, when I'm FINALLY able to get out on my own - a feat that has been impossible with my body causing my life to crash down around my ears - he acts as though our wonderful, perfect mother is the victim in all this! That I, the only one that's had his back since Day 1, am the ungrateful one. :confused: :confused:

Why? Is it because I'm finally, for the first time, thinking of myself for a change? If thats ungrateful....that good, I'll be it. If it means being free and clear of the not only TOXIC, but truly mean people, then you can call me whatever you want!

I'm sad that I have to loose him too. He's said he'll help me with whatever I need help with...and promises not to tell my mom. But, we'll see.

I'm just so ready for it to be 2/2. I'll be HOME, finally and with my kitties - all four - and with a new roomie! Then on 2/3, we'll wake up together - one meowmie, one ball of kitty in OUR bed, finally.

And I'll have gotten through it...because my PT Family is fabulous and wonderful and the family God found for me. :)



Thank you all so very much!!!

Love you ALL,
Kelly, Noah, Basie, Phoebe & My Micah


XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXO

[NoahsMommy]

Hey guys,

I have a call into Balcom to check on the balance...now that I'm thinking, I made a call to them on Saturday inquiring about the same thing that they haven't returned. Hmm....I think I'll call back again. Pestering usually works!

I'll let you know what I find out as soon as I know it.

Hugs,
Kelly and our Spa Resident (not for long, buddy, better soak up all that Spa-ness while you can, you're coming HOME baby kitten!!! :D :D :D ), Noah-kins

[Pawsitive Thinking]

Kelly - stop worrying about your brother, your parents, your grandma and start concentrating on you!!!!

[Laura's Babies]

No wonder you get so sick. That is such a toxic family that you should do what your brother did and get out and cut off all communications. I wouldn't trust him to keep quiet about you moving out either much less showing up on moving day. My thoughts and prayers will be with you and hope this all comes off without a hitch and you get some peace in your life.

[NoahsMommy]

Kelly - stop worrying about your brother, your parents, your grandma and start concentrating on you!!!!

No wonder you get so sick. That is such a toxic family that you should do what your brother did and get out and cut off all communications.

You both are 100% correct. I KNEW I'd start "feeling bad" getting close to move date, and I knew I'd need you all to remind me WHY I'm getting the H*LL out of there.

Thank you!! :)

P.S. I called Balcom this morning and left a message to please leave the balance on my voicemail if I'm unable to pick up my phone when they call. So at least I can give you a balance update on Noah James. YAY! I also told them I'm coming to pick him on/around 2/2 and needed to see if that is an "OK" day for pickup. (They have certain days you can drop off and pick up. I think Saturday is OK for pickup, but don't want any surprises! ;)

[moosmom]

Kelly,

I am so proud of you, honey. You've come so very far. I think being away from such toxicity is going to be just what the doctor ordered.

You'll be in my thoughts and prayers.

Huge (((((((((((((((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))))) )))))))))))

DONNA

[Pawsitive Thinking]

I KNEW I'd start "feeling bad" getting close to move date, and I knew I'd need you all to remind me WHY I'm getting the H*LL out of there.

Its only natural - when you leave somewhere or someone you tend to only remember the goods bits but if you ever doubt you are doing the right thing picture yourself still living there this time next year reading back on this thread...........

[NoahsMommy]

You are so right, thank you!! (((Hugs)))

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Noah Uppydate:

OK, a HUGE, HUGE, HUGE THANK YOU to all my PT Family who helped get Noah's balance to a manageable size...and to all those that are constantly here for me and my kitties...Thank you all so very much!!! For everything!!

Noah's balance when I pick him up will be $260.00 on Saturday 2/2 between 2:00 and 4:00 pm! You guys are so amazing....I mean, there truly was no other place for my Noah. For those that had the uh, pleasure (??) of meeting Mr. Noah Nawtee Cat, know that there is no way I could have inflicted him on anyone. Of course he picks NOW to finally come around. Silly boy! But that'll work in our favor with Kristin and he needs to be nice to her, especially! So, I guess it all worked out, right??

I cannot, will not be able to convey how much I love you guys, how much you've done for me and my kitties. The support alone, that you knew I was doing the right thing - when everyone else (nearly) in my life thought I was CRAZY! to keep my kitties, no matter what it took. I KNEW I'd be at this point...and I'm almost there. :) :D :)

OK, I probably should get something done at work.

Hugs, Love & Gratitude FOREVER,
Kelly & Noah

[carole]

Kelly the reason you are feeling bad nearer your shift, is because you are such a loving person, that even after everything your family has put you through ,you still have compassion,something they seem truely lacking in.

I am so excited for you,please try and find that inner peace and harmony within yourself, and DONOT by any means feel even the smallest amount of guilt about leaving, you are not being ungrateful,you know they are the ones missing out in life,they should consider themselves honoured to have such a wonderful daughter,why on earth they cannot see it is beyond me.

You take much care now, and relax sweetie, times ahead are going to be good.

