What did I do to deserve this?

[Lexi_Lover]

*starts crying*

Today, my friend and I were going to see a movie and I was getting into the car and my mom just started yelling and screaming at me, that if I crossed the line that p!$$ed her off today, then I would get it! I had no clue what she was talking about.

Then the other day, both my mom and dad just came up to me and slapped me, saying, you better *swear word* start behaving soon, we've had enough of this *swear word*! I had no clue!

I am a good student, and I do chores at home and behave! I don't know what I could do! All I could think of, was running away! So I did! For 6 hours, I stayed outside, until the cops came to get me! I don't know whats wrong!

I know its long and pointless, but they've been hitting me, and screaming at me for no reason at all! What can I do now? I've run out of ideas, and if I try and satnd up for myself then I get hit, I already have 5 bruises. Like the other night when I fell and sprained my ankle, I was crying, it killed! She told me to suck it up, and then I fell on the pool deck and tore my knee apart, if I cried, I knew I would pay for it, so I held it in!

Can somebody help me, please! Kara, where are you? I need you!

[beeniesmom]

Hey,
I hope you are OK now.

I don't know what to tell you....
Is there really no reason for this abuse?
Are they the kind of parents you can talk to... ask why?
Maybe they think you are doing something... drugs, smoking, having sex?

My parents did the same thing to my sister because they thought she was taking drugs.
After talking about it, they resolved the issue.

If that doesn't work, I'd report them to the police.

Is there a relative you can go live with?

I am so sorry this is happening to you.

[flamepony12]

I'm sorry... Have you asked them why this is happening? Hope things brighten up soon... =[

[Lexi_Lover]

Thers no reason for what I can think of, for now, it has lightened up from what used to happen. I may not be on the computer often because they tend to yell at me if I am.

I think they've treating me different maybe because of what I wrote to my friend and thats why their disapplining me and making me seem like a child while I am fully responsible.

Thanks you guys, I really appreciate the support!

[King Spartacus]

Hi Lexi Lover!

I'm so sorry to hear this... you should not have to hold in your crys of pain, nor any sort of other feeling nor emotion in, in the fear that you will be punished...

I really don't know what to say... Except... try to speak to your parents about what they are doingto you. If no luck, you need to get out of the house. You really do... it's no good for you neither physically nor mentally to be staying with people who abuse you.

If things don't improve, is there someone you can speak to? Like a relative? No-one should have to feel that they are unwelcomed in their own home.

Good luck...

Best wishes, and a great big hug, Sylvie, KS' mom

[Lexi_Lover]

The thing is, I do feel safe here.

[Fox-Gal]

Originally posted by beeniesmom

Are they the kind of parents you can talk to... ask why?
Maybe they think you are doing something... drugs, smoking, having sex?

From what I have found parents that abuse are in most cases the type that you can't talk to about the abuse. Like I said, MOST, so before or if you decide to talk to them, approach it at the right time and carefully watch your words to them. Stay away from words like, "it's wrong" "you have no right" anything that will put them on the defense.

Also just because they might think she doing drugs, smoking, sex or anything bad, if no reason or excuse to hit their child.

You need go talk to someone, a family member that you can trust, preferable a adult. Sense school is out, If your town has a summer program for children, go there and in most cases they have someone to talk to or can guide you to someone that can help. Find some body, I don't care how, just do it, what ever way you can.

Your parents might be going through something, personal in their own life that is making them take their frustration out on you. But no matter what they need some sort of counseling, to deal with their anger. By you asking/getting help, you will also be helping them, in the long run. So don't be afraid to go to someone and tell.

Every bone in my body, whats to tell you to go to the police, but I know you can't and most likely wont out of love for your parents. Sense that can get your parents into a criminal offense.

[Anita Cholaine]

I'm so sorry.... I really dont know what can you do, Its a hard situation... you should try to talk to your parents, and if it doesnt work, you could talk to a relative or someone you can trust in...

