In the big scheme of things this is a very unimportant thread, but I thought that writing this out and getting some feedback might help me. This upcoming weekend seems to be a popular one. Since I can't be multiple places at once, I'm torn on what I should do.
Background:
-In April the boyfriend's mom asked me if I wanted to go to a combined baby and bridal shower with her. I agreed then.
- I forgot about it and in June planned a weekend get together with some friends.
- Then in late July was reminded of the baby/bridal shower and affirmed that I'd go and canceled the friend get together.
- Recently I was informed my Grandpa's 80th birthday party would be this weekend as well.
- They're not anywhere near the same parts of the state - so I can't even do both.
So now I'm sitting here contemplating on which one to go to.
Grandpa's Party:
Grandpa's health isn't too good lately, and this will most likely be the last big birthday party that will be thrown for him. That alone makes me feel like I need to go.
I haven't seen Grandpa much this summer. I missed the family reunion this year because I was doing something with Rich's family. But every single time I do see him he puts me down and only has negative things to say about what I look like or what I'm eating.
If I did this I'd be alone all weekend and at the party on Saturday. Rich wouldn't come down to stay with me because he needs to study for his final exam. I'd get to see my parent's though, and I haven't seen them in a few weeks.
Baby/Bridal shower w/ Rich's Mom
I'd drive up on Wednesday to bf's parent's house and get to see Rich for a couple days, go with his mom and spend Friday night and Saturday with everybody.
I'd meet that last few people that I haven't met on that side, and get to know the others more. The people that know I'm coming were very excited that I'd be there and generally made me feel like part of the family. Jack would get to stay with Rich when I'm away (Rich was very excited at the possibility of spending a few days with "his" dog :P ).
But people probably feel like I'm favoring his family more than my own (I missed my family reunion and went to Rich's instead) just because I was given a list of dates for his family stuff way back in April. It's not my fault my family stuff is always planned on a whim with little notice. :/
I can't win. No matter what I do, somebody will not be happy. I'm leaning more towards that baby/bridal shower and sending my Grandpa a card. They're having a pool party on Sunday that I might possibly be able to make.
How do you guys balance family things like this? I'm new at all of this and can already see that things, like Thanksgiving and Christmas with immediate family, are going to become complicated.
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