Thank you for the suggestions and your thoughts on the subject. Just found out today that my brother called my Mom, crying, and told her about the SURPRISE (I failed to mention that) party. Now she's upset because she said she doesn't want a 90th birthday party. So I'm not sure what's going to happen now because I am MAD that he told her. I was going to call him this weekend but now I am not. And we will most likely cancel the party because Mom does not want it. And we will all do our own thing with her separately. There are many many many times I wish I was an only child or I wish I lived very very very far away from my family. I am the youngest if seven kids and we are the epitome of a disfunctional family. Ugh. Thanks again everyone.