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[ramanth]

You can do it Kelly! Keep focused on YOU! You and your kitties are what matter.

*HUGS*

[Pawsitive Thinking]

Thank you all so very much!!! For everything!!

That's what "family" is for ;)

[emily_the_spoiled]

Kelly, please remember that you are not alone in this situation. We are hear to listen and provide support for both you and Noah.

I would also like to tell you that you are not the only person who has been in this situation. When I was arranging to immigrate countries, I was living 500 miles from my parents but I did not tell anyone in my family that I was planning on immigrating until about 1 month before I left. By then I had all the paperwork in order and the movers booked, so they could say anything they wanted but it was too late to do anything about it. I realize you situation is different because you still live at home, but sometimes you have to do these things for your own peace and happiness (and sanity).

[NoahsMommy]

My Family...

I'm experiencing a TON of warriness. I'm so scared to tell my parents. I know that they'll be so upset no matter what I say or do. Even though they've done a bunch of not nice things, I know that from deep down, THEY feel its from wanting the best for me. I know that in my heart. The problem is, I DO care. I wish I could just turn it off. I don't ever want to hurt anyone, regardless of if they hurt me first.

Will you all please pray extra hard for me? That I know what to say and when to say it? If I'm led to "say" anything at all...or if God wants me to leave them a letter and go quiety. Whatever He wants me to do, whatever is RIGHT, I want to do it. I'll live through the harsh, meanness I'm most certainly going to recieve. I just want to do what will inflict the least amount of damage.

You are all so wonderful. Thank you all, for just being there for me. Having you here is just, priceless...(((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))

Love, Kelly

P.S. Update: due to the bad rains, storms, flooding here, my parents cancelled their day trip for tomorrow. :( Darn it! But, Kevin and Krista are going to help me get/move the stuff out of storage and into the apt on Sunday. :)

[Catty1]

Kelly - I try asking God to provide the words, and just work through my hand/pen (or mouth - I should ask THAT one more often! :) )

You may want to write to them AFTER you move, also. Give that some thought.

HUGS

Just because you are pro-Kelly does not mean you are anti-anyone-else - know what I mean?

Being on your own side and acting that way is not a hurtful act. Others may react with hurt, or etc. But that is not your fault or concern - that is theirs to deal with.

You can care about your family - you just can't take care OF them.

Your turn, sweetie!

[krazyaboutkatz]

Kelly, Of course I'll pray extra hard for you.:) I would think that your parents would be happy and glad to hear that you've found a wonderful new place to live and also that you'll have a great roommate as well. Don't they want you to be happy? They also know that you love your furkids and that now you'll be able to live with them again. If you feel uncomfortable in telling them this news in person then I'd write them a letter. I just hope that everything will work out for you. You deserve to be happy. Please take care. (((HUGS)))

[Rachel]

My Family...

I'm experiencing a TON of warriness. I'm so scared to tell my parents. I know that they'll be so upset no matter what I say or do. Even though they've done a bunch of not nice things, I know that from deep down, THEY feel its from wanting the best for me. I know that in my heart. The problem is, I DO care. I wish I could just turn it off. I don't ever want to hurt anyone, regardless of if they hurt me first.

Will you all please pray extra hard for me? That I know what to say and when to say it? If I'm led to "say" anything at all...or if God wants me to leave them a letter and go quiety. Whatever He wants me to do, whatever is RIGHT, I want to do it. I'll live through the harsh, meanness I'm most certainly going to recieve. I just want to do what will inflict the least amount of damage.

You are all so wonderful. Thank you all, for just being there for me. Having you here is just, priceless...(((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))

Love, Kelly

P.S. Update: due to the bad rains, storms, flooding here, my parents cancelled their day trip for tomorrow. :( Darn it! But, Kevin and Krista are going to help me get/move the stuff out of storage and into the apt on Sunday. :)


Kelly, I really understand how your health and maintaining it is the most important thing. Only you can decide what is the best course of action to keep your health on an even keel. If that wasn't part of the mix (which of course it is), I would ask you to consider the following.

Much of the issue with your parents seems to be that they treat you as a child. That is their problem. In order to try to change that, at least from what you have the ability to control, what you can do is try to handle situations in an adult manner. Ask yourself what is the most adult way to handle this.

The other thing to consider would be, if you were the parent how would you want your child to handle such a move? (Kind of like do unto others how you would like them to do unto you).

That is my input. This is only one of many difficult decisions that life will throw your way. Sometimes even if the outcome isn't what your want or envision, one can feel good that we tried to handle something in the appropriate manner. I personally respect whatever decision you come to because I see how hard you are trying to sort out a course of action.

[Catsnclay]

Kelly, I have to agree with Rachel.....


If you want to be treated as an adult, then act like one.

IMO - do not leave a note. You need to sit them down and explain to them that this is your time to leave. Thank them for all their help and love, but it now time for you to move on into your own place.