You shouldnt run away again, I think you should think carefully what to do...

Hope things improve soon.....
(((HUGS)))

[Suki Wingy]

Oh, I'm really sorry. Parents are really really hard to understand. Does your library have computers you can use for free? Maybe if it does you can go there all the time and use them. Tell them where you are going and let them follow you there and so they see you are just looking at dog books or whatever. Then maybe they'll trust you if they think you are doing something you are not supposed to??

[NoahsMommy]

Originally posted by Fox-Gal
Also just because they might think she doing drugs, smoking, sex or anything bad, if no reason or excuse to hit their child.

I agree 100%!!

When the police found you, did you tell them WHY you were running away???

[Lexi_Lover]

I don't want to report them to anybody! They are really good people, but somethign lately has triggered it, I don't know if its the moving, or 2 more people in our house! I'm just really confused.

The police tried to get it out of me, but I couldn't tell them the real reason, I just, lied!

Again, thank you for the support.

BTW, just so you all know, I don't have sex, do drugs, or smoke, my whole family smokes, and they see how much I hate it, I won 2nd place for an anti0smoking thing in our province.

I've told my mom of the people that do drugs, and she can see how much I hate how people would do that to themselves. I just thought I'd let you know.

And I'm definetly not the one to have sex at 14!!

[carole]

Oh dear this situation sounds awful to me, I would never slap my daughter as you parents did to you, no matter what the reason, even if she was doing drugs, or anything bad., physical abuse never solved anything.

There must be some sort of reason for their strange behaviour, parents do not just acting like this for no reason, I think you need to be very honest here and think hard whether there would be any reason for them to feel upset with you, I am not doubting you as such, but have you perhaps broken their trust in you some time in the past?

I am not in their shoes, so I cannot judge either of you, and have no desire to, but they should not be slapping you around period.

If you can sit down and have an open, honest talk with them, I am sure they would appreciate it, I know I certainly would, often we just don't take the time to do so.

It is not that parents are hard to understand, it is just teenagers and parents are on different wave lengths, and think differently, usually the parent is just putting your well-being first, and it is because they care so much, that they maybe over-reacting, believe it or not they are just as frightened as you are,most parents just want what is best for their child and to protect them.

[CagneyDog]

I'm sorry this is happening I agree, you need to talk to someone you trust about this. They will be able to give you some advice and hopefully get the problem solved.

I don't understand though Did your parents call the police to find you? And if they did wouldnt they want to know a direct reason. It just seems weird that they would just find you and drop you off....

[catnapper]

As a mom having problems with a teenage daughter, all I want is her to TALK to me! Perhaps your parents feel as if you're pulling away and being secretive? You might think you are being communivcative, but they might not see it that way. When you go home, sit down with your parents, then say to them that you would like to honestly and openly talk to them without anyone raising their voices and taking insult to anything.

It sounds as if there's an abundance of stress in their lives right now. By all means, that is NO REASON to start hitting you, but it is a place where you can start understanding them, and start talking to them by saying "I know you and dad are frazzled with all thats going on right now. What can I do to help?" and go from there. You might be surprised... chances are your parents will say there's nothing you need to do, but they'll realize you're a good kid who is hurt and confused in all this too.

[Lexi_Lover]

The police didn't just find me and drop me off, they talked to me and my parents seperatly and I have no clue what they told him but anyways ya!

I'm sorry if its making it seem like they are hitting me repeatedly, they have hit me a couple times, but never on a daily basis. If I have to tell you guys the truth, of why I *think* might be the reason then here you go.

A couple of omnths ago, when I posted about my friend cutting, I got into a series of problems in my life, with people at school, etc, and then I attempted to commit suicide. I know it was wrong, but I thought it was the only thing I could do, ever since then, they have acted differently.

But, how can they not see that hitting me, is not going to want me to try again? I have a severly low self-esteem, like where I said gets to the point that I want to kill myself.

Just thought, that might help as well. It took a lot of my courage to tell people that I don't even know well.