sparks19
05-24-2007, 06:13 PM
Well it seems my younger brother is going through a rough time. This is gonna be long so bear with me.
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He is 17.... turns 18 this year. Since he started highschool he has been at a live in private school. His mom is a little.... overbearing. He got in some trouble when he was in elementary school and she has never let him live that down. Nothing serious or anything just teenage trouble making. But now he is 17 .... is on the honor role in school.... had a good summer job and is planning to go to university for sports management. But his mom is always on his case about everything and her new husband is the same way. I know this really bothers my brother and he is afraid to talk to her about anything and always gets someone else to talk to her if he needs something.
He has been seriously dating this girl for sometime now and I know he really cares about her. Well she broke up with him (reason unknown to me) and I know he was really hurt by that.... then after that he found out that his BEST friend was talking her into doing it so that he could try to get her in bed. he confronted her about this and apparently she blew up and they got in a big argument..... after that he took off from the school for the night. He is back at school now even though he doesn't want to be and he is starting to shut people out. He won't speak to his mom at all, he is starting to treat his friends badly and gets angry at them for everything and won't talk to them.... etc etc. He is just shutting everyone out.
I have not talked to him yet but I will. We have always been really close and I hope he doesn't shut me out.
IMO, I think this betrayal of trust by his best friend is really messing with him not to mention losing his g/f that I'm sure he was in love with.I think he's feeling like he can't trust anyone and that if he lets anyone get close to him he will get hurt again. I suggested to my dad that they try to get him to a psychologist. I saw one when I was his age and went through a really rough time with my sister and it really helped me having an unbiased person to just LISTEN. I don't want him to let this ruin him. he's a great person and really smart and can do A LOT with his life if he doesn't let this eat him up. Everyone is really worried about him including me and I wish I knew what to do to help him.
OK.....
He is 17.... turns 18 this year. Since he started highschool he has been at a live in private school. His mom is a little.... overbearing. He got in some trouble when he was in elementary school and she has never let him live that down. Nothing serious or anything just teenage trouble making. But now he is 17 .... is on the honor role in school.... had a good summer job and is planning to go to university for sports management. But his mom is always on his case about everything and her new husband is the same way. I know this really bothers my brother and he is afraid to talk to her about anything and always gets someone else to talk to her if he needs something.
He has been seriously dating this girl for sometime now and I know he really cares about her. Well she broke up with him (reason unknown to me) and I know he was really hurt by that.... then after that he found out that his BEST friend was talking her into doing it so that he could try to get her in bed. he confronted her about this and apparently she blew up and they got in a big argument..... after that he took off from the school for the night. He is back at school now even though he doesn't want to be and he is starting to shut people out. He won't speak to his mom at all, he is starting to treat his friends badly and gets angry at them for everything and won't talk to them.... etc etc. He is just shutting everyone out.
I have not talked to him yet but I will. We have always been really close and I hope he doesn't shut me out.
IMO, I think this betrayal of trust by his best friend is really messing with him not to mention losing his g/f that I'm sure he was in love with.I think he's feeling like he can't trust anyone and that if he lets anyone get close to him he will get hurt again. I suggested to my dad that they try to get him to a psychologist. I saw one when I was his age and went through a really rough time with my sister and it really helped me having an unbiased person to just LISTEN. I don't want him to let this ruin him. he's a great person and really smart and can do A LOT with his life if he doesn't let this eat him up. Everyone is really worried about him including me and I wish I knew what to do to help him.