Done, simple and to the point. It doesn't matter if they like your decision or not, but at least you confronted them. Keep confronting them, they will learn that you ARE an adult, and if you act & treat them as one, then in turn they will learn to treat you as an equal. But if you run and leave a note, in their mind that is the childish thing to do and will continue to treat you as their child.

Like I said, this is MY opinion, and this is how I would handle this situation.....which BTW, I too have been in your shoes, so I do know what you are going through.

Stand your ground, and be polite about it. Good Luck!!!!!!

Bunny

[ramanth]

Lots of prayers for you Kelly.

Either way, whether you leave a note or tell them in person, they are likely to be upset, right?

Are you afraid that if you tell them in person, they'll stop you from leaving? Are they capable of that?

I hate confrontations as well but I'm just curious for the need of secrecy. I don't mean to be nosy. :o

*HUGS*

[NoahsMommy]

You've made some VERY good points. If I want them to view and treat me like an adult, I need to act like one. Just writing a note is not going to be adult-like, even if it'll get me out of an initial confrontation. That confrontation needs to happen, regardless of the result.

I'm going to sit down with them both this Friday after work. That way, if they make me leave right away, I'll still have a place to go to. I can go to my new apartment and take a kitty or two on my way...or go alone and get them on Saturday as planned.

I'm going to praying constantly until then that God provides the words. I CANNOT do this alone.

Love, Kelly :)

P.S. I'm meeting my brother at the storage place at 1:00 pm, then we'll get to the new apartment and Kristin at 3:00 p.m. to move some things in. Yay!! :)

[carole]

All the best Kelly, you can do it, it will be hard i know, but you will find the inner strength to say the right thing i'm sure,hoping it all goes better than you expect, take care and HUGS. :)

[ramanth]

Good luck Kelly!!! :D

[Alysser]

I just read the whole thread, and I am saddened that you had such a hard time at home. Hope all goes well for you!!! I will be waiting for updates. :)

[Karen]

My whole church has you in our prayers, Kelly! ;) And our pastor has four cats, so I'm sure they're included.

[dukedogsmom]

I'm a little nervous for you telling them in person. I hope it all goes well. If you do have to leave right away, take all your kitties with you, ok? We'll all be glad when this is over and you start your new and happy life. You've been down a long road and now it's time for a different journey. Hopefully one that brings you peace and happiness.

[Rachel]

You've made some VERY good points. If I want them to view and treat me like an adult, I need to act like one. Just writing a note is not going to be adult-like, even if it'll get me out of an initial confrontation. That confrontation needs to happen, regardless of the result.

I'm going to sit down with them both this Friday after work. That way, if they make me leave right away, I'll still have a place to go to. I can go to my new apartment and take a kitty or two on my way...or go alone and get them on Saturday as planned.

I'm going to praying constantly until then that God provides the words. I CANNOT do this alone.

Love, Kelly :)

P.S. I'm meeting my brother at the storage place at 1:00 pm, then we'll get to the new apartment and Kristin at 3:00 p.m. to move some things in. Yay!! :)

Kelly, I will be praying for you too. I am very proud of your thoughtful consideration of how best to handle this. {{{hugs}}}

[NoahsMommy]

My Sweet Friends/Family,

Well, today did NOT go as planned, but it worked out for the best, actually. Kristin did not call me back so I knew what time to come and bring some of my things (ie: my bed from the storage unit my brother and I are sharing). She finally called me at 3:00 p.m., the time I asked if we could BE THERE at. Oh well...I guess she left her cell phone somewhere and didn't have access to it. She said she didn't realize it until she saw the time and knew I'd be coming in the afternoon. Oh well.

We're meeting Tuesday at 5:30 p.m. at the apartment so she can give me a key. Then it wont matter if she's there or not.

My brother was actually a good sport about everything. So that's nice. He was right, you all were right, I need to tell my parents. I wouldn't be proud of myself if I didn't. So, now I have a week of nerves on edge until I talk to them on Friday. I'm going to be praying HARD for God to help me with this, there is NO WAY I'd be able to do it alone. So your prayers (Thank you to your church, Karen! That's so kind/sweet of you!) are VERY MUCH APPRECIATED!!! :D

I'm thinking that if Friday doesn't go very well, I'll pick up my Micah from CiCi's house on the way to my new place. That is 2/1/08, so its OK for me to move in then. Then Micah and I will have a campout! YAY! :)

I'll keep you all updated. ALL the prayers you can offer will certainly help. I just need calm and clarity...and prayers they will recieve me.

Hugs, Kelly and kits

XOXOXOXOXOX

[Laura's Babies]

Good thoughts coming your way and prayers already said for you to find the right words and thing be peaceful for you.

