I'll try to summarize. I have a situation I've never encountered before. My best friend and I, unbeknownst to eachother, have been talking and hanging out with the same guy for a few weeks. And, let me just say that we just hadn't talked for a couple of weeks because of work and everything. We are really close, but, she's just recently moved about 45 minutes away, and, we haven't hung out like we were. anyway, I really dig this guy, even though we had both said that we would only stay friends for our own reasons (mostly just bad timing). I found out from my friend that he had asked her how close she and i were and that he didn't want to come between us. So, she asked me how I would feel if they started to date. I told her, that because I had feelings for him and we had hung out a lot in the last couple of weeks and that the relationship hadn't been 100% plutonic, that I wouldn't be comfortable if they started to date. I told her, though, that I want her to be happy, even if that means I have to back out of the situation completely. It's become this major issue now because she is showing no signs of wanting to just stay friends with this guy even though she knows how hurt i'd be if they went further with the relationship. I tried to explain to her that if the tables were turned, I'd never go out with a guy my friend liked, no matter who the guy was. But, I wanted to see what some outsiders had to say about the situation. Anyway, let me know what you guys think. The few people in my life that know the situation all say the same thing. If she was really my friend, she would not go any further with the guy because of my feelings for him. I don't like that thought, but, it's becoming increasingly more difficult for me to accept that she's more than likely going to be dating him soon, regardless of my feelings. I'm sad! Let me know what y'all think!
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