Andy and I are splitting up

[Laura's Babies]

My ex and I divorced in about 82, I insisted it be a friendly divorce because there were kids involved. We had the revolving door policy for the kids, they could spend one night with me, the next with their dad or do weeks or none. We left that ALL up to the kids with the understanding that communication would be going on often as to who was where and when.. It worked out beautifully and we are still friends to this day.

It confuses people when there are weddings, graduations etc and they see us together, always whispering "I thought Marie said they were DIVORCED?". Everybody is always surprised that we are such good friends... Heck, why NOT? He knows me better than any man ever has, we shared a lot of good times, a lot of bad times.. we just outgrew each other and neither one of us saw the other as a "bad" person. You just grow apart and see things differently. That don't make either of you right or wrong.

I have never understood WHY there always had to be a big blow up for someone to break up. Adults should be able to say "this isn't working for me anymore and it is time to move on"...

Good luck to you and your soon to be ex. I hope you and he continue to be friends as long as me and my ex has.

[sparks19]

I'm sorry to hear this but glad it was a very mutual decision with a good outcome of friendship.

Like laura's babies... my dad has remained friends with his ex wives (yes wiveS lol) They just decided they were better off not married and living together LOL

I remember one year all my siblings and I and my dad went to Florida with his first wife and we ended up doing this survey thing and you should have seen the guys face when he asked "is this your wife" and my dad so no my ex wife. the guy was like uhhhhhh she's your ex wife and you are on vacation together? how is that working out. my dad said GREAT

LOL the guy was flabbergasted

[Killearn Kitties]

I'm so sorry that it didn't work out for you both. That is always sad.
Hugs to you, and the best of luck in the future.

[anna_66]

Kim it's really nice to hear you and Andy are staying friends, I can't imagine not seeing one of you without the other at the PT picnics
Good luck to the both of you with your new lives.

[moosmom]

Oh Kimmy, I am so sorry to hear about you and Andy. I support anything you do and you know my number, if you ever feel like talking. You two are great friends and share alot of common interests, like Star Wars, etc.

I know you guys will remain friends. You were friends first, right??

Love to you both!!

[k9krazee]

I wish you both all the happiness you deserve.

[KYS]

My heart goes out to you both. I know even though you are parting
as friends I know this must have been a painful hard decision.
Sending oodles and oodles of hugs.

[carole]

I am also sorry to read this post, i remember your wedding, and usually if you are great friends in the beginning it really helps a marriage to work, are you sure you are ready to give up? i guess you know what is best for your future, i wish you both well, and hope that your friendship will remain intact. GOOD LUCK.

[krazyaboutkatz]

I'm sorry to hear this but I'm glad to hear that you'll remain friends. I wish both of you the best of luck in the future.

[ramanth]

Thanks for the support everyone.

I do want to add that I've been going to marriage counseling for 3 years. Andy went with me for awhile but then stopped. Marriage is a two way street and I just couldn't make this work on my own anymore. It was too emotionally tolling. But I have no ill will towards Andy.

All in all, just better friends than as a couple.

[Cataholic]

I am sorry to hear this. Even 'good' change/decisions are hard.

[Barbara]

I am sorry to hear this- but it will work out. My ex-husband and I have been good friends since we divorced in 1982- so it even works over a long time distance.
Good luck for all your next steps in life, Kimmy

[moosmom]

It is so true that sometimes, two people are better off friends than being married. Being married has a WHOLE lot of different issues. It's a huge compromise. It can be very tough. I guess maybe that's why I never re-married. I'm very set in my ways and I'm moody. I'm surprized my cats haven't formed some kinda mutiny!!! (sorry, had to interject some humor in this)

I do wish both of you the best, Kimmie. You are two great people and if anyone can make a friendship work, it's you two.

[*LabLoverKEB*]

Sorry to hear this, Kimmy... although I must say I am glad that the two of you will remain friends. Best of luck to you both.

Laura's Babies and sparks' stories are great, if only other divorced couples could just be friends!

[AdoreMyDogs]

Kimmy I'm so sorry to hear about this. I know how hard divorce is. I, too, have been through it. I, too, was better off as friends with my X and we still talk as friends. I know Andy and you are both good people. I'm sorry for the heart-ache that divorce produces, but you CAN get through this. I'm so glad you both are going to remain friends and I wish both you and Andy much luck.