[NoahsMommy]

Update:

This evening I met Kristin at the apartment - our apartment, YAY! - to pickup MY KEY!!! YAY!!! Its nearly official!!!!! :D

I got my address change request from the post office at lunch on Monday and got my new address from Kristin this evening. I'll fill this out and drop it off at my local post office tomorrow. I've already changed my address for my spousal support check, but haven't gotten a confirmation...I changed that one to CiCi's address. Maybe I'll just call them tomorrow and give them my new address so its done for good. "Note to self..." ;)

I got a surprise when I got to the apartment. Her name is "Darling"! I guess Kristin's friend got a bunny wabbit and either couldn't keep it in her current living situation, or something like that. Either way, it looks like we may have a BUNNY!!! I'm sooooo excited as I miss Faith and Thomas sooo much! Darling is just a tiny thing, well, more "little" than tiny. She's VERY sweet and is learning to come to you when you call her - while she out romping. Normally she's in her Bunny Condo when Kristin isn't there. Luckily Noah and Basie where raised with bunnies, huh? (Darling's condo is kept in Kristin's room, btw.)

Here are 2 pictures of what Darling looks like:
http://farm1.static.flickr.com/102/253051562_13af807795.jpg?v=0
http://www.rabbit.org/graphics/fun/netbunnies/dande1-smigo1.jpg

Plans are: Kevin and I are going to try and move in my stuff from the storage one day this week (after work)...and then continue Saturday or Sunday. Now that I have my key, it shouldn't be a problem.

I'll keep you all updated.

Pls continue with your wonderful prayers that I have the right words, that God calms my mom and opens her heart and ears to what I have to say...and that it all gets overwith soon! My tummy has been hurting way too much over this!

Hugs, Kelly :)

[shais_mom]

awww Darling sure fits her name! :D
fingers crossed for a smooth transition!

[Karen]

You are in our prayers - and if there's a bunny involved, well, that's even better! Give her a raisin from me, okay?

[krazyaboutkatz]

Kelly, I hope that everything goes smoothly and I'll continue to keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Darling sure is a cutie pie. I'm so glad to hear that your new roommate is an animal lover.:)

[carole]

You go girl, all the best dear kelly, gosh darling is gorgeous isn't she? i will be thinking of you and hoping everything goes nice and smoothly. HUGS :)

[Pawsitive Thinking]

This time next week you will be in your new home!!!

Cute little bunny :D

[Rachel]

I'm so excited for you.

Keep your eye on the prize and remember that you have every right to claim your life and ability to function as an independent adult. You are not making this move to hurt anyone. You are making it as a necessary step to being responsible and self-supporting. You are trying to make good choices for yourself. You obviously appreciate the help, love and assistance of everyone who has been there for you in the past and you will also appreciate their emotional support too as you continue on your journey. Give yourself a little pep talk, girl. One way to find the right things to say is to be confident in your right to do this.

I just was thinking that maybe you could write out what you want to say and then read it to your mom. That way you could edit, rewrite, etc. until you get it just the way you feel comfortable with it.

[jennielynn1970]

I keep hoping and praying that all goes well for you!! Wish I lived closer because I'd help you move in a heartbeat. I really hope this goes smoothly for you and your mom doesn't give you too much of a hassle. I so know what moms can be like when they are defensive.

Two more days till Feb. 1st!!!!! I'm so excited for you!

[Taz_Zoee]

Kelly, it sounds like things are going good for you. That's awesome!! I just know that your talk with your mom will be difficult for you, but it is something that needs to be done. After it's all said and done, you will feel better about it. I hope that your mom understands and doesn't get angry.
I am so excited for you!! :D :D I can't wait to see pictures of you and your kitties all together again. :)

[dukedogsmom]

I think it would be a good idea to write down what you're going to say, too. I hope it goes well for you. And Darling is just, well darling! What an adorable bun bun. Also, I had a more than decent tax return so later today, I'm going to share the joy and pay some more on Noah's bill. We all will be so happy to see you with all your kitties on your own bed :)

[ramanth]

Congrats! Darling is well... darling! :D

[gini]

Talking to your Mom is the first step in reclaiming your life......and you can do this. Just think of the happiness and fun that is ahead of you!

And - I live close enough that I could steal Darling in a heartbeat. Rascal would love a bunny ! HA! (NOT)

XXOO

[NoahsMommy]

I think it would be a good idea to write down what you're going to say, too. I hope it goes well for you.

I think this is a very good idea as well. I've been thinking of lots of things to say, but know I need to be to the point and unemotional. I think that if I write it all down, it'll help me organize my thoughts, and thus, make it easier on me in that I know what I'll say. Thanks for the great ideas, everyone! :)


Also, I had a more than decent tax return so later today, I'm going to share the joy and pay some more on Noah's bill.

Val,

You really are very, very kind. You've already given to Noah's "spa time" a few times and your support, concern and advice has been so wonderful. Noah and I cannot thank you enough for all you are doing for us. It wont ever, ever be forgotten.

Everyone,

I hope I've been able to convey my gratitude to you all, for ALL you've done. Be it prayers, advice, warm thoughts, donations, kind words and good wishes, your support has meant THE WORLD TO ME.

Only a little over 2 days left....then my life will go back to "NORMAL". I am thrilled beyond belief that I'm going to finally get to live with my kitties again. To regain control over my life in all aspects, including health-wise (Praise God! & "Knock on Wood!!") makes me so incredibly happy. This whole experience really has made me appreciate the freedom I've been given, the life we are all so lucky to have.

Anyway, thanks again, everyone. For ALL you've done to help me and my furry angels.

Love, Kelly & Kitties


XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXO

[phesina]

God bless, Kelly, and safe home!

Love, hugs, and purrs,
Pat, Peony, Sydney, Poppy, Elmer, and Priscilla Angel

[rg_girlca]

Dear sweet Kelly,

How I wish you all the best. I know your life will be nothing but uphill from here on in and that your condition will improve by being free from stress and emotionally torture. Most importantly, you will have your precious kitties back with you.
Take care and how I pray that everything goes well for you on Friday.

{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}

[shais_mom]

I txted Kelly last nite and she said that amount is about $160 left on the acct - she said it didn't change from her last update. :)

[gini]

I sent a check that they may not have received and posted yet. I let Kelly know I had sent it so she could check with them to be sure they had it applied to Noah's account.

[NoahsMommy]

$$ Update...

As of the beginning of this week, the total was $260.00, then two people donated $100.00. Bringing the total to $160.00, at least, that's what I got when I compared the donation to what Balcom told me two weeks ago.

I'll call today and see what the total is during lunch and let you all know.

Thank you, Stace, for updating for me. ((((Hugs))))

THANK YOU ALL for your constant support, love, kindness and concern. I'm a very rich person for I have the love of many wonderful, truly GOOD people. I'm so lucky, so blessed. Thank you.

Love, Kelly & Fuzzies :)

((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((PT FAMILY))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

[Cincy'sMom]

Lots of prayers coming your way, that things go smoothly the next few days!!

[shais_mom]

well I thought you said $160 in your txt but then I checked your earlier post and it said $260 so I changed it.
Glad I was confused !
I changed my post.

[NoahsMommy]

***IMPORTANT BALCOM CANYON PET LODGE BALANCE UPDATE!!***

I spoke with one of the office girls on my way home from work. The new and final total (good thru pickup on Saturday) is $200.00. I asked what the most recent donations were and she said they recieved 3 checks on 1/15 and 1 check on 1/18. One check was for $100.00. Another transaction was for $60.00 via a credit card. <-- I believe that was the most recent transaction. Balcom does NOT tell me WHO donates, only the means (ie: check, cash, credit card) and the amount. That's why I really like to have you PM me or post here so I can properly thank you all. ((((hugs))))

In order for me to pick up Noah on Saturday, I have to have the balance paid for by the end of business tomorrow afternoon. (FRIDAY)

If you have donated after 1/18 will you PM me? I want to make sure they are applying the payments. Or, if you feel more comfortable, you can call them: Phone: (805) 523-7076.

I'm wondering if they aren't applying the payments correctly, or if that girl was wrong. As per our convo this afternoon, she had a check for $100.00 that was from 1/18. But, that check I was asking about was supposed to be from someone who posted she mailed it on the 22nd. Granted, that's a "common number", so maybe they haven't gotten that one??

Would you mind calling Balcom, guys? Make sure that what you've sent or called in has gotten there? I would do it, but I don't know how much as been sent, when and what form of payment. If you prefer, you can tell me this info, and I can call? Whatever works.

Thank you SO MUCH, guys.

I love you all to pieces!

[gini]

Kelly, then they do not have my check posted yet.

I just called them and left a message about my check - because I want to be sure you get the credit and don't have to pay when you pick up Noah.

xxoo Gini

[NoahsMommy]

Kelly, then they do not have my check posted yet.

I just called them and left a message about my check - because I want to be sure you get the credit and don't have to pay when you pick up Noah.

xxoo Gini

Thank you, Mom!! :)

This is why I asked the girl at Balcom to tell me about the last 5 or so transactions. I knew there was at least one or two that hadn't posted yet.

(((((((((Hugs)))))))))

[Cinder & Smoke]

I knew there was at least one or two that hadn't posted yet.

***
I think you ought to "audit" their accounting of Noah's finances ...

How did the "Final Bill on this coming Saturday" go UPWARDS
from $160.00 to the latest total of $200.00 ???
:confused:

As for their informing you - they certainly SHOULD be advising you WHO donated -
most places withold the amount the person donated.

Unheard of to refuse to acknowledge the donor.
<shakes head>
<SHAKES head>

Good Luck on Saturday claiming da Kat!
Happie MOVE Tomorrow!!

:)
/s/ Phred

[NoahsMommy]

***
I think you ought to "audit" their accounting of Noah's finances ...

How did the "Final Bill on this coming Saturday" go UPWARDS
from $160.00 to the latest total of $200.00 ???
:confused:

As for their informing you - they certainly SHOULD be advising you WHO donated -
most places withold the amount the person donated.

Unheard of to refuse to acknowledge the donor.
<shakes head>
<SHAKES head>

Good Luck on Saturday claiming da Kat!
Happie MOVE Tomorrow!!

:)
/s/ Phred

Phred,

The more I wrote out that post, the more I feel I need to talk with a manager and have them fax me an accounting of Noah's ENTIRE stay. I've asked repeatedly for them to keep a list for me...for my "thank yous" and then planned on coming here and making sure you all agreed with it. In the past, when I've paid with a CC, they don't give you a CC receipt! You have to ASK for one! I don't know if this is because a bunch of high-school girls work there or what, but when it comes to the accounting, they need a MANAGER to apply payments.

I'll call them first thing tomorrow AM and strongly insist on an itemized statement of Noah's stay.

Hugs, Kelly

P.S. I just spoke with my brother. We're getting the "heavy stuff" to the apartment during the day on Sunday. Kevin is renting us a big truck so we can do it in one trip. Saturday will be "making a bed with blankies", moving boxes, kitchen stuff, kitty stuff, etc. I think Saturday night will be a "camp out" on the floor until my bed comes the next day. ha ha Hey, anywhere my kitties are, is PERFECT with me! YAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :D :D :D

[Karen]

It's almost the day! We're all looking forward to it with you!

Oh, and is Darling a definite new roommate?

[NoahsMommy]

It's almost the day! We're all looking forward to it with you!

Oh, and is Darling a definite new roommate?

Thanks, Karen! :)

I just asked my parents if I could talk to them tomorrow evening after work. They have plans at 6:30 p.m. to go to their old neighbors house for "garage night", so we decided to talk before, at around 5:30ish. I'm really feeling positive, I *think* and am even getting positive vibes that they wont be totally mad at me. Who knows, maybe it will go well. It would be so very nice, you know? I love my parents and would love to remain at peace with eachother. I've NEVER wanted to have to be estranged from them.

So, we'll see.

On Darling? Its looking like it. Kristin wasn't sure, but I was kind of getting "I want to KEEP her" vibes. ;)

[NoahsMommy]

OK, this is so that when I get an accounting from Balcom, I have everything in order if I need to dispute this. I noted when "Ashley" told me (on Aug. 3 at nearly 3:00 p.m.) that 'after "a month" the rate per day goes from $12.00 to $10.00.'
Here we go:

I brought Noah to his "Spa Suite" around 5:00 p.m. on Monday, July 30, 2007. From that night (7/30/07) to 8/30/07 his rate was $12.00/per day.
The math is as follows:

7/30/07 to 8/30/07 is 32 days.
32 days x $12.00 per day is $384.00

8/31/07 to 2/2/08 is 156 days.
156 days x $10.00 per day is $1,560.00

Total days = 156 + 32 = 188 days
Total Fees= $384.00 (at $12.00 rate) + $1,560.00 (at $10.00 rate) = $1,944.00

So, the TOTAL CHARGES that should be entered on Noah's itemized statement should be $1,944.00 and needs to be calculated as I did above.

Do you guys realize you have donated NEARLY TWO THOUSAND DOLLARS to Noah...and to our future? To the future of me and my kitty family? To MY FUTURE of freedom, happiness, healthfulness.

I thought I was shocked/floored/speechless before! Wow. You guys not only donated an AMAZING amount, but you did so without a second thought, with your hearts, readily opening up your lives to me. I know I'll never, ever be able to thank you enough, but I hope I can convey at least a fraction of how SPECIAL and WONDERFUL you all are to me. I'm blessed because of you, and because I know each and every one of you.

I love you all, with all my heart. If there is EVER anything I can do for any of you, please, allow me. I cannot tell you how much you've helped me, how you've changed my life. I promise not to EVER forget this kindness and WILL 'pay it forward'.

Love, Kelly & Noah


XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXO

[dukedogsmom]

If I figured it out right, you should owe, at the most, $100. I don't know why they won't tell you who donated because they sure ask our first and last names. My donation was mentioned in your one post. Not long now! I do hope it goes peacefully and you can have some sort of normal relationship with your parents. Maybe they'll see the light, so to speak. Looking forward to seeing pics of you and your new place. I know your health will improve when you get out of that toxic atmosphere. And kitty purrs to help you along, too :D

[NoahsMommy]

If I figured it out right, you should owe, at the most, $100.

I totally agree!! Especially since I was told this:


Noah's balance when I pick him up will be $260.00 on Saturday 2/2 between 2:00 and 4:00 pm!

I got the above message at around 9:30 a.m. on 1/23 from one of the employees @ Balcom Cyn. If they got Val and Brody's Mum's donation, that would take it down to $160.00. (Val, you mailed that around the 22nd, right? So that wouldn't be included in the total then?) If there were ANY made after 1/18, it would be even lower and as per Gini, her's wasn't counted yet.

Hmmm....I'm calling them NOW and will expect an answer and a fax tomorrow morning.

I'll keep you all updated.

P.S. Val, thank you!!! ((((Hugs))))

[dukedogsmom]

My payments were made by credit card and they have both been done. Yesterday's cleared that day. I don't remember the exact date that the other payment was made but I think it's in this thread. I guess we should have appointed someone here to be bookeeper on this, huh? :p

[NoahsMommy]

My payments were made by credit card and they have both been done. Yesterday's cleared that day. I don't remember the exact date that the other payment was made but I think it's in this thread. I guess we should have appointed someone here to be bookeeper on this, huh? :p

Val,

Your CC payment cleared on the 22nd or 23rd?

If so, that wasn't in her "we got payments/checks on the 15th and the 18th".

Hmmm...

[dukedogsmom]

I'll have to check later when not busy at work. I don't know if there's a way to check and see to prove they took it out or if it will just show as an electronic withdrawal.

[NoahsMommy]

I'll have to check later when not busy at work. I don't know if there's a way to check and see to prove they took it out or if it will just show as an electronic withdrawal.

Oh, I'm sorry, hun. :o

I guess I just need to know when you called in with the CC. That way if its after the 18th, we'll know whether it was applied or not.

Thank you for your help, Val.

Hugs, Kelly :)

xoxoxo

[dukedogsmom]

Ok, here ya go.
http://www.petoftheday.com/talk/showpost.php?p=1962476&postcount=322
Was on the 22nd.
ETA: Going to bed soon. I hope today brings you some peace and things work out alright.

[emily_the_spoiled]

The last time I made a contribution in January they did not ask any info from me, but the payment did go through on my credit card. So I don't know if they can provide you with a full list of contributors.

Good luck with the conversation today and the move tomorrow!

[Ginger's Mom]

As for their informing you - they certainly SHOULD be advising you WHO donated -
most places withold the amount the person donated.

Unheard of to refuse to acknowledge the donor.
<shakes head>
<SHAKES head>

Most places are charitiable agencies or organizations that are familiar with dealing with such things. I thought that Noah was at some sort of cat boarding facility, and they probably are not used to receiving charitable contributions. They only have someone to do the book keeping for their clients payments. I really don't think they should be blamed for failure to keep a list for Kelly. They can tell her when payments were received and the amount received, that is part of their regular book keeping practice. They probably have no need of any other information as it is not part of their normal service/operation. They should not be held responsible for keeping addtional records not needed for their business. Were they asked and did they agree to do additonal book keeping for Noah?

[NoahsMommy]

Good Morning,

I agree that they don't necessarily owe me a listing of WHO gave what. I understand they aren't used to this type of arrangement or set up to do this. I'm sure more than one person there applies payments, be it CCs over the phone or mailed in checks.

I DO, however, expect they will have the means to fax me an itemized statement with the charges and the payments listed. That should be apart of their regular reciept system.

I've called and left a message with a fax number and my work number. This was at 8:10 a.m. If I do not hear from them by 10:00 a.m., I'll call again.

Thanks so much, my loving PT Family.

Love, Kelly & Noah

[gini]

Kelly, as of this morning my check had not cleared my bank - but they certainly should have it by now.

[NoahsMommy]

UPDATE from Balcom,

I wonder if they knew I was going to call at 10:00 a.m. if I didn't hear from them by then. I JUST hung up with Sonia from Balcom Canyon. Too funny.

She's faxing the itemized accounting as I type this. I heard the fax machine ringing...and she said that someone called yesturday and paid the remaining balance of $200.00!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Whoever did that, will you please PM me so I can properly thank you?

This is AMAZING, you guys. I never expected any financial help at all. But you all did help in that way....not only that, but you've all collectively paid nearly $2000.00!!!!!! I had anticipated at least paying for the remainder tonight. (I got my first FREEDOM paycheck today. I wont be giving this one to my parents. YAY!!!!!! FINALLY, its MY hardearned money!!!)

I know I keep saying "thank you" and how wonderful you are to me...but its so very true!

Love you guys,
Kelly, Noah, Basie, Micah and Phoebe


xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo


THANK YOU SO MUCH, MY PET TALK FAMILY!!!!!

[Cinder & Smoke]

... She said that "someone" called yesturday and paid the remaining balance of $200.00!
Whoever did that, will you please PM me so I can properly thank you?

Kelly ~

If you re-read post #271 from yesterday, I think you'll know "Who Dun It".



I just called them and left a message about my check -
because I want to be sure you get the credit
and don't have to pay when you pick up Noah.

THANKS, "Mystery Donor"!!
:D
:D

[carole]

Wow following this thread has been truely amazing,what wonderful people you all are. :) http://i264.photobucket.com/albums/ii185/jewellnz/GJ-YoureAmazing01.gif :) :) :)

[ramanth]

Continued prayers that all goes well this evening. :)

[dukedogsmom]

Thinking of you. Hopefully, by the time I get to work, you'll have been able to come here with an update. I hope all is going well.

[shais_mom]

I got a a voice mail from Kelly while I was at work - and she said the meeting went EXTREMELY well. Her parents were happy and excited for her.

[dukedogsmom]

Great to hear!!

[AmberLee]

Whew. Great to hear.

[slick]

Thanks for posting this Stace. I've been thinking about her tonight. Now I can breathe easy.....and so can she.

Praying for a smooth move tomorrow. I can only imagine how relieved she must be to be free and reunited with her beloved furfamily.:)

[gini]

I think all of us were praying so hard that her meeting would go well and her parents would be accepting of her decision.

Staci, thank you for letting us know - now we know that our prayers have been answered.

It makes it so much happier and easier on Kelly - and now that the stress has been relieved - so will the stress on her health!

Thank You God!!!

[ramanth]

YAY! Thanks for posting the update Staci. :D

[krazyaboutkatz]

I'm so glad to hear that Noah's all paid up so Kelly will be able to pick him up tomorrow. I'm also glad to hear that her meeting with her parents went well. Thanks for the update Staci.:)

I hope that everything will go well with your move tomorrow Kelly. Good luck.:)

[Catty1]

GOOD STUFF! :D

Thank you SO much for the uppydate, Staci! :)

[Rachel]

Thanks Staci.

I'm ever so pleased that Kelly's family have been supportive about her decision. That is going to mean the world to her, now and in the future.
Can you imagine how happy Noah will be to be back with his family. Here's hoping he understands too.

[pitc9]

Glad to hear that! Thanks Staci!

[NoahsMommy]

YAY! It went WONDERFULLY!!! I was kind of calm going into it because I had the feeling. I was SHOCKED, but pleasantly. :)

It was a 20 min. conversation, with most of the questions coming from them about the apartment. They were happy I was able to find a place and that they agreed it was time for me to move on. (SHOCKING!!) But this clearly illustrates my life at home, 80% is horrid, the other 20% is SO WONDERFUL. Its an odd rollarcoaster.

After I told my parents, I had to get my cat deposit to Kristin at the apartment (about 1 hr drive from my parents house). I stopped at Target to p/u 2 new pillows, as mine have been sitting in storage for quite a while and I have BAD allergies. I then came home and while I was doing laundry, I sat down for 2 minutes and FELL ASLEEP!!! I wanted to get my laundry in and then pack and update you all while it was washing/drying. I'm so sorry I fell asleep, I know you were all worried about the outcome.

THANK YOU SO MUCH, STACE for updating everyone for me. (((((hugs)))))

My brother is due here in about 40 minutes and after he helps my parents with some furnature, we're going to the storage unit. Yay! :)

I'm picking up the furkids today and will drop them off at the apartment and then move some more. We're hoping to get everything in in one trip, but we'll see.

Love you guys so very much!

Love, Kelly & Kits

[dukedogsmom]

I'm so happy it went well. You know we'll want to see lots of pics when you get settled. Also, pm me your address. Maybe with you out of your parent's house, your relationship can be improved upon. Cheers to your new life!

[ramanth]

Great news Kelly! Best of luck for a smooth move. :D

[carole]

How exciting it was to read your good new's Kelly, i am thrilled to bits that you have the much needed support from your parents,it will make life that much easier for you, i guess the power of PT work's again, eh? :) :D take much care and here's to a wonderful stress free life from now on, surrounded by your beautiful furfamily. :)

[Cincy'sMom]

Yeah Kelly!! I'm so glad your talk went well and hope the move went smooth too!!!

[freckles1]

It is terrible that you are in such a bind. I don't know much about your situation. Out here where I live there are many organizations, including private organizations that help people in your situation. I already have three kitties and two puppies- no room left in the inn. Perhaps you could dig out the phone book and start calling all the animal organizations? Hope it helps.

Good luck,

Freckles1

[shais_mom]

It is terrible that you are in such a bind. I don't know much about your situation. Out here where I live there are many organizations, including private organizations that help people in your situation. I already have three kitties and two puppies- no room left in the inn. Perhaps you could dig out the phone book and start calling all the animal organizations? Hope it helps.

Good luck,

Freckles1

actually Freckles1 -
1) welcome :)
2) Kelly has gotten an apartment with a room mate and kitties..

[lizbud]

Anybody hear from kelly today? I hope the move went well & the kitties
love their new home. :)

[shais_mom]

I got a txt from Kelly earlier tonite. Her computer is still at her parents house and she has been sick in bed since Sunday nite with a stomach flu.
I'm sure the stress of last week took its toll on her but she's cuddled in bed with the KITTIES and they are settling in very well.:)
she seems happy if she felt better!

[Kater]

So glad to hear it, Staci! Sending good thoughts out for Kelly as she continues with her transitions.

[krazyaboutkatz]

Thanks for the update Staci.:) I sure hope that she'll get well and feel better soon.

[Catty1]

YES! Snuggling with the KITTIES - the best nurses she could have. :)

Thanks so much for the update, Staci!

[dukedogsmom]

Poor Kelly! But so happy that her kitties are with her. That is bound to help on recovery. I'll be glad when she's feeling better and can come back and update here.

[carole]

Aww Kelly so sorry to hear you are feeling unwell, http://i264.photobucket.com/albums/ii185/jewellnz/GJ-GetWell03.gif

[ramanth]

Get better soon Kelly!!

[dukedogsmom]

Kelly, how are things going? How are you doing? I hope all is well.